Yintoni 'Ukuzikhanyisela ngeRhasi' kwaye Ndiyifunda njani?
Umxholo
- Ngaba kukhanya njani ukukhanya kwegesi ngokwakho?
- Ngaba oku kuvakala kuqhelekile? Ukuba iyayenza, ndifuna ukukumema ukuba ume kancinci apha.
- Nokuba ungaziva ulilolo okanye uphazanyiswe kangakanani na, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa - kwaye awuphambani!
Hayi, awuba "novakalelo kakhulu."
"Mhlawumbi ndenza into enkulu ngayo ..."
Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ukukhanya kwegesi njengombono kuyaziwa ngokubanzi, kodwa imvelaphi inokusinceda siyichaze ngokucacileyo.
Wazalelwa kwimovie yakudala apho indoda yayijika izibane zehle kancinci ezantsi busuku ngabunye ukuze ihlazise umfazi wayo. Wayeza kuphikisa inkosikazi yakhe ekuboneni iishifti ekukhanyeni nakwizithunzi esithi konke oko kusentloko yakhe.
Wayenokwenza ezinye izinto, naye, ukumenza ukuba acinge ukuba "uyalahleka," njengokufihla izinto nokunyanzelisa ukuba ulahlekile.
Oku kukukhanyisa ngegesi: Uhlobo lwempatho-gadalala ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokukhohlisa okwenziwe komnye umntu ukuze abenze bazibuze ezabo iingcinga, iimvakalelo, inyani, kunye nokuba sezingqondweni.
Ngelixa ndisebenza nabaxumi abaninzi bexhasa ukuqonda kwabo kunye nokukhutshelwa ngaphandle kweli qhinga leengqondo, ndiye ndabona mva nje ukuba ixesha elongezelelekileyo, ukukhanya kwegesi kunokuba ngaphakathi ngaphakathi.
Itshintshela kwimowudi yento endiyibiza ngokuba kukuzibiza ngokwerhasi-ihlala ibonisa umntu rhoqo, mihla le, ekubuzeni ngesiqu sakhe kunye nokuphazamiseka kokuzithemba.
Ngaba kukhanya njani ukukhanya kwegesi ngokwakho?
Ukukhanyisa ngerhasi kuhlala kukhangeleka njengokucinezelwa kwengcinga kunye neemvakalelo.
Umzekelo, masithi umntu uthetha into engenantsingiselo okanye eyenzakalisayo. Ungaqaphela ukuba indlela oziva ngayo ibibuhlungu, kodwa emva koko - ngokungxamisekileyo kwaye ungxamile - ucinga: "Mhlawumbi ndenza isivumelwano esikhulu kakhulu kwaye ndinobuzaza kakhulu."
Ingxaki? Utsiba ukusuka kwindawo engu-A ukuya kwindawo engu-C ngaphandle kokunqumama ukuze uqonde i-B phakathi-ezakho iimvakalelo ezifanelekileyo unelungelo lokuziva kwaye uzibonakalise!
Ke sisebenza njani ukucela umngeni kule ndlela yokukhanyisa ngegesi? Kulula ukukhohlisa: Siqinisekisa amava ethu kunye neemvakalelo zethu.
| Ukukhanyisa ngegesi | Ukukhanyisa ngokwakho | Ukuqinisekiswa kwangaphandle |
| Unomdlandla kakhulu, unemvakalelo, ubuthathaka okanye uyaphambana! ” | Ndiyamangalisa, ndinemvakalelo, ndinobuthathaka kwaye ndiyaphambana. | Iimvakalelo zam neemvakalelo zam zisemthethweni. |
| “Bendingathethi kanjalo; uyayibaxa. ” | Ndiyazi ukuba bayandithanda kwaye bebengathethi njalo. | Ndiyayiqonda imvakalozwi namagama ebebewathetha, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba indenze ndaziva njani. |
| "Konke kusentloko yakho." | Mhlawumbi konke kusentloko nje !? | Amava am ayinyani kwaye ayasebenza, nokuba abanye bazama ukuwasebenzisa okanye ukungabakholelwa. |
| "Ukuba ubuninzi / ubuncinci _____, ngekungafani nale." | Ndininzi / andonelanga. Kukho into engalunganga ngam. | Andisayi kuba ngaphezulu kakhulu. Ndiza kuhlala ndonele! |
| “Uyiqalile! Lityala lakho lonke eli! ” | Yimpazamo yam phofu. | Akukho nto "yonke impazamo yam." Umntu obeka ityala kum akenzi inyani. |
| "Ukuba ubundithanda ngewenze le nto / ngewungazange uyenze le." | Ndiyabathanda kufuneka ndenze nje oku. Kutheni ndenze lonto kubo? | Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngam nendlela endibonisa ngayo uthando, kodwa kukho into engalunganga kolu lwalamano lunobungozi. |
Ngaba oku kuvakala kuqhelekile? Ukuba iyayenza, ndifuna ukukumema ukuba ume kancinci apha.
Phefumla kancinci. Yiva umhlaba ongaphantsi kwakho.
Phinda emva kwam: "Iimvakalelo zam zivumelekile kwaye ndinelungelo lokuziveza."
Qaphela ukuba oku kungaziva kububuxoki ekuqaleni. Vumela ukuba ube nomdla malunga noluvo kwaye uphinde uphinde uqinisekise de kube iqala ukuziva iyinyani (le inokuba yinkqubo eyenzeka ngokuhamba kwexesha kunokuba ilungile ngalo mzuzu-kulungile, nayo!).
Okulandelayo, ndingakumema ukuba ukhuphe iphepha okanye iphepha elingenanto kwaye uqalise ukubhala yonke into eza kuwe ngalo mzuzu - ngaphandle kwesigwebo okanye isidingo sokuncamathisela intsingiselo kuyo.
ukukhuthaza ukuphonononga ukukhanya kwegesi ngokwakhoUngaziphonononga ezi mvakalelo ngokuphendula kwezi zinto zilandelayo (nokuba kungamagama, ukuzoba / ubugcisa, okanye nokuhamba):
- Ukukhanyisa ngerhasi kukusebenzise njani ukusinda kwam ngaphambili? Indincede njani ukuba ndinyamezele?
- Ukukhanyisa ngerhasi akusasebenzi njani kum ngalo mzuzu (okanye kwikamva)? Ndenzakaliswa njani?
- Yintoni enye into endinokuyenza ngoku ukuze ndiziqhelise ukuzisizela?
- Ndiziva njani emzimbeni wam njengoko ndiphonononga oku?
Ngelixa ukukhanyisa igesi ngokwethu kunokuba kusincedile kwixesha elidlulileyo ukuziqhelanisa neemeko ezinetyhefu okanye ubudlelwane, sinokubuzukisa obu buchule bokuphila ngelixa sisafunda ukukhupha okwangoku.
Nokuba ungaziva ulilolo okanye uphazanyiswe kangakanani na, khumbula ukuba awuwedwa - kwaye awuphambani!
Ukukhanya kwegesi yeyona ndlela yokwenene yokuxhatshazwa ngokwasemphefumlweni enokuthi ibe ngaphakathi ngaphakathi. Kwaye ngelixa ungaqala ukuyikholelwa njengenyaniso yakho, ASIYIYINYANISO YAKHO!
Uyayazi inyani-kwaye ndiyayibona kwaye ndiyayihlonipha. Ukuyihlonipha ngokwakho kuyinto eyenziwayo, nayo, kwaye ukhaliphe kuyo.
Unobukrelekrele kwaye uyomelela kwi-AF, kwaye ndiyazingca ngawe ngokuthatha ixesha lokuphonononga eli nqaku kwaye ungene kunye nawe. Nokuba uziva usoyika.
URachel Otis sisiphatho somatic, ubungqongqo obunqamlezayo bobufazi, umgqugquzeli womzimba, osindileyo wesifo sikaCrohn, kunye nombhali ophumelele kwiZiko laseCalifornia leZifundo eziHlanganisiweyo eSan Francisco kunye nesidanga sakhe sobugqirha kwezengqondo. URachel ukholelwa ekunikezeleni elinye ithuba lokuqhubeka nokutshintsha iiparadigms zentlalo, ngelixa ebhiyozela umzimba kubo bonke ubuqaqawuli bawo. Iiseshoni ziyafumaneka kwisikali sokutyibilika nangonyango lonyango. Fikelela kuye nge-Instagram.
Izithuba Zamva
Umsebenzi womzimba utshisa iiCalori ezimbalwa kunoko unokucinga, utsho uPhando olutsha