Yintoni uVavanyo lwe-Enneagram? Kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni ngeZiphumo zakho

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• Ungayithatha njani i-Enneagram?
• Umgca ongezantsi:
• Uphengululo lwe

Ukuba uchitha ixesha elaneleyo kwi-Instagram, uyakuqonda kungekudala ukuba kukho imeko entsha edolophini: uvavanyo lwe-Enneagram. Okona kusisiseko, i-Enneagram sisixhobo sokuchwetheza ngobuntu (kwi-Meyers-Briggs) esikhupha indlela oziphethe ngayo, indlela ocinga ngayo, kunye neemvakalelo zakho zibe "luhlobo" lwamanani.

Ngelixa ibali lemvelaphi lika-Enneagram lingacacanga ncam — bambi bathi linokulandelwa emva kwiGrisi yakudala, abanye bathi isekelwe kwinkolo, ngokweZiko le-Enneagram- kufanelekile ukucinga ukuba bekukho ixesha elithile. Ngoko, kutheni le nto ukwanda ngokukhawuleza kokuthandwa?

Njengoko iintsuku zokuzinakekela zihamba kwaye kunjalo inzala kwi-astrology kunye neengcamango ezinjengokuphila kakuhle ngokomzwelo, kuyavakala ukuba i-Enneagram ilandele ngokukhawuleza. "I-Enneagram ibonelela ngobunzulu obubalulekileyo kunye neengqimba ezininzi zokufunyanwa komntu, uphononongo, kunye nokukhula endingakufumananga kwezinye izixhobo," utshilo uNatalie Pickering, Ph.D., isazi ngengqondo kunye nomqeqeshi kwiiNdawo eziPhakamileyo Coaching & Consulting, osebenzisa i-Enneagram. ukwenza isakhelo sokuqeqesha abathengi bakhe.

I-TL; i-DR-kubonakala ngathi kukho umnqweno okhulayo wokuziqonda kwinqanaba elinzulu kwaye, kubonakala ngathi, i-Enneagram inceda abantu ukuba benze oko. Kodwa Njani ngokuchanekileyo? Umonde, intethe encinci. Okokuqala, iziseko ...

Yintoni uVavanyo lwe-Enneagram, Ngokuchanekileyo?

Okokuqala, uguqulelo oluncinci: I-Enneagram ithetha "umzobo wesithoba" kwaye uneengcambu ezimbini zamaGrike, ennea intsingiselo "ezisithoba" kwaye Igram elithetha "umzobo" okanye "umzobo." Oku kuya kwenza ingqiqo ngakumbi ngesekhondi-qhubeka ufunda.

I-Enneagram sisiseko senkqubo yengqondo esinceda ukuba sicacise ukuba kutheni sisenza le nto siyenzayo, kwaye sidibanisa indlela esicinga ngayo, imvakalelo, ubungqangi, kunye nenkuthazo, utshilo uSusan Olesek, umqeqeshi olawulayo kunye nomseki weProjekthi ye-Enneagram Prison, apho asebenza nabantu abavalelweyo.

"Abantu abaninzi banobunzima bokuqonda ukuba yintoni eqhuba isenzo sabo kwasekuqaleni," utshilo, kwaye kulapho i-Enneagram ingena khona. Injongo yovavanyo kukuhambisa ukuqonda okungcono kwezizathu zakho, amandla kunye nobuthathaka bakho okanye "uthini uloyiko, "ngokweGinger Lapid-Bogda, Ph.D., umbhali we Isikhokelo soPhuhliso lwe-Enneagram kwaye Ubugcisa bokuchwetheza: Izixhobo ezinamandla zokuchwetheza nge-Enneagram.

I-Enneagram ikwenza oku ngokukunika "uhlobo" okanye inombolo yokuqala ukuya kweyethoba, ebekwe kumzobo wesetyhula onamanqaku alithoba. Ngalunye lwe "ntlobo" lusasazekile macala onke omjikelezo wesangqa kwaye luqhagamshelene omnye ngomnye ngedayagonal imigca. Uvavanyo alupheleli nje ekugqibeni uhlobo lwamanani akho, kodwa ludibanisa nawe kwezinye iindidi ngaphakathi kwesangqa, ukunceda ukucacisa ukuba ubuntu bakho bunokutshintsha njani phantsi kweemeko ezahlukeneyo. (Idibeneyo: Abona baKhosi baBantu baBantu baBantu baBantu aBantu abaFanelekileyo)

Leyo yincam nje ye-Enneagram iceberg, nangona kunjalo, ngokweengcali. Inokukunceda ukuzisa imfesane kunye nokuqonda kuwe nakwabanye abantu, ukhombe kwaye ulahle imikhwa engenamveliso, kwaye ufumane ulawulo olungcono kwindlela ophendula ngayo, utshilo u-Olesek.

Ungayithatha njani i-Enneagram?

Kukho iimvavanyo ezininzi kunye novavanyo olujolise ekuchongeni uhlobo lwe-Enneagram, kodwa ayizizo zonke ezenziweyo zilinganayo. U-Olesek ucebisa i-Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator (RHETI) evela e-Enneagram Institute, eluvavanyo olufumanekayo kwi-Intanethi nge- $ 12. “Yiyo [le] endiyisebenzisayo kwaye ndisebenza kuyo kuqala,” utshilo.

Imibuzo ngokwayo ibandakanya izibini zeengxelo, kwaye ukhetha leyo ikuchaza ngcono kwaye isebenza kakuhle kuninzi lobomi bakho. Umzekelo: "Ndiye ndathanda ukuthandabuza kunye nokulibazisa OKANYE nesibindi kunye nokulawula." Elona nani lichanekileyo lemibuzo liyahluka, kodwa umbuzo odumileyo we-144-RHETI uthatha malunga nemizuzu engama-40 ukuwugqiba.

Olunye ukhetho oluqwalaselwe kakhulu lokufumanisa uhlobo lwakho yi Essential Enneagram NguDavid Daniels, MD, owayesakuba ngunjingalwazi wezonyango kwizifundo zeYunivesithi yaseStanford. Ngokungafaniyo neRHETI, le ncwadi ayilovavanyo kodwa yingxelo eyenzekileyo. "Ayisiyonto ingako yokubuza kunye neempendulo," utshilo u-Olesek. "Endaweni yoko, ufunda imihlathi esithoba kwaye ubone ukuba yeyiphi na ohlangana nayo."

Ngokumalunga nenani elinzima lovavanyo lwe-Enneagram kwi-Intanethi? Jonga ulwazi malunga nokuba uvavanyo luqinisekiswa njani ngokwenzululwazi (okt uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu badibana njani neentlobo ukubonisa ukuthembeka) kwaye ngubani ophuhlise uvavanyo oluthile, utshilo uSuzanne Dion, utitshala oqinisekisiweyo we-Enneagram. "Abo bane-Ph.D.s okanye ii-master's degrees banoqeqesho kwi-protocol yesayensi kwaye banokuthi baqeqeshelwe ukwenza uvavanyo lwengqondo. Banokuthi baphuhlise uvavanyo oluthembekileyo nolusebenzayo." Sebenzisa uvavanyo oluninzi kunye neencwadi ukufunda ngohlobo lwakho yenye indlela elungileyo. "Kubalulekile ukuyijonga kwimithombo eyahlukeneyo," utshilo uLapid-Bogda.

Nje ukuba uqinisekise ukuba uvavanyo luthembekile, ungafikelela kwinxalenye yolonwabo: ukufumanisa uhlobo lwakho.

Iindidi ezisithoba ze-Enneagram

Uhlobo lwakho olusiphumo lubhekisa kwindlela onxibelelana ngayo kunye nokuziqhelanisa nemeko ekungqongileyo. Iinkcukacha ezichanekileyo zenkcazo nganye ziyahluka ngovavanyo oluthile, kodwa zonke zigubungela iziseko: uloyiko, umnqweno, izizathu, kunye nemikhwa ephambili, utshilo u-Olesek. Umzekelo, iinkcazo zohlobo 1 ukuya kuhlobo 9 ngezantsi zivela kwi-Enneagram Institute.

Uhlobo loku-1: "Umhlaziyi" unamandla okwahlula okulungileyo nokubi. Balungelelaniswe kakuhle kwaye bazama ukutshintsha kunye nokuphucula, kodwa besaba ukwenza impazamo. (Idibeneyo: Izibonelelo eziMangalisayo eziMangalisayo zokuba liXhala)

Uhlobo lwe-2: “UMncedi” unobuhlobo, unesisa yaye uyazincama. Bathetha kakuhle, kodwa banokubakholisa abantu kwaye babe nobunzima ekwamkeleni iimfuno zabo.

Uhlobo 3: "Umphumeleli" unamabhongo, uyazithemba, kwaye uyathandeka. Ukuwa kwabo kunokuba ngumsebenzi kunye nokhuphiswano. (Kwiphepha le-flip, zininzi izinto eziluncedo kukhuphiswano.)

Uhlobo lwe-4: "I-Individualist" iyazazi, ibuthathaka kwaye iyile. Banokuziphatha kwaye bazoyike kwaye babe neengxaki zokudakumba nokuzisizela.

Uhlobo lwe-5: "Umphandi" ngumbonisi-mbono, kwaye uhlala ephambi kwexesha lakhe. Baphaphile, banengqiqo, kwaye banomdla, kodwa banokubanjiswa kukucinga kwabo.

Uhlobo 6: "Ukunyaniseka" sisicombululi ngxaki kuba sithembekile, sisebenza nzima, sinoxanduva kwaye sithembekile. Banokubona iingxaki ezizayo kwaye benze abantu ukuba basebenzisane kodwa banendlela yokuzikhusela kunye nexhala.

Uhlobo lwe-7: "Umntu onomdla" uhlala ejonge into entsha neyonwabisayo ukugcina iitalente zabo ezininzi zixakekile. Ngenxa yoko, banokungxamiseka kwaye baphelelwe ngumonde.

Uhlobo lwe-8: "UMceli-mngeni" ngumntu othethileyo onamandla, onobuchule othetha ngokuthe ngqo. Bangayithatha kakhulu kwaye babe ngozwilakhe kunye nokujongana.

Uhlobo lwe-9: "UMenzi woXolo" uyile, unethemba, kwaye uyayixhasa. Bahlala bezimisele ukuhamba kunye nabanye ukunqanda ungquzulwano kwaye banokungakhathali. (I-Psst ... uyazi ukuba kukho indlela * elungileyo * yokuba nethemba?!)

Nje ukuba usazi iType yakho...

Ngoku ukuba ufunde ngoku kwiindidi ze-Enneagram, ngaba uziva ubonwa? (Cue: isandi esithi "ewe.") Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba ubungqina benzululwazi obuxhasa i-Enneagram buyaphazamiseka. Uphononongo lwezifundo ezininzi lufumene ukuba ezinye iinguqulelo zovavanyo lwe-Enneagram (ezifana ne-RHETI) zibonelela ngemodeli ethembekileyo nephindaphindwayo yobuntu. Uphando lwe-Buuuuut ngesihloko luyasilela, ucinga ukuba lusekwe ngakumbi kwifilosofi yakudala kunakwisayensi esekwe kubungqina.

Kungenxa yokuba isayensi ayiqinisekisi ngokupheleleyo inkqubo ye-Enneagram ayithethi ukuba ayinaxabiso-iyahla kwinto oyenzayo kwiziphumo zakho.

"Xa isetyenziselwa injongo elungileyo kunye nomdla, iinkqubo ezinje nge-Enneagram zinokubonelela ngemephu yendlela eyomeleleyo yeendlela zethu zokwazi kunye nokungazi-sisiqalo sokusinceda siqhubeke nokukhula," utshilo uFelicia Lee, Ph.D., umseki weQela lobuNkokheli laseCampana, elibonelela ngemibutho ngeeseshoni zokuchwetheza nge-Enneagram. "Amandla akho okufunda nokwandisa njengomntu akasoze aphele."

Akukho namnye uhlobo nje olunye, kananjalo. Uya kuba nohlobo olunye olulawulayo kodwa unokuqaphela ukuba uneempawu ukusuka kolunye lweentlobo ezimbini ezikufutshane kumjikelo womzobo, ngokweziko le-Enneagram. Olu hlobo olusondeleyo, olongeza izinto ezininzi kubuntu bakho, lwaziwa ngokuba yi "phiko" lakho. Umzekelo, ukuba ungoNine, uya kuchonga ezinye zeempawu zeSibhozo okanye enye, zombini ezikufuphi neNine kumzobo kwaye zithathwa njengephiko elinokubakho.

Ukongeza kwiphiko lakho, uya kudityaniswa nezinye iindidi ezimbini ngokuxhomekeke apho inani lakho liwela kwidayagram ye-Enneagram, eyahlulahlulwe yaba "amaziko" amathathu. Iziko ngalinye libandakanya iintlobo ezintathu ezinamandla afanayo, ubuthathaka, iimvakalelo eziphambili, ngokwe-Enneagram Institute.

• Iziko Lethuku: 1, 8, 9; umsindo okanye ingqumbo yeyona mvakalelo ilawulayo
• IZiko lokuCinga: 5, 6, 1; uloyiko yeyona mvakalelo ilawulayo
• Iziko lokuziva: 2, 3, 4; Iintloni ziimvakalelo eziphambili

Ukuba ujonga umzobo, uya kubona ukuba uhlobo lwakho luxhunyiwe ngemigca ediagonal ukuya kwamanye amanani amabini ngaphandle kweziko okanye iphiko. Umgca omnye uqhagamshela kuhlobo olumele indlela oziphethe ngayo xa usiya empilweni nasekukhuleni, ngelixa omnye uqhagamshela kuhlobo olumele indlela onokuthi wenze ngayo xa uphantsi koxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo, okanye xa uziva ulungile. 'akukho kulawulo lwemeko, ngokutsho kwe-Enneagram Institute.

Ndingenza Ntoni Ngeziphumo?

I-Enneagram ikunika ubutyebi bokuqonda kwiintshukumisa zakho kunye nendlela onxibelelana ngayo nabo bakungqongileyo. Inkcazo nganye yohlobo olunzulu yabelana ngendlela owenza ngayo ngokusemandleni akho kwaye xa uxinezelekile. Ngenxa yoko, inokukunceda uhlakulele ukuzazi kwakho, ukonyuse ubukrelekrele bakho beemvakalelo, kwaye ujonge ubudlelwane emsebenzini kunye nakubomi bakho bobuqu. Ngapha koko, uphononongo olwenziweyo lwapapashwa kwiphephancwadi Unyango lwale mihla loSapho ibonise ukuba iziphumo ze-Enneagram zikhuthaza ulwazi kwaye zinokunceda kunyango lwezibini. Ukusebenzisa i-Enneagram, abantu ngabanye baye bakwazi ukuqonda ngcono iqabane labo kunye nokuvakalisa iimfuno zabo kunye neminqweno.

Jonga inkcazo yohlobo lwakho kwaye uqaphele ukuba ikwenza uzive njani (okuhle, okubi, nayo yonke into ephakathi), utshilo uOlesek. Kungokwemvelo ukuba uzive ugxothwa yimiba ethile yohlobo lwakho-ayiyiyo yonke into efanelekileyo okanye encomayo-kodwa thatha oku njengamathuba. Gcina ulusebenzisa uluhlu lwezinto ozicingayo, iimvakalelo, kunye nokufunda njengoko usintywila nzulu kwi-Enneagram yakho, uyacebisa.

Ukusuka apho, u-Lee ucebisa kuqala ukuba ugxininise ekuqondeni "amandla akho amakhulu"-amandla akhethekileyo asekelwe kuhlobo lwakho lwe-Enneagram-kunye nendlela yokusebenzisa loo mandla kubudlelwane bakho bobugcisa kunye nobuqu, utsho. Ngokukwanjalo, uhlobo ngalunye luneendawo eziziimfama ezikhethekileyo kunye ‘neendawo zokubukela’ ekufuneka uzinike ingqwalasela enkulu. Kulapho ukukhula okuphawulekayo kwenzeka khona ngenxa yokuba ufumanisa xa usenza izinto kunye nefuthe elibi elinalo ebomini bakho njengoko nabanye. "

Ngaphezu koko, kuba inokukunceda ukuba uqaphele amandla kunye nobuthathaka babanye abantu-njengoko befana okanye bahluke kweyakho-inokukunceda ukuba "uphuhlise ukuqonda okuyinyaniso nokusisigxina, ukwamkelwa, kunye nokuhlonipha wena nabanye," utsho. UDion.

Ungakusebenzisa njani ukuZazisa

Uhlobo lwe-1: Ukusebenzela ukuthambekela kokugqibeleleyo, uLapid-Bogda ucebisa ukunikela ingqalelo kwiinkcukacha, njengentyatyambo egadini. Yonke intle, nangona onke amagqabi, umzekelo, enokuthi angagqibeki, utshilo. Ukuphinda umthambo kukunceda uzifundise ukuba ukungafezeki kukwalungile.

Uhlobo lwe-2: Gxininisa ekunxibelelaneni neemvakalelo zakho ukuze ugweme ukuzisebenzela ngokwakho kwabanye. "Ukuba unxibelelana ngakumbi nesiqu sakho, ungazinyamekela ngcono, utshilo uLapid-Bogda. "Awudingi ukujikeleza abanye okanye uzive ukhathazekile okanye unomsindo okanye ukhathazekile ukuba umntu othile akafuni ukuba unike into. Xa uthe waqonda ukuba uneemfuno, uqala ukukhathalela iimfuno zakho."

Uhlobo lwe-3: Lapid-Bogda uthi:Ivakala iqhelekile? Emva koko zama umsebenzi omtsha kwaye unike ingqalelo kwindlela oziva ngayo endaweni yokugweba ukusebenza kwakho ngexesha lomsebenzi. Ukuba awuyithandi, yima. Ukuthatha nje ixesha lokuqonda indlela oziva ngayo ngomsebenzi kunokukunceda ukuba ubeke uxinzelelo oluncinci kuwe ukuze ugqibelele kwinto ethile, uyachaza uLapid-Bogda. (Eyeleleneyo: IiNzuzo ezininzi zempilo zokuzama izinto ezitsha)

Uhlobo lwe-4: Usenokuba luhlobo lomntu "othatha ulwazi malunga naye, oyinyani okanye owaziwayo, kwaye ale ingxelo eqinisekileyo," utshilo uLapid-Bodga. Jonga ulungelelwaniso lweemvakalelo ngokujonga izincomo ezilungileyo onokuthi ngenye indlela uzihoye okanye uzikhabe.

Uhlobo lwe-5: Eyona nto ilungileyo yokwenza fivmees kukwenza ukuphuma kwentloko yakho ngokudibanisa ngakumbi nomzimba wabo. Ukuthatha uhambo yindlela elula yokwenza oko, ngokwe-Lapid-Bogda.

Uhlobo 6: Abathandathu ngokwendalo baneeriyali zokuskena ukuba yintoni enokonakala. Ukufakela iskripthi kusasazo lolwazi, uLapid-Bogda ucebisa ukuba uzibuze le mibuzo iphambili: "Ngaba yinyani le? Ndiyazi njani ukuba iyinyani? Yintoni enye enokuba iyinyani?"

Uhlobo lwe-7: Ukuba uneminyaka esixhenxe, amathuba okuba "ingqondo yakho isebenze ngokukhawuleza," ke uhlala ujonge "ukukhuthaza ngaphandle" ukuyicacisa, uyacacisa. Sebenzisa olu lwazi kwinzuzo yakho kwaye uziqhelise ukungena "ngaphakathi" rhoqo ngokucamngca kwaye ujonge okwangoku, nokuba kungokukhawuleza kwimizuzwana emi-5 phakathi, yithi, izabelo zomsebenzi. (Ngaphambi kokuba uqale, jonga ezi ndlela zilungileyo zokucamngca zabaqalayo.)

Uhlobo lwe-8: U-Lapid-Bogda ucebisa ukuba uzibuze: "Kutheni usengozini hayi ukuba buthathaka?” Emva koko, cinga ngeemeko apho unokuziva ubuthathaka kodwa oko kunamandla. Ngokomzekelo, uthi omnye umntu usenokuthi, “Ndiba novelwano ngomnye umntu. Ndiyiva entliziyweni yam. Ndiziva ndisengozini xa ndiziva ngolo hlobo, kodwa indenza ndibe novelwano, nto leyo indenza ndomelele. "

Uhlobo lwe-9: I-Nines ifana ne-TV enevolumu ephantsi, ngokutsho kweLapid-Bogda. Ingcebiso yakhe: Qala ngokuthetha ngakumbi kwizigqibo ezilula, njengokukhetha indawo yokutyela isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nomhlobo. “Banokuqalisa kwaye bathethe ilizwi labo ngeendlela ezincinci kakhulu,” utshilo.

Umgca ongezantsi:

I-Enneagram ibonelela ngezifundo zokuzihlaziya nokuzikhathalela, ezinokuthi zincede nabani na-nokuba awulohlobo oluthile uvavanyo luyakutshica okanye ukuba yonke into ivakalelwa kukuba u-woo-woo kuwe. Masijongane nayo: Umhlaba unokuphuculwa kuphela ngokuthi wonke umntu abe nokuzazi ngakumbi. Kwaye nasiphi na isixhobo osisebenzisayo ukusebenza kuloo nto-i-Enneagram, ukuvumisa ngeenkwenkwezi, ukucamngca, uluhlu luyaqhubeka-kulungile.

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