Xa Unemibimbi kunye nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa

Umxholo

• Oko imibimbi yam imele
• Ngokuhamba kweminyaka kuza ubulumko okanye into elolo hlobo

Ndandihlala ndizicingela njengomama omncinci onexesha lokuqonda izinto. Kuvela ukuba andisemncinci kangako.

Ngenye imva kwemini, ngelixa ndidlula ekhaya ndedwa kunye neenyanga ezine ze-4, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndithathe i-selfie sobabini. Usana lwam lwalungqengqe emathangeni am kwaye bendizenzile iinwele zam kwaye ndinxibe ngale ntsasa, ke kubonakala ngathi lithuba elifanelekileyo lokuthimba umzali oyintombazana ongumama.

Emva koko ndabona umfanekiso.

Kwaye ndothuka ndakuqonda ukuba yenzekile. Ngokukhawuleza, nje kanjalo, umfazi ojonge kum emfanekisweni akasalingani nomfazi endicinga ukuba ndibonakala ngathi ndisekhanda lam.

Ndisondelise emfanekisweni ndisoyika, ndoyikeka kukushwabana okunzulu okusuka emehlweni am - ndikhangeleka njengobomi bokwenyani besi sihluzo sokuguga, ngaphandle kokuba oku bekungafuneki kakhulu.

Ngaba ngokwenene ndibonakala ndinje? Ndathumela umyalezo kumyeni wam ndinekopi yomfanekiso, umfanekiso ubotshiwe emehlweni am. I-OMG ndandingazi ukuba ndinemibimbi, Ndathumela umyalezo kudadewethu (mncinci kunam, ke akazange ayifumane, ugh).

Kanye nje, ndaqonda ukuba ubutsha bam buphelile. Umkile umama oneminyaka engama-22 ubudala bendihlala nosana lwam lokuqala kwaye ibingumfazi okwiminyaka engama-30 ubudala onabantwana abadala kunye nosana olusandul 'ukuzalwa- kwaye ngoku, imibimbi.

Oko imibimbi yam imele

Makhe nditsho ukuba andothukanga ngenxa yemibimbi yokwenyani okanye kuba bendithengile kwimbono yokuba nangasiphi na isizathu, abasetyhini abafanele ukuba badala. Ndiyaqonda imibimbi luphawu lwelungelo lokuba mdala.

Njengamanqaku olula, ndiyazi ukuba imibimbi iyimpawu ezibonakalayo zothando esilunikileyo kunye ne-blah, blah, blah. Ukothuka kwam kwavela kwinto yokuba ndandingazi ukuba ndikhangeleka njani, kwaye yayilixesha elothusayo lokuqonda ukuba ndisesikweni, ndikhulile ngokwenene.

Kwakungathi ndiqale ukuba nabantwana ndineminyaka engama-22, emva koko ndaqhwanyaza, ngequbuliso, ndandikwiminyaka engama-30 ubudala, ngokufika kwesikhumba esigugayo ndingazi nokuba ndize njani apha.

Ndichithe phantse yonke "umsebenzi" wam wobuzali ndisazi ukuba "ngumama omncinci"; Ndingumama owayesacinga izinto, owayenobomi obuninzi phambi kwam, owayenokuthatha ixesha lam ngaphambi kokuba ndibeneempendulo oomama "abadala" ababonakala ngathi banazo.

Kodwa xa ndandijonga umfanekiso wam ngaloo mini, kwavakala ngathi kukutshintsha okukhulu ebomini bam, xa ndafumanisa izinto ezimbini ezibaluleke kakhulu: 1) Bendingafanele ndinyathele kulaa mabhanile angenangqondo okususa kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kunye ne-2) ixesha lokwanga lo mama ndinguye namhlanje.

Ngokuhamba kweminyaka kuza ubulumko okanye into elolo hlobo

Ukubona imibimbi yam ngala mini kwatshintsha into kum. Itshintshe ubuwena bam ukusuka "kwabancinci," umama wokuqala ukuba ndizibone ngamehlo am-njengomama okhulileyo, ozinzileyo. Ndabona ukuba mna, kunye nolusu lwam, siwele umda.

Sobabini sasigqithile kwezinye izinto.

Ngokufanelekileyo, bendinokukhetha phakathi kwezinto ezimbini: Ndingalahla ingqumbo yomntwana omncinci kuloo nto bendiyishiye kwiminyaka engama-20 okanye ndingakhetha ukuya phambili ndibambe intloko phezulu, imibimbi kunye nayo yonke into.

Andizuxoka. Oku kulula kakhulu kunokwenza. Kwaye, ukuba ndinyanisekile, ndisahamba ngayo. Ngumzuzu ongaqhelekanga kakhulu wokuqonda ukuba ungena ngokusemthethweni kwiminyaka ephakathi. Ngumzuzu ongaqhelekanga ukuyeka umfazi obukade unaye kwaye unyathele kwikamva lakho - umdala, ulumkile, kwaye ur, imibimbi.

Kwam, ukuza kwinqanaba lokuba mdala njengomama, ukanti ndiqala kwakhona ngomntwana omtsha endlwini, oko kuthetha ukuba kuye kwafuneka ndibenenjongo ngakumbi kunangaphambili malunga noko ndifuna ubomi bam njengomama, umfazi, kunye nenkosikazi ukubukeka. Inyaniso elula kukuba, andizukufumana mncinci - kwaye ngoku ndinobungqina bokuba.

Ngokungafaniyo ngaphambili, xa bendinomkhusane wexesha kwicala lam lokufumana izinto, ngoku ndinexesha emva kwam, kwaye ndingayisebenzisa loo nto. Ndingajonga kwizifundo esele ndizifundile. Ndiyakwazi ukuvavanya oko kuye kwasebenza kunye noko kungasebenzanga. Ndingakhetha kwaye ndikhethe kwi-buffet yomzali edlulileyo, ukuba uyathanda.

Ewe, soze iphele into yokuqala kwam njengomama. Ndiza kuba ngumama "wokuqala" ngandlela thile ubomi bam bonke. Kodwa ngoku, endaweni yokoyika yonke into ezayo, ndinokujonga emva ndize ndiqonde ukuba sendigqithile kwizinto ezininzi njengomama-kwaye ndinemibimbi yokuyibonisa.

Ke, yizise, ​​bantwana: iminyaka yosana kwaye ukuthandana, ukuqhuba, iminyaka yasekholejini. Lo mama ushwabeneyo ukulungele konke.

UChaunie Brusie ngumongikazi wezabasebenzi kunye nonikezelo wajika waba ngumbhali kunye nomama omtsha osandula kuvezwa wabantwana abahlanu. Ubhala ngayo yonke into ukusuka kwezemali ukuya kwezempilo ukuba uphile njani ngezo ntsuku zokuqala zobuzali xa konke onokukwenza kukucinga ngako konke ukulala ongakufumaniyo. Mlandele apha.