Kutheni uMhlaza ingeyiyo "iMfazwe"

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Xa uthetha ngomhlaza, uthini? Ukuba umntu 'uphulukene' nedabi lakhe lomhlaza? Ukuba 'balwela' ubomi babo? Ngaba 'boyisile' esi sifo? Amagqabantshintshi akho awancedi, utsho uphando olutsha olupapashwe kwiphephancwadi Ubuntu kunye neBulletin yezeNtlalontle yezeNtlalontle-kwaye ezinye izigulane zomhlaza zangoku kunye nezangaphambili ziyavuma. Kusenokungabi lula ukwaphula olu lwimi lwasekuhlaleni, kodwa kubalulekile. Amagama aseburhulumenteni beelwimi zemfazwe ezifana nokulwa, ukulwa, ukusinda, intshaba, ukulahleka kunye nokuphumelela-kunokuchaphazela ukuqonda komhlaza kunye nendlela abantu abaphendula ngayo, ngokutsho kwabalobi bokufunda. Ngapha koko, iziphumo zabo zibonisa ukuba izafobe zotshaba zomhlaza zinokuba yingozi kwimpilo yoluntu. (Jonga izinto ezi-6 obungazazi malunga noMhlaza wamabele)

"Kukho umgca ocekeceke," utshilo uGeralyn Lucas, umbhali nowayesakuba ngumvelisi kamabonwakude obhale iincwadi ezimbini malunga namava akhe ngomhlaza wamabele. "Ndifuna wonke umntu obhinqileyo asebenzise ulwimi oluthetha naye, kodwa xa kwaphuma incwadi yam entsha, Emva koko kwafika uBomi, Andifuni naluphi na olo lwimi kwiphepha lam, utshilo. "Khange ndiphumelele okanye ndilahlekelwe ... i-chemo yam iyasebenza. Kwaye andiziva ndikhululekile ukuba ndiyibethe, kuba bendingenanto yakwenza nayo. Kwakungenanto yakwenza nam kwaye inento yokwenza nodidi lweseli yam, "ucacisa.

“Ukubuyisela umva, andicingi ukuba uninzi lwabantu abandijikelezileyo basebenzisa okanye basebenzise amagama okulwa, okanye bathi le yimeko yokuphumelela/yokulahlekelwa,” utshilo uJessica Oldwyn, obhala ngokuba nethumba lobuchopho okanye ibhlog yakhe. Kodwa uthi abanye babahlobo bakhe abanomhlaza bawenyanya ngokupheleleyo amagama emfazwe asetyenziswa ukuchaza umhlaza. "Ndiyaqonda ukuba isigama sokulwa sibeka uxinzelelo oluninzi kwabo sele bephantsi koxinzelelo olungenakulinganiswa ukuba baphumelele kwimeko kaDavide noGoliyati. Kodwa ndibona elinye icala: ukuba kunzima kakhulu ukwazi ukuba ungathini xa ndithetha nomntu onomhlaza. " Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, u-Oldwyn uthi ukuzibandakanya kwincoko nomntu onomhlaza nokumamela kuyabanceda bazive bexhaswa. "Qala ngemibuzo emnene kwaye ubone ukuba isukaphi apho," ucebisa. "Kwaye nceda ukhumbule ukuba nangona siphelile ngonyango, asizange sigqibe ngokwenene. Ihlala yonke imihla, uloyiko lomhlaza luvela kwakhona. Uloyiko lokufa."

UMandi Hudson naye ubhala malunga namava akhe ngomhlaza webele kwiblogi yakhe iDarn Good Lemonade kwaye uyavuma ukuba nangona yena ngokwakhe engakhethi cala kulwimi lwemfazwe ukuthetha ngomntu onomhlaza, uyasiqonda isizathu sokuba abantu bathethe ngaloo magama. Unyango lunzima, utshilo. "Xa ugqibile ngonyango udinga into yokuyibhiyozela, into yokuyibiza, enye indlela yokuthi" Ndiyenzile le nto, ibiyinto embi-kodwa ke ngoku ndilapha! "Nangona kunjalo," Andiqinisekanga ukuba ndifuna abantu Ndakha ndathi ndiphulukene nomhlaza wamabele, okanye ndoyisakele. Kuvakala ngathi khange ndizame ngokwaneleyo, "uyavuma.

Ukanti abanye banokuthuthuzelwa lolu lwimi. "Olu hlobo lwentetho aluniki uLauren uluvo olubi," utshilo uLisa Hill, umama ka-Lauren Hill oneminyaka eli-19 ubudala, umdlali webhola yomnyazi kwiYunivesithi yaseMount St. uhlobo olunqabileyo nolunganyangekiyo lomhlaza wobuchopho. "Uselwa nethumba ebuchotsheni. Uzibona elwela ubomi bakhe, kwaye uligorha le-DIPG elilwela bonke abantwana abachaphazelekayo, utshilo uLisa Hill. Ngapha koko, uLauren ukhethe ukuchitha iintsuku zakhe zokugqibela 'esilwela' abanye, ngokunyusa imali I-Cure Starts Now isiseko kwiwebhusayithi yakhe.

"Ingxaki ngokulwa okukhoyo kukuba kukho abaphumeleleyo kunye nabaphumeleleyo, kwaye ngenxa yokuba uphulukene nomlo wakho kumhlaza, oko akuthethi ukuba ungoyisakele," utshilo uSandra Haber, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo ogxile kumhlaza. ulawulo (owayenomhlaza ngokwakhe). Uthi: “Kufana nokubaleka umgama omde. "Ukuba ugqibile, uphumelele, nokuba awufumananga elona xesha lilungileyo. Ukuba sithe nje 'awuphumelele' okanye 'awuphumelelanga', siya kuphulukana kakhulu naloo nkqubo. Ibiya kuphumelela ngokwenene. Ungakhathali kuwo onke amandla kunye nomsebenzi kunye neminqweno. Yimpumelelo, ayisiyi kuphumelela. Nokuba umntu uswelekile, angaphumelela. Ayibenzi ukuba bangathandeki.

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