Kutheni le nto kufuneka uchame ngokusondeleyo usiya kwigumbi lokuhlambela?

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Uyazi ukuba "kufuneka uhambe" uvakalelo olubi olubonakala luba namandla ngakumbi xa usondela kumnyango wakho wangaphambili? Uphuthaphutha izitshixo zakho, ulungele ukuphosa ibhegi yakho phantsi kwaye ubaleke uye kwigumbi lokuhlambela. Ayizizo zonke entlokweni yakho-yinto yokwenyani ebizwa ngokuba kukungalawuleki kwe-latchkey. (Nd... Ezi zeziPelvic zePelvic ezimangazayo zokuchama kwiShower.)

“Ukukrwaqula nje kwento esiyinxulumanisa nesenzo kunokuqalisa inkqubo yobuchopho ukuya kwimfuno engxamisekileyo yokuyiva-konke ngokungazi,” uyacacisa ugqirha wengqondo uGinnie Love, Ph.D.

Ukususela ebuntwaneni, sifundiswa ukudibanisa igumbi lokuhlambela kunye nokuchama. Ke ukusondela kwethu kukufika, le nkqubo, ibekwe nzulu kwimilambo yengqondo engaziwayo, isebenzise ingcinga kwaye umzimba usebenze ngokwasemzimbeni ngokwenza into eyenziwayo luluntu, Uthando luyacacisa.

"Kufana nokulinga kukaPavlov," utshilo uGqirha May M. Wakamatsu, ugqirha wamachiza kunye nomlawuli wamayeza e-pelvic yabasetyhini kunye notyando lokwakha ngokutsha kwisibhedlele iMassachusetts General Hospital. Kuvavanyo oludumileyo lwezenzululwazi, ugqirha wezomzimba waseRussia uIvan Pavlov wakhalisa intsimbi xa enika izinja zakhe ukutya. Emva kwethutyana, wazama ukukhala intsimbi yodwa kwaye wafumanisa ukuba inja iye yachithe amathe nokuba ukutya akukho.

Luhlobo olufanayo lwempendulo ekwimo yempendulo kwisinyi sakho, uyacacisa uWakamatsu. Ufumana umkhwa wokukhupha isinyi sakho nje ukuba ungene emnyango, ngequbuliso uziva ngathi kufuneka uchame-nokuba awunjalo. (Ngaba i-pee yakho iyabonakala okanye ivumba lihlekisayo? Chaza izinto ezi-6 uPee wakho azama ukukuxelela zona.)

Ngokuhamba kwexesha, ukuba uqhubeka unikezela kwisinyi sakho endaweni yokuvumela ingqondo yakho ukuba ilawule, unokuqalisa ukuvuza-okanye ngakumbi-pee kwinyathelo elingaphambili. (Heyi, iyenzeka!)

Ngethamsanqa, kukho izinto ezimbalwa onokuzenza ukuze ukungafikeleli kwi-latchkey yakho kungafiki kuloo ndawo. "Ukungena ngomnyango owahlukileyo wendlu yakho kunokunceda ukunciphisa umnqweno wokuchama, kodwa ukuba ayisiyiyo loo nto unokukhetha ukuyenza, kufuneka uxhathise umnqweno wokukhupha isinyi xa ungena endlwini," utshilo uWakamatsu.

Iindlela zokuphazamisa zinokukunceda ukuba ungahoyi isinyi sakho. Qala ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa kwangoko xa ufika ekhaya okanye uvule iposi ukuze ususe ingqondo yakho kwimvakalelo, ucebisa uWakamatsu. Inokuba yinkqubo ecothayo yokungabinakuxhomekeka, ke qala ngokubona ukuba ungalinda na imizuzu emihlanu emva kokuba ufike ekhaya, emva koko imizuzu eli-10, kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe wandise ixesha.

Enye indlela acebisa ngayo kukukhupha ngabom isinyi sakho ngaphambi kokuba ugoduke. Emva koko, uya kwazi ukuba ingqondo yakho ithumela iimpawu zobuxoki ukuba usaziva ngathi kufuneka uhambe xa ufika ekhaya, kuba kuthatha malunga neeyure ezintathu ukuya kwezine ukuba isinyi sizalise. Njengokutyhala ngokuzilolonga, ngamanye amaxesha kumalunga nengqondo ngaphezulu komcimbi.

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