Kutheni Ndingasokuze Ndiphinde Ndithathe Ipilisi

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Ndafumana iyeza lam lokuqala lolawulo lokuzalwa ndineminyaka engama-22. Kwiminyaka esixhenxe endandikwiPilisi, ndandiyithanda. Yenze ukuba ulusu lwam oluqhelene namabala lucace, amaxesha am rhoqo, indenze ndakhululeka nge-PMS, kwaye bendinokutsiba ixesha nangaliphi na ixesha xa lihambelana nekhefu okanye umsitho okhethekileyo. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, yayikuthintela ukukhulelwa.

Kodwa ke, xa ndandineminyaka engama-29 ubudala, mna nomyeni wam sagqiba kwelokuba sibe nentsapho. Njengombhali ogxile kwezempilo yabasetyhini, ndiye ndacinga ukuba ndinayo le nto phantsi: Yijikeleze iPilisi, uxakeke ngaphambi naphakathi kwexesha lokuvota, kwaye ngekhe kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza. Ngaphandle kokuba ayenzanga. Ndathatha ipilisi yam yokugqibela ngo-Okthobha ka-2013. Ndaza ke ndalinda. Kwakungekho miqondiso ye-ovulation-akukho dip dip iqondo lobushushu okanye spike, akukho ovulation predictor kit smiley face, akukho iqanda elimhlophe umlomo wesibeleko, akukho mittelschmerz (cramping kwicala apho i-ovary ikhupha iqanda). Nangona kunjalo, sinike eyona nto yethu ilungileyo.

Ngomhla wama-28-ubude bomjikelo wokuya exesheni-xa ixesha lam lingakhange libonakalise, bendicinga ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba singabo bantu banethamsanqa abakhulelwa kwilinge labo lokuqala. Olunye uvavanyo lokukhulelwa olubi emva kolunye, nangona kunjalo, iqinisekisile ukuba oku bekungenjalo. Ekugqibeleni, iintsuku ezingama-41 emva komjikelezo wam wokugqibela owenziwe ngePilisi, ndafumana ixesha lam. Ndonwabile (singazama kwakhona kule nyanga!) Kwaye ndonakalisiwe (andizange ndikhulelwe; kwaye umjikelo wam umde).

Olu luhlu lweziganeko eziphindaphindwayo ziphindaphindwe ngemijikelo yokwahluka kobude beentsuku ezingama-40 nangaphezulu. Ekupheleni kukaJanuwari, ndandwendwele ugqirha wamabhinqa. Kulapho wawisa khona le bhombu entliziyweni yam ekhathazwa lusana: Imijikelezo yam ende yayithetha ukuba ngekhe ndibenayo i-ovulation kwaye nokuba bendiyiyo, umgangatho weqanda kungenzeka ukuba wawungakulungelanga ukuchumiswa ngelixesha libalekileyo kwi-ovary yam. Ngamafutshane, ngekhe sikwazi ukukhulelwa ngaphandle konyango. Ndayishiya iofisi yakhe kunye nomyalelo weprogesterone ukwenza umjikelo, umyalelo we-Clomid ukuze wenze i-ovulation, kunye nephupha eliphukileyo. Ngaphantsi kweenyanga ezine ukuzama, sasisele sinyangelwa ukungafumani bantwana.

Kwiinyanga ezintathu ezizayo, ngalo lonke ixesha ndiginya enye yezo pilisi, le ngcinga yanditya: "Ukuba bendingazange ndisebenzise ipilisi okanye ukuba ndiyekile ukuthatha ixesha elide ngaphambi kokuzama ukukhulelwa, ngendibe ndinolwazi oluthe kratya. malunga nemijikelo yam. Ndiyayazi into eqhelekileyo kum. " Endaweni yoko, nyanga nganye ibingumdlalo wokuqikelela. Into endingayaziyo yayingaziwa kuba ndandisele iPilisi. Iminyaka esixhenxe, Ipilisi laxutha iihormoni zam kwaye lacima i-ovulation ngoko ke ndaye ndacinywa ngokupheleleyo kwindlela umzimba wam owawusebenza ngayo.

Njengombhali wezempilo, andizange ndikwazi ukuzibamba kodwa ndibonisane noGqr Google, ndihlala ndihlala phezu kwe-iPhone yam ebusuku xa ndingalali. Bendifuna ukwazi ukuba ingaba imijikelo yam emide ibiyinto yam "eqhelekileyo" okanye sisiphumo sokuphuma kwiPilisi. Nangona uphando lubonakala luqinisekisa ukuba nokuba ukusetyenziswa kwexesha lokucwangcisa ngomlomo akulimazi ukuzala, izifundo ezimbalwa zibonisa ukuba kwixesha elifutshane, kunokuba nzima ukukhulelwa. Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba kwiinyanga ezili-12 emva kokumisa indlela yokuthintela (njengeikhondom) iipesenti ezingama-54 zabasetyhini bazala xa kuthelekiswa neepesenti ezingama-32 zabasetyhini abaye bayekisa ukuthatha ipilisi. Kwaye, abasetyhini abaye basebenzisa izinto zokucwangcisa ngomlomo kangangeminyaka emibini okanye nangaphezulu ngaphambi kokuzama ukukhulelwa bathatha i-avareji yeenyanga ezisithoba ukukhulelwa xa kuthelekiswa neenyanga ezintathu, ngokomndilili, kubafazi ababesebenzise iikhondom, abaphandi base-UK bafumanisa.

Ngethamsanqa, ibali lethu linesiphelo esonwabisayo. Okanye, njengoko ndithanda ukuthetha, isiqalo esonwabileyo. Ndineeveki ezili-18 ndikhulelwe kwaye kufanelekile ngoMatshi. Emva kweenyanga ezintathu ezingaphumelelanga zeComomid kunye nexesha elinye kunye nenyanga enye yenaliti yeFollistim kunye ne-Ovidrel esiswini sam kunye nokubuyela umva kwe-IUI (insemination engeyiyo), sithathe intwasahlobo nehlobo kunyango. NgoJuni, kwindawo ethile phakathi kweGeneva neMilan ngelixa ndiseholideyini, ndakhulelwa. Kwakukho omnye umjikelo omde kakhulu. Kodwa, ngokungummangaliso, ndavakalisa kwaye umntwana wethu omncinci wenziwa.

Nangona engekabikho kwalapha, kodwa sendiyazi ukuba xa sifika kwixesha elizayo siza kuyenza ngenye indlela inkqubo yokwenza umntwana. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, andisokuze ndisebenzise ipilisi-okanye naluphi na uhlobo lokuthintela ukukhulelwa kwakhona. Andazi ukuba kutheni imijikelezo yam inde kakhulu (oogqirha balawula iimeko ezinje nge-PCOS), kodwa nokuba kungenxa yePilisi okanye akunjalo, ndifuna ukwazi ukuba umzimba wam usebenza wedwa njani ukuze ndikwazi ukuzilungiselela ngcono. Kwaye ezo nyanga zonyango? Ngelixa babeyincasa nje xa kuthelekiswa noko kunyamezeleyo abantu abaninzi abangafumani bantwana, babediniwe ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo kwaye zibiza kakhulu. Okubi kakhulu, ndiqinisekile ukuba bekungeyomfuneko.

Kule minyaka isixhenxe ndithathe iPilisi, bendiyithanda ukuba indinike amandla okulawula umzimba wam. Ngoku ndiyayiqonda iminyaka esixhenxe, ndayeka imichiza ekwiPilisi ukuba ilawule umzimba wam. Kwiinyanga ezintlanu ukusukela ngoku xa ndibambe ummangaliso wethu omncinci ezingalweni zam, ubomi bethu buza kutshintsha-kubandakanya uhambo oluninzi olunokujolisa kwithagethi esiza kuyithatha. Apho, ndiza kugcina i-diapers, ndosula, amalaphu e-burp, kwaye, ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, iikhondom.

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