Ewe, ukondla ngebhotile kunokuba yinto nje yokubopha njengokuncancisa

Umxholo

• Ukondla ngebhotile kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ubekhona
• Ukondla ngebhotile kukunika uxolo lwengqondo
• Ukondla ngebhotile kukuvumela ukuba uthathe ikhefu
• Ukondla ngebhotile akuchaphazeli ukusondela kwakho

Kuba, masinyaniseke, kungaphezulu kwebhotile okanye ibhobhosi.

Emva kokuncancisa kuphela intombi yam, ndandiqinisekile ukuba ndiyakwenza okufanayo nonyana wam. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngeli xesha ngoku ndiza kuzisa ibhotile kwakamsinya (ukuze ayithathe - {textend} intombi yam ayizange yenze njalo), kodwa ndicinge ukuba ndizibophelele okungenani komnye unyaka wokondla umntwana-kwi-boob.

Nangona kunjalo, xa unyana wam wasiwa kwi-NICU kungekudala emva kokuba ezelwe kwaye andizange ndikwazi ukuncancisa kude kube ziintsuku ezimbalwa kamva, ndandisazi ukuba sikulohambo olwahluke kakhulu.

Wayebonakala enomdla wokuncancisa, ubuncinci, ade akhawuleze- {textend} nangona kamnandi- {textend} walala kum.

Okwangoku, ngebhongo ndawasusa amacebo okuncancisa xa bengena. Ngapha koko, ndandincancisa intombi yam iinyanga ezili-15.

Ndiye apho, ndenza loo nto, ndafumana indebe. Kunene?

Sakuba sisekhaya, nangona kunjalo, kwacaca gca ukuba inkwenkwe yam ikhethe iibhotile ezincinci awayezinikwe esibhedlele kum.

Ekuqaleni, ndandiziva ndikhathazekile. Mhlawumbi bekufanele ukuba ndilwamkele uncedo kwizinto ezilungileyo zokuncancisa? Emva koko, ndaziva ndinetyala. Kuthekani ukuba uyagula rhoqo ukuba andimncancisi? Ekugqibeleni, ndaziva ndibuhlungu. Ndingadibana njani naye?

Ewe, ngoku ndikwelinye icala lalo - {textend} unyana wam ungaphezu konyaka ngoku kwaye usele ubisi lwenkomo kwinto anayo entliziyweni - {textend} Ndingatsho ngaphandle kokuthandabuza ukuba ukondla ngebhotile kunganomvuzo njengokuncancisa. Ukuba akunjalo. Apho, nditshilo.

Ukuba namava awahlukileyo nabantwana bam kundibonisile ukuba nokuba ungalondla njani na usana lwakho, ulwenza ngokugqibeleleyo.

Nazi izinto ezimbalwa eziphambili endizifundileyo malunga neebhotile kunye nokudibana:

Ukondla ngebhotile kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ubekhona

Nje ukuba ndifumane ukuxhonywa, kwakulula kum ukuba ndiphume.

Ndandingaphaya kwamandla okokuqala ndaza ndafumanisa ukuba ndivale amehlo ngenxa ye-catnap emva kokuba intombi yam iboshwe. Oko, okanye bendiskrola iAmazon ukufumana iswade efanelekileyo eya kuthi ekugqibeleni imenze alale ixesha elide kunemizuzu engama-45 ngexesha.

Ndingumama omtsha kwaye ubomi baziva bunzima. Ndebiwe bubuthongo ndadinwa. Andizange ndiyazi into endiyenzayo. Ndizicingele okwesibini lonke ixesha.

Ndikunye nonyana wam, ndaziva ndizithembe ngakumbi. Ndibe nobuchule bokusebenza ngaphandle kokulala. Ndikwanombono wokuba ixesha likhawuleza emva kokuba unabantwana. Bendingafuni ukuba isigaba somntwana sidlule kum.

Kodwa yayingelilo nje utshintsho kwimbonakalo isihlandlo sesibini ngeenxa zonke. Andizange ndondle ngebhotile ngaphambili, ke kuye kwafuneka ndihoye. Bekufuneka ndibambe ibhotile ngokuchanekileyo - {textend} dibanisa, bendingakwazi ukusozela kuba usana lwam belungakwazi ukuzibamba.

Ngenxa yoku, ndichithe ixesha elincinci ndakhangela (okanye kwifowuni yam) nonyana wam. Ndichithe ixesha elininzi ndijonga amehlo akhe amakhulu, izidlele zakhe ezincinci, iincinci zakhe, izandla ezinemibimbi njengoko bebambe umnwe wam.

Ngelixa ukuncancisa kundidibanisa nentombi yam ngenxa yokunxibelelana ngokwasemzimbeni, ukuncancisa ibhotile kundibophelela kunyana wam ngenxa yendlela efuna ubukho bam.

Ukuqhubeka nokuba kulo mzuzu kwandenza ndaziva ndisondele kuye nangona wayesela ubisi olungumgubo endaweni yobisi lwam.

Ukondla ngebhotile kukunika uxolo lwengqondo

Zininzi izinto ekufuneka ukhathazeke ngazo xa unomntwana omtsha. Ngaba balale ngokwaneleyo? Ngaba bakhula ngokwaneleyo? Ngaba batya ngokwaneleyo?

Ukondla ngebhotile kukunika ukucaca kokugqibela - {textend} uyazi kakuhle ukuba zingaphi ii-ounces umntwana wakho azondlayo.

Abantwana bam bakwicala elincinci, ke ukuba nale nkcukacha kunyana wam kundinike enye into encinci ukuba nexhala ngayo. Ukuxhalaba okumbalwa kwakuthetha ukuba ndingumama okhululekile, nothanda ngakumbi. Ndaye ndakwazi ukonwabela amava amatsha.

Ukondla ngebhotile kukuvumela ukuba uthathe ikhefu

Xa unyana wam wayeneeveki nje ezimbalwa ezelwe, ndemka kuloo ndlu iiyure ezimbalwa. Ndibaleke ndisiya kwezinye izinto. Ndifumene imassage yonyawo. Iibhutsi zam bezingatyabuki okanye zivakalelwa ngathi ziza kudubula. Bendingekho exesheni.

Bendidiniwe kunjalo, kodwa bendiziva ndingumntu.

Kwaye xa ndibuyela ekhaya kusapho lwam, ndaziva ndizaliswa emva kwexesha. Ndandikulungele ukwenza ibhotile kwaye ndibambe unyana wam. Kwaye ubambe kwaye wenze ubugcisa kunye nomntwana wam oneminyaka emi-2/2 ubudala, naye, ngenxa yaloo nto.

Ukondla ngeebhotile kwandinika ithuba lokuthatha ikhefu elifanelekileyo. Ukubeka eyami imaski yeoksijini kuqala, ngokuthetha. Ukuze ukwazi ukunika Zombini Bantwana bam eyona nto ndiyithandayo.

Emva kwala maxesha okuzikhathalela, bendixhotyiswe ngakumbi ngokwasemphefumlweni ukuba ndingadibani nosana lwam kuphela, kodwa nonyana wam omncinci ngokunjalo.

Ukondla ngebhotile akuchaphazeli ukusondela kwakho

Ewe, unyana wam akazange nje ancelise. Kodwa, mandikuxelele, nguye ke ndingene.

Nokuba unonyaka ubudala, ufuna ukuba ndimbambe ngalo lonke ixesha. Uye wandiphuza ngaphambi kokuba ndimlalise ebhedini. Uyibhukisha emnyango wangaphambili xa ndibuya emsebenzini okanye evenkileni.

Ngokucacileyo ndisengoyena mntu amthandayo. Indlela endamondla ngayo njengosana yayingenzanga mahluko.

Musa ukubaxelela abo bacebisi be-lactation, kodwa xa ndithe ndahamba zimbini iindlela, ndingavuya ukukhetha ukutya kwebhotile kwakhona. Ndithe ndakufumana ibinzana elithi “ibele lelona lifanelekileyo” ngaphandle kwentloko yam, ndakwazi ukuphumla ndiye kwimeko eyinyani kwaye ndilonwabele ngokwenene ixesha endilichithe ndondla unyana wam.

Ndifunde ukuba ayinamsebenzi ukuba ulondla njani okanye ulondla njani usana lwakho - {textend} ibele okanye ibhotile, ubisi okanye ubisi olungumgubo. Nokuba imeko yakho yokondla okanye ukhetho lwakho lunjani, zilungile kuwe.

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