Ubuchopho Bakho: Ukukhulelwa

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"Ingqondo yokukhulelwa iyinyani," Savannah Guthrie, umama okhulelweyo kunye Namhlanje bonisa umphathi-ntsebenziswano, uthumele umyalezo emva kokuba enze i-goof yomoya malunga nomhla. Kwaye unyanisile: "Kususela ebuntwaneni kubekho utshintsho oluninzi oluqhubekayo kwingqondo yowesifazane ngaxeshanye," ucacisa uLouann Brizendine, M.D., ugqirha wezifo zengqondo kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia, eSan Francisco kunye nombhali Ingqondo yowesifazane. Ngalo lonke ixesha lokukhulelwa, ingqondo yowasetyhini ifakwe emanzini kwi-neurohormones eyenziwe yi-fetus kunye ne-placenta, utshilo uBrizendine. Kwaye ngelixa ingengabo bonke abafazi abaya kubelana ngeenguqu ezifanayo zengqondo ezinxulumene nokukhulelwa, nantsi ukujonga ukuba ingqondo yakho yangaphambi kukamama inokubonakala njani.

Ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelwe

Ukuphefumla nje ngokukhawuleza komhlobo okanye usana lomntakwenu kunokubangela ukutshintsha kwemichiza entlokweni yakho enokuthi inyuse umnqweno wakho weerats zakho, utshilo uBrizendine. Iintsana zikhupha iikhemikhali ezibizwa ngokuba ziipheromones ezithi, xa zisekiwe, zikwazi ukuvuselela ukukhutshwa kweoxytocin kwinoodle yowesifazane, uphando lubonisa. Eyaziwa ngokuba yihomoni yothando, i-oxytocin ibotshelelwe kwiimvakalelo zokuncamathela kunye nothando losapho.

Ikota yokuqala

Utshintsho olukhulu lwehomoni luqala kwakamsinya nje emva kokuba iqanda elichumileyo lifakela eludongeni lwesibeleko sakho kunye namagwegwe kwigazi lakho, okwenzeka ngaxeshanye kwiiveki ezimbini zokukhulelwa, utshilo uBrizendine. Isikhukula ngequbuliso seprogesterone kwingqondo asinyusi kuphela ukozela kodwa sikwabulala indlala kunye nemijikelezo yonxano, uphando lubonisa. Kwangaxeshanye, imiqondiso yobuchopho enxulumene nomdla wokutya inokuthi iphele, ijike ngokusabela kwakho kumavumba okanye ukutya okuthile. (Ii-Pickles isenokuba yeyona nto uyithandayo, ngelixa ukuvuthisa iyogathi kunokukwenza ugabhe.) Olu tshintsho ngequbuliso lwenzeka kuba ingqondo yakho ikhathazekile ngokutya into enokwenzakalisa usana lwakho olungelolungenamandla kwiinyanga zokuqala zokukhulelwa, ucacisa uBrizendine.

Iikhemikhali zoxinzelelo ezifana ne-cortisol nayo inyuka ngokuphendula kutshintsho olwenzeka emzimbeni wakho. Kodwa ukusebenza okuzolisayo kweprogesterone, kunye namanqanaba aphezulu e-estrogen, kumodareyitha ingqondo yakho kunye nokuphendula komzimba kwezi khemikhali zoxinzelelo, kukugcina ungaziva utyhafile kakhulu, utshilo uBrizendine.

Kwi-Second Trimester

Umzimba wakho uya uziqhelanisa notshintsho lwehomoni, oko kuthetha ukuba isisu sakho sihlala phantsi kwaye unokuba nomnqweno wokutya yonke into oyibonayo, utshilo uBrizendine. Kwangaxeshanye, ingqondo yakho ibona iimvakalelo zokuqala ze-fluttery esiswini sakho njengeentshukumo zomntwana, ezitshisa "iisekethe zothando" ezinxulumene nokuncamathela, utshilo. Ngenxa yoko, ulungele ukuthandana nomntwana wakho. Ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, konke ukukhaba okutsha kunokubangela iingcinga: Kuya kuba njani ukubamba, ukuncancisa, nokunyamekela umntwana wakho, uyongeza.

Ikota yesithathu

Imfazwe yokulwa-okanye-yokubaleka koxinzelelo lwekhemikhali i-cortisol iqhubekile nokunyuka kwaye ngoku ikumanqanaba ngokuhamba nomthambo onzima. Oku kwenzeka ukuze uhlale ugxile ekukhuseleni wena kunye nosana, kodwa kunokwenza kube nzima ukugxila kwimisebenzi engabalulekanga kangako, utshilo uBrizendine. Kukho ukwanda komsebenzi kwisiqingatha esifanelekileyo sobuchopho bakho, esinceda ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho, uphando olutsha oluvela kwiYunivesithi yaseLondon. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa abasetyhini abakhulelweyo bejonga ubuso bomntwana, uyacacisa uVictoria Bourne, Ph.D., owaququzelela uphononongo lwase-U.K. U-Bourne akakwazi ukuchaza ukuba kutheni oku kusenzeka, kodwa utshintsho lunokunceda ukulungiselela umama ukuba abe nolwalamano nomntwana wakhe omtsha emva kokuba ezelwe. Iingcinga malunga nendlela oza kuhlangabezana ngayo nomsebenzi zinokuphinda zikhuphe iingcinga zemihla ngemihla, uBrizendine wongeza.

Emva kokuba Umntwana Wakho Ezelwe

Ngexesha leentsuku zokuqala ezimbalwa emva komsebenzi, amanqanaba e-oxytocin aphakamileyo anceda ekubhaleni ivumba lomntwana wakho omtsha, izandi, kunye nokuhamba kwisekethe yakho yengqondo, utshilo uBrizendine. Ngapha koko, uphononongo lubonisa ukuba oomama abatsha banako ukwahlula ivumba lomntwana wabo kolunye usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa ngokuchanekileyo ngama-90 epesenti. (Wow.) Ukulinda amanqanaba aphezulu ehormones oxinzelelo, kunye nezinye iikhemikhali zobuchopho, kunokubangela iimvakalelo zokudakumba emva kokubeleka, uphando lubonisa. Kodwa, ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na, ubuchopho boomama abatsha buhlala bephaphile ngokukhusela umntwana wabo, utshilo uBrizendine. Yindlela yendalo yokuqinisekisa ukusinda kwenzala yakho, kunye nohlobo lwabantu, uyongeza.

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