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Umxholo

• Nalu uluvo lwam lokuzonwabisa okukhulu kubusuku bangoLwesihlanu: ukuqala incwadi entsha kraca. Ayongombono endizingcayo ngokwabelana ngawo, kodwa ngoba? Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuba ngumngenisi.
• Yeka ukusekela ulonwabo lwakho kwiinqobo zabanye abantu
• Chonga ukuba yintoni ingxolo engena kungenanto
• Kukho isizathu sokuba uzithande izinto ozithandayo
• Khumbula izinto ezintle

Nalu uluvo lwam lokuzonwabisa okukhulu kubusuku bangoLwesihlanu: ukuqala incwadi entsha kraca. Ayongombono endizingcayo ngokwabelana ngawo, kodwa ngoba? Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuba ngumngenisi.

Kunganzima kum ukwala izimemo zobusuku basendle ngaphandle kwento nokuba eyona nto ndiyifunayo bubusuku obuzolileyo. Ndikhumbula amaxesha amaninzi apho ndizamile khona "ukutyhala" umnqweno wam wokuhlala.

Ndiza kuba ngaphandle kweklabhu, ndiyithiyile into yokuba umculo ubungxola kakhulu kangangokuba andinakuthetha nabahlobo bam, ndizonda ukuba kufuneka ndityhalele phakathi kwesihlwele sabantu nangaliphi na ixesha endifuna ukuhamba ngaso.

Ngobunye ubusuku bangoMgqibelo ekholejini, ndade ndagqobhoza udonga. Bendilungiselela ipati (uyazi, ekuphela kwento abayenzayo abantwana beekholeji ngeempelaveki zabo ngaphandle kokuba izokugqibela) kwaye ndaziva ilizwi lam langaphakathi lisithi mandihlale ekhaya, indikhumbuza ukuba andikho semdaka ukuba ndingqongwe abantu okanye ukwenza intetho encinci.

Ndamamela eli lizwi kwakanye.

Nangona ndandinxibe kakuhle, ndakhulula ndathambisa ndatshintsha impahla ndangena ezingubeni. Yayisisiqalo.

Kwandithatha amaxesha ambalwa ukwenza umzamo (ngalo mzuzu) ukwenza into endenze ndonwaba kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ndibone ukuba ndiyazinceda ngokwam. Abantu banokucinga ukuba indlela endikhetha ukuchitha ngayo ixesha lam iyadika-kodwa xa kufikwa kumba wokuchitha ixesha lam, eyona nto ibalulekileyo yindlela endiziva ngayo.

Yeka ukusekela ulonwabo lwakho kwiinqobo zabanye abantu

Ngamanye amaxesha kuvakala ngathi ndingqongwe ngabantu abakwizinto ezahlukeneyo kunam. Inokwenza kube nzima ukuhlala ndinyanisile kwizinto endifuna ukuzenza. Ndiza kuqala ukubuza yonke into ngam: Ngaba ndiyinqaba? Andipholanga?

Kutheni ibaluleke kangaka into yokuba le nto indonwabisayo kufuneka ivunywe ngomnye umntu?

Ngoku, ndicinga ukuba kuyahlekisa xa ibali lam le-Snapchat liyiselfie yentloko yam phezu komqamelo kunye negama elithi "ngoLwesihlanu ebusuku vuka!" Kodwa kundithathe ixeshana ukwamkela ngokwenyani #JOMO- uvuyo lokuphoswa.

Wonke umntu ufumana umbono wakhe wento efanelekileyo ukuba ingadinisi, kodwa uyazi ntoni? Ukukruqula akuhambelani ngokuchanekileyo.

Kukho iklabhu ebizwa ngokuba yiKlabhu yamaDull Man yiyo yonke into malunga "nokubhiyozela okuqhelekileyo." Inobulungu bamadoda nabasetyhini abangaphezu kwama-5 000. Ngaba ufuna ukufota iibhokisi zeposi? Ukutyelela zonke izikhululo zikaloliwe e-United Kingdom? Gcina idayari yokucheba ingca yakho? Ayisiyi kuba kuphela yinkampani elungileyo nale klabhu, uya kufumana umntu oyithandayo le nto uyenzayo, naye.

Chonga ukuba yintoni ingxolo engena kungenanto

Ukuqala kwam ukufumana iakhawunti ye-Facebook nge-18, ndaziva ngathi kufuneka ndibhale yonke imizuzu yobomi bam ukuze abahlobo bam bazi ukuba ndingumntu onomdla. Ndiye ndachitha ixesha elininzi ndizithelekisa nabantu abakwi-Intanethi abanye abantu ababebonisa.

Ekugqibeleni, andinakuyityeshela into yokuba olu thelekiso lobomi bam bemihla ngemihla kwinto endiyibonileyo kwi-intanethi ibindenza ndizive ndimhle kum.

UDaniela Tempesta, ongumcebisi waseSan Francisco, uthi le yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo ebangelwa yimithombo yeendaba zasekuhlaleni. Ngokwenyani, bekukho amaxesha amaninzi into eyenziwayo "ngabahlobo" bam ingakhange ibonakale imnandi kum, kodwa bendizisebenzisa njengenduku yokulinganisa (njengoko ubizwa nguTempesta) kwindlela endiziva ngayo ukuba ubomi bam bumele ukuba buhamba ngayo.

Oko ndacima usetyenziso lweFacebook kwifowuni yam. Ukungabikho kweapp kundincedile ukunciphisa ixesha lam kwimidiya yoluntu kakhulu. Kuthathe ezinye iiveki ezimbalwa ukuzishiya kumkhwa wokuzama ukuvula i-app yeFacebook engekho qho xa ndivula ifowuni yam, kodwa ngokutshintsha iapps endinika amaxesha ebhasi kwindawo apho iFacebook yayihlala khona, ndazifumana ndizama ukuya kuFacebook kuncinci.

Ngamanye amaxesha, iisayithi ezintsha kunye neeapps ziya kuvela. I-Instagram iphinde yavela njenge-Facebook 2.0, kwaye ndiyazifanisa noko ndikubonayo abanye abantu bethumela.

Oku kubethe ekhaya xa inkwenkwezi ye-Instagram yangaphambili u-Essena O'Neill ebetha iindaba. U-O'Neill wayehlala ehlawulelwa ukukhuthaza iinkampani ngeefoto zakhe ezintle ze-Instagram. Ngokukhawuleza wasusa iiposti zakhe kwaye wayeka imidiya yoluntu, esithi waqala waziva "esityiwe" yimithombo yeendaba kwaye wenza ubomi bakhe.

Uye wahlela ukuba afake ii-caption zakhe ukuze afake iinkcukacha malunga nokuba zonke iifoto zakhe zazibekiwe kwaye wayengenanto ahlala eyiva nangona ubomi bakhe babubonakala buhle kwi-Instagram.

I-Instagram yakhe igqekeziwe kwaye imifanekiso yakhe sele icinyiwe kwaye isusiwe. Kodwa isandi somyalezo wakhe sisaqhubeka siyinyani.

Nanini na xa ndibona ndizithelekisa kwakhona, ndiyazikhumbuza oku: Ukuba ndizama ukubonelela kuphela abahlobo bam be-intanethi ngezinto eziphambili ebomini bam kwaye ndingabhali i-humdrum okanye izinto ezimbi ezinokuthi zenzeke kum, kunokwenzeka, yile nto ndiyenza, nayo.

Kukho isizathu sokuba uzithande izinto ozithandayo

Ekupheleni kosuku, ukonwaba kwakho kuphela kwesizathu sokuba wenze into. Ngaba umdlalo wakho ugcina wonwabile? Emva koko qhubeka uyenza!

Ukufunda isakhono esitsha? Sukuba nexhala ngemveliso yokugqibela okwangoku. Rekhoda inkqubela yakho, jolisa kwindlela ekuzisa ngayo uvuyo, kwaye ujonge emva kwexesha elidlulileyo.

Ndichithe ixesha elininzi endinokuthi ndisebenzise ukuziqhelanisa ne-calligraphy ndinqwenela ukuba nobugcisa okanye ubuchule. Ndaziva ndisoyika amagcisa kwiividiyo endizibukeleyo. Ndandijolise ekubeni ndilunge njengabo ukuba andizukuzama. Kodwa ekuphela kwento eyayindinqanda yayindim.

Ekugqibeleni ndazithengela ikhithi yokuqala esisiseko kakhulu ye-calligraphy. Ndigcwalisa iphepha kwincwadi yam yokubhalela unobumba omnye obhalwe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Kwakungenakuphikwa ukuba njengoko ndandiqhubeka nokuziqhelanisa nesibetho esinye, ndaqala ukuba ngcono noko. Kwezi veki zimbalwa bendizilolonga, sele ndibona ukuphucuka ukusukela ukuqala kwam.

Ukukrola ixesha elincinci usuku ngalunye ukuze usebenze kwinto oyithandayo kunokuhlawula ngeendlela ezingalindelekanga. Jonga nje lo mculi owenze ipeyinti kwi-MS Paint ngexesha lokuhamba kancinci emsebenzini. Ngoku ubonakalise inoveli yakhe. Ngapha koko, kukho lonke uluntu lwabazobi abaye baguqula izinto zabo zokuzonwabisa baba "ngumsebenzi othile" - umdlalo wokuzonwabisa wobomi bonke obube ngumsebenzi wesibini.

Andiwubambi umphefumlo wam, kodwa kuma-67, icalligraphy yam ingasuka.

Khumbula izinto ezintle

Kwaye ngamaxesha apho ungaziva uzithembile, nokuba ungachola ikhithi oyithandayo okanye iphazili… kulungile, kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Ngaloo mihla, u-Tempesta ucebisa ukuba uqondise kwakhona ingqondo yakho kwizinto ezintle. Enye indlela yokwenza oko kukubhala phantsi izinto ezintathu ezikwenza uzive uzingce ngawe.

Ngokwam, ndiyazikhumbuza ukuba ndiyakonwabela ukwenza ukutya kunye nokutya isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye nesithandwa sam, ukuncokola okunentsingiselo nabahlobo bam, ukufunda incwadi, kunye nokuchitha ixesha neekati zam ezimbini.

Kwaye xa ndijonga emva, ndiyazi ukuba okoko nje ndizenzela ixesha lezozinto, ndizakulunga.

Emily Gadd ngumbhali kunye nomhleli ohlala eSan Francisco. Uchitha ixesha lakhe lokuphumla emamele umculo, ebukela iimuvi, echitha ubomi bakhe kwi-intanethi, esiya nakwiikonsathi.