Uxinzelelo ebuntwaneni

Uxinzelelo lobuntwana lunokubakho nakweyiphi na imeko efuna ukuba umntwana atshintshe okanye atshintshe. Uxinzelelo lunokubangelwa lutshintsho oluqinisekileyo, njengokuqalisa umsebenzi omtsha, kodwa kuhlala kunxulunyaniswa notshintsho olubi njengokugula okanye ukufa kusapho.

Unokumnceda umntwana wakho ngokufunda ukuqaphela iimpawu zoxinzelelo kunye nokufundisa umntwana wakho iindlela eziphilileyo zokujongana nazo.

Uxinzelelo kunokuba yimpendulo kutshintsho olubi kubomi bomntwana. Ngexabiso elincinci, uxinzelelo lunokuba lolungileyo. Kodwa, uxinzelelo olugqithisileyo lunokuchaphazela indlela acinga ngayo, enza izinto, kunye neemvakalelo zomntwana.

Abantwana bafunda indlela yokuphendula kuxinzelelo njengoko bekhula kwaye bekhula. Uninzi lweziganeko zoxinzelelo ezinokulawulwa ngumntu omkhulu ziya kubangela uxinzelelo emntwaneni. Ngenxa yoko, nokuba utshintsho oluncinci lunokuchaphazela iimvakalelo zomntwana zokhuseleko kunye nokhuseleko.

Iintlungu, ukonzakala, ukugula, kunye nolunye utshintsho kuxinzelelo kubantwana. Uxinzelelo lunokubandakanya:

• Ukukhathazeka ngomsebenzi wesikolo okanye kumabanga
• Uxanduva lokujinga, olufana nesikolo nomsebenzi kunye nemidlalo
• Iingxaki nabahlobo, ukuxhaphaza, okanye uxinzelelo lweqela loontanga
• Ukutshintsha kwezikolo, ukuhamba, okanye ukujongana neengxaki zezindlu okanye ukungabi namakhaya
• Ukuba neengcinga ezimbi ngabo
• Ukuhamba notshintsho lomzimba, kuwo omabini amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana
• Ukubona abazali behamba ngoqhawulo mtshato okanye ngokwahlukana
• Iingxaki zemali kusapho
• Ukuhlala kwikhaya elingakhuselekanga okanye elumelwaneni

IIMPAWU ZONXIBELELWANO OLUNGASOLULWANGA KUBantwana

Abantwana abanakuqonda ukuba banestres. Iimpawu ezintsha okanye eziya zisiba mandundu zingakhokelela ekubeni abazali bakrokre ukuba kukho uxinzelelo olonyukayo.

Iimpawu ezibonakalayo zinokubandakanya:

• Ukunciphisa ukutya, ezinye iinguqu kwindlela otya ngayo
• Intloko ebuhlungu
• Ukutshiza okutsha okanye okuphindaphindayo
• Amaphupha amabi
• Ukuphazamiseka kokulala
• Isisu esibuhlungu okanye iintlungu ezingacacanga zesisu
• Ezinye iimpawu zomzimba ngaphandle kokugula emzimbeni

Iimpawu zemvakalelo okanye zokuziphatha zinokubandakanya:

• Ixhala, ixhala
• Ayikwazi ukuphumla
• Uloyiko olutsha okanye oluqhubekayo (uloyiko lobumnyama, uloyiko lokuba wedwa, ukoyika abantu ongabaziyo)
• Ukuncamathela, ukungathandi ukukuyeka ungaboni
• Umsindo, ukulila, ukukhwina
• Ayikwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo
• Ukuziphatha okugwenxa okanye okunenkani
• Ukubuyela kwiindlela zokuziphatha ezikhoyo ngoku
• Akafuni ukuthatha inxaxheba kwimicimbi yosapho okanye yesikolo

INDLELA ABAZALI ABANOKUNCEDA NGAYO

Abazali banokubanceda abantwana baphendule kuxinzelelo ngendlela esempilweni. Ezi zilandelayo ziingcebiso:

• Banike ikhaya elikhuselekileyo nelithembekileyo.
• Iinkqubo zentsapho zinokuthuthuzela. Ukuba nesidlo sangokuhlwa sosapho okanye ubusuku be-movie kunokunceda ekuthomalaliseni okanye kuthintele uxinzelelo
• Yiba ngumzekelo. Umntwana ujonge kuwe njengomzekelo wokuziphatha okunempilo. Yenza okusemandleni akho ukugcina uxinzelelo lwakho luphantsi kolawulo kwaye ululawule ngeendlela ezisempilweni.
• Lumka malunga neenkqubo zikamabonwakude, iincwadi kunye nemidlalo abantwana abayibukelayo, abayifundayo nabadlalayo.Ukusasazwa kweendaba kunye nemidlalo enogonyamelo okanye imidlalo kunokubangela uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo.
• Gcina umntwana wakho enolwazi malunga neenguqu ezilindelekileyo ezifana nemisebenzi okanye ukuhamba.
• Chitha ixesha elizolileyo nelikhululekileyo nabantwana bakho.
• Funda ukuphulaphula. Mamela umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokugxeka okanye ukuzama ukusombulula ingxaki kwangoko. Endaweni yoko sebenza nomntwana wakho ukubanceda baqonde kwaye basombulule izinto ezibacaphukisayo.
• Yakha iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho zokuzixabisa. Sebenzisa ukhuthazo nothando. Sebenzisa imivuzo, hayi isohlwayo. Zama ukubandakanya umntwana wakho kwimisebenzi apho banokuphumelela khona.
• Vumela amathuba omntwana okwenza ukhetho kunye nolawulo oluthile ebomini babo. Okukhona umntwana wakho evakalelwa kukuba unokulawula imeko, ngcono impendulo yabo kuxinzelelo iya kuba.
• Khuthaza imisebenzi yomzimba.
• Qaphela iimpawu zoxinzelelo olungasonjululwanga emntwaneni wakho.
• Funa uncedo okanye ingcebiso kumboneleli wezempilo, umcebisi, okanye ugqirha xa iimpawu zoxinzelelo zinganciphi okanye zinyamalale.

XA KUFUNWA UGqirha

Thetha nomboneleli womntwana wakho ukuba umntwana wakho:

• Uyarhoxa, akonwabi ngakumbi, okanye uxinezelekile
• Ngaba unengxaki esikolweni okanye unxibelelana nabahlobo okanye usapho
• Akakwazi ukulawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo okanye umsindo

Uloyiko ebantwaneni; Ixhala - uxinzelelo; Uxinzelelo lobuntwana

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Umbutho weAmerican Psychological Association. Ukuchonga iimpawu zoxinzelelo kubantwana bakho nakwishumi elivisayo. www.apa.org/helpcenter/stress-children.aspx. Kufunyenwe ngoJuni 1, 2020.

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