Ileta eya kwiNtombi yam njengoko igqiba ukuba yenze ntoni ngobomi bayo

Umxholo

• Ukuphupha kakhulu
• Ukufunda ukuthanda into oyenzayo
• Okukwintsusa: Futhisela uthando lwakho

Ntombi yam endiyithandayo,

Ndicinga ukuba enye yezinto endizithandayo ngokuba ngumama wakho kukukwazi ukukujonga ukhula kwaye utshintshe yonke imihla. Uneminyaka eyi-4 ngoku, kwaye yeyona minyaka ndiyithandayo. Ayikuko ukuba andikuphosi ukuntywila kosana olumnandi, okanye uchulumanco lwazo zonke izinto zokuqala. Kodwa ngoku, ntombazana yam entle? Sineengxoxo zokwenyani kunye. Uhlobo apho sithetha ngapha nangapha. Uphendula imibuzo yam kwaye ubuze eyakho. Uhlobo lwencoko apho wenza khona ezakho iingcinga kunye nezimvo endaweni yokulinganisa nje oko ukuvileyo. Ngoku, ndiza kubona ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakho entle, kwaye ndiyayithanda.

Kutshanje, besithetha ngento onokufuna ukuba yiyo xa ukhula. Uthe, “uKapteni Melika.” Ndaye ndancuma. Andiqondi ukuba awukafumani mbuzo, kwaye kulungile. Ndiyathanda ukuba uKaputeni waseMelika yeyona njongo yakho iphambili.

Kodwa ngenye imini, kungekude kakhulu emgceni, ndiyakrokrela, uya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba abantu abadala benza izigqibo malunga nendlela ababusebenzisa ngayo ubomi babo kwaye bafumana imali yabo. “Ufuna ukuba yintoni?” Lowo iya kuba ngumbuzo oya kuwuva rhoqo kunokuba kungenjalo. Kwaye nangona iimpendulo zakho zinokutshintsha amatyeli aliwaka njengoko ukhula, ndiyazi ukuba uyakuqala nokuziva uxinzelelo lombuzo.

Kwaye ndifuna wazi ukuba: Akukho nanye koxinzelelo oluza kuvela kum.

Ukuphupha kakhulu

Uyabona, xa ndandisengumntwana, iphupha lam lokuqala yayikukuba ngumbhali. Ngosuku endafumana ngalo ijenali yam yokuqala, yayinjalo. Bendisazi ukuba ndifuna ukubhala amabali ukuze ndiziphilise.

Kwenye indawo apha endleleni, elo phupha latshintshela kum lifuna ukuba ngumdlali weqonga. Kwaye umqeqeshi wehlengethwa, eneneni le nto ndaye ndaya kuyo ekholejini. Okanye ubuncinci, yile nto bendiqala ngayo ekholejini ndikholelwa ukuba ndiza kuba yiyo. Elo phupha lahlala kwisemester enye kuphela, nangona kunjalo. Kwaye emva koko, yabuyela kwibhodi yokuzoba.

Kwandithatha iminyaka esixhenxe ukugqiba ikholeji. Nditshintshe amaxesha am amaninzi aphambili: i-biology yeseli, xa ndifuna ukuba yi-oncologist yabantwana; Izifundo zabafazi, xa ndandidada nje kwaye ndingaqinisekanga ngento endifanele ukuba yiyo. Okokugqibela, ndakhetha ukusebenza kwengqondo, xa ndagqiba kwelokuba ubizo lwam lusebenze nabantwana abahlukumezekileyo nabangakhathalelwanga kwinkqubo yoononophelo.

Elo yayilelo nqanaba ndagqiba ngalo, kuphela ukujika ndize ndifumane umsebenzi wokuba ngumncedisi olawulayo kwinkampani enkulu kwiinyanga ezimbalwa kamva.

Ekugqibeleni ndasebenza indlela yam kwezabasebenzi, ndisebenzisa idigri yam ukubonisa ukuba, ewe, ndiye ekholejini. Ndenza imali entle, ndafumana izibonelelo ezilungileyo, kwaye ndandibonwabela abantu endandisebenza nabo.

Ngalo lonke elixesha, nangona kunjalo, ndandibhala. Imisebenzi esecaleni ekuqaleni, emva koko umsebenzi oqale ukuhamba ngokungaguquguqukiyo. Ndade ndaqala ukusebenza ngencwadi, ikakhulu kuba ndandinamagama amaninzi endandifuna ukuwabhala ephepheni. Kodwa khange ndicinge ukuba ndingayenza i-career yayo. Andizange ndicinge ukuba ndingaziphilisa ngokwenza into endiyithandayo kakhulu.

Ngelishwa, bubuxoki esihlala sixelelwa njalo. Xa sibanyanzela abantwana ukuba babone ukuba bafuna ukuba yintoni kwiminyaka emincinci kangaka, xa sibatyhalela ekholejini ngaphambi kokuba bakulungele, xa sigxininisa imali kunye nozinzo ngaphezulu komnqweno nolonwabo- siyabaqinisekisa ukuba into abayithandayo ayinako kungenzeka ukuba yintoni ebazisela impumelelo.

Ukufunda ukuthanda into oyenzayo

Into ehlekisayo yenzekile xa uzalwa, nangona kunjalo. Njengokuba ndichitha ezo nyanga zokuqala ndisekhaya kunye nawe, ndiye ndabona ukuba ukubuyela kwi-9-to-5 bendingenamdla wayo ngequbuliso uza kuba lusizi kum. Andizange ndiwuthiye umsebenzi wam ngaphambili, kodwa bendisazi ukuba ndingayenza ukuba ibiyinto endisusileyo kuwe.

Ndandiqonda ukuba kufuneka ndisebenze kuba imali siyayidinga. Kodwa bendisazi ukuba ezo yure ukude kuwe ziya kudinga ukuxabiseka kum. Ukuba ndiza kusinda kolo hlulo, kuya kufuneka ndiyithande into endiyenzileyo.

Ke, ngenxa yakho, ndiye ndaqala ukusebenza nzima kunokuba bendikhe ndasebenza ebomini bam ukwakha into. Kwaye ndenzile. Kwiminyaka engama-30 ubudala, ndaba ngumbhali. Ndiyenzile ukuba isebenze. Kwaye kwiminyaka emine kamva, ndisikelelekile kungekuphela nje ngokuba nomsebenzi endiwuthandayo, kodwa nokuba nomsebenzi ondinika ubhetyebhetye obufunekayo ukuze ndibe luhlobo lomama endifuna ukuba lulo.

Okukwintsusa: Futhisela uthando lwakho

Ndifuna loo nto uyithandayo nawe, ntombazana entle. Nantoni na oba yiyo, nantoni na oyenzayo ngobomi bakho, ndiyayifuna ikonwabise. Ndifuna ukuba yinto evuselela uthando lwakho.

Ke nokuba uhlala ekhaya mama, okanye awungomama konke konke, okanye igcisa, okanye isayensi yerokethi, ndifuna ukuba uyazi le nto inye: Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uyifumane ngexesha una 18, okanye 25, okanye 30.

Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ube nazo zonke iimpendulo, kwaye ngekhe ndikucinezele ukuba wenze ukhetho. Uvumelekile ukuba uphonononge. Ukuziqonda kunye nokufumanisa eyona nto uyifunayo. Awuvumelekanga ukuba uhlale esofeni ungenzi nto, kodwa unayo imvume yam yokusilela. Ukutshintsha ingqondo. Ukulandela ikhondo ekungabonakali ukuba lilungile, kunye nokujika ikhondo ixesha okanye ezimbini.

Unalo ixesha elininzi lokufumanisa ukuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni ngobomi bakho. Kwaye ngubani owaziyo, mhlawumbi ngenye imini uyakufumanisa ukuba yiCaptain America njani.

Ngethuba nje ukwenza njalo kukushiya uziva wonwabile kwaye uzalisekisile, ndiyakuthembisa ndiyakuba yeyona ndumasi yakho inkulu kuwo onke amanyathelo.

Uthando,

Umama wakho