I-7 Stereotypes Malunga nexhala- kwaye Kutheni ingafaki isicelo kuye wonke umntu

Umxholo

• 1. Kubangelwa kukonzakala
• 2. Uxolo nokuzola kuyazola
• 3. Izinto ezibangela zikho kwindalo iphela
• 4. Kwizinto ezifanayo ziya kuhlala zikubangela
• 5. Unyango kunye neyeza ziya kuyilawula
• 6. Ngabangenisi kuphela abanalo
• 7. Kukwenza buthathaka

Akukho bungakanani-bukhulu-bonke-inkcazo yokuxhalaba.

Xa kuziwa kwixhala, akukho bungakanani-bunye-bonke-inkcazo yokuba ijongeka kanjani okanye ivakalelwa njani. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko abantu beqhele ukwenza, uluntu luya kuyibhala, ngokungafanelekanga luthathe isigqibo sokuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba noxinzelelo kunye nokubeka amava kwibhokisi efanelekileyo.

Ewe, ukuba ujongane nexhala, njengoko ndinjalo, uyazi ukuba akukho nto icocekileyo okanye enokuxelwa kwangaphambili ngayo. Uhambo lwakho ngalo luya kuhlala lukhangeleka ngokwahlukileyo kwaye lunokwahluka ngokuthelekiswa nolomnye umntu.

Xa amava ahlukeneyo ngamnye wethu enexhala ayamkelwa, ukukwazi komntu ngamnye kuthi ukumelana ngendlela eluncedo kuthi kuye kufikeleleke ngakumbi.

Ke, sikwenza njani oko? Ngokuchonga iingcinga ezibaxekileyo ezingasasebenziyo kuye wonke umntu kwaye uchaze nokuba kutheni le nto umahluko ubalulekile. Makhe siye kuyo.

1. Kubangelwa kukonzakala

Ngelixa ixhala linokuvela kwisiganeko sobomi esibuhlungu kubantu abaninzi, oku akusoloko kunjalo. Into enkulu, embi akufuneki yenzeke ukuze umntu alwe nexhala.

Uxinzelelo lwakho lunokubangelwa kukuba kuninzi kakhulu ekufuneka ukwenzile, ukutshintsha iinkqubo, okanye nokubukela iindaba, utshilo uGrace Suh, ongumcebisi ngezempilo yengqondo, uxelele iHealthline.

“Izizathu zoku isenokuba ayizizo izinto ezenzekileyo ezidlulileyo. Yinto wena kunye nengcali yezempilo yengqondo eninokuyifumana kunye ngexesha lenkqubo yonyango ukufumanisa ukuba kutheni unomdla. ”

Ngokwam, ukusebenza nonyango kwandivumela ukuba ndimbe nzulu kwaye ndityhile imicimbi yexesha elidlulileyo nelangoku eyayibangela ixhala lam. Ngamanye amaxesha, unobangela ubunzulu kwimbali yakho, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, sisiphumo sangoku. Ukutyhila ezisisiseko kunokubangela indlela ende yokulawula uxinzelelo lwakho.

2. Uxolo nokuzola kuyazola

Ngelixa ukumka kuyo yonke loo nto kuhlala kuyinto entle yokufumana kwakhona, ndiye ndifumanise ukuba ixhala lam lithanda ukubetha xa ndikwindawo ethe cwaka, ehamba kancinci. Kwezo ndawo, ndihlala ndinexesha elininzi ndedwa kunye neengcinga zam ngelixa ndiziva ndiphantse ndinganemveliso, ndingenakho ukufezekisa okuninzi kukujikeleza okucothayo. Ngaphezulu kwalonto, ndiziva ndindodwa okanye ndibanjiswe kwiindawo ezizolileyo, ndibambekile kukuhamba kancinci.

Nangona kunjalo, ezixekweni, isantya apho izinto zihamba ziziva zihambelana nokukhawuleza kweengcinga zam kubonakala ngathi ziyahamba.

Oku kundinika iimvakalelo zesantya sam sokungqinelana nehlabathi elijikelezileyo, indinika imeko yokukhululeka. Ngenxa yoko, ixhala lam lihlala lisemngciphekweni ngelixa ndisezidolophini kunokuba ndityelele iidolophu ezincinci okanye ezilalini.

3. Izinto ezibangela zikho kwindalo iphela

"Amava akho angoku kunye nalawo adlulileyo ahlukile, imbono yakho yahlukile, yiyo ke loo nto ixhala lakho likhethekile. Kukho iingcamango eziphosakeleyo zokuba ixhala livela kwizinto eziqhelekileyo, amava athile, okanye uloyiko, njenge-phobias uloyiko lokuhamba ngenqanawa okanye ukoyika ukuphakama, ”utshilo uSuh. "Amabali oxinzelelo awanakwenziwa ngokubanzi, njengoko izinto ezixhokonxayo zohlukile komnye umntu."

Izichukumisi zinokuba yiyo nantoni na evela kwingoma ukuya kumntu ocima izicwangciso kunye nawe kumxholo webali kumdlalo weTV. Kungenxa yokuba kukho into ekuchukumisayo ngokobuqu, oko akuthethi ukuba kuya kuba nefuthe elifanayo kuxinzelelo lomnye umntu kwaye kungenjalo.

4. Kwizinto ezifanayo ziya kuhlala zikubangela

Njengoko ujongana noxinzelelo lwakho kwaye uchonga indlela izinto ezithile ezichaphazela ngayo, unokuqaphela ukuba izinto ezitshintshileyo ziyatshintsha.

Ngokomzekelo, ndandidla ngokuba nexhala nangaliphi na ixesha xa ndindedwa kwikhetshi. Ndaziva ndivalelekile kwangoko kwaye ndiqinisekile ukuba ilifti iza kuma. Emva koko, ngenye imini, ndaqaphela ukuba bendingena kwiifti kangangexesha elithile ngaphandle kwale ngxwabangxwaba. Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ndingene kwizigaba ezintsha zobomi bam kwaye ndinamava ongezelelweyo, izinto ezithile ezazifudula zingandikhathazi, ngoku zenzayo.

Oku kuhlala kwenziwa ngokuvezwa. Eli licandelo elikhulu le-ERP, okanye ukubhengeza kunye nokuthintela ukuphendula. Umbono kukuba, ngelixa ubhencekile kwizinto ezinokubangela uxinzelelo-olunokubangela ixeshana elifutshane, ingqondo yakho ithi chu ngokuthe ngcembe ukubethelela kokukuvuselelayo.

Ndiqhubekile ndangena kwiilifti kwade kwayimini engekho. Loo alarm eyayiza kuhlala isentloko entlokweni yam ekugqibeleni yaqonda ukuba inokuthula njengoko enyanisweni bendingekho semngciphekweni.

Ubudlelwane bam nexhala buhlala buqhubeka njengoko ndiqhubeka ndikhula kwaye ndiluka ngaphakathi kophuhliso lwayo. Ngelixa oku kunokuba yinto ephazamisayo, xa ndifumana amava ngaphandle kokubangela apho kwakukhe kwakho, yimvakalelo emangalisa ngokwenene.

5. Unyango kunye neyeza ziya kuyilawula

Ngelixa unyango kunye namayeza zombini zizinto ezintle onokuzenza xa unyanga unxunguphalo, ayilolungiso oluqinisekisiweyo. Abanye abantu, unyango luya kunceda, abanye iyeza, abanye abantu, kwaye abanye, ngelishwa, akunjalo.

“Akukho lunyango lukhawulezileyo okanye ukunyanga okulingeneyo ukunyanga unxunguphalo. Yinkqubo yonyamezelo kunye nomonde efuna ukuqonda okufanelekileyo kunye nokhathalelo ukujongana ngokufanelekileyo namava akho ahlukileyo kunye nokubona kwakho, utshilo uSuh.

Isitshixo kukufumanisa ukuba yeyiphi eyona nto ilungele wena. Ngokwam, ukuthatha amayeza kundivumela ukuba ndilawule unxunguphalo lwam, ngamanye amaxesha ukuvela kwamaphupha kusenzeka. Ukuya kunyango kuyanceda ngokunjalo, kodwa ayisoloko ikukukhetha ngenxa yeinshurensi kunye nokufuduswa. Ukuthatha ixesha lokujonga ukhetho ngalunye, kunye neendlela zokuphelisa zivumela ukuhlala kunye noxinzelelo.

Izinto ezinokunceda uxinzelelo ngaphandle konyango kunye namayeza:

• Zilolonge rhoqo.
• Ziqhelanise nokuphefumla okunzulu.
• Bhala phantsi iingcinga zakho.
• Guqula indlela otya ngayo.
• Phinda imantra.
• Zibandakanye ukolula.
• Sebenzisa iindlela zobeko.

6. Ngabangenisi kuphela abanalo

Kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ndafumana olona lukhulu lokuthetha kakhulu kwiklasi yam ephezulu- kwaye bendinexhala elibi, ndingafumaneki lonke ixesha ndisesikolweni.

Inqaku lam kukuba, akukho luhlobo lunye lomntu onexhala. Yimeko yonyango, kwaye abantu bobuntu bonke kunye nemvelaphi bajongana nayo. Ewe, inokubonisa njengomntu ohlala ethotyiwe kwaye ethule, kodwa ke kukho abantu abanjengam abahlala bebeka isandi emhlabeni, phantse ngokungathi kunokwenzeka ukwenza ingxolo eyirhaxayo.

Ke, kwixesha elizayo xa umntu othile ezama ukuthetha nawe malunga nokuba nexhala, sukuphendula ngokuthi, "Kodwa uyabhabha kakhulu!" okanye "Ngokwenene, wena?" Endaweni yokuba ubabuze ukuba bafuna ntoni, nokuba yindlebe nje yokumamela.

7. Kukwenza buthathaka

Nangona kukho iintsuku apho ukuxhalaba kunokuziva ngathi kukudiliza - ndiyazi ukuba ndibe nesabelo sam kubo - akuyiyo imeko ebuthathaka.

Ngapha koko, kungenxa yoxinzelelo lwam ukuba ndiye emva kwezinto ezininzi endizifunayo, ndathatha amanyathelo ongezelelweyo, kwaye ndilungiselelwe iimeko ezingenakubalwa.

Ngaphezulu kwelo, kukho le ngcamango yokuba ukuba nexhala kwindawo yokuqala kuthetha ukuba umntu ubuthathaka. Ngokwenyani, ixhala yimeko yengqondo abanye abantu abajongana nayo kwaye abanye abayenzi, ngokufanayo nawo nawuphi na umcimbi womzimba.

Akukho nto ityhafileyo malunga nokuvuma ukuba yinto onayo kwaye, ukuba ikhona, ibonisa namandla angaphezulu.

Ukujongana noxinzelelo kunyanzela umntu ukuba aziphathe kakuhle kwaye aqhubeke nokoyisa izilingo zangaphakathi. Ukwenza oko kufuna ukufumana amandla anzulu kwaye anamandla angaphakathi okujika ujike uphinde kwakhona, kude kubuthathaka njengoko ufumana.

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