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Nabani na owakha wakuxelela ukuba uye kunyango? Akufunekanga ibe sisithuko. Njengonyango lwangaphambili kunye nexesha elide lokunyanga, ndihlala ndikholelwa ekubeni uninzi lwethu lunokuzuza kukolula isingqengqelo sonyango. Kodwa kuya kufuneka ndicacise into enye: Musa ukuya kunyango kuba wena kufanele. Njengomthetho jikelele, asifane silandele izinto ngenxa yokuba thina kufanele. Senza into kuba thina ndifuana u okanye sinokubona iindlela esiza kuzuza ngayo.

Ndinokungqina ngokobuqu kwimivuzo yonyango, kokubini ngokwembono yesigulana kunye nakumcebisi. Njengezinto ezininzi ebomini, ukuba uyazinikela, uya kubona iziphumo. Siyazingca ngokusebenza nzima ukugcina imizimba yethu isempilweni. Sitya ngokufanelekileyo, sizilolonga yonke imihla, sithathe iivithamini, kwaye sonwabele ukwabelana kwethu ngaphambi nasemva kweeselfie (molo, Instagram). Kodwa, ngokubanzi, asifundiswanga ukubona impilo yethu yengqondo njengento efuna ukhathalelo olufanayo kunye nengqwalaselo.

Umahluko phakathi kwezimvo zethu kwimpilo yengqondo neyasemzimbeni inento yokwenza nebala. Xa usiya kugqirha ukutyelela kwakho qete ngonyaka okanye ngenxa yokuba wophule uzwane, akukho mntu uphumeza umgwebo othulileyo okanye uthatha ukuba buthathaka. Kodwa iingxaki zeemvakalelo esijamelana nazo ziyinyani njengamathambo aqhekekileyo, ke akukho nto uphambene malunga nombono wokufuna ubungcali boqeqesho oluqeqeshiweyo olunokukunceda ukhule, ufunde kwaye womelele. Nokuba uphikiswa kukugula ngengqondo okunzulu okanye ujongene nomsebenzi okhubazekileyo, unyango sisixhobo sabantu abanesibindi kunye nokuthantamisa ukubuza, "Ndingenza ntoni ukuze ndiphile ubomi obunempilo, obonwabisayo?"

Ngomoya we-debunking stereotypes malunga nonyango, Nazi izinto ezimbalwa onokuzilindela ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthatha ithuba lakho kwisingqengqelo sonyango.

Uthatha inyathelo elinye ngexesha.

Kukho isisombululo esikhawulezayo kwizinto ezininzi kwihlabathi lethu langoku. Xa ulambile, ukutya kwakho okulandelayo kukucofa nje kude (enkosi, akunamthungo). U-Uber uhlala e-inshorensi ukuba ufuna ukuya kwindawo ngokukhawuleza. Awu, unyango ayisiyiyo enye yezi zilungiso zikhawulezayo. Ugqirha wakho ayingomlingo, isidalwa esazi konke esinokukhupha intonga, ukuthetha isipela esimnandi sesiLatini, kwaye sikwenze ubengcono kwi-Insta. Utshintsho lokwenyani lwenzeka kancinci kancinci. Lugqatso lomgama omde, ayisiyiyo i-sprint, kwaye ukuba nolindelo oluyinyani malunga nenkqubo yonyango kunokukongela udano olukhulu. Khawufane ucinge: Ukuba ujolisa kwimayile ye-13 xa ukwindawo yokuqala, uhambo lusoloko lubuhlungu ngakumbi. Kunyango, ufunda ukuzinza kulo mzuzu kwaye ube nomonde ngakumbi kuwe-unyawo olunye phambi kolunye, lucotha kwaye luzinzile.

Ungabila.

Unomhlobo osenyongweni omangalisayo ongumphulaphuli obalaseleyo. Unomama oyingcali yeentetho ze-pep. Inkqubo yenkxaso yabantu obathembayo ibalulekile kulonwabo nakwimpilo-ntle, kodwa olu lwalamano lobuqu alunakuze lubhidaniswe nendima edlalwa ngumgqirha. "Enye yeenzuzo zokuthetha nonyango kukuba angaziva ekhululekile ukunikezela ngezinye iimbono ngemeko xa kuthelekiswa nomhlobo onokuthi afune ukuvumelana nawe okanye akuthuthuzele, utshilo isixeko saseNew York. Ugqirha wengqondo uAndrew Blatter. Ewe, oochwephesha baya kunika indlebe enovelwano xa yile nto uyifunayo, kodwa umsebenzi wabo kukwenzela umceli mngeni ngamanye amaxesha, ukubonisa iingcinga ezingekho mpilweni kunye nokuziphatha. Ukuvuma indawo oyidlalayo kwiingxaki zakho ayisiyiyo ipilisi ekulula ukuyiginya. Ungangxama ungonwabi kwaye uzive unomdla wokufumana ibheyile, kodwa utshintsho ngumsebenzi onzima. Iingcali zonyango azizukukulungisa okanye zikuxelele ukuba wenzeni. Endaweni yoko, bayakuhlonipha ukuzimela kwakho ukuze bazenzele ukhetho olunzima kwaye baya kukunceda uhlele okona kulungileyo kuwe.

Uphinda iipateni kunyango ozenzayo kubomi bemihla ngemihla.

Abantu zizidalwa ezinomkhwa. Uninzi lwethu lunamathela kwiinkqubo zemihla ngemihla ukugcina ubomi bethu busendleleni. Le mikhwa ichaphazela yonke into ukusuka kwinto esiyityayo kwisidlo sakusasa ukuya kuhlobo lomntu esikhetha ukuthandana naye. Ingxaki? Ayizizo zonke imikhwa elungileyo kuthi. Xa kuziwa kubudlelwane, sihlala sithanda ukuphinda iipateni ezingekho sempilweni amaxesha ngamaxesha-mhlawumbi uqhubeka nokukhetha amaqabane angafumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni okanye ubudlelwane bokwenzakalisa bakube befikelele kwinqanaba lokusondelana okungonwabisiyo kuwe. Rhoqo kunyango, ezi patheni ziyakhula, ngakumbi xa sele uzinze kubudlelwane bonyango. Umahluko kukuba kunyango, unethuba lokujonga ngakumbi ukuba kutheni uziphinda izinto ozenzayo. Ngokutsho kukaBlatter, xa iipatheni zomntu zivela kubudlelwane bonyango, indawo yonyango inikeza indawo ekhuselekileyo yokuyiqonda: "Ndandinesigulane esinenkathazo yokugcina ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kubudlelwane bakhe," utsho. "Njengokuba sasisiya sisondela, amaxhala akhe malunga nolwalamano lwethu aqala ukuziveza.Ngokukwazi ukubavavanya kwindawo ekhuselekileyo yonyango, wakwazi ukuphalaza imbilini yakhe malunga noloyiko lwakhe kwaye ngenxa yoko wavula ubuhlobo obusondeleyo nabanye abantu ebomini bakhe. ubudlelwane bonyango, uya kuba nezixhobo zokusebenzisa oko ukufundileyo ngaphandle kwegumbi lonyango.

Unenkululeko yokulinga.

Awunakucinga ngonyango njengegumbi lokudlala lomntwana omkhulu, kodwa ngezinye iindlela kunjalo. Ngokuba mdala, siye sakulibala ukuba singazihlola njani ukudlala. Sithanda ukuba ngqongqo ngakumbi, sizicingele, kwaye singakulungeli kangako ukwenza umfuniselo. Unyango yindawo engenasigwebo apho unokuzama izinto ezintsha kwindawo ephantsi. Ungathetha nantoni na ethi qatha engqondweni, nokuba ububudenge kangakanani okanye uyinqaba onokucinga ukuba kuyavakala. Kwiofisi yakho yonyango, ukhululekile ukuba uphonononge ngokukhuselekileyo iimvakalelo kunye neendlela zokuziphatha ezibangela unxunguphalo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla. Ngaba awenzi nto kwaye ukufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha ngengqondo yakho? Ziqhelanise nokuzithemba kunye nonyango lwakho. Ngaba unobunzima bokulawula umsindo? Zama iindlela zokuphumla. Nje ukuba uphinde uziqhelanise nezi zakhono kwiseshoni, unokuziva uzithembile ngakumbi malunga nokusingatha imiba engaphandle kweofisi yonyango nayo.

Unokumangaliswa.

Unokuba nento oyifunayo ukusuka esifubeni sakho. Awunakulinda iseshoni yakho yonyango lweveki apho unokuthi ukhuphe konke ngayo, kwaye, xa kufika ixesha, kwenzeka into engalindelekanga kwaphela-ushiya isihloko kwaye amagama aphuma emlonyeni wakho amatsha kwaye ayothusa. "Kukho amaxesha amaninzi apho izigulana ziye zaqala ukuphawula ngokuthi 'andizange ndiyixelele nabani na le nto ngaphambili' okanye 'bendingayilindelanga le nto,' utshilo uBlatter, othi enye yezi zinto ziyenzeka ngokukhawuleza. ukuthembana okwakhiwe phakathi kwengcali kunye nomxhasi. Njengoko ukusondelana kubudlelwane bonyango buya kukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha, unokuvuleleka ngakumbi ukuthetha ngezinto obuziphepha okanye ukufikelela kwiinkumbulo ebezibuhlungu kakhulu. Ukuphonononga owakho ummandla ongachazwanga kunokoyikisa kwaye kubangele ixhala. Unokufumana intuthuzelo ngokwazi ukuba uninzi lwabanyangi bebekwezabo iingcebiso (enyanisweni, kubahlaziyi be-psychoanalysts kuqeqesho, ekubeni kunyango luyimfuneko), ukuze baqonde ukuba kunjani ukuphela kwakho kwaye bakukhokele ngcono inkqubo.

Abanye ubabona ngovelwano ngakumbi.

Ngokuba kunyango, awuyi kuqala kuphela ukuqwalasela amanyathelo akho ngokunzulu, nangakumbi ngokucinga, kodwa nakwabanye ngokunjalo. Njengoko ukuzazi kwakho kukhula, uyakuqonda ngakumbi ukuba wonke umntu unehlabathi elingafaniyo nelinzima, kwaye inokwahluka kakhulu kweyakho. UBlatter ukhumbula amava akhe okusebenza nendoda eyayithanda ukutolika indlela abanye abantu abaziphethe ngayo njengobukrwada nobubi ngenxa yobuntwana bakhe bokuhlukumeza: "Kwiiseshoni zethu zonyango, bendiza kulahla ezinye iindlela zokujonga imeko. Mhlawumbi iqabane elithandanayo belingazithembi kwaye angazimiselanga ukugxeka.Mhlawumbi umphathi wayephantsi koxinzelelo olukhulu ke iimpendulo zakhe 'ezimfutshane' zazibonisa oko kunokusigxeka isigulana.Ngexesha lixa, isigulana sam saqala ukubona ukuba bekukho ezinye iilensi ekufuneka sijonge kuzo umhlaba kunalawo aqala ukuba ngumzali. " Ukwenza umzamo ongcono wokubona ihlabathi ngamehlo abanye kuya kuhamba indlela ende ekuphuculeni nasekuqiniseni ubudlelwane bakho.

Unokukhubeka.

Unokucinga ukuba uwusombulule umba othile, kwaye xa ungawulindelanga, ingxaki iyavela kwakhona. Xa into enje isenzeka, kuba ihlala isenzeka, ungatyhafi. Inkqubela phambili ayihambelani. Indlela iyajikeleza, ukutsho nje okuncinci. Zilungiselele amaqashiso amahla ndinyuka, okuninzi phambili nasemva, kwaye mhlawumbi nesangqa esithile. Ukuba unokwazisa ngokwakho ukuqaphela ukuphindaphinda kwipateni yakho engafanelekanga kunye nento ebangele oko, sele uthatha inyathelo kwicala elifanelekileyo. Ke, kwixa elizayo xa ukhubeka, buyela ezinyaweni zakho, uthathe umoya, kwaye uxelele ugqirha wakho ngayo yonke into.

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