Yintoni Ofanele Uyazi Ngokuziphatha-Ukufuna Ukuziphatha kubantu abadala

Umxholo

• Yintoni?
• Inokubonakala njani
• Yintoni enokubangela le ndlela yokuziphatha?
• Umona
• Ubuwena
• Ubulolo
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bembali
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obunemida
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bukaNarcissistic
• Into onokuyenza ngayo
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni?

Kubantu abadala, indlela yokuziphatha efuna-ingqalelo kukuzama okanye ukungazi ukuba liziko lokuqwalaselwa, ngamanye amaxesha ukufumana ukuqinisekiswa okanye ukunconywa.

Inokubonakala njani

Ukuziphatha okufuna ingqalelo kunokubandakanya ukuthetha okanye ukwenza into ngenjongo yokufumana ingqalelo yomntu okanye iqela labantu.

Imizekelo yale ndlela yokuziphatha ibandakanya:

• ukuloba ngenjongo yokuncoma ngokukhomba impumelelo kunye nokufuna ukuqinisekiswa
• ukuba ngundaba-mlonyeni ekuvuseleleni impendulo
• ebaxayo kunye nokuhombisa amabali ukufumana indumiso okanye uvelwano
• ukuzenza ngathi awukwazi ukwenza into ukuze umntu afundise, ancede, okanye abukele ukuzama ukuyenza

Yintoni enokubangela le ndlela yokuziphatha?

Ukuziphatha okufuna ingqalelo kunokuqhutywa:

• umona
• ukuzijongela phantsi
• ubulolo

Ngamanye amaxesha indlela yokuziphatha efuna ingqalelo sisiphumo seqela B lokuphazamiseka kubuntu, njenge:

• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obunemida
• Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu

Umona

Umona unokuvela xa umntu eziva esongelwa ngomnye umntu okwangoku efumana ingqalelo.

Oku, kunokukhokelela kwindlela yokuziphatha efuna-ingqalelo ukutshintsha ukugxila.

Ubuwena

Ukuzithemba ligama elibanzi eligubungela iimeko ezahlukeneyo zengqondo ezibandakanya indlela ozijonga ngayo.

Xa abanye abantu bekholelwa ukuba abahoywanga, ukubuyisa ingqalelo elahlekileyo kunokuziva njengeyona ndlela yokubuyisela imali eseleyo.

Ingqwalaselo abayifumanayo kule ndlela yokuziphatha inokunceda ukubanika imvakalelo yokuqinisekiswa ukuba bakulungele.

Ubulolo

NgokweMithombo yezeMpilo kunye noLawulo lweeNkonzo, umntu om-1 kwaba-5 baseMelika uthi baziva bengamalolo okanye behleli bodwa.

Ubulolo bunokubangela umnqweno wokufuna ingqalelo, nakubantu abaqhelekanga ukubonisa isimilo sokufuna ingqalelo.

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bembali

Ngokwengxelo ye-histrionic disorder, inempawu zokuziva ungaxatyiswanga xa ingezizo iziko lokuqwalaselwa.

Ukuze umntu afumane isifo kwi-histrionic disorder disorder, kufuneka ahlangane ne-5 kwezi ndlela zilandelayo:

• ungakhululeki xa ingeloziko lokuqwalaselwa
• Ukuziphatha okuvuselelayo okanye okulukuhlayo
• Iimvakalelo ezinzulu nezitshintshayo
• ukusebenzisa imbonakalo ukutsala umdla
• intetho engacacanga okanye enomdla
• iimvakalelo ezibaxiweyo okanye ezibaxekileyo
• ingacetyiswa
• ukuphatha ubudlelwane njengobusondeleyo kunabo

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obunemida

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu obungenamda yipateni eqhubekayo yokungazinzi komfanekiso wakho, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu, iimvakalelo kunye nokunyanzeliswa.

Ngokutsho kweZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo, ukuba umntu afumane isifo sokungahambi kakuhle komda, kufuneka abonakalise ubuncinci ezi-5 kwezi ndlela zilandelayo:

• iinzame ezibi zokuphepha ukushiya okwenyani okanye okucingelwayo
• Ipatheni yobudlelwane obunamandla kunye nokungazinzanga phakathi kwabantu kunye nokugqithileyo phakathi kokuhla komgangatho kunye nokulungelelaniswa
• mfanekiso-ngqondweni okanye ngokuzingisileyo ongazinzanga wobuqu okanye imvakalelo yesiqu sakho
• ukuzibandakanya ekuzenzakaliseni, ekuziphatheni okungxamisekileyo
• ukuzenzakalisa okokoko okanye indlela yokuzibulala, kubandakanya izoyikiso okanye izijekulo
• ukungazinzi ngokweemvakalelo ekuphenduleni imihla ngemihla, njengokucaphuka, ixhala, okanye usizi olunzulu
• iimvakalelo ezingapheliyo zokungabikho
• umsindo ongafanelekanga osoloko kunzima ukulawula
• okwethutyana, paranoia enxulumene noxinzelelo okanye ukungazibandakanyi

Ukuphazamiseka kubuntu bukaNarcissistic

Abo banesifo sokungaziphathi kakuhle banesidingo sokunconywa nokungabikho kovelwano.

Ngokwe-American Psychiatric Association, ukuze umntu afumane isifo sokungaziphathi kakuhle, kufuneka abonakalise ubuncinci ezi-5 kwezi ndlela zilandelayo:

• Uvakalelo olukhulu lokuzibona ubalulekile
• Ukuzixakekisa ngeengcinga zamandla, impumelelo engasikelwanga mda, ubuqaqawuli, uthando olufanelekileyo, ubuhle
• inkolelo kubume babo, ngakumbi ukuba kufuneka banxibelelane nabo kuphela, kwaye baya kuqondwa kuphela ngamaziko akwizikhundla eziphezulu nabantu abakumgangatho ophezulu
• imfuno yokunconywa okugqithileyo
• imvakalelo yelungelo kunye nokulindeleka ngokungekho ngqiqweni kwimpatho elungileyo okanye ukuthotyelwa ngokuzenzekelayo kokulindelweyo
• ukuthatha ithuba labanye ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo
• ukungafuni ukufumanisa okanye ukuqonda iimfuno kunye neemvakalelo zabanye
• Ukubamonela abanye kunye nenkolelo yokuba abanye bayabamonela
• ikratshi, isimo sengqondo sokukhukhumala okanye isimilo

Into onokuyenza ngayo

Ukuba uqaphela ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha iqhubeka rhoqo, kungcono ukuba umntu abonise isimilo sokundwendwela ingcali yezempilo yengqondo enamava.

Ukuba ishiywe ingakhange iqwalaselwe, indlela yokuziphatha efuna ingqalelo inokuthi ibe yekhohlisayo okanye eyenzakalisayo.

Umgca wezantsi

Ukuziphatha okufuna ingqalelo kunokubangelwa ngumona, ukuzithemba okuphantsi, isizungu, okanye njengesiphumo sokuphazamiseka kubuntu.

Ukuba uyakuqaphela oku kuziphatha kuwe okanye komnye umntu, ingcali yezempilo yengqondo inokubonelela ngeendlela zokufumanisa isifo kunye nonyango.