Ungamthuthuzela njani umntwana okhalayo ebuthongweni babo

Umxholo

• Ukuthomalalisa umntwana wakho okhalayo
• Ndimthuthuzela njani umntwana wam ngelixa baleleyo?
• Iipateni zokulala zabantwana
• Ngaba umntwana wam uphupha kakubi?
• Ndifanele ukubiza nini ugqirha?

Ukuthomalalisa umntwana wakho okhalayo

Njengabazali, sinentambo yokuphendula xa iintsana zethu zikhala. Iindlela zethu zokuthomalalisa ziyahluka. Sisenokuzama ukuncancisa, ukunxibelelana nolusu nolusu, izandi ezithomalalisayo, okanye intshukumo ethambileyo ukuthomalalisa umntwana okhathazekileyo.

Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa umntwana wakho ekhala ngequbuliso okanye ekhala ebunzimeni ezinzulwini zobusuku kodwa elele? Ngaba iintsana zinokuba namaphupha amabi? Kwaye ungamthuthuzela njani umntwana okhalayo engakhange avuke nokuvuka?

Apha ngezantsi, siza kujonga iindlela zokulala ezingaqhelekanga zeentsana. Iipateni zokulala zinokubangela ukuba umntwana wakho akhale xa belele. Ukuba nombono ongcono wobangela woku kuphazamiseka ebusuku kwenza ukuba kube lula ukufumana eyona ndlela yokujongana nayo.

Ndimthuthuzela njani umntwana wam ngelixa baleleyo?

Ngelixa impendulo yakho yendalo kwisikhalazo somntwana wakho inokuba kukumvusa ngenxa ye-cuddle, kungcono ukuba ulinde kwaye ubukele.

Umntwana wakho wenza ingxolo ayisiyongxaki yokuba bakulungele ukuvuka. Usana lwakho lunokuxubana okwethutyana ngexesha lotshintsho ukusuka ekukhanyeni luye kubuthongo obunzulu ngaphambi kokuhlala kwakhona. Sukungxama ukumfunqula umntwana wakho ngenxa yokuba ekhala ebusuku.

Nikela ingqalelo kwisandi sokukhala kwabo. Umntwana okhalayo ebusuku ngenxa yokuba emanzi, elambile, ebanda, okanye egulayo akazukulala kwakhona ngomzuzu okanye emibini. Ezo zikhalo ziya kunyuka ngokukhawuleza kwaye uyindlela yakho yokuphendula.

Kwezi meko, zama ukugcina ukuvusa kuthulekile kwaye kuzolile. Yenza into ekufuneka yenziwe, nokuba kukutyisa okanye ukutshintsha kwe-diaper, ngaphandle kokuvuselela okungafunekiyo njengezibane ezikhanyayo okanye ilizwi elikhulu. Injongo kukwenza kucace ukuba ixesha lokulala lelokulala.

Khumbula, usana olwenza ingxolo njengoko luhamba ngokwamanqanaba okulala luya kubonakala lukwimeko yokuqonda. Kunokuba nzima ukuxelela ukuba bavukile okanye balele.

Kwakhona, ukulinda nokubukela yeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Awudingi kuthoba usana olukhalayo ngelixa uleleyo ngendlela obuya kwenza ngayo xa bevukile.

Iipateni zokulala zabantwana

Iintsana ziyakwazi ukulala zingalali, ngakumbi xa zizalwa nje. Enkosi ngalawotshi yangaphakathi incinci ayikasebenzi ngokupheleleyo okwangoku, iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa zingalala kwindawo ethile phakathi kwe-16 kunye neeyure ezingama-20 yonke imihla. Nangona kunjalo, oko kwehla kube kukulala kakhulu.

Iingcali zicebisa ukuba iintsana zisancancise amaxesha ayi-8 ukuya kwali-12 rhoqo emva kweeyure ezingama-24. Kwezinye iintsana ezingavuki ngokufuthi ngokwaneleyo ngokwazo ekuqaleni, oku kunokuthetha ukubavusa rhoqo emva kweeyure ezintathu ukuya kwezine ukondla de zibonakalise ukuzinza okuzinzileyo. Oku kuyakwenzeka kwiiveki zokuqala ezimbalwa.

Emva koko, abantwana abatsha banokulala iiyure ezine okanye ezintlanu ngexesha. Oku kuya kuqhubeka de kube kukumakishwa kweenyanga ezintathu xa iintsana zihlala ziqala ukulala iiyure ezisibhozo ukuya kwezisi-9 ebusuku, kunye ne-naps ezimbalwa emini. Kodwa ukolula ebusuku kunokuba neziphazamiso ezimbalwa.

Iintsana, ngakumbi iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa, zichitha malunga nesiqingatha seyure zokulala kwinqanaba lokulala kwamehlo ngokukhawuleza (REM). Ukulala kwe-REM kukwaziwa njengokulala okusebenzayo, kwaye kubonakaliswa ziimpawu ezimbalwa eziqhelekileyo:

• Iingalo nemilenze yomntwana wakho isenokuxhuzula okanye idibane.
• Amehlo omntwana wakho anokuhamba ecaleni kwelinye icala phantsi kweenkophe zawo ezivaliweyo.
• Ukuphefumla kosana lwakho kusenokubonakala kungaqhelekanga kwaye kungayeka ngokupheleleyo kangangemizuzwana emi-5 ukuya kweli-10 (le yimeko ekuthiwa kukuphefumla okuqhelekileyo kwesiqhelo kwasebusaneni), ngaphambi kokuba uqale kwakhona ngokudubuleka ngokukhawuleza.

Ubuthongo obunzulu, okanye ukulala okungahambi ngokukhawuleza kwamehlo (NREM), kuxa umntwana wakho engashukumi kwaphela kwaye ukuphefumla kunzulu kwaye kuqhelekile.

Imijikelezo yabantu abadala yokulala- utshintsho ukusuka ekukhanyeni ukuya kubuthongo obunzulu kwaye ubuye kwakhona- kugcina malunga nemizuzu engama-90.

Umjikelo wokulala wosana ufutshane kakhulu, kwimizuzu engama-50 ukuya kwengama-60. Oko kuthetha ukuba kunamathuba amaninzi okwenza umntwana wakho enze loo misindo yasebusuku, kubandakanya ukukhala, ngaphandle kokuvuka.

Ngaba umntwana wam uphupha kakubi?

Abanye abazali banexhala lokuba ukulila kweentsana zabo ebusuku kuthetha ukuba banamaphupha amabi. Sisihloko esingenampendulo icacileyo.

Asazi ukuba ngabuphi na amaphupha amabi obudala okanye uloyiko lwasebusuku olunokuqala.

Olunye usana lungaqala ukukhulisa uloyiko lasebusuku, olungaqhelekanga, kwangeenyanga ezili-18 ubudala, nangona kunokwenzeka ukuba kwenzeke kubantwana abadala. Olu hlobo lokuphazanyiswa bubuthongo lwahlukile kumaphupha amabi, aqhelekileyo kubantwana abaqala kwiminyaka eyi-2 ukuya kwe-4.

Izinto ezothusayo zasebusuku zenzeka ngexesha lokulala ngokunzulu. Usana lwakho lunokuqala ukukhala okanye lukhale ngesiquphe ukuba ngasizathu sithile eli nqanaba liphazamisekile. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba iphazamise ngakumbi kuwe.

Umntwana wakho akazi ukuba benza ingxwabangxwaba enjalo, kwaye ayisiyiyo into abaya kuyikhumbula kusasa. Eyona nto unokuyenza kukuqinisekisa nje ukuba umntwana wakho ukhuselekile.

Ndifanele ukubiza nini ugqirha?

Kukho ezinye izizathu zokuba umntwana wakho uyalila ngelixa elele. Ukuba kubonakala ngathi kuchaphazela ixesha lomntwana wakho lasemini, nxibelelana nogqirha wakho. Kungenzeka ukuba into efana nokukrazula okanye ukugula yinxalenye yengxaki.

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