Ukuzithemba ngomzimba

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Qho ngonyaka, malunga nama-25 abasetyhini badibana kusasa ekuphumeni kwelanga bathabathe uhambo lweyure. Umjongi wangaphandle wale ndibano ngekhe abe nofifi lokuba zeziphi izibophelelo ezibopha umama ophumeleleyo wababini waseLos Angeles nogqirha wezengqondo ovela eKansas okanye umqeqeshi wempilo waseBaltimore.

Okwangoku, ukusukela ngo-1996, eli qela labasetyhini kulo lonke elaseMelika lithumele iifowuni kunye ne-imeyile, bancamisa abo babathandayo, emva koko baphuma edolophini bayokucoca iingqondo neentliziyo zabo iintsuku ezine kwiNdawo yokuQiniseka koMzimba (eyayisaziwa ngaphambili) njengoMzimba Positive) inkqubo. Injongo yeentsuku ezine? Ukwenza ukuba abafazi batshintshe imifanekiso yemizimba yabo.

Yaziswa ngo-1996, i-Shape's Body Confident ijikeleza kwindlela abafazi abaziva ngayo malunga neziqu zabo kunye nemizimba yabo kunye nendlela yokunyusa ezo mvakalelo. Usuku oluqhelekileyo luquka iingxoxo ezisebenzisanayo kwimixholo enxulumene nomfanekiso womzimba, umthambo (ukusuka kwi-Spinning ukuya ekunyukeni intaba ukuya kwi-yoga), ukufunda iindlela zokuphumla, kunye nokumamela izithethi kwimixholo enjengokwabelana ngesondo, isondlo kunye nokuba sempilweni.

Ekuseni kuqala ngokuhamba kweqela okanye ukunyuka uhambo olude. Abathathi-nxaxheba baya kudibana kwingxoxo yeqela ekhokelwa sisazi ngengqondo kunye nengcali yemizimba yomzimba u-Ann Kearney-Cooke, Ph.D., umlawuli weZiko lezeengqondo laseCincinnati. Uninzi lwabafundi alumnae bathi bafumana intsebenziswano kunye nokuvuleleka ekwabelwana ngayo ngabasetyhini abaye bajongana namadabi omfanekiso womzimba ofanayo eyona nxalenye ibalulekileyo yenkqubo. Abasetyhini banxibelelanisa iimvakalelo ezisuka kwihlazo, ityala kunye nomsindo nethemba, uvuyo kunye nokuzamkela.

Ngenxa yokuba amava abasetyhini aqhuba i-gamut ukusuka kwi-anorexic yangaphambili ukuya kwi-compulsive exerciser okanye ukutya kakhulu, wonke umntu unokunxulumana nomntu othile kwiqela. Kwaye ngokukhuthaza ukubhalwa kwejenali nganye, ukubonwa kunye nengxoxo yeqela, uKearney-Cooke unceda aba bafazi bachonge iindawo zabo zokubaxhalabisa kwaye bavavanye isimilo esithile esiqhubela phambili ukungakhathaleli kwimizimba yabo. Ukwabonisa isicwangciso-nyathelo ngamanyathelo sokuzoba ngokutsha umfanekiso womzimba osempilweni onokuthathwa ngabathathi-nxaxheba ukuya ekhaya.

Ngaba ukuzithemba kuMzimba kuyasebenza? Lo ngumbuzo mhlawumbi uphendulwe ngcono ngabasetyhini ababuyileyo iminyaka. Njengoko uza kubona ngokufunda ubungqina obunamandla be-alumnae, olona celomngeni kubo bonke abajongana nalo luya nzulu kunemizimba yabo. Olo celomngeni kukuziva ngcono ngokuba ngoobani. Nantsi into eyenzekileyo kubo kunyaka olandelayo kwiisemina zokuqala zokuQiniseka komzimba -kwaye indlela isiQinisekiso seBhunga esidlale ngayo indima ebalulekileyo ekwenzeni olo tshintsho lube khona.

"Ndiphume kuxinzelelo lwam."

-UJulie Robinson, eLos Angeles

Ngo-1996, uRobinson waya kwiseshoni yokuqala yokuQiniseka komzimba, eyayibanjwe kungekudala emva kokusweleka kukanina. Ukusweleka kukamama kwandenza ndangcangcazela kuba ndabona ukuba khange ndikwazi ukonwabela yena okanye ubuntwana bam, utshilo. "Bendingaphaya kokuzinceda kwaye bendifuna ukutshintsha ubomi bam."

URobinson ushiye isemina yakhe yokuqala yokuzithemba ngoMzimba esenza isifungo sokuhlengahlengisa ingqondo, umzimba kunye nomoya wakhe. Ngokukodwa, wayefuna ukusebenzela ukungazithembi kunye nokudakumba okungapheliyo kwinqanaba eliphantsi, iimpawu ekwabelwana ngazo kunye nonina ongasekhoyo. URobinson uthi le nkqubo yamenza ukuba akwazi ukuphuma kudandatheko ngokumbonisa indlela yokuhambisa amandla kude nokuziphatha komzimba. "Emva kokuba ndigqithise ukunyamekela malunga nokubonakala kwam, kwakukho okuninzi ebomini endikwazi ukukuvumela kwaye ndonwabe. Emva kokuzithemba ngomzimba, ndavuma le nxalenye yam enomlilo kunye nomnqweno, "uphakamisa. "Andiyi kuvumela uloyiko lume endleleni yam kwakhona. Elo nyathelo lalikhona lonke ixesha, kodwa andizange ndilibone kuba ndandibanjwe kukudakumba."

URobinson uthathe inyathelo ngokulungiselela iklabhu yencwadi ukuba ibandakanye ingqondo yakhe kunye nokwakha inkqubo yenkxaso engcono. Ngokwasemzimbeni, uthathe isigqibo sokuzibekela iinjongo ezithile ngakumbi kunokuya ejimini iintsuku ezintlanu ngeveki. Ngoko ke yena nomhlobo wakhe baqeqeshelwa kwaye bagqiba i-triathalon ngo-1997. Emva koko, unyaka emva kokuzimasa iworkshop yakhe yesibini ye-Body Confident, wawela umgca wokugqibela wokukhwela ibhayisekile ye-AIDS eyi-560 ukusuka eSan Francisco ukuya eLos Angeles.

URobinson kamva weza kwisangqa esipheleleyo ekubuyiseni kwakhe ekufeni kukanina. Wabelana nabanye ileta emva kokubhubha kwakhe eTucson awayeyibhalele umama wakhe. URobinson uthi: “Ileta endayibhalela umama imxelela ngazo zonke izinto endizinandiphayo ngoku. "Ndifikelele kwinqanaba lobomi bam ebendingenalo naye. Ndinganika abantwana bam ulonwabo lobomi ngoku kuba ndinam."

"Ngokukhona ndikholelwa kum, kokukhona ndaziva ngathi ndingazikhathalela, kwaye ndaziva ngathi umzimba wam awubi mbi."

-UMary Jo Castor, eBaltimore

Iminyaka, uCastor wayesazi ukuba kukho into engalunganga ngomzimba wakhe. "Qho xa ndijonga esipilini, yonke into endiyibonayo yayingamathanga amabini atyebileyo," uyakhumbula. "Ndiye kwiBody Confident kuba bekufuneka ndixole nomzimba wam."

Kwijenali yowe-1997, uCastor, igqwetha lobomi bakhe bonke, walichaza ngobuchule ixhala lakhe xa wayejonga imiba yomfanekiso womzimba kwiBody Confident yakhe yokuqala kunye neenzuzo ezifunyenwe ngokwenza oko: "[Le nkqubo] yayiyibhodi yam yokuntywila kubomi baphakathi. ukuba indlela endiziva ngayo ngomzimba wam ayinanto yakwenza nomzimba wam. Xa untywila nzulu uze uphinde ubuye kwakhona, thatha loo moya wokuqala ukhangele macala onke, yonke into ibonakala icocekile kwaye intsha kwaye intsha.”

Inyathelo lokuqala likaCastor yayikukuba "aqwalasele ngakumbi into endifuna ukuyenza kwaye ndinganaki kulento abanye bafuna ndiyenze," utshilo, ekhumbula ingcebiso kaKearney-Cooke ukuba aqale ukugxila kwiimfuno zakhe- nokuba oko kuthetha ukuthatha ixesha kude nosapho kunye nabahlobo okwethutyana. UCastor uye wadibana nengcali yezondlo, kwaye namhlanje, uziqeqesha rhoqo kunye nomyeni wakhe, utya ukutya okunempilo kwaye ugxile kumfazi omtsha amfumeneyo.

Kule mihla, xa uCastor esenzeka esipilini, kunokwenzeka ukuba angawahoyi loo mathanga. “Ndidlula apho ngoku,” utshilo. "Ubukhulu becala into endiyibonayo kukuba ndomelele ngokwenene."

"Ndiqale umdyarho webhayisekile."

-Beth McGilley, Ph.D., Wichita, Kan.

Omncinci kubantwana abahlanu, uMcGilley waphulukana nomama wakhe ngokuzibulala xa uMcGilley wayeneminyaka eyi-16. "Ukuba ngumntwana oligorha yayiyindima yam," utshilo kwiminyaka engaphambi nasemva kokuba umama wakhe ezibulele. "Ndandingumncedisi kunye nomgcini kwaye ndandithwala uxanduva kubo bonke abanye abantu, ngenxa yoko andenzelwanga ukufuna okuninzi."

Indibano yocweyo yokuQiniseka komzimba, kunye nonyango, yenze ukuba uMcGilley akwazi ukuzinika kuqala. Xa omnye umthathi-nxaxheba weBody Confident wambona kwiklasi yeSpinning ngo-1997 kwaye wacebisa ukuba azame umdyarho webhayisekile, uMcGilley wakhawuleza wayibamba ingcamango. "Bendixolele kwaye ndingakhathali kubomi bam, ke enye yeenjongo zam yayikukuba ndenze ngabom malunga nomdyarho weebhayisekile, utshilo.

Emva koqeqesho, uMcGilley wajoyina iqela laseWichita kwaye wangena kumdyarho wakhe wokuqala e-Oklahoma City. Uthi: “Umdyarho webhayisekile undinike ithuba lokuhlangabezana nemiceli mngeni yobomi, kuquka namava endiye ndajamelana nawo kuqhawulo-mtshato lwam lwakutshanje. "Ukuhamba ngokuchasene nemimoya eyi-20-30 mph kukunika ingqiqo yokwazi ukuba uphi - uzityhalela ngaphaya kwendawo ongakhange ucinge ukuba ungaya kuyo. Ukuhamba ngebhayisikile kundenze ndaziva ndomelele ngomzimba wam kunye nam."

Kugqatso lwakhe lokuqala lwebhayisekile ngo-1998, uMcGilley waphuma kwindawo yesine kwinxalenye yendlela yogqatso olunamacandelo amathathu. Ebebaleka ukusukela ngoko.

"Ndigqibe kwelokuba ndibaleke ihalf-marathon."

-U-Arlene Lance, Plainsboro, NJ

"Ukunyaniseka, bendingakulindelanga ukufumana nantoni na ngaphandle kwenkqubo. Ndifuna nje ukuya kwispa," utshilo uLance wokuya kwiQumrhu eliQinisekileyo ngo-1997. "Ngethamsanqa, bekungaphezulu kunokuba bendilindele."

U-Lance ukhumbula umhleli we-SHAPE oyintloko u-Barbara Harris ekhuthaza iqela ngokulixelela ukuba "thanda umzimba wakho ngento onokukwenzela yona."

"Oko kwandikhuthaza," ukhumbula uLance. "Ndandihlala ndiziva ndinamandla angaphantsi komndilili womzimba, kwaye ndaziva ndibuthathaka emzimbeni. Ngoko ke, kuloo workshop yokuqala ye-Body Confident, ndazityhala ngokwenene: Ndabaleka. Ndathatha i-Spinning. Ndaya kwiiklasi ezintathu zokuzilolonga. Kwakuvakala kulungile. kwaye kwakha ukuzithemba kwam.

Xa ebuyela eNew Jersey, uLance wagqiba kwelokuba aqeqeshe ngokukodwa ihafu yemarathon ebalekayo. “Ndiyenzile, iikhilomitha ezili-13.1, ePhiladelphia,” utshilo. "Oko bendiqeqeshwe kwaye ndikhuphisana, ndiziva ndibhetele. Ndiyimbaleki ngakumbi, ndinamandla. Ndijonga umzimba wam ngento onokundenzela yona."

Ukuzithemba kuye kwanyanzela kwezinye iindawo zobomi bukaLance. "Kwintlanganiso yam yokuqala yokuQiniseka komzimba, bendisandula ukubuyela esikolweni ukuze ndifumane isidanga sokudibana kwezamashishini kwaye bendingaqinisekanga ngokugqiba," utsho uLance. "Ndiyakholelwa ngokwenene ukuba ukugqiba isiqingatha semarathon kunditshintshe. ngoku ndinethemba lokufumana isidanga sebhatshela kwezemali. "

"Ndafunda ukulwa nesifo sam."

-UTammy Faughnan, uManyano, N.J.

NgoFebruwari 1997, kwafunyaniswa ukuba uFaughnan unesifo seLyme, isifo sokudumba esidla ngokubangelwa kukulunywa likhalane lexhama. Esi sifo kunye nonyango olungqongqo lonyango olusetyenziselwa ukunyanga esi sifo lwenze ukuba aphulukane nesithambo semisipha, afumane iiponti ezingama-35, kwaye anyamezele isifo samathambo esiqaqambayo, intloko ebuhlungu kunye nokudinwa okungaphaya.

"Ndiphulukene nolawulo lomzimba wam," utshilo. "Yayikuvuka kakubi xa umzimba wam ungenzi ngendlela endifuna ngayo."

UFaughnan waya kwi-Body Confident enethemba lokufunda iindlela ezisempilweni zokujongana nesi sifo. “Ngaphambi kocwangciso, umzimba wam wawungemhle,” ukhumbula oku. "Kwakufuneka ndenze into-nangona inzuzo yobunzima yayiyingxenye yendlela endiwujonga ngayo umzimba wam. Kwakungeyona nto ibalulekileyo; ukuhamba yonke imihla yayikukukwazi ukuhambisa iingalo nemilenze kunye nokusebenza kubomi bemihla ngemihla. ibingu. "

Kwi-Body Confident, uFaughnan wafunda indlela yokuthatha amanyathelo omntwana ukuya kwimithambo kwakhona. "Ngelinye ixesha ndaye ndacinga," Ukuba ndingahamba nje ibhloko, kutheni ndizikhathaza? Kwandula ke, ngenye intsasa ehamba nelo qela, wakhuthazwa ukuba adlule nje kumda wakhe, kunokuba atyhale kakhulu okanye, okubi ngakumbi, anikezele ngokupheleleyo.

Walithathela entliziyweni eli cebiso. "Kanye xa kwafunyanwa ooLyme, mna nomyeni wam saya elunxwemeni. Khange ndikwazi ukuhamba, ke umise nje imoto ngasemanzini, utshilo. "Kunyaka kamva, emva kokuQiniseka komzimba, xa saphinda saphinda sahamba, ndahamba ngebhodi, iikhilomitha ezine, kwaye zehla iinyembezi kum.

“Ngenkxaso yamanye amabhinqa akweli qela, ndafunda ukungazabalazeli ukuba nomzimba endandinawo xa ndandineminyaka engama-21 ubudala, kodwa nje ukuba nomzimba ophilileyo ndineminyaka engama-40,” utsho. "Ukuzithemba komzimba kwandenza ndazi ukuba ndinolawulo olungakanani ebomini bam nasemzimbeni wam ngaphandle kwesi sifo."

"Ndafunda ukuphulaphula umyeni wam."

-Chandra Cowen, eKarmele, eInd.

"Kwiminyaka eliqela eyadlulayo, ndaziva ndinje ngomzimba wam njenganamhlanje. Ngokwasemzimbeni, zikhona izinto endinqwenela ukuzenza," utshilo uCowen. "Kodwa ngaphakathi nangaphakathi kunye nendlela endiziva ngayo-oko kutshintshe kakhulu."

Iminyaka yakutshanje yenze utshintsho olukhulu kusapho lukaCowen. Ngowe-1997, umhlobo wosapho wasweleka kwingozi yemoto. Ngenkqubo yokulila, uCowen wafumanisa ukuba wayephulaphule umyeni wakhe ngakumbi ngexesha lamaxhala, kunokuba akhawuleze ukuba nomsindo njengokuba wayekade enjalo - ubuchule abusebenze ngokuzimisela.

Indlela entsha kaCowen yokubulela yinxalenye yesikhokelo sikaKearney-Cooke kwiiseshoni zeqela. “IBody Confident yandinceda ndakwazi ukunxibelelana kakuhle nomyeni wam, yaye ngoku ndiyamyeka asuse izinto esifubeni sakhe,” utsho. "Oko kuyandinceda kuba andinastresi ndicinga ukuba undicaphukisile."

Imbambano embalwa yobudlelwane eyenze uCowen waba ngumntu ozolileyo, omnye kulawulo lwendlela avakalelwa ngayo xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle. “Ngoku ndinezinye iindawo endizifumanayo xa ndixinezelekile, njengokuchitha ixesha nabantwana bam, ukukhwela ibhayisekile okanye ukusebenza eyadini, nto leyo endenza ndibe neqhayiya yaye ndiphumeze okuthile.

“Ukwenza umthambo nako kuyanceda,” uyacinga. "Andikho kanye apho ndifuna ukuba [kunye nobunzima bam], kodwa ndiziva ndingcono kakhulu ngam ngaphakathi, ndikhule kakhulu."

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