I-COVID-19 Stole My Orgasms - Nantsi into endiyenzayo ukubabuyisa

Umxholo

• 1. Ndizame into yokudlala entsha yesondo.
• 2.Ndaguqukela kwiqabane elidala lesini.
• 3. Ndaya kwingcali.
• Ukukhumbula.
• Ukuhlawula umoya.
• Ukususa i-orgasm kwi-equation.
• Ukuzama ukuphulukana neemvakalelo.
• 4. Ndenza uxolo no-Os wam olahlekileyo.
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Ndiza ngqo kwinqanaba: ii-orgasms zam zilahlekile. Ndibakhangele phezulu naphantsi; phantsi kwebhedi, kwigunjana, nkqu kumatshini wokuhlamba. Kodwa hayi; bahambile nje. Hayi "Ndiza kukubona kamva," akukho leta yokwahlukana, kwaye akukho nekhadi leposi elibi ukusuka naphi na apho baye khona. Njengaye nabani na olahliwe yinto okanye ngumntu amthandayo, ndiyanyanzeleka ukuba ndizibuze ukuba kutheni — yintoni le ndiyenzileyo ngeli xesha ukugxotha esinye isithandwa? Ndabathanda ngayo yonke into endandinayo - ngaba oko kwakunganelanga? Kubonakala kunjalo.

Ukukwazi ukwenza i-orgasm bekusoloko kulula kum. Kuyavunywa ukuba, kuye kwakho kakhulu bambalwa amadoda-ugxininiso kakhulu -Baye bakwazi ukundinika i-orgasm ngaphandle kwalo naluphi na uncedo oluvela kwi-vibrator okanye isikhokelo esineenkcukacha esivela kum. Kodwa xa ndihamba ndedwa, i-orgasms ibe ngumoya. Nge vibrator elungileyo, ndingangena ngaphantsi komzuzu. Akunjalo ukuba lugqatso, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ufuna nje ukungena nokuphuma, de-stress, emva koko ubuyele emsebenzini wakho. Kodwa ezo ntsuku zihambile kuba i-orgasm yam iphelile.

Ngexesha elithile ngo-Epreli, ukuqhuba kwam ngesondo kwehlile. Ayizange iwe phantsi kangangokuba iye yawa phantsi, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo yehla njengoko i-COVID-19 ibetha kwaye kwacaca ukuba ubhubhane awuyi ndawo. Kunzima ukuziva ngesondo xa umhlaba ubonakala ngathi uyawa. (Ubuncinci, oko kwakunjalo kum.) Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona i-sex drive yam yayiyi-MIA, ndandiphulula amaphambili njengendlela yokunciphisa uxinzelelo, ngethemba lokuziva ndikhululekile nangexesha elifutshane - kodwa i-O. kunqabile ukuba kwenzeke. Ukuba bendikwazi ukwenza i-orgasm, kundithathe ngaphezulu kweyure. Ngokwesiqhelo, bendilala phakathi kwe-masturbation, kuphela ukuvusa iiyure kamva kunye ne-vibrator yam isekhona, isesandleni sam, kwaye isencinci.

Emva koko uMeyi waqengqeleka kwaye izinto zaba zezokwenyani ngentsholongwane, njengoko igama elithi "into entsha eqhelekileyo" laliphoswa ngasekhohlo nasekunene, kwaye iimeko ze-COVID-19 zazingekho nje kwiitshathi, kodwa zikwakudala noloyiko. Ke ngoko ndandikho, njengabanye abaninzi, ndiphila ubomi bexinzelelo kunye nesiphithiphithi ndinoloyiko lokungaqiniseki ukuba isihogo siza kuba yintoni kuyo yonke le nto - ubhubhane kunye nehlabathi liphela. Uloyiko kunye nokubhideka kwakwanele ukuba kubangele nabani na i-orgasms ukuba apakishe kwaye akhale sifike! ✌️ ukusuka kuloliwe wokuqala ngaphandle kwedolophu. Ukuba intloko yakho ayikho kumdlalo, awungekhe ulindele ukuba umzimba wakho ubekhona kuyo.

"I-Orgasm yinkqubo yomzimba kunye nengqondo, ngoko ke kulandela ukuba umzimba wakho kunye nengqondo yakho ichaphazela amava," utshilo uJess O'Reilly, Ph.D., isazi ngesondo, ingcaphephe yobudlelwane, kunye nengcali yezesondo ye-We-Vibe. "Akuqhelekanga ukuba nobunzima nge-orgasm xa uxinezelekile, udiniwe, uphazamiseka, okanye unqanyulwe ngenye indlela."

Ingxaki yam (ndiyathetha, yiyo ngu Ingxaki, emva kwayo yonke loo nto), ayiqhelekanga. Izifundo zifumanise ukuba xa kufikwa kwiminqweno yesini kunye nokusebenza ngokwesondo, uxinzelelo lunokuba lutshintsho lomdlalo-ngendlela embi. Uxinzelelo luza kumanqanaba aphezulu e-cortisol (i-hormone) kunye ne-cortisol ngokusisiseko enethayo kwimfumba yomnqweno wesini kunye nomsebenzi (funda: ukukwazi kwakho ukuba manzi / kunzima / ukuphendula kukhuthazo).

"Uphando lubonisa ukuba iimvakalelo zoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo zikhona "Okwangoku, abantu abaninzi bafumana iimvakalelo ezide zokuxhalaba kunye noxinzelelo, kwaye sisebenza kwimeko yokungakhathali." Oku kukhokelela ekudinweni ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ukuba 'Ndikhe ndazama ukuvuswa ngelixa ndidiniwe AF, uyazi ukuba ayenzeki.

Ngamandla akho agalelwa kuxinzelelo, "inokuthatha impendulo yendalo yomzimba kwimpembelelo yesini," utshilo u-O'Reilly. Kwaye, kokukhona uxinzelelo malunga nento ethile, ingxaki iba nkulu. Kwaye, ukuthetha ngokusuka kumava, awukwazi ukuthetha ngokwakho kwi-orgasm; Ndiye ndazama iinyanga. (Nanku ukuqonda okunomdla ngakumbi ngendlela yokuqhuba ngokwesondo okusebenza ngokwenene, ngokutsho komhlohli wesini kunye nomphandi.)

Nangona kunjalo, ukuthetha ngokukhohlisayo kwi-vulva yam ezinzulwini zobusuku kwaye ndizama ukukhohlisa ingqondo yam ukuba iphumle ayisiyiyo kuphela indlela endiyiqheliselayo ngethemba lokufumana i-orgasms yam. Nazi ezinye izinto endizenzileyo.

1. Ndizame into yokudlala entsha yesondo.

Xa kuziwa ekulahlekeni kwe-orgasms, awufuni kuphazamisa ezinye i $ 20 vibrator. (Nangona, ndingathanda ukuphawula ukuba, phantsi kweemeko eziqhelekileyo, andinakuze ndiphendule impumlo yam kwi-vibrator ye-$ 20.) Ufuna into edalwe ngokoqobo kubantu abanzima kwi-orgasm. Ngena: Osé 2 (Yithenge, $290, loradicarlo.com), into yokudlala entsha evela kuphawu oluphumelele ibhaso elenze ukuchaphaza kwi-CES kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo. Ivuselela zombini indawo ye-G kunye ne-clitoris (nge-suction-like stimulation) ngaxeshanye, ndiye ndacinga ukuba andinakuphulukana kuba-nayo, kulungile, wayenayo Akukho nto eza kulahlekela.

Ndibuhlungu ukuxelela ukuba nangona i-hype, u-Osé 2 akazange ayenzele mna-okungekho mpazamo ka-Osé 2 konke konke. Ngelixa ithoyizi yayibhetyebhetye kakhulu kwaye ijonge ukulingana nobukhulu bomzimba abaninzi, njengomntu ongekho nzulu ngeenyawo ezi-5 ubude kwaye engenguye ncam ikhaya kumjelo welungu lobufazi omde, izinto bezingahambi apho bezifanele ukuba khona. I clitoral stimulator ibindikitaza ipubic bone yam kwaye ne G-spot stimulator ibingekho kufutshane ne G-spot yam. Kodwa loo nto iphezu kwam nasemzimbeni wam. Ndicinga ukuba abanye banokubethwa yingqondo ngu-Osé 2.

2.Ndaguqukela kwiqabane elidala lesini.

Kukhangeleka ngathi u-2020 uza kuba ngunyaka wokuqala ndingabinasondo okoko ndaqala ukulala ngesondo ngo-18-kulungile! Kodwa nangona ndisenokungafumani nto ngokwasemzimbeni, ndingathanda ukuziva into ethile. Ke, ndaguqukela kwisithandwa esi-on-kwakhona/ecinyiweyo kwakhona (igama esingalisebenzisi ngokwaneleyo) kwintetho emdaka. Ndandimxelele malunga "nomcimbi" wam kwaye wayengumdlalo wokundinceda.

Kwakhona, okulusizi kukuba, nokuba ungcolile, ungcolile, kwaye ubundlongondlongo kangakanani na kwimeko yesini awathi wayibonisa, nokuba yenye yezidlidlizeli zam endizithandayo, ibingenzeki. Ndavuswa kakhulu kwaye ndaziva ngathi mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, bendisemngciphekweni wokuza, kodwa khange yenzeke. Ewe kunjalo, njengayo nayiphi na i-lothario, wathembisa ukuba sidibene uya kuyenza ukuba yenzeke. Ndiphendule ngokuzolileyo ndathi kuye, "Owu, ndiyazi ukuba ubuya kuthanda," ndifihla amathandabuzo am anzima ngentshiseko kwilizwi lam.

3. Ndaya kwingcali.

Ngaphandle kokuba ndingumbhali wesini kunye notitshala phantse iminyaka elishumi (undenza ingcali yesini ngokwam kwaye lowo abahlobo bam baphethukela kuye xa bafuna isondo kunye negalelo kwezempilo), andinguye ugqirha wesini. Kulapho u-O'Reilly angena khona neengcebiso endiziphumezileyo kwimikhwa yam yokuphulula amalungu esini.

Ukukhumbula.

Ukukhumbula kuthetha ukuba kulo mzuzu kwaye uyazi iingcinga zakho kunye nendlela ekuchaphazela ngayo ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni. Le ikwayinto ethi, ubhubhane okanye hayi, kunzima kakhulu ukuyibamba kwindawo yethu engapheliyo, hamba uye kuluntu apho iqhosha lokuphumla libonakala ngathi libekwe endaweni engeyiyo. Kodwa ngokuka-O'Reilly, ukuzivumela ukuba uhambe ngokwasengqondweni ngaphandle kobomi bakho obuxakekileyo kunokukunceda ufumane i-orgasms yakho.

U-O'Reilly uthi: “Ukukhumbula kubhekisela ekuzibandakanyeni kumava angoku ngaphandle kokugweba noxinzelelo. "Kubandakanya ukubakhona kwaye ubonakalise wena kunye neqabane lakho. Kwaye xa kufikwa kwisini, ukukhumbula kuthintela izibonelelo ezininzi kubandakanya umnqweno ophakamileyo, ukuzithemba okukhulu, uxinzelelo lwentsebenzo esezantsi, kunye nokusebenza okuphuculweyo kwezesondo kubandakanya ukuvusa ulwakhiwo, ulwaziso ukulawula, kunye ne-orgasm."

Ngaba ndikwazile ukuziqhelanisa ne-masturbation kwiinyanga zokuqala zobhubhane? Hayi. Ngaba ngoku ndiyakwazi ukuziqhelanisa nokuphulula amaphambili ndingaphantsi kweenyanga ezimbini kude kunyulo lobongameli? Ingayinto hayi ngekhe. Kodwa, ndenzile (kwaye ndiyaqhubeka) ukwenza umzamo; Kuphela nje ukuba ingqondo yam iyathanda ukuphumelela.

Ukuhlawula umoya.

Ndineendlela zokuphefumla ngenxa yoloyiko, iyoga, kunye neziqendu zokudakumba, kutheni ungafaki enye kuluhlu? Ukuze uhlale kulo mzuzu, ukuba ingqondo yakho iqala ukuzulazula, u-O'Reilly ucebisa ukuba unike ingqalelo indlela umoya oziva ngayo xa ungena empumlweni kwaye uphuma emlonyeni: phefumla imizuzwana emihlanu, bamba imizuzwana emithathu, uze uphefumlele imizuzwana emihlanu.

"Phinda kahlanu kwaye uqaphele ukuba ukuphefumla kwakho kukuchaphazela njani ukubetha kwentliziyo yakho kunye nemeko yeemvakalelo," utshilo uOreilly. "Akunakulindeleka ukuba usebenzise le ndlela embindini wokudibana ngokwesondo, kodwa inokukunceda ukuqala umzimba wakho ukuba ube nomnqweno wesini kunye nolonwabo. Ungayisebenzisa kwakhona xa ufumanisa ukuba ufuna ikhefu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo." (Uyafuna ukuyizama? Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokuphefumla ezenzelwe ukwabelana ngesondo.)

Ndenze, kwaye ndenza, ukuziqhelanisa nale nto kakhulu. Ndiyazi ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndiqonde ukuba ukuphefumla kudlala indima enkulu ekuzonwabiseni ngokwesini kunye nokuphendula, kodwa ngokungathi ndingazifumana ndiphantse ndaya kwindawo yokuhlala, ii-orgasms zazingekafiki.

Ukususa i-orgasm kwi-equation.

Njengoko nabani na eya kukuxelela, nokuba yeyokwabelana ngesondo okanye ukuphulula amalungu esini, imalunga nohambo kwaye ayisiyiyo kwaphela eluhambeni: i-orgasm. Ngaphandle kokuvuthwa, isondo sinokuba yinto emnandi, kodwa ngokuphulula amalungu esini, yahluke kancinci- ubuncinci kwimeko yam. Ukuba andinayo i-orgasm ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo neqabane, kulungile kum. Ingakumbi ukuba ibimnandi kwaye yanelisa ngezinye iindlela. Kodwa ukungabinayo i-orgasm ye iinyanga ngexesha lokuphulula amalungu esini, kuhle, ukuba nje lonke elinye ibali.

"Zichukumise ukonwaba imizuzu eli-15 ukuya kwengama-20 ngaphandle ukuzama ukufikelela kwi-orgasm, "utshilo u-O'Reilly." Phonononga umzimba wakho wonke ngezandla zakho, i-lube, ioyile yokuthambisa, iithoyi, kunye / okanye izinto zokwenza izinto ezahlukeneyo. Njengoko unxibelelana neempendulo zomzimba wakho ezahlukileyo kunye neepateni zokuphefumla, uyakufumanisa ukuba amandla akho okuhlala ubakhona ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo (ubuqabane kunye nesolo) liyanda, njengoko ungazukuxhonywa kwintsebenzo kwaye ujolise ngakumbi kulonwabo ngokwalo "

Kuyavunywa, kuba kum, ukuphulula amalungu esini kunye ne-orgasm zihamba kunye njengebhotolo yamandongomane kunye nejeli, obu buchule, nangona kumnandi ukuyiphumeza, abuzange buyenze iqhinga.

Ukuzama ukuphulukana neemvakalelo.

Kuzo zonke iingcebiso u-O'Reilly azicebisile, le yeyona indenze ndasondela kakhulu kwi-orgasm.

UO’Reilly uthi: “Xa uxakekile okanye uphazamisekile, thoba izibane, vala amehlo, vala amehlo, okanye utyale imali kwii-headphones ezikwaziyo ukuvala ingxolo ukuze unikele ingqalelo ngakumbi kwisini. "Ukuvinjwa enye ingqiqo kunokunyusa enye." Eyona nyaniso. Blindfold ngokwakho kunye namaqunube ungcamla ngcono. Thwala ii-earplugs kwaye ngesiquphe ex yakho ijongeka imnandi ngakumbi kunangaphambili.

Kum, ukuzivala amehlo kunye nokungena kwi-earplugs yam kuncede kakhulu, ukundifumana, njengoko benditshilo, oyena ukufutshane ndize kwi-orgasm kwiinyanga. Ikufutshane kakhulu, enyanisweni, ndiyakwazi ukuyingcamla. Kodwa ke ingqondo yam iya kwezopolitiko kunye nobhubhane kunye ne-yadda yadda yadda.

4. Ndenza uxolo no-Os wam olahlekileyo.

Iingcebiso zika-O'Reilly aziyeki apho; bayaqhubeka neendlela ezinje ngokuzahlula-hlula iingcinga, ukwenza umthambo kunye neqabane, kunye nokuzibandakanya kwi-detox yedijithali- enokuthi inyange uninzi lwethu lwezinto ezininzi. Ayizizo zonke iingcebiso zakhe ezazisebenza kum, ke ndiye ndasebenza kwezo ndandisazi ukuba ndinethuba lokuba ndingawazi kakuhle kodwa andinike ithuba lokufumana i-orgasms yam.

Eyona nto inomdla yesilivere? Ngaphandle kokunqongophala kwe-orgasms ngexesha lokuvuka kwam, ndiye ndanesibini ebuthongweni bam. Ndivukile ukuze ndiqonde ukuba bendinayo i-orgasm, kodwa ngekhe ndikhumbule iphupha okanye into endizise kwi-orgasm.

Andazi ukuba i-orgasms yam iye phi okanye baceba ukubuya nini. Ndiyazi ukuba, ekugqibeleni, baya kubuyela kum, kodwa kuba bengashiyanga lizwi lokuba mandilinde ndibone nini. Ndiyazi nokuba, xa kujongwa imeko yehlabathi, andindedwa. Iitshomi zam ezimbalwa zibeke imali yazo kwii-orgasms zam zibuya kwangoko ngo-Novemba 4; ukuba unyulo luhamba ngale ndlela ndiyathemba ngayo, mhlawumbi ii-orgasms zam ziya kubuya ziphindwe kalishumi, ngokungathi zii-Niagara Falls, enye emva kwenye, zenzela ixesha elilahlekileyo.

Kodwa, okwangoku, ndise-orgasm-encinci kwaye ndenza eyona nto yam ibabuyayo. Ndikholelwa kakhulu ukuba abanakuhamba ngonaphakade; bakwiholide nje. Kuya kuba kuhle, nangona kunjalo, ukuba banokundinika iintloko malunga nokuba ndingabalindela nini ukuba babuye.

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