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Ngelixa ekugqibeleni sisiva kwaye sibona okungakumbi # okwenyani malunga nokuba ngumama kwezi ntsuku, iseyinto encinci ukuba sithethe ngayo yonke into ekruqulayo, enkulu, okanye izinto eziyinyani zemihla ngemihla zokuba kunjani ukuba ngumama.

Iimuvi zinokukunika umbono wokuba ukuba ngumama kuxinzelelo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa ukuba ikakhulu unyikimisa umntwana wakho ozolileyo ukuba alale kwaye abenxibe iimpahla ezithandekayo zokuhamba kwabahambi. Kukwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba usenalo ixesha lokwenza yonke into owakha wayenza ngaphambili (njengemibaleko emide kunye ne-mani-pedis). Ucinga ukuba usaya kuvuka kwakusasa uyokuzilolonga; ndisenexesha lokuhlambakwaye cheba imilenze yakho, yenza iinwele zakho kwaye ubeke ubuso obugcweleyo bokuthambisa ngaphambi kokuba ubaleke okanye udibane nabahlobo ngesidlo sasemini. (Eyeleleneyo: UClaire Holt Wabelane “ngolonwabo olukhulu kunye nokuzithandabuza” okuza nokuba nguMama)

Kunzima ukuma: Ayinakuba kude le nyani.

Ukuba ngumama ngumsebenzi osisigxina. Itshintsha yonke into. Ngowona msebenzi ubalaseleyo emhlabeni, kodwa ikwangowona ucelomngeni. Bendisazi ukuba ngumama kuzisa imiceli mngeni emitsha, andikwazi tu ukuqonda ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwemiceli mngeni okanye ukuba iyakubakho mininzi. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni iKrisimesi i-Abbott "Inombulelo" kwimingeni yokuba ngumama)

Intombazana yam yokuqala encinci, uLucia Antonia uneenyanga ezili-10 ubudala, kwaye usesona sipho sihle kakhulu endinokusicela, kodwa ungaphazamisi,okuninzi yomsebenzi. Ukukunika ingqiqo yento endiyithethayo, ndiza kukuthatha usuku lwam.

8:32 kusasa: Sikwazile ulala iyure yonke kudlule ialarm kaTata emsebenzini. Oku kuluncedo ukusukelaumntu othileundivuse kathathu phezolo kuba ebemana ukuphulukana ne pacifier yakhe. Okwangoku, sonke silala kunye, kwaye khange ndilale ngaphezulu kweeyure ezine okanye ezintlanu ngqo kwilooooong ixesha, njengeenyanga. ULucia undivusa ngokujija ingalo yakhe ebusweni bam. Ndivuka ngonyawo emlonyeni wam okanye xa esokola ukulala, thinaYonke into kunzima ukulala. Kodwa okwangoku, Isebenza kumyeni wam kunye nam noLucia, kwaye ndiyakuthanda ukujonga intombazana yam emnandi isondele ebusweni bam.

Ndisa uLucia kwigumbi lokuhlambela xa eqala ukutshintsha idiaper emini.

8:40 kusasa: Ndizisa uLucia kwigumbi lokuhlala ndaza ndamseta kwi-clamshell-emile engcangcazelayo. Yeyona nto ayithandayo, ngalo mzuzu. Uninzi lwexesha, uvuka onwabile kwaye siqala ngemini yethu. Ndithe ndisadiniwe, ubuso bakhe obunoncumo benza yonke into ibengcono. Ukuba uvuka edikidiki ekhala, masithi, ndilingisa indlela avakalelwa ngayo. Ndiqaphele kwangethuba ukuba indlela aluqala ngayo usuku lwakhe, iyichaphazela kakhulu indlela endiluqala ngayo olwam.

Ngo-8: 41 kusasa: Ndiya kwelinye igumbi ukuhlamba ubuso bam nokuhlamba amazinyo, kodwa emva komzuzu, uLucia undisayinile ukuba uyilungele ibhotile yakhe. Kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukufumana imizuzu nje embalwa kum yokwenza izinto ezincinci eziyimfuneko. Bendincancisa uLucia iinyanga ezintathu ezinesiqingatha xa yena (hayi mna) egqibe kwelokuba wonele. Ndandibuhlungu kakhulu ukuba ndingancancisi kwiinyanga ezintandathu zonke endandizicwangcisile, kodwa usana kunye nomphathi wam, ngoko kwakufuneka ndilandele imithetho yakhe. Okwangoku, sikwifomula kunye nokutya kwabantwana. (Eyeleleneyo: USerena Williams Uvula Ngesigqibo Sakhe Esinzima Sokuyeka Ukuncancisa)

I-9: 40 kusasa:Ubizo lwendalo, kodwa luhlobo lomntu, ukuba uyazi ukuba ndithetha ukuthini. Ndibalekela kwigumbi lokuhlambela, ndishiya uLucia ekhuselekile kwisitulo sakhe esiphakamileyo. Ndishiya ucango lwangasese luvulekile. Xa sele ungumama, uqhelana nokushiya ucango lokuhlambela luvuliwe ngaphantsinayiphi na iimeko. Ayinamsebenzi nokuba uyachama, ucupha, ucheba iinyawo okanye uhlamba amazinyo. Ndiva uLucia esiba nomdla omncinci ezibuza ukuba ndiye phi, kodwa endaweni yokungxama, ndiyazikhumbuza ukuba ukhuselekile kwaye ulungile ngaphandle komnyango. Kulungile ukuba angxolise umzuzu. Ukusukela ekukhulelweni kwam kunye necandelo lam le-c elingacwangciswanga, ukuya kwigumbi lokuhlambela kuye kwaba ngumngeni ngakumbi kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ndidinga uncedo lwee-laxatives ukwenza kube lula, ngoko ke ukungxamela le meko yangoku asiyondlela yokukhetha. Sekunjalo, ndithe ndisakuva elila xa ndizama ukuya kwigumbi langasese, ndaziva ndingenamandla. Akukho mntu ekhaya, ndiye ndalila.

Ngo-11: 35 kusasa: Mna noLucia sinyukela kwigumbi eliphezulu ukuze senze imisebenzi yasekhaya—izitya zifuna ukuhlanjwa, ukusongwa kwempahla nokulungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa.ULucia ebehleli ezolile kwisitulo sakhe esiphakamileyo, kwaye ndiye ndakwazi ukudibanisa yonke into ngesidlo sangokuhlwa ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Kwimenyu: inkukhu eyosiweyo, isaladi yeembotyi eluhlaza kunye ne-broccoli eyosiweyo.

Ngenene ndaphulukana nobuninzi bobunzima bam bokukhulelwa (malunga neekhilogram ezili-16) kwiinyanga zam zokuqala ezimbini zokuba ngumama ngenxa yokuba andizange ndifumane xesha lokutya, nto leyo eyandishiya ndinentloko ebuhlungu, ndiziva ndiqaqadekile kwaye ndilambe ndingenawo amandla xa ndandiwadinga ngokwenene. yona. Kulula kakhulu ukulibala ngawe xa usekhaya nosana lwakho endaweni yokubuyela emsebenzini kunye nemihla ebekiweyo yokukuphazamisa. Lilonke, isidlo sangokuhlwa esenziwe kwangaphambili loloyiso olukhulu kum! (Eyeleleneyo: Inzululwazi ithi Ukuba nosana lweTanki Ukuzithemba kwakho iminyaka emi-3 yonke)

12:00 p.m.:U-Lucia uqala ukuxaka kwisitulo sakhe esiphakamileyo-uphawu lokuba anele kukutya okuziinkozo kunye nemifuno. Ndimthatha ezantsi eyotshintsha idiaper kunye nexesha elincinci lokudlala ebhedini. Uncumo lukaLucia luyayinyibilikisa intliziyo yam njengoko efikelela isandla sakhe ebusweni bam. Ndisezulwini ndidlala naye ebhedini. Kodwa emva kwemizuzu embalwa, uqala ukuthambekisela intloko ecaleni. Udiniwe. Njengomama omtsha, bendinoloyiko ngokungakwazi ukufunda imiqondiso yeentombi zam, kodwa ndicinga ukuba ekugqibeleni ndiqala ukuqonda ukuba uzama ukunxibelelana nantoni. Ngamanye amaxesha ndiyifumana ngokuchanekileyo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, njengaxa ndicinga ukuba ulambile, kodwa ndiphose ibhotile ebusweni bam. Ukucingelwa kakubi.

12:37 pm:U-Lucia ulele kamnandi, njengokuba, hmmmm, ndinokuba nemizuzu engaphezu kwe-20 kum. Ndiza kwenza ntoni ngeli xesha? Ndinyukela phezulu ukuze ndizenzele isaladi emnandi yeGreek ngesidlo sasemini, ndabona nje ukuba isinki igcwele izitya ukusuka xa ndilungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa. Ukuba andizenzi, ngubani oza kuzenza? Nje ukuba ndicoca izitya ezimbalwa, ndenza isaladi, ndaya ezantsi, kwaye ndaphazamiseka kwangoko yikhompyuter yam endaweni yokutya ndithatha imizuzu embalwa yokuphumla, ndikhangela i-imeyile yam. Andilunganga ngokuphumla. Ndikufumanisa kunzima kakhulu ukwenza. Bendihlala ndinje kodwa ngoku ndingumama worse. Ngamanye amaxesha ndinqwenela ukuba ingqondo yam icinywe.

12:53 p.m.: Ndagqiba ndahlala phantsi ne lunch yam ndanxiba "Pretty Little Liars." Nceda ungandigwebi. I-Netflix iba ngumhlobo osenyongweni kamama omtsha xa ufuna ukonwabela imizuzu embalwa yoxolo ngaphandle kokucinga nantoni na.

1:44 p.m.:ULucia uvuka ebuthongweni bakhe. Wayelele ngaphezu kweyure! Uyazi ukuba ndenzeni ngelixesha ngaphandle kokutya kwaye uphumle? Akukho nto. Ngokuqinisekileyo akukho nto. Kubalulekile ukuba uhlale phantsi kwaye usule intloko ukuze uzuze umvuzo. Ewe, ngendandihlambe impahla okanye ndilungise indlu, kodwa xa uLucia elele kuphela kwexesha endinokuthi ndiphumle ngokwenene, ndiye ndithabathe.

3:37 pm: Ngoku sele evukile, ndilungisa igumbi lokulala ixesha elingaphezu kweyure emva koko ndalalisa uLucia ukuze ndilale kancinci. Ndambeka kwi-swing swing ehamba ngapha nangapha kwizantya ezahlukeneyo. Ekuqaleni, uyaxambulisana, kodwa emva kwemizuzu embalwa uzolile. Ndizama indlela entsha, nokuba nzima xa ndizama ukulala. Nokuba uyakhalaza, ndiyamlinda de ekugqibeleni alale. Kufuneka ube nomonde. Ndihleli kamnandi phantsi ecaleni kwakhe ixesha elingaphaya kwemizuzu engamashumi amabini ngaphambi kokuba asuke.

4:30 pm: Ndigqiba kwelokuba ndizame ukuzilolonga, nokuba kukancinci. Phambi kokuba ngumama, bendihlala ndifumana ixesha lokuzilolonga amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki ubuncinci imizuzu engama-45. Naxa ndandikhulelwe, ndandikwazi ukukhwela kwi-elliptical phantse yonke imihla. Ukuzilolonga bekusoloko kuyinxalenye yesiqhelo somama wam wangaphambili. Indincede ukuba ndihlale ndigxile kwaye ndigcine amandla am. Ngoku, ndizama ukucudisa kwimithambo emincinci nanini na ndikwazi. Ndikhwela ibhayisekile yam emileyo kwaye ndihamba ngenyawo kangangemizuzu eli-15. Ndiyayithanda indlela endiziva ngayo emva kokuba ndiphumile. Ndingathanda ukukwazi ukusebenza njengoko bendiqhele ukwenza, kodwa ngokunyanisekileyo ndingaziva ndinetyala ngokuthatha ixesha elininzi kum. Bendihlala ndisebenza ixesha elide, ndisebenza kakhulu, kodwa ixesha lam lixabisekile noLucia, kwaye andinako ukuzizisela ixesha elininzi lokuzilolonga. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni ufuna ngokwenene ukuyeka ukuphendula ii-imeyile phakathi kobusuku)

4:50 pm:Ndiyalamba, ndive intloko isiza. Ukulinda de isidlo sangokuhlwa ngokuqinisekileyo akunakukhetha. Ndivula imonitha yomntwana, ndibeke uLucia ovukileyo ngoku kwisitulo sakhe esiphakamileyo kwaye ndiye phezulu ukuya kwenza i-snack: iiradishes ezinqunqiweyo, iikomkomere kunye neetumato ngeoli encinci yomnquma, ityuwa, kunye nepepile. U-Lucia uyageza kwaye uphinda alwe nokulala. Andincami. Ndimnika iti encinci kwaye ndiqala ukushukumisela isitulo sakhe ngapha nangapha ukumthoba. Ndihlala apho okokoko ndide ndilale. Le ndlela ayisiyi kuba lula, kwaye ithatha isahlulo esihle sosuku lwam, kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba ekugqibeleni izakufaneleka. ULucia ulala ixesha elide kwaye rhoqo ngoku. Ekugqibeleni uyokulala emva kwemizuzu engama-20 kwaye umama uya kukonwabela ukutya kwakhe.

Kunzima ukungacingi ngam ngendlela endandiqhele ukwenza ngayo. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, ukuba ndifuna into (ukutya, ishawa, ukuzilolonga) bendiya kuyenza ngokulula. Ngoku izinto zintsonkothile. Bekukho amaxesha okuba ndilambe ndifune ukutya, no Lucia ke yena ufika kuqala. Ndihlala ndibeka iimfuno zakhe ngaphambi kwezam. Ndijonge phambili kwimini apho izinto eziphambili ziya kuba bhetyebhetye kwakhona.

5:23 p.m.: Ndigqiba kwelokuba ndizame ukulala kancinci. Umntwana ulele, ngoko ke nam kufuneka ndizame ukulala, akunjalo? Ndingena ebhedini kwaye okwesibini ndivala amehlo, ndiva uLucia evuka. Ukhonkotha kamnandi. Kakhulu ukulala kukamama. Ndandijonge phambili ekuphumleni kancinci. Ndiziva ndidanile kuba ngokucacileyo ayizukwenzeka namhlanje.

Ngo-7: 09 pm:Ndizisa uLucia phezulu ndimbeke kwisihlalo sakhe esiphakamileyo ecaleni komyeni wam osandula ukubuya emsebenzini kunye nomama odlulile, ukuze sitye isidlo sangokuhlwa silusapho. Kodwa, uLucia unezicwangciso ezahlukeneyo. Akafuni kutya.

Ndiya kuqala izitya kodwa uLucia wolulela iingalo zakhe kum, ethetha ukuba ufuna ukudlala. Siye sajongana phantsi sadlala ebhedini. Ndimbeke phantsi kwaye ndimnyumbaza iinyawo zakhe ezincinci kwaye siziqhelanisa nobuchule bokuqengqeleka.

Ngequbuliso, uLucia uqala ukumenzela usana oluncinci "ukukhala", kwaye ndiyaliva ilixesha lolunye utshintsho lwe-diaper. Oko kwakukhawuleza: Kwimizuzu emibini ngaphambi kokuba sidlale kamnandi kwaye into elandelayo endiyaziyo, ndiyaliva ukuba undenzele "isipho" esikhulu.

8:15 pm: ULucia ucikica amehlo kwaye ezonwaya intloko. NONQABA: "Ndinike ukutya, ndilale !!" Ndibeka uLucia kwijingi yakhe ethembekileyo kwakhona. Ngexesha leenyanga ezimbalwa zokuqala ukuba noLucia ekhaya, oku kujika kwaba sisindisi sobomi bam. Xa kungekho nto ndiyenzileyo ingamenza alale, le swing yayiyeyona nto yayinokwenzeka.

8:36 pm: U-Lucia ulele, ujika ngapha nangapha kunye nokudlala kwakhe. Unosuku olupheleleyo lokuba mhle, ukungcungcuthekisa, ukutya kunye nokudlala nomama. Kuyadinisa ukuba lusana, kodwa mhlawumbi kuyakhathaza nangakumbi ukuba ngumama. Ndiyazikhumbuza ukuba ngenxa yokuba ndingumama odiniweyo oko akuthethi ukuba ndidiniwe ukuba ngumama. Ukuba ngumama ngumsebenzi osisigxina onexesha elongezelelekileyo, kwaye azikho iiholide. Ewe, ndidiniwe. Ewe ndinentloko encinci. Ewe ndingathanda ixesha elincinci kum, nditsho nokupeyinta iinzipho zam, kodwa ndiyakuthanda ukudlala naye ebhedini. Ndiyathanda ukumbona efumanisa iintshukumo ezintsha. Ndiyakuthanda ukumtyisa. Ndiyayithanda yonke into malunga nale ntombazana incinci, nokuba ndiyizombi yokuhamba.

I-8: 39 pm:Hmm, ndingabhala eli nqaku, kodwa endaweni yoko, ndithatha isigqibo sokuthatha ezi yure zokugqibela zobusuku kum kwaye ndiphumle phambi kweTV kwiipjama zam kunye neebhiskithi ezimbalwa kwaye ewe, ngaphezulu "Amaxoki amancinci amancinci." (Unxulumene: UMama wabelana ngePosi eQinisekayo yokuThembela malunga nokuba ngumzali onesifo sengqondo)

9:01 pm:Umntwana ubonakala elele ebusuku. Kwanele ngeNetflix. Ndiye ebhedini.

12:32 a.m.:U-Lucia uvuka ekhangela into yakhe yokuthambisa. Ndimnika iti encinci, kodwa akanamdla kwaye uyayityhala. Ndiyinika i-pacifier. Ihlala iphuma. Ndiphinde ndayifaka. Iphuma ngaphandle. U-Lucia uyaxakaniseka. Uqalisa ukulila. Emva kwemizuzu engaphezulu kwe-15 yokuxhathisa, ndiyamnyusa ndimlalise ebhedini nomyeni wam kunye nam. Ndiyambamba ndimqinise ndizame ukumenza aphumle. Ndidinwe kakhulu, kodwa kufuneka ndibuye ndilale naye, ngokunjalo nam. Eminye imizuzu eli-15 kamva, uyaphinda alale, yaye nam ndiyazama ukwenza okufanayo.

4:19 kusasa.: ULucia uvuka elila. Ndiyamxelela ukuba unamazinyo kuba ubeka inqindi emlonyeni wakhe kwaye uvuza kakhulu. Ndizama ukumthulisa. Ndimfunqule ndimane ndimphulula apha emqolo apha esifubeni kodwa akayekanga ukulila. Ndiyazama ukumnika into enceda amazinyo akhethekileyo, kodwa akakhathali. Uyityhala. Ndizama ukumbeka phantsi ndimphulule intloko neempumlo, nto leyo aqhele ukuyithanda, kodwa ukhathazekile. Ndimbuyisele ekujikeni kwakhe ukushukuma okushukumayo kumnceda ukuba alale, kodwa uyalila nje imizuzu elishumi. Ndincame ndabuya naye ebhedini nathi. Emva kweminye imizuzu engamashumi amabini yokulila, ekugqibeleni, uthi chu abuye ubuthongo. Ndidiniwe. Ndiya kwigumbi lokuhlambela, emva koko ndathatha umnxeba wam ukwenza ukukhangela okuncinci ku-Facebook ebhedini. Nje ukuba ndiqonde ukuba sele elele imizuzu eyi-15, ndiye ndagqiba kwelokuba kukhuselekile ukuba ndiphinde ndilale.

Ngo-7: 31 kusasa:ULucia undivusa ngoncumo oluhle, olumnandi. Silungele enye imini yohambo lukamama nosana. Ewe ndifuna ukulala. Ewe ndifuna ukutya. Ewe, ndifuna ixesha lokufunda. Kodwa uLucia kufuneka atyiswe atshintshwe acocwe anxitywe. Kwaye emva koko kufuneka ayenze kwakhona kwakhona. Ndingenza yonke enye into...kamva.

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