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Ukutya okunesondlo, ukubethwa ngumkhuhlane, ukuhlamba izandla-zonke iindlela zothintelo zilungile, kodwa eyona ndlela ilula yokuzikhusela kulomkhuhlane kungabonakalisa uthando: Ukuwola kunceda ukukhusela uxinzelelo kunye nosulelo, ngokutsho kovavanyo olutsha lweCarnegie Mellon. (Jonga ezi ndlela zilula zi-5 zokuhlala ubanda- kunye neFlu-Free nayo.)

Ngaphandle kwentliziyo yokuphepha ukunxibelelana ngokusondeleyo ngexesha lomkhuhlane, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba ngokufuthi ukwamkela umntu, mancinci amathuba okuba ube nezifo ezinxulumene noxinzelelo kunye neempawu zokugula kakhulu. Ngoba? Abaphandi abaqinisekanga ngesona sizathu, kodwa baqinisekile koku: Ukuwolana kuyinto eqhelekileyo (kwaye ayimangalisi) into yokumakisha ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, ngenxa yoko abantu abaninzi obagubungelayo, kokukhona unenkxaso kwezentlalo.

Uphando oludlulileyo lubonise ukuba abantu abafumana ukungqubana okuqhubekayo nabanye abakwazi ukulwa nentsholongwane ebandayo, utshilo umbhali okhokelayo uSheldon Cohen, Ph.D., uprofesa wezengqondo eCarnegie Mellon. Phakathi kwama-400-kunye nabantu abadala abasempilweni abavezwe ngabom kwintsholongwane yengqele eqhelekileyo kuphononongo, nangona kunjalo, abo banike ingxelo yenkxaso yentlalontle kwaye batyhola i-hugs eninzi babeneempawu zomkhuhlane ezingenamandla kunabathathi-nxaxheba abangenabuhlobo, nokuba balwe nabanye ngexesha lokugula kwabo. .

Ke ngelixa siqonda ithuku lokubaleka umntakwenu ophunga, ukwamkela abo ubathandayo le holide kunokukugcina usempilweni. Kodwa kuya kufuneka usazi ukuba ungakuphepha njani ukuthanjiswa (kunye nokugula), ukuze ukhuseleke.

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