Unokwabelana njani ngesondo esimangalisayo kunye nawo nawuphi na umzimba

Umxholo

• 1. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuba bayayifuna!
• 2. Cinga ngekotoni yomnwe okanye iglavu.
• 3. Sebenza ngaphandle ngaphakathi.
• 4. Zama ngemivumbo eyahlukeneyo.
• 5. Dlala umdlalo womboniso kwaye uxelele.
• 6. Yongeza i-lube!
• 7. Cinga ngolonwabo lwakho.
• 8. Zama iindlela ezintsha zokwabelana ngesondo.
• 9. Yongeza embalwa (okanye ngaphezulu ...) iminwe.
• 10. Ngenisa ucango lwangasemva.
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Ukuba handy. Hanky-panky ngesandla. Biza isondo ngesandla nokuba yeyiphi na into oyifunayo, vele uyeke ukuyityhala ecaleni (okanye uyibeke kwisikolo esiphakathi) ngokungathi ayifanelanga indawo eqhelekileyo kubomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo.

"Ndiyakholelwa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ezona zinto zokudlala zibalaseleyo kwihlabathi liphela zingasekupheleni kweengalo zakho - izandla zakho," utshilo utitshala wezesondo uSarah Sloane, obeqeqesha iiklasi zokudlala ngesondo kwiGood Vibrations nakwiPleasure Chest ukusukela ngo2001. , bamba, yiya ngokukhawuleza okanye ngokucothayo, istoke, istoke, isangqa, itephu. " Kwaye (!) Banokuziqhelanisa ngokujonga kwindlela osabela ngayo kwiqabane lakho. "Kwisahlulo sesibini, ungonyusa (okanye unciphise) uxinzelelo, isantya, kunye nesingqisho-esekwe kwindlela abasabela ngayo." (Akukho mthunzi kwizinto zokudlala zesondo, kodwa akukho vibrator inokusabela i-lickity-split ngolo hlobo.)

Ukucinga ukuba ungamcofa njani umntu ngomnwe okanye unikezele ngesandla ngesandla esimnandi kakhulu ukuba singasebenza njengeyona khosi iphambili? Nantsi yonke into oyifunayo ukuyazi-ukusuka kwiingcali zokudlala ngesandla kunye nazo zonke izinto zokuzonwabisa-malunga nokunika iqabane lakho isandla (i-orgasm).

1. Okokuqala, qiniseka ukuba bayayifuna!

Iintsana, ukuhlaselwa okwenziwa ngesandla ziukubetha. Ke nceda, ngothando lokuvuma, qiniseka ukuba i-boo yakho ifuna ukonwatyiswa sisandla sakho ngaphambi kokufikelela phakathi kwemilenze yabo. K? Kwaye ukuba uhamba ngaphandle kokuthetha, kodwa qiniseka ukuba ucacile malunga nokuba yintoni wena ufuna kweli sebe phambi kokuba iqabane likuchukumise nawe.

Eminye imigca onokuyizama:

• "Ndingathanda ukuva ukuba njani [faka isichazi esinjengeliqinile, elimanzi, elityibilikayo, elityebileyo, njl.njl] ngesandla sam. Ndingayikhulula ibhulukhwe yakho ndikubambe?"
• "Ufuna ndikubethe phantsi kwempahla yakho yangaphantsi?"
• "Ngaba uyafuna ukukhupha oku [ * kwimpahla yangaphantsi / ibhulukhwe *] ukuze ndikwazi ukuqhula ngezandla zam?"

2. Cinga ngekotoni yomnwe okanye iglavu.

PSA: Umngcipheko uphantsi, kodwa wona ngu Usulelo ngesondo lesandla-ngakumbi ukuba izandla / umnwe womniki unokusikwa okuncinci (ii-hangnails, ukusika amaphepha, njl.).

Izifo ezosulela ngokwabelana ngesondo zikwangumngcipheko. Isandla sinokusebenza njengevektha, uyachaza uSloane. "Ukuba iqabane lakho line-STI kwaye uyalibamba, emva koko uzibambe ngaphandle kokufaka iglavu okanye uhlambe isandla sakho kuqala, usulelo lunokusasazeka."

Kulapho iikhondom zeminwe kunye neeglavu zelatex zidlala khona. "Ezi zithintelo zesini ezikhuselekileyo zihamba phezu kweminwe yakho ngexesha lezesondo zedijithali, ukuthintela ulwelo lomzimba ukuba luphele kulusu lwakho," utshilo. (Jonga: Luthini ukhuseleko ngokwesondo, ngokuchanekileyo?)

Nokuba akukho thuba lokuba kudluliswe i-STI phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho (aka nina nobabini nivavanyiwe kwaye nibe nodwa) kwaye izandla zomnikeli bezisandula ukwenziwa manicured, usenokucinga ngokufaka iglavu ukuze udlale ngesandla. Ngoba? Ngenxa yokuba iiglavu zenza izandla zakho zihambe kakuhle. "Ukubeka iglavu kukunika ukutyibilika okutyibilizi kwinto yokudlala ngesondo, kodwa ubuchule bokusetyenziswa kweminwe yakho," utsho uSloane.

Ngaphaya koko, ukubeka igloves imiqondiso kwiqabane lakho ukuba ufuna ukuyinqula ngesandla sakho, utshilo. "Kwiindawo zekink, ngakumbi, isikhuseli sibonisa ukuba indawo eshushu sele iza kwenzeka. Isetyenziswa njengesixhobo sokwakha ulindelo."

3. Sebenza ngaphandle ngaphakathi.

Eli lelona cebiso lililo lokuba ungacofa njani umntu umnwe okanye unike isandla ngesandla into eyonwabisayo: "Eyona mpazamo inkulu bayenzayo abantu xa besabelana ngesondo ngesandla ihamba kakuhle kwindawo yemali," utsho uSloane. Endaweni yokuba ngokukhawuleza uphulule i-shaft yeqabane lakho, wenze izangqa kwi-clit yabo, okanye uyifake kuyo, uchithe ixesha elithile uqhula amathanga abo angaphandle nangaphakathi, isisu, i-pubic mound, kunye ne-labia. Oku kuyakonyusa ulindelo kunye nokwakha imvuselelo. "Ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, baya kukucela ukuba ubambe okanye ungene ngaphakathi," utshilo uSearah Deysach, umfundisi-ntsapho wexesha elide kunye nomnini we-Early to Bed, inkampani yemveliso yolonwabo eChicago ehambisa inqanawa kwihlabathi liphela.

Ukuba ufumana ukukhanya okuluhlaza, unokuphinda uchukumise i-perineum-isikhumba phakathi komngxuma kunye nezitho zangasese. "Eli qhekeza leethishu lisabela kakuhle xa liphulwe kuba lixinene," utsho uSloane. Yaye kubantu abanedlala lengqula, ngokungangqalanga ivuselela idlala lobudoda. (Related: 8 Male Erogenous Zones Wena mhlawumbi ungahoyi ngexesha leSex)

“Uninzi lwabantu abane-penis-havers bafumanisa ukuba ukufumana amasende kwisenzo kunokuba yibhonasi enkulu yokusebenzisa izandla zakho,” wongeza uDeysach.

4. Zama ngemivumbo eyahlukeneyo.

"Nokuba injani imilo yelungu leqabane lakho, ukusebenzisa imivumbo eyahlukeneyo yindlela entle yokuqalisa imisebenzi yakho yezandla," utshilo uDeysach.

Ukuba iqabane lakho linelungu lobudoda, "zama ukusebenzisa imivumbo emide uye phezulu eshafini, ujije isihlahla sakho nje ngokubetha," utshilo. "Okanye ubambe i-shaft ngezandla zozibini kwaye usebenzise izithupha zakho ukwenza izangqa ngaphantsi kwelungu lobudoda bakhe, kanye kwi-frenulum [emphethweni wentloko] apho abantu abaninzi banovelwano kakhulu."

Ukuba iqabane lakho linomntu obhinqileyo, zama ukubetha ukusuka phezulu ukuya ezantsi xa iqabane lakho linendawo ebuthathaka, kunye nokwehla xa iqabane lakho lithanda ukuvuselelwa ngokuthe ngqo, ucebisa uSloane. "Ungazama ukuhambisa iminwe yakho kwizangqa ezilingana newotshi, ujikeleze iiwotshi, kwaye ungene kwi-clitoris," utshilo. "Kwaye ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuthanda ukungena kwaye liyayifuna, unokuzama ukuyicofa." (Idibeneyo: Isikhokelo se-Insider sokulala nomnye umfazi okokuqala)

P.S. Ungalibazisi ukufaka izandla zozibini kwisenzo. "Unokuzama ukufaka iminwe emibini (okanye nangaphezulu) kwilungu lobufazi lomlingane wakho ngelixa usebenzisa esinye isandla ukubetha iklit. Okanye ukusika amasende eqabane lakho ngesandla esinye ngelixa ubetha ngeshafti ngesinye, utshilo uDysach.

5. Dlala umdlalo womboniso kwaye uxelele.

Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba ungalifaka njani ngomnwe iqabane lakho okanye ungalinika njani i-handjob eza kuthi ngokuqinisekileyo ngathi, "eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokukholisa iqabane lakho kukuqonda ukuba lifuna ukuchukunyiswa njani kwaye phi," utshilo uRebecca Alvarez Story, M.A., isazi ngesondo kunye nomseki wentengiso yokhathalelo olusondeleyo eBloomi. Eyona ndlela yokufunda? Bajonge i-masturbate. "Kukunika isihlalo esingaphambili kwiseshoni yokuqeqesha abantu besini esabelana ngesandla," utshilo. (Idibeneyo: Isikhokelo (Ha!) Isikhokelo sokuPhulula amalungu esini ngokuzibetha)

Ukuba iqabane lakho line-vulva: Ngaba bathanda icala lasekunene le-clit yabo okanye ekhohlo? Ngaba bayachukumisa ngaphezulu kwe-clitoral hood, okanye bachitha ixesha elininzi behlikihla iilabia zabo? Ngaba bayazicofa okanye bayigcina ngaphandle?

Ukuba iqabane lakho linelungu lobudoda: Ngaba bajija isandla sabo xa behlwaya behla eshafini okanye behamba ngqo? Ngaba bayazivuselela iibhola zabo okanye i-perineum amaxesha ngamaxesha? Yonke le nto intel kuwe!

Ukuba iqabane lakho likwicala elineentloni, usenokubeka isandla phezu kwesakho ukuze likukhokelele kwisingqisho esonwabelayo, utsho uSloane.

“Ungade uyijike ibe yiseshoni yokuphulula amalungu esini apho nobabini nibukele enye i-masturbate,” utshilo uDeysach. Esaphakathi, mhlawumbi nobabini ningatshintsha ekubeni nichukumise umzimba wenu niye kubambana omnye nomnye, utshilo.

6. Yongeza i-lube!

Phinda emva kwam: Akukho senzo sesondo singu * hayi senziwe ngcono nge-lube. "Xa lomile, ulusu ekunxibelelaneni nolusu ludala ukungqubana okunokubangela iintlungu," ucacisa uDysysach. ILube inceda iminwe yakho ukutyibilika ngaphezulu kweebits zomthandi wakho ngokuchaseneyo nokunamathela kuyo kunye nokuzibamba. Yhu. (Kwaye, kuyimfuneko ukuba uceba ukubandakanya i-anus-kodwa siya kufika apha ngezantsi.)

Ngokubanzi, uDeysach ucebisa i-lube esekwe kwi-silicone efana ne-Uberlube yesini esenziwa ngesandla. "Ihlala ixesha elide, ngoko akuyomfuneko ukuba uyisebenzise rhoqo." Nangona kunjalo, i-lube esekwe kwisilicon ayinakusetyenziswa ngeethoyi ze-silicone, ke ukuba unazo naziphi na izicwangciso zokuzisa i-silicone vibrator emva kwemini, uya kufuna ukukhetha i-lube esekwe emanzini (njenge-Sliquid Sassy ) endaweni yoko.

"Ukuba iqabane lakho linelungu lobufazi, ungazama i-CBD-i-lube ephuculweyo, enokunceda ukuzisa ukuhamba kwegazi kwizitho zangasese ukunciphisa iintlungu ngexesha lokungena okanye ukomeleza imvakalelo," utshilo uDeysach. (Okanye yiya kwioyile evuselelayo, enesiphumo esifanayo.) Ukuba usebenzisa iiglavu zelatex okanye ucwangcise ukusebenzisa iikhondom zasemva kwexesha ngokuhlwa, khetha iGoLove CBD Lube, esekwe emanzini. Ngaphandle koko, iilubes ze-CBD ezisekwe kwi-oyile ezifana ne-Foria Awaken kunye ne-Quim Intimate Serum zilungile. "Ii-lubes ezivuthayo nazo zikhethwa kakhulu kwi-sex yesandla eya kutshintshela okanye idibaniswe nesondo somlomo," utshilo.

7. Cinga ngolonwabo lwakho.

Sebenzisa isandla sakho ukwenza iqabane lakho ukuba linyabe, likhwaze, kunye ne-squirt kunokuba yi-HOT. Nangona kunjalo, kulungile ngokupheleleyo ukuba unqwenela ukuvuselela amalungu akho angasese, nawe!

Inketho enye: Sebenzisa isandla esinye ukuzibetha kunye nesinye ukubetha iqabane lakho. (Kwakhona, usulelo lwe-STI lunokuba semngciphekweni ukuba usebenzisa isandla esinye nakuwe neqabane lakho).

Enye: Zisa into yokudlala kumxube! Ukuba une-vulva, ungazama ukusika i-panty vibrator, njenge-We-Vibe Moxie (Yithenge, $159, ellaparadis.com), kwiskivvies zakho zokuvuselela i-clitoral. Inxalenye emnandi malunga neMoxie kukuba inokulawulwa nangolawulo olukude okanye usetyenziso, oko kuthetha ukuba unganikezela ngesilawuli kwiqabane lakho kwaye ubavumele batshintshe ukungcangcazela. (Izinto eziNxulumeneyo: Ezona Panti ziDlikidlayo ziGqibayo kwi-DL).

Ukuba unayo ipenisi, unokuzama ukunxiba isidlidlizi esifana neLelo Tor 2 (Yithenge, $ 140, lelo.com), iringi engcangcazelayo enokuhambisa ukungcangcazela kwe-buzzy kwiibhola zakho, okanye kwi-MysteryVibe Tenuto (Ithenge, $ 150 , sirivibe.com), ehambisa ukungcangcazela ukusuka entlokweni ukuya engxoweni enokulawulwa ngokusebenza.

Kwaye, ewe, unokuhlala ucela iqabane lakho ukuba liboleke isandla.

8. Zama iindlela ezintsha zokwabelana ngesondo.

Akukho ntloni kumdlalo wesondo wesandla somthunywa wevangeli. Kodwa umamkeli kumqolo wabo, i-stroker phakathi kwemilenze yabo ayisiyiyo yodwa indawo yesini se-sexy manual. (PS awunayo i-masturbate kwindawo efanayo rhoqo, nokuba kunjalo.)

Isitayile se-Doggy lukhetho oluhle kuye nawuphi na owamkelayo othanda ukuziva ethobekile, kunye nabanini be-vulva abonwabela ukungena nzulu.

Ukuba ucwangcisa ukufaka umlomo wakho (intloko apha yeengcebiso zesini ngomlomo), unokufumana umntu owamkelayo (okanye ngezantsi nje) kobuso bakho. Ngenxa yokuba oku kunokubeka amahlombe akho kwindawo engathandekiyo, "tshintsha izikhundla ukuba awuziva ukhululekile!" utsho uSloane. "Kuya kuba ngcono kwaye kube mnandi ngakumbi kuni nobabini ukuba anicingi ngengalo ebuhlungu okanye isinqe."

Ukuchwechwela i-quickie yedyasi? Okanye uphakame ukuze ube manzi 'n zasendle kwishower? Logama nje omabini amaqabane ekwazi ukuxhasa ubunzima bomzimba wabo kangangexesha elithile, ukuma ngesondo ngesandla kunokuba yinto emangalisayo, utshilo uSloane. Fika nje phakathi kwemilenze yabo kunye ne-bada-bing, i-bada-boom. (Idibeneyo: Ungayifumana njani isondo ngesondo eyamangalisa ngokwenene)

9. Yongeza embalwa (okanye ngaphezulu ...) iminwe.

Umnwe omnye okanye emibini uziva ulungile? Qhubeka kwaye wongeze enye. Kwaye ukuba kuvakala kulungile? Enye. Enye yezinto abanye abantu abonwabileyo kukungena kukuziva ugcwele, utshilo uSloane. "Kwabanye abantu, isangqa seminwe emithathu okanye emine siziva silunge ngokwenyani, kwaye kwabanye, isinqindi senqindi sesona sivakalelwa ngcono nangakumbi."

Ukuba awuzange uhlolisise ukubetha ngaphambili, mhlawumbi ucinga ngengqindi-enje, yithi, leyo ikumqondiso wamandla oluntu. Kodwa ayisebenzi njalo. Endaweni yoko, cinga malunga nendlela onokuthi udibanise ngayo izandla zakho ukuba uya kuzama ukungena kwi-pickle jar ukuze ubambe eso siqwenga sokugqibela se-dill indlela esezantsi. Mhlawumbi unokwenza ubume obunjengomlomo-yile ndlela ubuya kuyisebenzisa ukubeka yonke iminwe emihlanu kumjelo welungu lobufazi.

"Sakuba isandla sakho singenile, ungazama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokunyikimisa okanye ukujikeleza ukunceda ukubetha iindawo ezishushu zangaphakathi," utshilo uSloane. (Bona: I-4 Deep Vaginal Pleasure Zones You should Check Out) Kwaye, ungaqala ukwandisa isandla sakho ukuqinisa imvakalelo yokuzala ukuya kwinqanaba elikhulu ngakumbi. Ilungu lobufazi lomntu wonke linemilo eyahlukileyo, ke kungathatha uvavanyo oluncinci kunye nephutha kunye nonxibelelwano ukufumana ukuba yeyiphi i-engile elungileyo kunye nentshukumo yokuhamba, utshilo.

10. Ngenisa ucango lwangasemva.

Ewe, ewe. Umngxuma wokuphanga. I-mecca ehlala ihoywa rhoqo yolonwabo olunokubakho. "Kukho iitoni zeziphelo zemithambo-luvo ezibuthathaka kwi-anus, zijikeleze i-anal sphincter, nakwi-bum uqobo," utsho uDysach. Kwaye kuyinyani kubantu bazo zonke izitho zangasese, yingakho athi, "kubantu abaninzi, ukongezwa komdlalo wokudlala kwi-manual yokuvuselela isisu kungakhokelela kwiingqungquthela ezinobungozi." Kunyanzelekile, akunjalo? (Jonga Ngakumbi: Indlela yokuLungiselela iSex ngoMpundu, ngokweeNgcali).

Ngoku, ngaphambi kokuba singene nzulu kwi * njani ukongeza iesile kwisandla sakho sokudlala, yazi oku: Akufanele uphinde ubuyele esinqeni ubuyele kwilungu lobufazi ngesandla esifanayo ngaphandle kokucoca. Ukwenza njalo kuya kuthwala iibhaktheriya ukusuka kwi-butt ngaphezulu kwelungu lobufazi, kuthi, kubantu abane-microbiome ye-vaginal ethembekileyo, bangadibana ne-pH yelungu lobufazi kwaye babangele usulelo olucaphukisayo njengosulelo lwegwele, i-bacterial vaginosis, okanye usulelo lwe-urinary tract, ucacisa uSloane. “[Olu sulelo] lunokucocwa zonke ngamayeza, kodwa kungcono ukuluphepha usulelo ngokupheleleyo,” utshilo. Kulungile!

Ukuba iqabane lakho linelungu lobufazi, esinye isisombululo kukuba "nesandla sangasese" kunye ne "anus hand." Enye kukubeka iglavu phambi kokuba uye kumngxuma ongasemva kwaye uyilahle ngaphambi kokuba ubuyele kumngxuma ongaphambili. Okanye, ungasebenzisa umlomo wakho, iplagi ye-butt, umtya wamaso anal, okanye i-prostate massager ukuvuselela iziphelo zemithambo-luvo kwi-butt kwaye ugcine isandla sakho apho sikhoyo.

Ukuba iqabane lakho linelungu lobudoda, nangona kunjalo, kukho ingozi encinci yokungcoliseka. “Ukusebenzisa umnwe othanjiswe kakuhle ukuphulula umsesane wemithambo-luvo ekuvulekeni kwe-anus kunokuziva kumnandi kakhulu,” utshilo uDeysach. "Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakonwabela oko kuvuma kwaye livuma ukungena, ungongeza i-lube ngakumbi kwaye uslayida umnwe wakho ngaphakathi emngxunyeni." Qala ngokusebenzisa ukubetha okucothayo, okunesingqi ukunceda iqabane lakho liziqhelanise nemvakalelo yokugcwala.

Emva kwexesha ulapho ungazama ukufumana idlala lengqula (owaziwa ngokuba yi-G-spot). "Ifumaneke malunga nee-intshi ezimbini ukuya kwethathu ngaphakathi komzimba ukuya phambili komzimba, uxinzelelo lwe-P-indawo kunye nokuvuselela kunokukhokelela ekuqhumeni, emzimbeni wonke kwabanye abantu," utsho. (ICYWW: sesinye sezizathu zokuba ukupeyinta kube mnandi kakhulu.)

Owu, kwaye umntu owamkelayo unokuhlala enxiba iplagi yempuphu ukuze aqhubeke novakalelo lokugcwala kwe-anal. Ukuba awunazo iithoyi zesini ezimpundu, jonga olu luhlu lweethoyi ezinconyelwa ngokwesini.

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