Imizabalazo yam emi-6 efihliweyo yoxinzelelo

Umxholo

• 1. Andifuni ukuphuma endlwini
• 2. Ukuziva unetyala ngalo lonke ixesha
• 3. Ungazikhathazi ngokugcina ucoceko olulungileyo
• 4. Ukunyanzelwa ukuba ulale yonke imihla
• 5. Ukuqiniseka ukuba wonke umntu ukuthiyile
• 6. Akulicoci ikhaya lakho iinyanga ngexesha
• Yintoni abantu abanxinzelelo abanethemba lokuba uyayiqonda

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Ndiyaqonda ukuba ezi mvakalelo zilandelayo kunye nemisebenzi ayinakuba nengqondo kuye wonke umntu, kodwa kubantu abanoxinzelelo, yimizabalazo efihlakeleyo.

Sonke sinemikhwa esiqhele ukuyenza suku ngalunye, kwaye ezinye zezi zinto zinengqiqo kunezinye. Nantsi imikhwa emithandathu endiyenzayo xa ndidandathekile.

1. Andifuni ukuphuma endlwini

Abanye abantu abanexinzelelo banokungabikho endlwini iiveki okanye nangaphezulu. Zininzi izizathu zoku, kuxhomekeke kubani ocelayo. Abanye, kukuzicaphukela. Kwabanye, kukudinwa. Uxinzelelo lunamandla okuphumelela kungekuphela ukuthanda kwakho, kodwa kunye nokukwazi kwakho ukushiya indlu.

Amandla afunekayo ekuthengeni ukutya ayifumaneki. Uloyiko lokuba wonke umntu obaleka kuye uya kukuzonda uyinyani. Le loop yokucinga yokungaqiniseki idala imeko apho kunzima khona ukuphuma ngomnyango wangaphambili.

2. Ukuziva unetyala ngalo lonke ixesha

Ukuziva unetyala yimvakalelo eqhelekileyo. Ukuba wenze into ozisolayo ngayo, ityala liya kulandela. Into yokudakumba nangona kunjalo, inokubangela ukuba uzive unetyala akhonto okanye ngaphezulu yonke into.

Ukuziva ndinetyala eneneni luphawu loxinzelelo kwaye sesona sizathu sokuba xa ndifumana uxinzelelo, ndiziva ngathi ndithatha iingxaki zehlabathi. Umzekelo, abantu abanodandatheko banokuziva benetyala ngokungakwazi ukunceda abantu abangamaxhoba entlekele yendalo kwaye oku, kubenza bazive bengento yanto.

Ewe, ukuziva unetyala malunga nezinto ezikufutshane nekhaya, njengokuziva unetyala ngokungazenzisiyo ngokungavisisani, kuqheleke ngakumbi.

3. Ungazikhathazi ngokugcina ucoceko olulungileyo

Ucoceko olufanelekileyo kufuneka ukuba lunikwe. Hlamba yonke imihla okanye usondele kuyo. Hlamba amazinyo akho, wenze iinwele zakho, kwaye unonophele umzimba wakho. Kodwa xa uxinzelelo luza, abo bachaphazelekayo banokuyeka ukushawa-iiveki nokuba, ukuba isiqephu sihlala ixesha elide. Kuvakala ngathi "kubi" kodwa yile nto uyenza uxinzelelo. Ingenza umntu agule kakhulu ukuba ahlambe.

Ngamanye amaxesha ukubetha kwamanzi kubuhlungu emzimbeni. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuhamba ze kubuhlungu. Umbono weshawa unokuzisa iimvakalelo zokungabi nto yanto. Usenokuziva ungakufanelekelanga ukucoceka. Okufanayo kuya kweminye imisebenzi njengokuxukuxa okanye ukuhlamba ubuso.

Ukudakumba kunokujika nje izenzo zokuzinakekela zibe yimisebenzi yokuhambisa amanzi esingenawo amandla okwenza.

4. Ukunyanzelwa ukuba ulale yonke imihla

Abantu bafuna malunga neeyure ezisibhozo zokulala ubusuku bonke, akunjalo? Ewe, oko kunokuba yinyani kuninzi, kodwa abantu abanokudakumba okukhulu banokufumana kunzima ukungalali imini yonke.

Rhoqo xa abantu abanoxinzelelo bevuka, abaziva bephumle kwaphela. Abaziva ngathi balele. Abanamandla kwaye basalele. Oku kukhokelela ekulaleni emva kokulala emva kokulala, kungekho sixa sokulala kubonakala ngathi sivelisa ukuphumla.

5. Ukuqiniseka ukuba wonke umntu ukuthiyile

Ebomini, abanye abantu baya kukuthanda kwaye abanye abantu abayikukuthanda. Oku kuqhelekile, akunjalo? Kwimeko yengqondo esempilweni, uninzi lwabantu luya kwamkela izinto ezintle ngezinto ezingalunganga. Kodwa ukudakumba kufana noMtyholi egxalabeni lakho, ukusebeza de abantu bazithiye kwaye baqinisekile ukuba wonke umntu nabo uyabacaphukela.

Uxinzelelo lubonisa yonke into encinci, eyaziwayo, enokwenzeka encinci kwaye isebenzisa oku "njengobungqina" bokuba wonke umntu uyakucaphukela. Olu luvo lwentiyo luye lubenze abantu abadandathekileyo bazive bedandatheke ngakumbi.

6. Akulicoci ikhaya lakho iinyanga ngexesha

Ngokufana nomsebenzi otyhafisayo wokuhlamba - ukucoca, ukuthulisa uthuli kunye nokucoca kungabonakala kulungile kumbuzo. Ukungakhathali luvakalelo oluqhelekileyo noxinzelelo. Abanye abantu abadandathekileyo banokuziva bengakufanelekelanga ukuhlala kwindawo ecocekileyo.

Ukungakhathali kunokuzikhathaza iingqondo zethu kwaye kususe amavumba abolileyo, kuba sicinga ukuba sikunye nenkunkuma. Okanye sicinga ukuba singayenza kamva, kuba sibona isiqendu esinoxinzelelo sinokudlula. Uxinzelelo luthatha amandla ethu amaninzi-ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni -kuba kufuneka sikhethe ukuba sikusebenzisa njani kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kushiya ukucoca emazantsi oludwe lokuqala.

Yintoni abantu abanxinzelelo abanethemba lokuba uyayiqonda

Ayisiyonto inkulu ukuba nezi zinto zifanayo - ezi zinto zizinto ezinabantu abadandathekileyo ezibophelelayo kwaye bavelane nazo. Kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba oku kuyabanceda abanye abangaziyo ukuba kunjani ukuqonda ukuba kutheni sinokuwa kwi-radar okanye sibonise ukungakhathali kancinci ngamanye amaxesha. Silwa ezi mvakalelo yonke imihla.

Ngamanye amaxesha, into elula njengokuhlawula amatyala inokuthathwa njengophumeleleyo.

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