Ekuphela kwento eya kuFumana uCandace Cameron Bure ukuba aphendule kwizimvo ezinentiyo kwi-Intanethi

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Xa uCandace Cameron Bure wayesebenzisana Umbono Amaxesha amabini onyaka, iimbono zakhe ezibambeleyo zavusa ingxoxo phakathi kwabamkeli zindwendwe bakhe, kodwa uthi wenze umzamo wokuhlala eluntwini xa izinto zisiba shushu. "Ekupheleni kosuku bendihlala ndifuna ukuqinisekisa xa ndithetha kwaye ndabelana ngezimvo zam ukuba izinto zinobubele kwaye ziyahlonipha nokuba asivumelani," utshilo uBure. Ubume. Ixesha lakhe kumdlalo wentetho yayiyinto ekhuthazayo ekubhaleni incwadi yakhe entsha Uhlobo Luhlobo lweklasi entsha: Amandla okuphila ngobabalo. Iincwadi ze-Etiquette zisenokungabi shushu njengoko zazinjalo kumashumi eminyaka adlulileyo, kodwa kwiminyaka yobudala be-Intanethi, kulungile ukuthi wonke umntu unokusebenzisa ikhosi yokuhlaziya ububele ngoku.

Ingcebiso kwi Indlu egcweleyo Umlingisi unika kwincwadi yakhe usebenza kuzo zombini iimeko ze-IRL (funda: Iidlami zokubulela nosapho olwandisiweyo) kunye nokunxibelelana kwi-Intanethi. Ubonelela ngeengcebiso zokujonga iimeko emsebenzini, ekhaya, kunye nabahlobo, ngengcebiso malunga nendlela yokuhlala uzolile phantsi koxinzelelo kunye nokujongana nokugxekwa kakubi. U-Free uthi uhlala ezama ukungahoyi naziphi na izimvo ezimbi kwi-intanethi, ngaphandle kwezinto ezimbalwa. “Kukho izinto ezithile endingenakuziyeka zihambe,” utshilo. "Ukuba umntu uthetha ngabantwana bam-ndiyibhere ye-momma, ke andizuhlala ndihlala phantsi ndiyeke ezo ntlobo zezinto zidlule, utshilo. Ukhethwe ukuba athethe phandle xa izimvo ezihlazisa umzimba zijolise kumqeqeshi wakhe uKira Stokes. Ngapha koko, amagqabantshintshi abalulekileyo malunga neStokes "ajongeka njengendoda" anceda ekuvuseleleni intshukumo yengqondo eyakho ejolise ekwenzeni i-Intanethi ibe yindawo enobubele. “Ndizamile ukumkhusela xa behlasela umzimba wakhe omhle onezihlunu,” utshilo u-Bure. "Ndiya kuhlala ndibambelele kubahlobo bam." (Nabu ubungqina obungakumbi ezi zimbini zizinjongo ze #FitnessFriends.)

Ngaphezu koko, xa i-troll kutsha nje ifanisa umzimba ka-Bure nomyeni wakhe, uthathe isigqibo sokuphendula kumgqabazi, kodwa engakhange abuye. Ucebisa ukuba usabele kukuhlazeka komzimba ngokujolisa kwizinto ozithandayo ngomzimba wakho, nokuba ukhetha ukuphendula ngokungafihlisiyo. "Nokuba uhlazekile ngomzimba okanye umntu ubhala inkcazo ngawe, into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukuhlasela umva, kuba ibasa umlilo kwaye akukho mntu uya kuziva elungile ekugqibeleni," utshilo uBure. (Idibeneyo: Kutheni ukuhlazeka komzimba kuyingxaki enkulu kunye nento ongayenza ukuyiyeka)

UFree unezicwangciso ezimbalwa awabelana ngazo kwincwadi ukuze ashiye uhlobo nokuba umntu uphantsi kolusu lwakho okanye ubetha ngaphantsi kwebhanti. Xa izinto ziba shushu, phefumlela phezulu ngaphambi kokuba uphendule. Ukwacebisa ukuba uzame konke okusemandleni akho ukubona imeko ngokwembono yomnye umntu, nokuba ikude kangakanani na kwindlela oqiqa ngayo. Okokugqibela, fumana into onokuyenza yonke imihla ukuzibeka kwimeko efanelekileyo yengqondo. "Ukucamngca okanye umthandazo kusasa ngokwenene kukubeka kwaye kukunike umbono oya kumhla wakho," utshilo. (Iingcebiso ezingakumbi: Indlela yokuThoba umoya xa sele uza kuphuma ngaphandle

Ukuba nobubele akupheleli nje ekuncedeni umntu onxibelelana naye, kunokukushiya uziva wonwabile, utshilo. (Kwaye uphando lubonisa ukuba unyanisile.) Ukuba nobubele "kundinike uluvo loxolo kuba ndiyazi ukuba xa ndimthanda kakhulu ndiziva ndonwabile ngento endiyenzileyo ngemini okanye ndizive ndonwabile ngaphandle kokuzisola, " uthi.

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