Ingozi Yokushushuluza Indincede Njani ukuba Ndifumanise Eyona Njongo Yam Ebomini
Umxholo
Kwiminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo, bendineNew Yorker enexinzelelo, ndithandana nabafana abahlukumezayo ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ngokubanzi ndingakuxabisi ukuzixabisa kwam. Namhlanje, ndihlala kwiibhloko ezintathu ukusuka elunxwemeni eMiami kwaye kungekudala ndiza kuya e-India, apho ndiceba ukuhlala e-ashram ngelixa ndithatha inxaxheba kwi-program ye-Ashtanga yoga enzulu, eyindlela yanamhlanje ye-classical yoga yaseIndiya. .
Ukufumana ukusuka kwiPhoyinti A ukuya kwiNqaku B yayiyinto elula okanye elula, kodwa yayixabise- kwaye konke kwaqala ngam ukuskiya kuqala kumthi eneminyaka eli-13.
Ukutyibiliza kwiMpumelelo
Njengoninzi lwabantwana abakhulela eVail, eColorado, ndiqale ukuskiya ngexesha elinye endifunda ngalo ukuhamba. . (Idibeneyo: Kutheni kufuneka uqale i-Skiing okanye i-Snowboarding kulobu busika)
Izinto zazintle kakhulu de kwaba ngo-1988 xa ndandikhuphisana kwiNdebe yeHlabathi eyayise-Aspen. Ngexesha lokhuphiswano, ndatyibilika ngaphezulu kwe-knoll ngesantya esiphezulu, ndibambe umda, ndaza ndangqubeka emthini nge-80 yeekhilomitha ngeyure, ndikhupha iingcingo ezimbini kunye nomfoti kwinkqubo.
Xa ndavukayo, umqeqeshi wam, utata, kunye nabasebenzi bezonyango babehlanganisene kum, bejonge phantsi bekhwankqisiwe ebusweni babo. Kodwa ngaphandle komlomo onegazi, ndiye ndaziva ndilungile. Eyona mvakalelo yam ibingumsindo wokonakele- ndiye ndatyibilika ndayokutsho entanjeni, ndangena emotweni notata saqalisa uhambo lweeyure ezimbini ukuya ekhaya.
Kwimizuzu nje engephi, ndaye ndanesifiva ndaza ndaqalisa ukungena ezingqondweni. Ndabalekiselwa esibhedlele, apho oogqirha bafumanisa ukwenzakala okukhulu ngaphakathi kwaye bandisusa inyongo, isibeleko, amaqanda, kunye nentso enye; Kwakufuneka izikhonkwane ezili-12 kwigxalaba lasekhohlo, kuba zonke imisipha yazo nezihlunu zayo zazikhutshiwe. (Inxulumene: Indlela Endoyise Ngayo Ukwenzakala-kwaye Kutheni Andikwazi Ukulinda Ukubuyela Kwimpilo)
Kwiminyaka embalwa eyalandelayo yayisisibetho sasebhedini, iintlungu, unyango olunzima lomzimba, kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo. Ndabanjwa unyaka esikolweni kwaye ndayeka ukuya exesheni kanye njengoko uninzi lwezihlobo zam zazifumana ixesha lokuqala. Phezu kwako nje konke oku, ndabuyela kumdlalo wokutyibiliza ekhephini—ndandilangazelela inkqubo yemihla ngemihla elungiselelwe ziimbaleki yaye ndikhumbula ukunxulumana kweqela lam. Ngaphandle kwayo, ndaziva ndilahlekile. Ndasebenza ukubuyela kwam kwaye, ngo-1990, ndajoyina iqela lase-U.S.
Ukuphila Ngephupha?
Ngelixa oko yayiyimpumelelo enkulu, iintlungu ezingapheliyo zengozi yam zandenza ndadlala kwinqanaba elingaphantsi. Andizange ndivunyelwe ukukhuphisana kwiminyhadala yesantya (ukuba bendinokuphinda ndintlitheke, bendinokuphulukana nezintso zam ekuphela kwazo.) Iqela leOlimpiki landilahla kwisithuba sonyaka—kwaye kwakhona, ndaziva ndilahlekile ndaza ndahlala ndinjalo kangangeminyaka.
Ndizabalazile nakwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, kodwa ngombulelo, iYunivesithi yaseMontana State yandinika ibhaso lembaleki kwaye ndatyibilika iminyaka emine ekholejini. Emva kokuthweswa isidanga, umama wandithatha wandisa kwisiXeko saseNew York okwesihlandlo sokuqala kwaye ndathwetyulwa ngokupheleleyo ngabakhi bezakhiwo, amandla, i-vibe, kunye neyantlukwano. Ndafunga ukuba ngenye imini, ndiya kuhlala apho.
Kwiminyaka engama-27, ndenza kanye le nto: Ndafumana indawo yokuhlala eCraigslist ndaza ndazenzela ikhaya. Emva kweminyaka embalwa, ndaqala eyam i-PR eqinile, ndigxile kwimpilo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
Ngelixa izinto zazihamba kakuhle phambili kwikhondo lomsebenzi, ubomi bam bothando babungekho mpilweni. Ndawela kwisiqhelo sokuthandana nabafana abangandihoyanga okona kulungileyo kwaye bandingxolisa. Ukujonga ngasemva, ubudlelwane bam yayilulwandiso lokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo endandikhe ndaliva amashumi eminyaka ezandleni zikamama.
Xa ndandikwishumi elivisayo, wayecinga ukuba ndiyasilela ngenxa yengozi yam kwaye wandixelela ukuba akukho ndoda iyakundithanda kuba andibhityanga okanye ndimhle ngokwaneleyo. Kwiminyaka yam engama-20, wayedla ngokundibiza ngokudana kusapho lwam ("Akukho namnye kuthi owayecinga ukuba uza kuphumelela eNew York") okanye iintloni kum ("Kuyamangalisa ukuba ukwazile ukufumana isoka ngokujonga ukutyeba kwakho") .
Yonke loo nto, kunye notyekelo lwam lobuhlobo obuhlukumezanayo ngokweemvakalelo baqhubeka, de kwaba yiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo, xa ndandineminyaka engama-39 ubudala, i-30 yeepawundi kukutyeba, kunye neqokobhe lomntu.
Indawo yoTshintsho
Ngaloo nyaka, ngo-2015, umhlobo wam osenyongweni, uLauren, wandisa kwiklasi yam yokuqala ye-SoulCycle, egcina izihlalo ezimbini ezingaphambili. Xa ndazibona esipilini, ndaziva ndixubene noloyiko kunye neentloni-kungekhona kakhulu phezu kwamathanga okanye isisu sam, kodwa ngaphezu koko ubunzima obumele: Ndizivumele ukuba ndingene kubudlelwane obunobuthi; Ndandingazazi nokuba ndingubani, ngaphakathi okanye ngaphandle.
Uhambo lwam lokuqala lwalulucelomngeni kodwa luvuselela. Ukungqongwa ngabafazi abaxhasayo kwindawo yeqela kundikhumbuze ngeentsuku zeqela lam lokutyibiliza ekhephini, kwaye loo mandla, olo khuseleko, lwandinceda ukuba ndizive ndiyinxalenye yento enkulu-enje ukuba ndandingenguye ukusilela ngokupheleleyo umama kunye namakhwenkwe awayendibize ukuba ndinguye. . Ke ndiye ndahlala ndibuya, ndikhula ngokomelela ngeklasi nganye.
Kwathi ngenye imini, umqeqeshi wam endimthandayo wandicebisa ukuba ndizame i-yoga njengendlela yokuzipholela (mna naye saba ngabahlobo ngaphandle kweklasi, apho wafunda khona ukuba ndiluhlobo luni-A). Loo ngcebiso ilula yandibeka kwindlela endingazange ndiyicinge.
Iklasi yam yokuqala yenzeke kwistudiyo esikhanyiswe ngamakhandlela, iipos zethu zisete kumculo wehip-hop. Njengokuba bendikhokelwa kukuhamba okungagungqiyo okudibanisa ingqondo yam emzimbeni wam, iimvakalelo ezininzi ziye zakhukhula engqondweni yam: uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo olushiyeke kwingozi, amaxhala okushiywa (ngumama, abaqeqeshi bam, ngamadoda), kunye noloyiko ukuba andisoze ndilufanele uthando. (Idibeneyo: Izizathu ezi-8 zeYoga ibetha iGym)
Ezi mvakalelo zibuhlungu, ewe, kodwa mna waziva bona. Ndazinziswa kukuqonda kweklasi kunye nokuzola okumnyama kwendawo, ndaziva ukuba iimvakalelo, ndaziqaphela-kwaye ndaqonda ukuba ndingaboyisa. Ngokuphumla kwam eSavasana ngala mini, ndavala amehlo ndaziva ndonwabile ngoxolo.
Ukusukela ngoko ukuya phambili, iyoga yaba yinto yokufumana yonke imihla. Ngoncedo lwayo kunye nobudlelwane obutsha endilwenzileyo, ndehla ngeekhilogram ezingama-30 kwiminyaka emibini, ndaqala ukubona ugqirha wengqondo ukuze ndizincede ndiphilise, ndayeka ukusela utywala, ndaza ndaqalisa ukudlala ngemifuno.
Njengokuba iKrisimesi ka-2016 yayisondela, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba andifuni ukuchitha iholide kwidolophu ebandayo, engenanto. Ke ndibhukishe itikiti lokuya eMiami. Ngelixa ndandilapho, ndathatha iklasi yam yokuqala ye-yoga yaselwandle, kwaye ilizwe lam latshintsha kwakhona. Okwesihlandlo sokuqala kwixesha elide-mhlawumbi ndiye ndaziva ndinoxolo, unxibelelwano phakathi kwam nehlabathi. Ndingqongwe ngamanzi nelanga, ndalila.
Kwiinyanga ezintathu kamva, ngo-Matshi 2017, ndathenga itikiti lokuya eMiami kwaye andizange ndibheke ngasemva.
Isiqalo Esitsha
Sekuyiminyaka emithathu ukususela ekubeni i-yoga indifumene, kwaye ndingena. Kwi-42, ihlabathi lam yi-Ashtanga yoga (ndiyayithanda indlela elingene ngayo kwilifa lemveli), ukucamngca, isondlo, kunye nokuzinyamekela. Yonke imihla iqala ngo-5: 30 kusasa ukucula eSanskrit, kulandele iklasi yemizuzu engama-90 ukuya kwe-120. Umkhulu wandazisa ekutyeni i-Ayurvedic kwaye ndilandela isicwangciso esisekwe kakhulu kwisityalo, esingabandakanyi nyama okanye utywala-ndade ndabeka nemifuno yam kwi-ghee eyenziwe ekhaya (icacisa ibhotolo kwiinkomo ezisikelelweyo). (Idibeneyo: 6 Izibonelelo zeMpilo ezifihliweyo zeYoga)
Ubomi bam bothando bubanjiwe ngoku. Andiyichasanga ukuba ingena ebomini bam, kodwa ndifumanise ukuba kunzima ukuthandana xa ndigxile kakhulu kwi-yoga kwaye ndilandele indlela yokutya engqongqo. Kwaye ndilungiselela uhambo lwenyanga oluya eMysore, eIndiya, apho ndinethemba lokuba ndiza kunikwa isiqinisekiso sokufundisa iAshtanga. Ke ndifihla ngasese i-yogis eshushu kunye ne-man buns kwi-Insta kwaye ndinokholo lokuba ndiyakufumana uthando oluyinyani nolukhuthazayo ngenye imini.
Ndisasebenza kwi-PR, kodwa ndinabathengi ababini kuphela kuluhlu lwam-olwaneleyo ukundivumela ukuba ndikwazi ukubonelela ngeeklasi zam zeyoga, ukutya (ukupheka i-Ayurvedic kuyabiza kodwa indlu yam inuka izulu!), Kunye nokuhamba. Kwaye inja yam yesiFrentshi, uFinley.
Akunakuphika ukuba i-yoga indincedile ukuba ndiphilise. Ihlalisa uthando lwezemidlalo olungena egazini kwaye indinike isizwe. Ngoku ndiyazi ukuba indawo yam entsha inam umva. Nangona amagxa am endilimaza yonke imihla (izikhonkwane zisekhona kwingozi yam, kwaye ndiye ndatyandwa kwelinye igxalaba kulo nyaka uphelileyo), ndinombulelo ongazenzisiyo ngengozi yam. Ndiye ndafunda ukuba ndingumlo. Ndifumene uxolo lwam kwi-mat, kwaye ibe yindlela yam yokuhamba-endikhokelela ekukhanyeni, ulonwabo kunye nempilo.
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