Unokuba ngumntu ongcono njani kumaNqanaba ali-12

Umxholo

• 1. Hlakulela umbulelo
• 2. Bulisa wonke umntu odibana naye
• 3. Zama i-detox yedijithali
• 4. Sebenzisa intetho yakho eyenzekileyo
• 5. Ziqhelanise nezenzo zobubele
• 6. Yitya isidlo esinye nokuba sinye ngengqondo
• 7. Lala ngokwaneleyo
• 8. Phefumla ngokuzazi
• 9. Coca imizuzu engama-30
• 10. Zixolele wena kunye nabanye
• 11. Bandakanya ukuzinakekela
• 12. Yiba nobubele kuwe
• Umgca wezantsi

Kuqhelekile ukuziva ngathi unokwenza ngakumbi xa kufikwa ekuphuculeni ngokwakho. Kodwa ukuba ngumntu ongcono akubandakanyi ukuba nzima kakhulu kuwe. Ngapha koko, kuchasene kakhulu.

Okukhona unokuzikhuthaza kwaye uzenzele imfesane, kokukhona uya kulungela ngakumbi ukuphatha abo bakungqongileyo ngendlela efanayo. Kwaye ukwenza okuhle kwabanye kunokunika ubomi bakho ubunzulu bentsingiselo. Inokukunceda ukuphucula impilo yakho yomzimba kunye nengqondo.

Nazi ezinye zeendlela zokwakha ukuziphucula kwindlela yakho yemihla ngemihla kwaye uyeke iingcinga ezimbi ngawe.

1. Hlakulela umbulelo

Mhlawumbi uvile isigidi samaxesha, kodwa ukugcina iphephancwadi lombulelo wento onombulelo ngayo kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwingqondo yakho. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba ukubandakanya umbulelo kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla kunokunceda ukunqanda uxinzelelo, ukuphucula ukulala, kunye nokuhlakulela ubudlelwane obunentlalo.

UAnna Hennings, MA, umqeqeshi osebenza ngengqondo kwezengqondo kwezemidlalo, ucebisa ukuba usebenzise isifinyezo seGIFT ukukunceda uchonge into onombulelo ngayo.

Xa ucinga ngezinto onombulelo ngazo, jonga iimeko ze:

• UGUmqolo: ukukhula komntu, njengokufunda isakhono esitsha
• MnaI-nspiration: amaxesha okanye izinto ezikukhuthazayo
• Friends / usapho: abantu abacebisa ubomi bakho
• Tranquility: encinci, phakathi-kwamaxesha, njengokuzonwabisa ngekomityi yekofu okanye incwadi elungileyo
• Sukungxamiseka: okungalindelekanga okanye ukuthanda okuhle

Xa udwelisa izinto onombulelo ngazo, amanqaku kaHennings, qiniseka ukuba uqaphele ukuba kutheni loo nto ikwenza ube nombulelo.

2. Bulisa wonke umntu odibana naye

Nokuba uyanqwala okanye uyancuma kubantu ongabaziyo abadlulayo okanye uthi “molweni” kubo bonke abangena e-ofisini, yenza umgudu wokwamkela abo bakungqongileyo xa ubabona, utsho ugqirha wengqondo uMadeleine Mason Roantree.

Ngokwenza njalo, uyakuqaphela ungaziva uzive ubekhona kwaye uqhagamshelene nabo bakungqongileyo, nokuba awunabudlelane nabo.

3. Zama i-detox yedijithali

Ukukhupha izixhobo nokuba lixesha elincinci kunokuba luncedo kwimpilo-ntle yakho. Ngexesha elizayo xa uzifumanisa ungenanto yokwenza, yiya kude kwifowuni yakho iiyure ezimbalwa.

Endaweni yoko, zama ukuhamba kunye nokunxibelelana neengcinga zakho.

Nyathela kude kwifowuni yakho nokuba yeyure ezimbalwa okanye uthathe usuku lonke lwezixhobo. Endaweni yoko, zama ukuphuma ngaphandle nokunxibelelana nendalo, okanye ukudibana nabahlobo i-IRL. Khumbula: Nokuba ikhefu elifutshane kwifowuni yakho linokukunceda ekuphumleni kwaye ujonge kwinto ekuzisela uvuyo.

4. Sebenzisa intetho yakho eyenzekileyo

Kulula ukubanjwa ngokuba ngqongqo ngokugqithisileyo nokugxeka ukusilela kwakho okubonakalayo. Le ntetho ingathandekiyo, engenamveliso inokuhlisa isisusa sethu sonke, uyacacisa uHennings.

Ukuba uhlala uzixelela ukuba awunguye umntu olungileyo, umzekelo, kunzima ukufumana inkuthazo yokuthatha amanyathelo okuziphucula.

Ziqhelise ukuthetha ngokuzithemba ngokuchaza inyani kwaye ulandele ngethemba elithile.

Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva uziva ungafaneleki okanye uphazamisekile, zama ukuzixelela:

"Ndiyazi ukuba olu tshintsho luza kuba ngumceli mngeni, kodwa ndibeke ingcinga eninzi kuyo kwaye ndiqwalasele zonke iindlela ezivulekileyo kum.inyani], ke ndiziva ndinethemba lokuba ndenza konke okusemandleni am ngalo mzuzu [ithemba].”

Inxalenye enzima kukuzibamba kwisenzo sokucinga okungalunganga kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokucinga ngokwahlukileyo. Kodwa ngokuziqhelanisa, oku kuya kuba lula.

5. Ziqhelanise nezenzo zobubele

Ukuba nobubele kwabanye kunokunceda ukukunika injongo yenjongo kwaye kukwenze uzive ulilolo.

Zama ukwenza into entle yomntu ngokungahleliwe:

• Bhatala umntu ongamaziyo.
• Thenga isidlo sasemini somntu osebenza naye.
• Thumela ikhadi kumhlobo.
• Yenza umnikelo kumntu osweleyo.

URoantree uthi: "Uyakuyibona imo yakho iphakama kancinci xa usenza okuhle ngovuyo lwayo." bonisa ukuba ukubala nje izenzo zobubele iveki enye kunokonyusa ulonwabo kunye nombulelo.

6. Yitya isidlo esinye nokuba sinye ngengqondo

Xa ubambekile embindini womhla oxakekileyo, kuyakulinga ukukhawulezisa ukutya kwakho ngaphandle kokumamela umzimba wakho.

Ukutya ngengqondo kukunika ithuba lokungena kunye neemvakalelo zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho.

Khetha ukutya, nokuba yisandwich kuphela, kwaye uthathe ixesha lakho uyitya. Qaphela izinto ezahlukeneyo ezithandwayo kunye noburhabaxa. "Luhlobo lokucamngca okuncinci okunokusebenza ngokulula 'njengoxinzelelo," utshilo uRoantree.

Andiqinisekanga ukuba ungaqala ngaphi? Isikhokelo sethu sokutya ngengqondo sinokukunceda.

7. Lala ngokwaneleyo

Ukungaziva uphumle ngokupheleleyo kunokukwenza uzive ungonwabanga kwaye ungenamveliso imini yonke. Zama ukulala iiyure ezisixhenxe ukuya kwezisibhozo ubusuku ngabunye.

Fumana iindlela zokuphucula umgangatho wokulala kwakho ngokunciphisa ukusebenzisa i-caffeine emva kwemini, ukuthatha isongezelelo se-melatonin, okanye ukuphumla kwindawo yokuhlambela efudumeleyo okanye kwishawari ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala.

Jonga ezi ezinye iingcebiso zokufumana ukuphumla okungcono kobusuku.

8. Phefumla ngokuzazi

Thatha umzuzwana kwindawo yokumisa ibhasi, emgceni kwivenkile yokutya, okanye ngaphambi kokuba unqumle uye kulala ukuze ugxile ekuphefumlweni kwakho. Ukuziqhelanisa nokuba yimizuzu embalwa ngemini yokuphefumla okunzulu kubonisiwe ukuqala kwempendulo yokuphumla komzimba kunye nokulawula uxinzelelo.

URoantree ucebisa ukuzama obu buchule bulandelayo:

• Bhala njengoko uqhele ukwenza.
• Phefumla, uqinisekise ukuba uthatha ixesha elide kunokuba uthe wangenisa.
• Phinda le nkqubo de ube uqala ukuziva ukhululekile. Ukuba ukhetha ukubala, zama ukuphefumlela phezulu ukubala u-4, ubambe ukubala okungu-7, kunye nokukhupha umoya ukubala u-8.

9. Coca imizuzu engama-30

Indlela oziva ngayo malunga nekhaya lakho inokuchaphazela ukuba ngaba ixesha lakho kukho ukubuyisela okanye uxinzelelo.

Ngexesha elizayo xa unemizuzu engama-30, setha isibali xesha kwaye ujongane nemisebenzi yasekhaya ekhawulezayo eya kongeza ukukhanya kancinci kusuku lwakho, njenge:

• ukucoca isipili sakho sokuhlambela
• ukuxhoma loo mfanekiso uwuthandayo kodwa ungakhange ujikeleze ukubonisa
• Ukucoca idesika yakho

Zivuze ngokuthatha ixesha ukonwabela indawo ohlaziyiweyo kuyo - yenza imaski yobuso kwigumbi lakho lokuhlambela elitsha, umzekelo.

10. Zixolele wena kunye nabanye

Ukuqhubeka nokuzisola, ukuba sentlungwini nokuba nenzondo kuyabenzakalisa abanye. Kodwa ikwenzakalisa. Xa uziva nayiphi na kwezi mvakalelo, ichaphazela imeko yakho kunye nendlela ophatha ngayo wonke umntu, kubandakanya nawe.

U-Catherine Jackson, ugqirha wezonyango onelayisensi kunye nonyango lwemithambo-luvo uthi: Thatha isigqibo sokuyiyeka kwaye wenze isicwangciso sokungalali unomsindo.

Jonga iingcebiso zethu zokuyeka ixesha elidlulileyo.

11. Bandakanya ukuzinakekela

Sihlala sicinga ngokuzikhathalela njengezonyango kunye nonyango lwe-spa (ezizo zonke iindlela eziphambili zokonakalisa). Kodwa ngokukaJackson, ukuzikhathalela imihla ngemihla kuhamba ngaphaya kokuthotywa. "Ikwa malunga nokutya kakuhle kunye nokufumana isondlo esaneleyo ukuxhasa ingqondo nomzimba wakho," uyachaza.

Ngokufanayo, qiniseka ukuba uyazivocavoca okanye uhambisa umzimba wakho ngengqondo, uthabathe ixesha lokunxibelelana nabanye, kwaye ube nexesha lokuphumla okanye ixesha lokuzihlalela.

Oku akudingeki ukuba kube yimizamo yokuchitha ixesha. Khangela iipokotho ezikhawulezayo ezili-10 okanye ezingama-20 zemini yakho apho ungaya phandle uhambe okanye uzilungiselele isitya esineziqhamo.

12. Yiba nobubele kuwe

Uninzi lwethu lunomkhwa wokulibala kwinto ebithethwe kuthi, siyiphindaphinda ezingqondweni zethu. Endaweni yokuthatha izinto buqu kwaye uzigxeke, uJackson ucebisa ngokunika uvelwano kunye nokuqonda komnye umntu, ngokunjalo nakuthi.

Cinga ngazo zonke iindlela owenza ngazo ifuthe elihle kwabo bakungqongileyo kwaye uzame ukuzibhala yonke imihla. Kwakhona, oku akufuneki ukuba kube zizimbo zomzimba ezinkulu.

Mhlawumbi ububamba umnyango uvulelwe umntu ophethe iibhegi ezinzima. Okanye uqale ukuphisa imbiza entsha yekofu emsebenzini xa uqaphela ukuba iphantsi.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba usasokola ukutshintsha indlela ocinga ngayo, uJackson ucebisa ukuba ucinge ngale ndlela: “Ngomso lusuku olutsha, ke ukuba uyazibetha namhlanje ngento ethile, zikhulule kwaye uqale ngomso ngoku . ”

Zama ukuziphatha ngendlela obuya kwenza ngayo umntu omthandayo. Ungasoloko uthetha umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ukuba babenosuku "lokucima" kwaye baphosa ibhola kwinto ethile?

Ngethemba ukuba akunjalo. Kwaye akufuneki uthethe ngokwakho ngale ndlela, nokuba.

Umgca wezantsi

Yinto eqhelekileyo ukubanjwa ekuzameni ukuba ngoyena hlobo lwakho. Kodwa ukuba ngumntu olunge ngakumbi kuqala ngokuziphatha ngobubele obunothando obufanayo nobabanye.

Oku kuthetha ukuba ungazigwebi ngqwabalala xa usilela kwiinjongo zakho kwaye uzibonakalise umonde kunye nemfesane kwiintsuku zakho ezimbi.

Gcina ukhumbula ukuba zininzi iindlela zokuba ngumntu ongcono, kwaye ezi zinikezelwa apha zimbalwa. Fumana ezona zinto zivuya kakhulu kwaye zikhulisa kwaye uzame ukuzakha kubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla.