Indlela ‘Umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’ ekuchaphazela ngayo ukuxhalaba- kunye nento onokuyenza ngayo

Umxholo

• Uyintoni ‘umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’?
• Umgca phakathi kobuvila obuqhelekileyo kunye 'nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka'
• Ngelixa abo bangakhange bafumane umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka ngokwabo banokuba nengxaki yokuqonda, ukukwazi ukubiza into endiziva ngayo kwabanye kuye kwamangalisa ngokwenene.
• Iindlela zokoyisa umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka
• Ekupheleni kosuku, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ayinguwe lo 'wonqena'

Abantu abanexhala bayayazi le nto. Ke, unokwenza ntoni ngayo?

Ngaba wakha waziva usoyika ngumbono wokwenza into ebonakala ilula kakhulu ukuyenza? Ngaba umsebenzi ukhe wakuthwalisa nzima mihla le, uhlala uphambili engqondweni yakho, kodwa awukwazanga ukuwugqiba?

Kubo bonke ubomi bam iimpendulo zale mibuzo ibingu-ewe, kodwa andikwazi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni. Oku kwakuyinyani nasemva kokuba ndifumene isifo sokuphazamiseka kwengqondo.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuqhubeka neemeds kunye neendlela zokufunda zokulwa kwandinceda kwibhodi yonke. Kodwa lo mbandela uqhubeke ukuvela ngaphandle kwesizathu. Beza njengento eyomeleleyo ngaphezu kobuvila. Le misebenzi ibonakala ngathi mincinci yaziva ingenakwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha.

Ke kunyaka ophelileyo, imvakalelo endingenakuze ndiyiqonde yanikwa igama elichaza ngqo indlela endandiziva ngayo ngalo lonke ixesha kuvela: umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka.

Uyintoni ‘umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka’?

Ihlanganiswe ngu-M. Molly Backes kwi-Twitter kwi-2018, eli gama lichaza indlela evakalelwa ngayo xa umsebenzi ubonakala ungenakukwazi ukuwenza, nokuba kulula kangakanani ukuba kufanelekile. Ke, njengoko ixesha lihamba kwaye umsebenzi uhlala ungagqitywanga, uxinzelelo luyakha ngelixa ukungakwazi ukuyenza kuhlala kuhlala.

"Imisebenzi eyimfuneko iba nzima, kwaye ukuziva unetyala kunye neentloni malunga nomsebenzi ongaphelelanga wenza kuphela ukuba umsebenzi uzive umkhulu kwaye unzima ngakumbi," utshilo u-Amanda Seavey, ugqirha wezengqondo onelayisensi kunye nomseki weClarity Psychological Wellness, uxelela iHealthline.

Ke, kutheni abanye abantu befumana lo msebenzi ungenakwenzeka ngelixa abanye besenokubhideka bubukho bawo?

"Inxulumene nokunqongophala kwenkuthazo, ezo zombini ziyimpawu kunye neziphumo ebezingalindelekanga kwezinye," utshilo u-Aimee Daramus, PsyD, Healthline.

"Unokufumana into efanayo, nangona ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, kubantu abanokwenzakala kwengqondo, ukuphazamiseka koxinzelelo (kubandakanya i-PTSD), kunye nokuphazamiseka okungafaniyo, okubandakanya ukuphazamiseka kwememori kunye nokuzazisa," utshilo uDaramus. "Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, yindlela abantu abadandathekileyo abuchaza ngayo ubunzima bokwenza imisebenzi elula kakhulu."

Umgca phakathi kobuvila obuqhelekileyo kunye 'nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka'

Ukuba ufana nam ndandikho ebomini bam bonke, ukuhlangabezana nale nto ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba kutheni, kulula kakhulu ukuba phantsi kwakho okanye uzive wonqena ukungabikho kwenkuthazo. Kodwa xa ndifumana umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka, ayikuko ukuba andifuni kwenza into okanye andinakukhathazwa ukuba ndithathe inyathelo.

Endaweni yokubeka nje, kuvakala ngathi ukwenza loo nto kunokuba yeyona nto inzima emhlabeni. Ayibobuvila nangayiphi na indlela.

Njengoko uDaramus echazayo, "Sonke sinezinto esingafuni ukuzenza. Asibathandi. Umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka wahlukile. Unokufuna ukuyenza. Unokuyixabisa okanye uyonwabele xa ungadandathekanga. Kodwa ngekhe uvuke uyenze. ”

Imizekelo yomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka unokuba nomnqweno onqwenelekayo wegumbi elicocekileyo kodwa uzive ungakwazi nokwenza ibhedi yakho, okanye ulinde iposi ukuba ifike kuphela kuhambo oluya kwibhokisi yeposi ukuze ibonakale inde kakhulu xa sele yenzile.

Ukukhula, abazali bam babeza kundicela ukuba ndenze izinto ezinje ngeshedyuli yokuqeshwa ngugqirha okanye ukuhlamba izitya. Bendingenandlela yokuchaza ukuba zingenakwenzeka njani ezi zicelo ngamanye amaxesha.

Ngelixa abo bangakhange bafumane umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka ngokwabo banokuba nengxaki yokuqonda, ukukwazi ukubiza into endiziva ngayo kwabanye kuye kwamangalisa ngokwenene.

Kuko konke ukunyaniseka, nangona kunjalo, okuninzi ukoyisa umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka kube kukuzikhulula kwityala ebendiziva ngalo. Ngoku ndiyakwazi ukujonga oku njengolunye uphawu lokugula kwengqondo - endaweni yesiphene somlinganiswa- esivumela ukuba ndisebenze ngayo ngendlela entsha, eqhutywa sisisombululo.

Njengalo naluphi na uphawu lokugula ngengqondo, kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo ezinokukunceda ukuzilawula. Into esebenzela omnye umntu inokungasebenzi nakwenye.

Iindlela zokoyisa umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka

Nazi iingcebiso ezisixhenxe ezinokukunceda, ngokweDaramus:

1. Ukuba unako, yahlulahlula ibe yimisebenzi emincinci. Ukuba unephepha oza kubhala kulo, bhala nje umhlathi okanye emibini okwangoku, okanye usete isibali-xesha ixesha elifutshane. Unokwenza isixa esimangalisayo sokucoca kwimizuzu emibini.
2. Yidibanise nento emnandi ngakumbi. Dlala umculo kwaye unyikime ngelixa uhlamba amazinyo, okanye ubuyisele umnxeba ngelixa uxhonyiwe ngesilwanyana sasekhaya.
3. Zivuze emva koko. Yenza iNetflix ibhaso lemizuzu embalwa yokulungisa.
4. Ukuba ubuqhele ukonwabela umsebenzi ongenakwenzeka, hlala ithutyana uzame ukukhumbula ukuba uziva njani xa wonwabile. Waziva njani umzimba wakho? Zazithini iingcinga zakho ngoko? Waziva njani ngokwasemoyeni? Jonga ukuba unokuphinda ufumane imvakalelo encinci ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukuyenza.
5. Yintoni eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka ukuba uyayiyeka namhlanje? Ngamanye amaxesha ukondlula ibhedi kuba ibukeka icocekile kwaye intle. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, kunceda ngakumbi ukuqonda ukuba ixabiso lakho njengomntu alibophelelekanga ekwenzeni ibhedi.
6. Bhatala umntu ukuba enze umsebenzi othile, okanye enze urhwebo ngomnye umntu. Ukuba awukwazi 'ukuya kuthenga, ngaba unakho ukuhambisa ukutya? Ngaba ungawutshintsha ujikeleziso lomsebenzi kwiveki enegumbi?
7. Cela inkxaso. Ukuba nomntu ekugcina unenkampani ngelixa usenza, nokuba kusefownini, kungenza umohluko. Oku kundincede nyani xa kufikwa ekwenzeni izinto ezinje ngezitya okanye impahla. Unokufuna inkxaso yenkxaso yonyango okanye umhlobo osondeleyo.

“Zama ukwahlulahlula umsebenzi owenzayo ngesandla ngamanyathelo amancinci. Sebenzisa intetho ekhuthazayo endaweni yokuthetha nawe. Nika [imeko yempilo yengqondo] igama kwaye uyichonge xa ​​ichaphazela ubomi bakho, utshilo uSeavey.

Ungazama kwakhona "Umdlalo ongenakwenzeka" ochazwa nguSteve Hayes, PhD, kwiPsychology namhlanje: Qaphela ukunganyangeki kwakho ngaphakathi, uve ukungonwabi, emva koko uthathe inyathelo ngokukhawuleza. Ukulungiselela intuthuzelo, kunokuba luncedo ukuzama oku kwizinto ezincinci kuqala ngaphambi kokuzama ngokuchasene nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka.

Ekupheleni kosuku, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba ayinguwe lo 'wonqena'

"Ukuba nobubele novelwano kuwe kunye namava akho kubalulekile," utshilo uSavey. “Kulumkele ukuzibek 'ityala nokuzigxeka, nto leyo enokwenza umsebenzi uzive unzima ngakumbi.”

"Ngamanye amagama, [khumbula ukuba] ingxaki ayinguwe, yiyo [imeko yempilo yengqondo]," uyongeza.

Ezinye iintsuku kunokuba lula ukuzoyisa kunezinye, kodwa ukuba negama kunye nokwazi ukuba awuwedwa - kulungile, loo nto yenza ukuba izive inokwenzeka kancinci.

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