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Bafundi,

Ndikubhalela malunga nentlungu. Ayisiyiyo nayiphi na intlungu, kodwa iintlungu abanye abantu abanokuthi ziyinto eqhelekileyo: intlungu yexesha.

Iintlungu ezibuhlungu aziqhelekanga, kwaye kwandithatha ngaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 ukuyifunda loo nto. Xa ndandineminyaka engama-35 ubudala, ndafumanisa ukuba ndine-endometriosis, isifo esingafumaneki lula kwaye esoloko siphoswa ziingcali zonyango.

Ngexesha lam lokufikisa, ndandinamaxesha amabi kakhulu okuxhuzula, kodwa ndaxelelwa ngabahlobo, usapho, kunye noogqirha ukuba “yinto nje yokuba ngumfazi.” Ndiza kuphoswa sisikolo rhoqo emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa okanye ndiye kumongikazi ndiyokucela ibuprofen. Abahlobo bebengathetha ngendlela endijongeke ngayo xa ndiphindwe kabini ngenxa yentlungu, kwaye abanye abantwana bayandihleba kwaye bahlekise.

Kwi-20s yam, iintlungu zanda. Andikhange ndibene cramp kuphela, kodwa umqolo wam ongezantsi kunye nemilenze ibibuhlungu. Ndandidumbile kwaye ndandikhangeleka ngathi ndineenyanga ezintandathu ndikhulelwe, kwaye amathumbu aqala ukuziva ngathi iglasi eyaphukileyo yayityhutyha emathunjini am. Ndaqala ukuphoswa ngumsebenzi omninzi inyanga nenyanga. Amaxesha am ayenzima ngokumangalisayo kwaye ahlala kwiintsuku ezisi-7 ukuya kwezi-10. Amayeza e-over-the-counter (OTC) awancedi. Oogqirha bam bonke bandicebisa ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo; abanye abantu basetyhini babenobunzima kunabanye.

Ubomi abuzange buhluke kakhulu kwi-30 yam yokuqala, ngaphandle kokuba intlungu yam yaqhubeka ikhula. Ugqirha wam kunye ne-gynecologist khange babonakale bekhathazekile. Omnye ugqirha wade wandinika umnyango ojikelezayo wamayeza okuphelisa iintlungu ukusukela oko amayeza e-OTC engasebenzi. Umsebenzi wam wawusongela ululeko kuba ndandiphoswa lusuku olunye ukuya kwezimbini nyanga zonke ngexa lokuya exesheni okanye ndihamba kwangethuba ukugoduka. Ndiyirhoxisile imihla ngenxa yeempawu, kwaye ndeva ngaphezulu kwesihlandlo esinye ukuba ndiyayenza. Okona kubi, abantu bandixelele ukuba yayisentloko yam, yayiyingqondo, okanye bendiyi-hypochondriac.

Umgangatho wobomi bam kwiintsuku ezininzi kwinyanga nganye wawungekho. Xa ndandineminyaka engama-35, ndaya kutyando ukuze kususwe idymoid cyst eyafunyanwa kwi-ovary yam. Yabona kwaye qaphela, nje ukuba ugqirha wam wandivula, wafumana izilonda ze-endometriosis kunye nezicubu ezibomvu kuwo wonke umqala wam. Ususe konke anako. Ndaziva ndothukile, ndinomsindo, ndimangalisiwe, kodwa okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ndaziva ndingqinelwe.

Kwiinyanga ezilishumi elinesibhozo kamva, zabuya iintlungu zam ngempindezelo. Emva kweenyanga ezintandathu zokufunda kunye nokutyelela iingcali, ndenziwa utyando lwesibini. I-endometriosis ibuyile. Ugqirha wam waphinda wakhupha kwakhona kwaye iimpawu zam bezilawulwa ikakhulu ukusukela.

Ndiye ndadlula kwiminyaka engama-20 yentlungu, yokuziva ndithotyiwe, ndithotyiwe, kwaye ndizele kukungazithembi. Ngalo lonke ixesha, i-endometriosis ikhulile, yandipha, yandikhathaza, kwaye yandingcungcuthekisa. Amashumi amabini iminyaka.

Ukusukela ekuchongeni kwam, ndiyenzile ukuthanda kwam kunye nenjongo yokusasaza ulwazi malunga ne-endometriosis. Abahlobo bam kunye nosapho bayazi ngokupheleleyo isigulo kunye neempawu zaso, kwaye bathumela abahlobo kunye nabantu endibathandayo ukuba babuze imibuzo. Ndifunde yonke into endinokuyenza malunga nayo, ndithetha nogqirha wam wamabhinqa rhoqo, ndibhale ngayo kwibhlog yam, kwaye ndibambe iqela lenkxaso.

Ubomi bam ngoku bungcono, hayi kuphela kuba intlungu yam inegama, kodwa kungenxa yabantu ebazisileyo ebomini bam. Ndiyakwazi ukuxhasa abantu ababhinqileyo abaneentlungu, baxhaswe ngabo bantu basetyhini xa ndiyidinga, kwaye ndifikelele kubahlobo, usapho, kunye nabantu esingabaziyo ukuze ndibazise. Ubomi bam butyebile ngayo.

Kutheni ndikubhalela yonke le nto namhlanje? Andifuni omnye umfazi anyamezele iminyaka engama-20 njengam. Omnye kwabasetyhini abali-10 kwihlabathi liphela uneengxaki ze-endometriosis, kwaye kungathatha ukuya kuthi ga kwiminyaka elishumi ukuba umntu wasetyhini afumane isifo. Lide kakhulu elo xesha.

Ukuba wena okanye umntu omaziyo uhamba into efanayo, nceda uqhubeke nokutyhala iimpendulo. Gcina umkhondo weempawu zakho (ewe, zonke) kunye namaxesha akho. Sukuvumela nabani na ukuba akuxelele ukuba "akunakwenzeka" okanye "konke kusentloko yakho." Okanye, endiyithandayo: "Yinto eqhelekileyo!"

Yiya kwisibini okanye sesithathu okanye sesine izimvo. Uphando, uphando, uphando. Nyanzelisa utyando nogqirha ofanelekileyo. I-Endometriosis ichaphazeleka kuphela ngokubonakalayo kunye ne-biopsy. Buza imibuzo. Yiza neekopi zezifundo okanye imizekelo kutyelelo logqirha. Yiza noluhlu lwemibuzo uze ubhale phantsi iimpendulo. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, fumana inkxaso. Ungu hayi ndedwa kule.

Kwaye ukuba ufuna umntu oza kuthetha naye, ndilapha.

Ngamana unokufumana ubungqina.

Owakho,

ULisa

U-Lisa Howard uyintombazana yase-California enoyolo-eya-nethamsanqa ehlala nomyeni wakhe kunye nekati yakhe eSan Diego entle. Ubaleka ngenzondelelo Ibhlog yeBloomin 'Isibeleko kunye neqela lenkxaso ye-endometriosis. Xa engaphakamisi ulwazi malunga ne-endometriosis, usebenza kwifemu yezomthetho, egonene esofeni, ekhempini, efihla emva kwekhamera ye-35mm, elahleka kwindlela ebuyela emva entlango, okanye enqabeni yokukhangela umlilo.