Yintoni kanye kanye le ithi 'Kukukopa ngokuncinci'?

Umxholo

• Yintoni?
• Ngaba yinto entsha le?
• Ngaba ukukopa okuncinci kuyafana nokukopa ngokweemvakalelo?
• Yintoni ebalwa njengokukopa okuncinci?
• Ihlala ikhangeleka njani xa usenza?
• Ungathini ukuba inguwe oyenzayo, kwaye ungakhange uqonde?
• Ungathini ukuba awunguwe, kodwa liqabane lakho?
• Ubeka njani imida kuyo?
• Uhamba njani uyigqitha?
• Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula ukuchonga ukukopela xa kukho ukukhothwa / ukuphulula / ukubamba okubandakanyekileyo.

Kodwa uthini ngezinto ezinobuqili ngakumbi- njengokucofa iso, ukuswipe kwetheyibhile, okanye ukuthinta idolo?

Kukho igama elithetha ezo zinto zidlala ngothando (mncinci kakhulu) umgca phakathi kokunyaniseka nokungathembeki: ukukopa okuncinci.

“Ukukopa ngobuqhetseba kubhekisa kwizenzo ezincinci ezi phantse ukukopela, utshilo uTammy Shaklee, ingcali yobudlelwane ne-LGBTQ kunye nomseki we-H4M Matchmaking.

Oko kubalwa “njengokukopela” kwahlukile kulwalamano ngalunye, ke yintoni efanelekileyo njengokukhohlisa okuncinci kunokuhluka, nako.

Njengomgaqo oqhelekileyo, ukukopela okuncinci kukho nantoni na ethe chatha ngokwasemphefumlweni, ngokwasemzimbeni, okanye ngesondo kunoko kuthathwa njenge-kosher kubudlelwane bakho.

Uthi: “Sityibilika,” utshilo. “Yiyo nantoni na unakho kukhokelela ekukhohliseni ngokupheleleyo kwixa elizayo. ”

Ngaba yinto entsha le?

Hayi! Ndiyabulela kule nto yethu intsha yokuqamba amagama okuthandana kunye neentlekele, ngoku sinolwimi lokubiza le ndlela yokuziphatha.

UShaklee uphawula ezona ndlela zixhaphakileyo zokukhohlisa okuncinci kubandakanya imiyalezo kunye nemithombo yeendaba zentlalo ( * khohlo * iZilayidi ze-DM * ukukhwehlela *), ke ukuba ukukopela kubonakala exhaphake ngakumbi kunangaphambili, kungenxa yokuba siye sanda kwi-Intanethi.

Ngaba ukukopa okuncinci kuyafana nokukopa ngokweemvakalelo?

Hayi, kodwa ezi zimbini zinokungqubana okuthile.

Njengoko uGigi Engle, i-Lifestyle a i-ambassador ye-brand, umqeqeshi wesini oqinisekisiweyo, kunye nombhali we "Zonke iimpazamo ze-F cking: Isikhokelo soSondo, Uthando kunye noBomi" uthi, "Ukukopela ngokomzwelo ngumzala wokukopela."

Ngokukopela ngokweemvakalelo akukho zero hanky panky, kodwa kukho utyalomali olungalunganga lweemvakalelo.

Ukukopa okuncinci, kwelinye icala, akubhekiseli kuphela ekuweleni komda weemvakalelo.

Yintoni ebalwa njengokukopa okuncinci?

Kwakhona, konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni zeziphi izinto ezibala njengokukopa kulwalamano lwakho.

Oku kuthetha ukuba nantoni na yokukhuphela i-Lex entsha yokuthandana "ukuyijonga nje!" ukudlala iinwele zomhlobo wakho, ucofa kabini ifoto ye-Instagram yangaphambili, okanye uhlala u-ahem, yandiswa isidlo sasemini kunye nomntu osebenza naye sinokubala.

Eminye imizekelo ibandakanya:

• uhlala uphendula ibali lomntu othile we-Instagram
• ukunikela ingqalelo ngakumbi kumntu ayikho Iqabane lakho kuneqabane lakho ethekweni
• ukuthulisa umntu okanye ukucima ukutshintshiselana ngokubhaliweyo ukuze iqabane lakho lingafumani ukuba uyancokola
• Ukwabelana ngeenkcukacha zakho malunga nezinto ezithandwayo ngokwesondo, iikinks, kunye nemibono nomntu ayikho iqabane lakho

U-Engle ubiza ukuba ubuqhetseba obuncinci abukhethi kubudlelwane bodwa.

"Ukuba unobuhlobo obuvulekileyo apho uvumelekile ukuba wabelane ngesondo ngaphandle kobudlelwane, kodwa kungekho zimvakalelo, ukuba nolwalamano oluyimfihlo ngokweemvakalelo nomntu kuya kuba luhlobo oluthile lokukhohlisa."

Uyongeza ukuba kuyafana ukuba uku ubudlelwane obunobupolitika kwaye ungaxeleli iqabane lakho ngomntu omtsha ombonayo nangona uvumile.

Ihlala ikhangeleka njani xa usenza?

Lixesha lokutyala ngokugqithiseleyo, amandla, okanye indawo entloko kumntu ongelilo iqabane lakho, utsho uShaklee.

Oko kunokuthetha ukuba unamathele kakhulu kumntu osebenza naye-cinga isidlo sasemini eside, uhlala ukhetha ikofu kusasa, okanye umyalezo emva kweeyure.

Kungathetha ukuba "unobungane" obuncinci kwimidiya yoluntu - ukuthanda iifoto zomntu wakudala, ukutyelela iprofayili yakhe ngaphezulu nangaphezulu, okanye ukutyibilika kwii-DM zazo.

Isenokuthetha ukunxiba ngokwahlukileyo xa usazi ukuba uza kubona umntu othile (#dresstoimpress), okanye usilele ukukhankanya i-Main yakho kumntu omfumana enomtsalane.

"Ukuba amathumbu akho akuxelela ukuba iqabane lakho lingaziva lingonwabanga zizenzo zakho okanye izijekulo - okanye ungaziva ungonwabanga-luphawu oluhle lokuba uyakhohlisa," utshilo u-Engle.

Ungathini ukuba inguwe oyenzayo, kwaye ungakhange uqonde?

Uphawu lwenani olunye lokuba ukukopa okuncinci lubeka phambili umntu othile- kunye neemvakalelo zabo, ukwamkelwa, okanye ingqalelo- kwiqabane lakho.

"Xa kukho into elungileyo eyenzekayo, uxelela umntu ngaphambi kokuba uxelele iqabane lakho?" Ubuza uShaklee. "Xa omnye umntu ethetha, ngaba uzifumanisa usenza imizamo kuye?"

Ukuba impendulo ngu-Y-E-S kuyo nayiphi na kwezi, qala ukuqonda ukuba KUTHENI ubusenza okanye uziva ngale ndlela.

Ngaba ujongene nengqwalaselo encinci, ukusondelelana, okanye ukonwaba kwiqabane lakho kunangaphambili? Ukuziphatha kwakho okuthandabuzekayo kunokubonisa ukungoneliseki kwimeko yobudlelwane bakho.

Ukuba kunjalo - kwaye ucinga ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bufanele ukusindiswa-lixesha lokuba usebenze neqabane lakho ukulungisa loo nto.

Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, kubekho utshintsho olubonakalayo kubudlelwane bakho olungaziva lunokulungiswa, isisombululo isenokuba kukuqhekeka, utshilo uShaklee.

Ungathini ukuba awunguwe, kodwa liqabane lakho?

Lixesha lokuba chat. “Yiza kwiqabane lakho nize nemizekelo ethile yokukhohlisa okuncinci. Chaza indlela ekuhlukumeza ngayo ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo, ”utsho uEngle.

Injongo kufuneka ibe kukushiya incoko kunye nesicwangciso somdlalo wokuya phambili (okanye hayi…).

Uyifaka njani incoko:

• “Ndiyakuqaphela ukuba uyakuthanda ngokwasemzimbeni uX; Ndingathanda ukuba nengxoxo malunga nokuba yinto oyaziyo leyo, kutheni inokuba njalo, kwaye indenza ndizive njani. "
• "Ndinoloyiko lokuzisa le nto, kodwa ndabona ukuba uphawule umtya wee-emojis zentliziyo kwifoto ye-ex yakho, kwaye indenza ndizive ndingakhululekanga. Ngaba ungayivula incoko malunga nemithombo yeendaba kunye nemida? ”
• "Sele sibonana iinyanga ezimbalwa ngoku, kwaye ndingathanda ukuba nengxoxo malunga nokususa ii -apps zokwenza amadinga kwiifowuni zethu kwaye" singatshintshi nje ukukhaba "kwakhona."

Khumbula: Iimvakalelo zakho zisemthethweni.

"Ukuba bayakuphephetha bathi 'ayonto inkulu leyo,' okanye bakwenze uzive uswele okanye ungenangqondo, leyo yindlela yokukhanyisa igesi," utshilo uEngle. Kwaye eso sisizathu esihle sokujonga kwakhona ubudlelwane bakho.

Kodwa, ukuba iqabane lakho liphendula ngenkathalo, kwaye livulekile ukutshintsha indlela abaziphethe ngayo kunye nokuseta imida, ubudlelwane bakho bunokuqina.

Ubeka njani imida kuyo?

Ukwakha imida apho ngaphambili kwakungekho nanye kunokuba nzima. La manyathelo anokunceda.

Thetha ngokunyanisekileyo. Intloko ukuya kwindawo engathathi hlangothi (cinga: ipaki, imoto emileyo, ivenkile yekofu), emva koko, fumana realll Kulungile, ngenene, malunga nendlela oziva ngayo kwaye ucinga ukuba uziva phi. (Kwaye qiniseka ukuba iqabane lakho linendawo yokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zabo, nazo!).

Thatha amanyathelo okomeleza ulwalamano lwenu. Kuba ukukopa okuncinci kuhlala kubonisa imiba kulwalamano, sebenzisana neqabane lakho ukulungisa loo nto. Oko kunokubandakanya ukubekwa phambili phambili komgangatho wexesha, ukuqala ukucwangcisa isondo, okanye ukuzibandakanya kwi-PDA engaphezulu.

Thetha malunga nokubala njengokukopa kunye nokukhohlisa okuncinci. Kwaye chaza! Ngaba i-DMing nabani na wonke umntu kwi-Instagram ngu-no-no? Okanye nje ngabantu obukhe wathandana nabo ngaphambili okanye onomdla kubo? Ngaba uthando lomzimba luhlala lungalunganga, okanye xa lujolise kubahlobo abangatshatanga? Ngaba ukuthetha nomntu osebenza naye emva kwexesha lomsebenzi kuhlala kungalunganga, okanye xa kusenzeka ngaphezulu kokubhaliweyo (ngokuchasene ne-imeyile)?

Yiba nale ncoko kaninzi. Njengabantu abatsha osebenza nabo, izihlobo, kunye nabantu oqhelene nabo bangena ebomini bakho nakwizibonelelo zentlalo, amathuba amatsha okukhohlisa amancinci aya kuvela. Ke qhubeka ujonge kwiqabane lakho malunga noko uziva ukhululekile kulwakhiwo lobudlelwane bakho.

Uhamba njani uyigqitha?

Inyaniso, ngokuka-Engle, ithi "ayizizo zonke izibini Ngaba ubenako ukugqitha ngaphaya kobuqhetseba obuncinci. ”

Kodwa, ukuba ukudlulela phambili yeyona njongo, uShaklee uthi iresiphi kukukhathalela okungagungqiyo, ukuthembeka, izimbo zomzimba eziqhubekayo zothando, ukuqinisekiswa, kunye nokubekwa phambili kubudlelwane.

"Ukufuna uncedo lwengcali elayisenisiweyo enokukunceda usebenze ngayo nako kunokunceda," utshilo.

Umgca wezantsi

Yintoni ebalwa njengobuncinci bokukopa iyahluka kubudlelwane ukuya kubudlelwane, kuxhomekeke kwinto esekwe njengokukopa. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukudala imida yeemvakalelo, zomzimba, kunye nezesondo (kwaye kungekudala kunangoku!) Kubaluleke kakhulu.

Ukuba ubuqhetseba obuncinci buyenzeka kubudlelwane, kubalulekile ukuba bujongane nabo kwaye emva koko beze nesicwangciso sokugcina ukuba ingenzeki kwakhona.

Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, inokubizwa encinci-ukuqhatha, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba ayisiyiyo enkulu-khupha.

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