I-Morit Summers ifuna ukuba wonke umntu ayeke ukulungisa ukuncipha kobunzima

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Umqeqeshi weMorit Summers uzakhele igama elihle ekwenzeni ukuba impilo ifikeleleke kubo bonke abantu, nokuba injani na imilo, ubungakanani, ubudala, ubunzima, okanye amandla. Umseki weFom Fitness, oqeqesha abathengi be-celeb kubandakanya u-Ashley Graham no-Danielle Brooks, ukholelwa ekubeni wonke umntu uyakwazi ukufikelela kwiinjongo zabo zomzimba. Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ukugcina ingqondo enesimo somzimba kwabanye kuthatha uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo.

Kwiposti ye-Instagram, i-Summers yavula malunga nendlela, kutsha nje, uninzi lwabathengi bakhe bebekhalaza malunga nokunganciphisi ngokwaneleyo. "Kuwo wonke umsebenzi wam, bendihlala ndimkhulu kunabaxumi bam okanye ubuninzi babo," ubhale watsho. "Akuzange kube kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo apho abathengi bam baqala ukuba ngabasetyhini abaninzi [abanokuthi] ndibanxibelelane kwaye [ngubani] abanokunxibelelana nam. Ndiphulaphule abantu abaninzi bekhalaza malunga namanqatha esisu sabo, ukuba badla ngokukrakra, ukuba bekungafanelanga ukuba babenayo la pizza.Amaxesha amaninzi ndiyakwazi ukumelana neemvakalelo zam ndithethe nabantu phantsi ndibanike amazwi obulumko. Kutshanje ndifumana ubunzima obungakumbi kule nto." (Inxulumene: I-Morit Summers Khange ivumele ukuba uMzimba-uneentloni umyekise ekubeni nguMqeqeshi woSaziwayo)

Iifutshane zacacisa ukuba abathengi bayo abayongxaki, kodwa kunoko, kukugxila okungapheliyo kuluntu ekulahlekeni kwesisindo. "Ndinabanye abathengi be-dopest phaya, bangama-badass ngokwenyani, abantu kunye nabasetyhini abatshintsha umhlaba kodwa kunjalo siyabona ukuba nokuba abantu bangamangalisa kangakanani ukuba ubunzima kuphela kwento umntu ayikhathaleleyo," wabelane. "Ndiyi- f*** phezu kwayo!"

“Aba bafazi bahle ngaphakathi nangaphandle, bangabafazi abasebenza nzima abenze ukuba kwenzeke ukuba abafazi abafana nam babe ngabanini-shishini ababhinqileyo, babe ngowasetyhini nantoni na ngokwenene,” uqhubeke watsho uSummers. "Kutheni siqhubeka ukuvumela uluntu lubone indlela esivakalelwa ngayo?" (Related: Andikho Mzimba Positive okanye Negative, Ndim Nje)

I-Summers yongeze ukuba impilo yakhe ayikho apho afuna ukuba khona ngoku, okwenza ukubeka phambili kubathengi bakhe kube nzima ngakumbi. Waqhubeka nomsebenzi wakhe ngokukhumbuza abalandeli bakhe ukuba akukho "siphelo" emzimbeni- uhambo umfanekiso kwaye akukho mntu ukhuseleke kwingxaki yengqondo ejikeleze utshintsho lomzimba. Kodwa ngaphandle kwento ahamba kuyo ngaphakathi, ukwehla kobunzima ayisiyiyo eyona nto iphambili kuye. "Ndifuna ukukhumbuza wonke umntu ukuba ndingoyena mntu unzima kunabo bonke endakhe ndanabo, kwaye ke nam ndijongana nayo ngokwasemoyeni," utyhile umqeqeshi. "Kodwa ndenze isigqibo kwakudala kakhulu ukuba andifuni ukuba ubomi bam bujikeleze ubunzima bam. Andifuni ukucinga ngayo yonke into endiyityileyo kwaye ndikhathazeke malunga nokutyeba kwam. Andifuni ukusebenza (into endiyithandayo) kwaye ndenze konke malunga nokunciphisa umzimba." (Idibene: Kutheni Ukufumana ~ Ibhalansi ~ Yeyona nto ibalaseleyo onokuyenza kwimpilo yakho kunye nendlela yesiqhelo)

Wabhala wathi: “Akukho vuyo lokuphila ngolo hlobo. "Ayinakuba njalo, kwaye andifuni ukuba ijolise kum." Ekuphela kwesizathu sokuba u-Summers athi ubukhathalele ubunzima bakhe ngoku kukuba "unemiba yezempilo" ekufuneka ayilungise, wabhala. “Andinaxhala ngenani elikwisikali,” waphinda watsho.

Ngaphandle kokukhokela ngomzekelo kunye nokugcina eyona nto iphambili kuye, ukuva izikhalazo zabaxumi bakhe kubonakala ngathi kukhokelela kwingxelo yangaphakathi yehlobo ukuba ishukume -nje ke kukunganyaniseki nokusasazekayo kokutya okunetyhefu kunye nenkcubeko yokwehla kobunzima. "Kundenza ndizibuze ukuba ngaba aba bafazi [abanobunzima] obungaphezulu kweeponti ezili-100 ngaphantsi [kwam], bacinga ukuba batyebile, [ngoko] kufuneka ndibe yindlu," wabhala uSummers.

Kodwa ezantsi, umqeqeshi uthi uyazi ukuba ayonyani. "Ingqondo yam yasekunene indixelela ukuba ngokucacileyo, ayisiyiyo le nto kuba bayaqhubeka bezilolonga kunye nam kwaye bandixhase kwaye bandixelele ukuba ndoyikeka kwaye ndomelele kangakanani," wabelane. "Ngoko ndiyazi ukuba nangona ndilinganisa ngaphezu kweekhilogram ezili-100 ngaphezulu, ayisiyiyo into abayibonayo. Kodwa akusiyo yonke into? Obo bukhulu abunamsebenzi? Obo buntu, umsebenzi onzima, ububele, kunye nento esiyinikayo. Ukubuyela emhlabeni yeyona nto ibalulekileyo? Ndingaphezu komzimba wam.

Njengoko i-Summers ibonisa, ukugxila kuloyiso olungalinganiyo kukuvumela ukuba usebenzele ekuphuhliseni iseti yokuziphatha okungaguqukiyo, okunempilo ngelixa ugcina impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nokuzithemba kwakho kujonge - kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuvuna imvakalelo yokufezekiswa kunye nokuxabisa oko. ayinanto yakwenza nokwehla kobunzima. (Isikhumbuzo: ubunzima abuyiyo eyona barometer yezempilo kwindawo yokuqala.)

Kungenxa yokuba, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, into oqhubeka nayo ngaphakathi emzimbeni wakho (ewe, njengengqondo kunye nentliziyo) kubaluleke kakhulu nakanjani na. Njengasehlotyeni uyibeke kakuhle ngolu hlobo ngaphambili: Ungaphezulu kakhulu kwento oyibonayo esipilini. Zinike loo ntlonipho-ufanelwe yiyo.

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