Andizukuvumela iSchizophrenia ichaze ubuhlobo bethu

Umxholo

• Ukuqiniswa ebuntwaneni
• Ukujongana notshintsho
• Ubunzima, kunye nethemba
• Ukujongana neemeko ezinzima
• Izixhobo zokunceda abantu abane-schizophrenia

Inombolo yomnxeba yaseCalifornia yavela kwi-ID yam yomnxeba kwaye isisu sam sehla. Ndayazi ukuba imbi. Ndiyazi ukuba kufuneka ihambelane noJackie. Ngaba ufuna uncedo? Ngaba ulahlekile? Ngaba uswelekile? Imibuzo ibaleke entloko xa ndiphendula umnxeba. Kwangoko, ndeva ilizwi lakhe.

"Cathy, nguJackie." Wavakala esoyika kwaye esoyika. “Andazi ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Athi ndihlabe umntu. Ulungile. I guess bendicinga uyandidlwengula. Andikhumbuli. Andazi. Andikholelwa ukuba ndisentolongweni. Ndisentolongweni! ”

Intliziyo yam yabetha ngokukhawuleza, kodwa ndazama ukuhlala ndizolile. Ngaphandle kweendaba eziphazamisayo, ndandonwabile ukuva ilizwi lakhe. Ndandidlwengulwa kukuba wayevalelwe, kodwa ndandixolile ukuba uyaphila. Andizange ndikholelwe umntu onobulali kunye nobuthathaka njengoJackie angaze enzakalise umntu emzimbeni. Ubuncinci, ayingoJackie endandimazi… phambi kokuba isifo sengqondo siphuhle.

Ukugqibela kwam ukuthetha noJackie ngaphambi kokuba umnxeba wawuneminyaka emibini ngaphambili xa wayeye kumntwana wam wokuhlamba. Wahlala de laphela itheko, wandiwola, ndatsiba iHummer yakhe yagcwala eluphahleni ngeempahla, waqalisa ukuqhuba eIllinois esiya eCalifornia. Andizange ndicinge ukuba angaya khona, kodwa wayenza.

Ngoku wayeseCalifornia nasentolongweni. Ndizamile ukumthoba umsindo. “UJackie. Yehlisa isantya. Ndixelele ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni. Uyagula. Uyaqonda ukuba uyagula? Ngaba ufumene igqwetha? Ingaba igqwetha liyazi ukuba ugula ngengqondo? ”

Ndiqhubeke ndamcacisela ukuba kwiminyaka embalwa ngaphambi kokuba aye eCalifornia, wayeqale ukubonisa iimpawu zesifo sengqondo. “Uyakhumbula uhleli emotweni yakho, undixelela ukuba ubone usathana ehamba esitratweni? Uyakhumbula ukogquma zonke iifestile kwigumbi lakho lokulala ngetape emnyama? Ngaba uyakhumbula ukholelwa ukuba i-FBI yayikulandela? Uyakhumbula ubaleka ngendawo ethintelweyo kwisikhululo seenqwelomoya i-O'Hare? Uyaqonda ukuba uyagula, Jackie? ”

Ngokusasazeka kweengcinga kunye namazwi aqhekekileyo, uJackie wachaza ukuba umkhuseli wakhe woluntu wamxelela ukuba unesifo sengqondo kwaye wayeqonda, kodwa ndingamxelela ukuba wayedidekile kwaye akazange aqonde ukuba wayehlala nenye yezona ndlela zinzima zengqondo. isigulo. Ubomi bakhe babutshintshiwe unaphakade.

Ukuqiniswa ebuntwaneni

Mna noJackie sikhulele ngapha kwesitalato. Sasingabahlobo kwangoko ukusukela kumzuzu esadibana ngawo okokuqala kwisikhululo sebhasi kwiklasi yokuqala. Sahlala sisondele kuzo zonke izikolo zamabanga aphantsi naphakathi kwaye sagqiba kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo kunye. Nangona sasihamba ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zekholeji, sahlala sinxibelelana saza safudukela eChicago kungaphelanga nonyaka omnye komnye. Ukutyhubela iminyaka, sabelana ngeziganeko zobomi bethu bokusebenza kunye kunye namabali edrama yosapho, iingxaki zamakhwenkwe, kunye nokuwohloka kwefashoni. UJackie wade wandazisa kumntu endisebenza naye, owathi ekugqibeleni waba ngumyeni wam.

Ukujongana notshintsho

Kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini anamashumi amabini, uJackie waqala ukubamba paranoid kwaye ebonisa isimilo esingaqhelekanga. Uye wazityand 'igila kum wandixelela ngeengxaki zakhe. Ndamcenga ukuba afumane uncedo lobuchwephesha, ngaphandle kwempumelelo. Ndaziva ndingenakuzinceda. Ngaphandle kokuphulukana nabazali bam, umtshana, umakazi, nomakhulu kwisithuba seminyaka emine, ukubona umhlobo wam wobuntwana waphulukana nesifo sengqondo yayilelona loyikekayo ebomini bam.

Bendisazi ukuba akukho nto ndinokuyenza ukugcina abantu endibathandayo bephila - babephathwa zizifo ezinganyangekiyo - kodwa bendihlala ndinethemba lokuba inkxaso yam nothando lwam kuJackie luyakumnceda aphile. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, njengabantwana, nanini na xa efuna ukubaleka usizi lwasekhaya okanye athethe ngentliziyo eyaphukileyo, ndandilapho ndinendlebe evulekileyo, ikhowuni ye-ice cream, kunye nesiqhulo okanye ezimbini.

Kodwa eli xesha lahlukile. Ngeli xesha bendilahlekile.

Ubunzima, kunye nethemba

Nantsi into endiyaziyo ngoku ngesifo esiqobayo sikaJackie, nangona kusekho okuninzi endingakuqondiyo. I-National Institute of Mental Health ichaza isifo sengqondo esithi “sisifo sengqondo esixhalabisayo“ njengesifo esintsonkothe ​​ngendlela engathethekiyo esiye saziwa ngokuqokelela iingxaki ezahlukeneyo. ” Inokwenzeka emadodeni nakwabasetyhini bayo yonke iminyaka, kodwa abasetyhini bahlala bekhombisa iimpawu zokugula sele beneminyaka engama-20 ukuya kwa-30, kanye kanye xa uJackie ebonisa imiqondiso.

Kukho iindidi ngeendidi zeschizophrenia, “paranoid” le inguJackie anayo. I-Schizophrenia ihlala iqondwa gwenxa kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ibekwa amabala, njengoko uninzi lwesifo sengqondo. Isayikholojisti yophando u-Eleanor Longden wanika i-TEDTalk emangalisayo echaza indlela ayifumene ngayo i-schizophrenia, indlela abahlobo bakhe abasabela ngayo ngendlela engeyiyo, nendlela awaphumelela ngayo amazwi entlokweni yakhe. Ibali lakhe lelinye lethemba. Ndiyathemba ukuba ndinqwenela ukuba khona kuJackie.

Ukujongana neemeko ezinzima

Emva komnxeba owothusayo uvela ejele, uJackie wagwetywa ngokubetha wagwetywa iminyaka esixhenxe kwinkqubo yamapolisa aseCalifornia. Iminyaka emithathu, uJackie wathunyelwa kwiziko lempilo yengqondo. Ngeli xesha, sasibhalelana, kwaye mna nomyeni wam sagqiba kwelokuba simtyelele. Ukulindela ukubona uJackie kwakukhathaza amathumbu. Bendingazi ukuba ndingadlula kuyo okanye ndinyamezele ukumbona kuloo ndawo. Kodwa bendisazi ukuba kufuneka ndizame.

Njengokuba mna nomyeni wam sasimi emgceni ngaphandle kweziko lezempilo yengqondo silinde ukuba kuvulwe iingcango, intloko yam yayizaliswe ziinkumbulo ezimyoli. Mna noJackie, sidlala i-hopscotch kwindawo yokumisa iibhasi, sihamba kunye ukuya kwinqanaba eliphezulu kunye, siqhubela kwisikolo esiphakamileyo ngemoto yakhe eyabethwayo. Umqala wam uvalekile. Imilenze yam yangcangcazela. Ityala lokungaphumeleli kuye, lokungakwazi ukumnceda, landoyisa.

Ndijonge ibhokisi yepitsa kunye noFannie May iitshokholethi esandleni sam kwaye ndacinga ngendlela ekuhlekisa ngayo ukucinga ukuba banokuyikhanyisa imini yakhe. Wayevalelekile ngaphakathi kule ndawo kwaye ngaphakathi kwengqondo yakhe. Ngomzuzwana, bendicinga ukuba kuya kuba lula ukujika nje. Kuya kuba lula ukukhumbula ukugigitheka kunye kwibhasi yesikolo, okanye ukumncoma xa wayesenkundleni yesikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, okanye ukuyothenga iimpahla ezihamba kunye kunye kwivenkile yaseChicago. Kuya kuba lula ukumkhumbula ngaphambi kokuba yenzeke yonke le nto, njengomhlobo wam ongakhathaliyo, nothandayo.

Kodwa yayingelo bali lakhe lonke. ISchizophrenia, kunye nentolongo kunye nayo, ngoku yayiyinxalenye yobomi bakhe. Ke xa kuvulwa iingcango, ndaphefumla ngokungcangcazela, ndemba nzulu, ndangena.

Xa uJackie wandibona kunye nomyeni wam, wasinika uncumo olukhulu - olo ncumo lumangalisayo ndalukhumbula xa wayeneminyaka emi-5, neli-15, nengama-25 ubudala. WayesenguJackie nokuba kwenzeke ntoni kuye. Wayesengumhlobo wam omhle.

Utyelelo lwethu lwadlula ngokukhawuleza. Ndambonisa imifanekiso yonyana wam nentombi yakhe, angazange wababona. Sahleka malunga nexesha intaka eyayizikrwempa ngalo entloko xa sisiya esikolweni, nendlela esasidanisa ngayo kude kubethe u-4 kusasa kwitheko losuku lweSt.Patrick xa sasineminyaka engama-24. Ukusebenza, nokusondelelana nabantu.

Wayengakhumbuli kwanto ngesiganeko esamfaka entolongweni, kodwa waziva ezisola ngokunzulu ngalento ayenzileyo. Wayethetha ngokuphandle ngokugula kwakhe kwaye wathi amayeza kunye nonyango ayanceda. Sililele into yokuba singaphinde sibonane ixesha elide. Ngokukhawuleza, kwakungathi ucingo oluhlabayo ngaphandle luye lwanyamalala kwaye sasihleli emva eChicago kwivenkile yekofu sabelana ngamabali. Kwakungaphelelanga, kodwa kwakuyinyani.

Ukuhamba kwam nomyeni wam, saqhuba phantse iyure sithe cwaka sibambene ngezandla. Yayiyinto ethe cwaka ezele lusizi kodwa ikwanalo nentwana yethemba. Ndandiyicaphukela imeko ebuhlungu awayekuyo uJackie. Ndandiyicaphukela imeko yokugula eyayimbeke apho, kodwa ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba nangona oku kunokuba yinxalenye yobomi bukaJackie ngoku, ngekhe kumchaze.

Kum, uyakuhlala eyintombazana entle endandijonge phambili ukuyibona kwindawo yokumisa iibhasi yonke imihla.

Izixhobo zokunceda abantu abane-schizophrenia

Ukuba unomhlobo okanye ilungu losapho eline-schizophrenia, unokunceda ngokubakhuthaza ukuba bafumane unyango kwaye babambelele kulo. Ukuba awuyazi ukuba ungayifumana phi ingcali yezempilo yengqondo ephatha i-schizophrenia, cela ugqirha wakho wokhathalelo lokuqala ukuba acebise enye. Unokufikelela kwisicwangciso seinshurensi yezempilo yomntu omthandayo. Ukuba ukhetha ukukhangela kwi-Intanethi, iAmerican Psychological Association inikezela ngophando olwenziweyo kwi-Intanethi ngendawo kunye nobungcali.

IZiko leSizwe lezeMpilo yeNgqondo likukhuthaza ukuba ukhumbule ukuba i-schizophrenia sisifo sendalo esinokuthi eso simthandayo singavali nje. Bacebisa ukuba eyona ndlela iluncedo yokuphendula umntu omthandayo xa esithi iingxelo ezingaqhelekanga okanye ezingezizo kukuqonda ukuba bayazikholelwa ngokwenyani iingcinga nemibono abanayo.