Umntwana Esihogweni Emhlabeni: Ndoyise Njani Ingqumbo Yomntwana Wam KwiOfisi kaGqirha

Umxholo

• Umntwana wam omncinci omncinci, ugqirha wabantwana, kunye nomsindo
• Ukusebenza kwakhona ngesicwangciso sobugqirha sokundwendwela
• Ukwamkela awunguye umzali ombi kuba umntwana wakho uyakhala

Andazi ngawe, kodwa ndathi ndakuba ngumama, ndacinga ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ndihlazeke kwakhona.

Ndiyathetha, ukuthozama kobuqu ikakhulu kuphume ngefestile ngokuzala. Kwaye into encinci endiyigcinileyo yahluthwa ngakumbi ngokuncancisa usana lwam lokuqala. Yacinywa kwaphela neyesibini (usana lwaludinga ukutya nanini na kwaye naphina apho sasinomntakwabo omkhulu, nangeentsuku ezinomoya omkhulu xa ii-nursing cover zingavumi ukusebenzisana).

Emva koko kukho ucoceko lomntu. Njengoko uyazi, xa usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa, ugqunywe kakhulu nge-pee, poop, spit-up, kwaye uThixo uyazi enye into kwezi nyanga zokuqala. Yayiyintoni le ivumba? Mhlawumbi ndim.

Kwaye masingakulibali ukuncibilika esidlangalaleni esidlangalaleni okubangelwa kukutyisa kade okanye ukulala.

Kodwa yonke le yinxalenye yokuba ngumzali, akunjalo? Kunene. Akukho nto uyibonayo apha, bantu.

Umntwana wam omncinci omncinci, ugqirha wabantwana, kunye nomsindo

Into endandingayilungiselelanga yayikukuphindaphindwa koloyiko kunye nokuhluthwa kokusa usana lwam kugqirha - okanye, ngakumbi, ukuthatha encinci kugqirha.

Xa unomntwana, ulindele ukuba alile xa ehlaselwa, ekhuthazwa kwaye ephononongwa. Uqhele ukwangiwa, ukhathalelwe, kwaye uncanyulwe. Ke, ngokwendalo, oku kunxaxha okumanyumnyezi kwesiqhelo kuyinto ebambekayo, ukutsho nje okuncinci.

Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukumthulisa kamnandi kwaye umthuthuzele kwaye, ukuba uyancancisa, ncamathela ibhobhosi emlonyeni wakhe, kwaye konke kulungile ngehlabathi kwakhona. Ngapha koko, uya kuthi nokuba utshintshise uncumo kunye nogqirha wabantwana: Iintsana! Ungenzani? Kwaye jonga indlela athandeka ngayo, nokuba uyakhwaza!

Ukukhwaza komntwana omncinci, nangona kunjalo, ayithandeki.

Hayi, endaweni yosana oluswiti, noluthandekayo ngokulula, unesihogo-esinamavili, isifungo, uluvo, umntwana opholileyo ongekabinawo amazwi okuzichaza kakuhle kodwa oneZIMVO ezininzi. Owu, kwaye sele ndikhankanyile ukuba abantwana abasabhadayo nabo bayakhaba - kunzima?

Andikwazi nokucinga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kule meko xa unamawele. Ewe ndinako, kwaye ndicinga ukuba oomama bamawele bafanelwe ziimbasa kuba oko kuvakala ngathi linqanaba lesithoba lesihogo sentuthumbo kanye apho.

Kodwa buyela kum kunye nomntwana wam omnye ongaziphathi kakuhle. Njengabazali, siyazi ukuba abantwana abancinci abanakho ukuzilawula ngokwabo, ukuba bonke bangama-id (umnqweno), ukuba bakwiminyaka yabo yokwakheka kwaye bafunda nje indlela yokuziphatha kwihlabathi.

Kodwa kutheni besenza oku?! Kuya kufuneka bazi ngcono! Singabazali abalungileyo, kwaye sibafundise ngcono.

Kwaye ngaba ndim nje, okanye ngaba lo gqirha mhle ngequbuliso ugweba ngokupheleleyo? Mhlawumbi okanye mhlawumbi akunjalo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo uziva ngathi xa uzama ukufumana umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale azole kwaye ANQANDA UKUHLAWULA. Umntwana wakho ucinga ukuba ugqirha uzokwenzani, amenzakalise kwaye amhlabe ngento ebukhali?

Yima. Ewe, yiloo nto kanye eza kwenzeka, kwaye abantwana abasakhumbulayo bayakhumbula. Abantwana banomdla wokuzilondoloza, okona kulungileyo xa ucinga ngako. Ayenzi ukubekwa ityala nangaphantsi ngalo mzuzu. Kodwa kuyanceda ukuyikhumbula le factoid kamva, xa usongekile esofeni kwisithuba sokukhula komntwana, ukubukela ukuzinkcinkca ngotywala "Nguwe lo" kwaye urhaxise usizi lwakho kwiiCheetos.

Ukusebenza kwakhona ngesicwangciso sobugqirha sokundwendwela

Emva kwesinye isiqendu sokuzisizela, ndafumana i-epiphany: Kutheni ungenzi uhambo oluya eofisini likagqirha? Ewe, MNANDI. Ukuba ndinokuthi ngandlela ithile ndibonise amava kwaye ndibeke amandla ezandleni zomntwana wam, zinokujika izinto.

Ke, ngosuku olulandelayo, ndabeka isitokhwe kwiincwadi ezithetha ngotyelelo logqirha. Lulonke uthotho oludumileyo lunenye (cinga: "iSesame Street," "Ubumelwane bukaDaniel Tiger," kunye "neBerenstain Bears"). Ukuba umntwana wam omncinci angabona ukuba abalinganiswa bakhe abathandayo baye kwagqirha kwaye akukho nto imbi yenzekileyo, mhlawumbi ngekhe oyike.

Kwakungonelanga, nangona. Wayefuna enye into ebambekayo. Ke, ndimfumanele ikiti kagqirha wokudlala esiqale ukudlala ngayo ngalo lonke ixesha. Sitshintshe iindima zoogqirha / zezigulana, kwaye saba negumbi lokulinda elizaliswe zizigulana zezilwanyana ezixutywe ngabantu abaza kusimangalela ngokupheleleyo ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle ukuba ibingabantu bokwenyani. Wayeyithanda, kwaye nam ngokunjalo, nokuba wayenomdla kakhulu malunga nokuvavanya iingqondo zam (ouch).

Ndaziva ndithembekile kodwa bendinovalo ngelixa lokuhlolwa kwakhe okulandelayo kwakujikeleza. Kwaye ngomzuzu wokugqibela, ndibeke ikiti phantsi kwesitulo esihamba nayo ndahamba nayo. Eso yaba sisitshixo sokwenyani.

Njengoko wayedlala ugqirha kunye nogqirha wokwenene, amaxhala akhe aphela. Ngelixa ugqirha wayemvavanya, unyana wam wamamela ukubetha kwentliziyo kagqirha ene-stethoscope yakhe. Emva koko wajonga ezindlebeni zikagqirha, wenza ngathi uyamdubula, wambopha ngebhandeji, njalo njalo. Yayithandeka, kodwa ngakumbi ukuya kwinqanaba, yamphazamisa ngokupheleleyo kwinto eyenziwa ngugqirha.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, wayesakhala kancinci xa efumana izithonga zakhe, kodwa yayingeyonto xa ithelekiswa nokungcungcutheka ngenxa yokuqeshwa kwangaphambili kogqirha. Kwaye, ukukhala kuyeke ngokukhawuleza njengoko waphinde waphazamiseka kukudlala ugqirha. Impumelelo!

Ukwamkela awunguye umzali ombi kuba umntwana wakho uyakhala

Emva koko, ndandinokubamba intloko phezulu kwakhona xa ndisiya kwiofisi yogqirha wabantwana. Andizange ndiphumelele njengomzali, kwaye ugqirha wayeyibona ekugqibeleni loo nto. Ewe, mna!

Ndiye ndaqonda ukuba ibiyinto le yobubhanxa ukuba neentloni ngayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, le yayiyi ncinane besithetha ngalo. Ndafunga ukuba andinakuze ndiphinde ndibenentloni malunga nomba wokuba ngumzali kwakhona.

Ewe, ewe, eso sifungo saphuma ngefestile ngokukhawuleza… nje ukuba unyana wam aqalise ukuthetha ngokucacileyo kwizivakalisi ezipheleleyo, ezingacocwanga, ezingafanelekanga. Kodwa yayintle ngelixa yayihlala!

Ngaba umntwana wakho omncinci unzima ukuya kwagqirha? Uyiphatha njani? Yabelana ngeengcebiso zakho namacebo kunye nam kwizimvo!

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