Oku Kunjani Xa Ungumama onePain engapheliyo

Umxholo

• Ukukhangela iindlela zokulawula iintlungu
• Ukunyaniseka kwintombi yam
• Imigca yesilivere ye-endometriosis

Phambi kokuba ndifumane isifo, ndandicinga ukuba i-endometriosis yayiyinto nje yokuba nexesha elibi. Kwaye emva koko, ndiye ndacinga ukuba loo nto ithetha nje ukuba iicramps zimbi. Ndinomntu endandihlala naye ekholejini owayene-endo, kwaye ndineentloni zokuvuma bendihlala ndicinga ukuba uyadlala xa ekhalaza malunga nokuba ixesha lakhe liza kuba libi kangakanani. Ndacinga ukuba ufuna ukujongwa.

Ndandisisidenge.

Ndandineminyaka engama-26 ubudala ukuqala kwam ukufunda ukuba amanqanaba amabi angaba njani kubafazi abane-endometriosis. Ndaye ndaqala ukuphosa ngalo lonke ixesha ndifumana ixesha lam, iintlungu ezibuhlungu zaziphantse zamfamekisa. Bendingakwazi ukuhamba. Ayikwazanga ukutya. Ayinakusebenza. Kwakubuhlungu.

Malunga neenyanga ezintandathu emva kokuba ixesha lam liqale ukunganyamezeleki, ugqirha waqinisekisa ukuxilongwa kwe-endometriosis. Ukusuka apho, iintlungu zaya zisiba mandundu. Kwiminyaka eliqela elandelayo, iintlungu zaba yinxalenye yobomi bam bemihla ngemihla. Ndafunyaniswa ndinesigaba se-4 endometriosis, oko kwakuthetha ukuba izicwili ezigulayo azikho kummandla wamathambo kuphela. Yayisasazekile yaphela imithambo-luvo kwaye yaphakama njengodakada lwam. Izicubu ezinqabileyo kumjikelo ngamnye endinazo zazibangela ukuba amalungu am adibane kunye.

Ndingaziva iintlungu zokudubula phantsi kwemilenze yam. Ubuhlungu nanini na xa ndizama ukulala ngesondo. Iintlungu zokutya nokuya kwindlu yangasese. Ngamanye amaxesha iintlungu nokuba kukuphefumla.

Intlungu khange ize nje neeperiods zam kwakhona. Kwakunam yonke imihla, umzuzu ngamnye, ngamanyathelo onke endiwathathile.

Ukukhangela iindlela zokulawula iintlungu

Ekugqibeleni, ndafumana ugqirha owayengugqirha kunyango lwe-endometriosis. Kwaye emva kotyando kathathu kunye naye, ndakwazi ukufumana isiqabu. Ayilulo unyango - akukho nto injalo xa kufikwa kwesi sifo - kodwa amandla okulawula i-endometriosis, kunokuba uvele nje unikezele kuso.

Malunga nonyaka emva kotyando lokugqibela, ndasikelelwa ngethuba lokukhulisa intombi yam encinci. Esi sifo besindixwile kulo naliphi na ithemba lokuba ndiza kuthwala umntwana, kodwa okwesibini bendinentombi yam ezandleni zam, bendisazi ukuba ayinamsebenzi. Ndandihlala ndifuna ukuba ngumama wakhe.

Sekunjalo, ndandingumama ongatshatanga onesifo esinganyangekiyo. Inye endiye ndakwazi ukuyigcina kakuhle iphantsi kolawulo ukusukela kotyando, kodwa imeko ebesenayo indlela yokundibetha ngaphandle kohlaza kwaye andibethe emadolweni rhoqo ngexeshana.

Ukuqala kwayo ukwenzeka, intombi yam yayingaphantsi konyaka. Umhlobo wayezele iwayini emva kokuba ndibeke intombazana yam encinci ebhedini, kodwa asizange siyenze njengokuvula ibhotile.

Intlungu yayiqhekeze icala lam ngaphambi kokuba sifike kuloo ndawo. Icyst yayiqhuma, ibangela iintlungu ezingathethekiyo- kunye nento endandingazange ndijongane nayo kwiminyaka eliqela. Ngombulelo, umhlobo wam wayekhona ukuze ahlale ubusuku kwaye ajonge intombazana yam ukuze ndikwazi ukuthatha ipilisi yeentlungu kwaye ndizongele kwindawo yokutshisa eshushu.

Ukusukela ngoko, amaxesha am ayabethwa kwaye aphoswa. Ezinye ziyalawuleka, kwaye ndiyakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuba ngumama ngokusetyenziswa kwee-NSAID ngaphezulu kweentsuku zokuqala zomjikelo wam. Ezinye zinzima kakhulu kunoko. Into endikwaziyo ukuyenza kukuchitha ezo ntsuku ebhedini.

Njengomama ongatshatanga, inzima loo nto. Andifuni ukuthatha nantoni na eyomeleleyo kune-NSAIDs; ukunamathela kunye nokufumaneka kwintombi yam yinto ephambili. Kodwa ndiyakucaphukela ukuba ndimthintele kwimisebenzi yakhe yeentsuku njengoko ndilele ebhedini, ndizisongele kwiipads zokufudumeza ndilinde ukuziva ndingumntu kwakhona.

Ukunyaniseka kwintombi yam

Akukho mpendulo igqibeleleyo, kwaye amaxesha amaninzi ndishiyeka ndiziva ndinetyala xa iintlungu zithintela ukuba ndingangumama endifuna ukuba nguye. Ke, ndizama nzima ukuzikhathalela. Ndiwubona ngokupheleleyo umahluko kumanqanaba am entlungu xa ndingalali ngokwaneleyo, ndingatyi kakuhle, okanye ndizilolonge ngokwaneleyo. Ndizama ukuhlala ndisempilweni kangangoko ukuze amanqanaba entlungu angahlala kwinqanaba elilawulekayo.

Xa oko kungasebenzi, nangona kunjalo? Ndiyinyani ngentombi yam. Kwiminyaka emi-4 ubudala, ngoku uyazi ukuba uMama une-owies kwisisu sakhe. Uyayiqonda lonto kutheni ndingakwazi ukuthwala umntwana kwaye kutheni ekhulele esiswini somnye umama wakhe. Kwaye uyazi ukuba, ngamanye amaxesha, ii-owies zikaMama zithetha ukuba kufuneka sihlale ebhedini sibukele imovie.

Uyazi ukuba xa ndibuhlungu ngokwenyani, kufuneka ndithathe indawo yakhe yokuhlambela ndenze amanzi ashushu kangangokuba angabinakuzibandakanya nam ebhafini. Uyaqonda ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka nje ndivale amehlo am ukuze ndithintele iintlungu, nokuba kuphakathi emini. Kwaye uyayazi inyani yokuba ndiyonyanya ngezo ntsuku. Oko ndikuthiyile ukungabikho kwiipesenti ezili-100 kwaye ndinako ukudlala naye njengoko siqhele ukwenza.

Ndiyamcaphukela xa endibona ndibethwa phantsi sesi sifo. Kodwa uyazi ntoni? Intombazana yam encinci inenqanaba lovelwano ongakholwayo. Kwaye xa ndineentsuku ezibuhlungu, njengoko zimbalwa kwaye zikude njengoko zihlala kunjalo, ulapho kanye, elungele ukundinceda nangayiphi na indlela.

Akakhalazi. Akangxoli. Akathathi sibonelelo kwaye azame ukubaleka nezinto angenakukwazi ukuzenza. Hayi, uhlala ecaleni kwebhafu kwaye undigcina ndikhona. Ukhetha iimovie ukuze sizibukele kunye. Kwaye wenza ngokungathi ibhotolo yamandongomane kunye nejeli iisendwitshi endimenzela ukuba azitye zezona zibabayo zimangalisayo awakhe wazifumana.

Xa ezo ntsuku zidlula, xa ndingasaziva ndibethwa sesi sifo, sihlala sihamba. Soloko ngaphandle. Soloko uphonononga. Soloko usiya kwi-adventure enkulu kamama-intombi.

Imigca yesilivere ye-endometriosis

Ndicinga ngaye - ngezo ntsuku xa ndibuhlungu- ngamanye amaxesha ikhefu lokwamkela. Ubonakala ngathi uyathanda ukuhlala ngaphakathi kwaye andincede imini yonke.Ngaba yindima endinokuze ndiyikhethele yena? Ngokuqinisekileyo akunjalo. Andazi namnye umzali ofuna umntwana wakhe ambone esophuka.

Kodwa, xa ndicinga ngayo, kufuneka ndivume ukuba kukho izinto zesilivere kwintlungu endifumana amaxesha ngamaxesha ezandleni zesi sifo. Uvelwano oluboniswa yintombi yam luphawu endizingcayo ngalo. Kwaye mhlawumbi ikhona into ekumele ithethwe ngokufunda kwakhe nokuba umama wakhe onzima uneentsuku ezimbi ngamanye amaxesha.

Andizange ndifune ukuba ngumfazi onentlungu engapheliyo. Ngokuqinisekileyo andizange ndifune ukuba ngumama onentlungu engapheliyo. Kodwa ndiyakholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba sonke senziwe ngamava ethu. Kwaye ukujonga intombi yam, ukubona umzabalazo wam ngamehlo akhe - andikuthiyile ukuba le yinxalenye yento embumbayo.

Ndiyabulela nje ukuba iintsuku zam ezilungileyo zisengaphezulu lee kwezimbi.

ULeah Campbell ngumbhali kunye nomhleli ohlala eAnchorage, eAlaska. Umama ongatshatanga ngokuzikhethela emva kothotho lweziganeko ezikhokelela ekufumaneni intombi yakhe, uLeya ubhale kakhulu malunga nokungachumi, ukukhulisa umntwana nokuba ngumzali. Tyelela ibhlog yakhe okanye uqhagamshele naye kwi-Twitter @sifinaliska.