Ukuthetha Okufanelekileyo: Indlela oziThetha ngayo ngokwakho yinto elungileyo

Umxholo

• Kutheni kulungile kuwe?
• Ingaba isebenza kanjani?
• Yiyiphi eminye imizekelo?
• Ndiyisebenzisa njani le mihla le?
• Ndingalufumana nini uncedo?

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Kukuthini ukuthetha ngokwakho?

Ukuthetha ngokwakho yingxoxo yakho yangaphakathi. Inempembelelo kwingqondo yakho engacacanga, kwaye ityhila iingcinga zakho, iinkolelo, imibuzo kunye nemibono.

Ukuthetha ngokwakho kunokuba kubi kwaye kulungile. Inokukhuthaza, kwaye inokubangela uxinzelelo. Uninzi lwakho lokuthetha luxhomekeke kubuntu bakho. Ukuba unethemba, ukuthetha kwakho kunokuba nethemba kwaye kulungile. Okuchasene ngokuqinisekileyo kuyinyani ukuba uhlala ungakhathali.

Ukucinga okuqinisekileyo kunye nethemba kunokuba zizixhobo ezifanelekileyo zokulawula uxinzelelo. Ewe, ukuba nembono entle ngobomi kunokunika izibonelelo zempilo. Umzekelo, olunye uphando luka-2010 lubonisa ukuba nethemba lokuba nomgangatho wobomi obungcono.

Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba intetho yakho yokuzimela ayibi kakhulu, okanye ukuba ufuna ukugxininisa ukuthetha ngokwakho, unokufunda ukuyitshintsha loo ncoko yangaphakathi. Inokukunceda ube ngumntu oqinisekileyo, kwaye inokuphucula impilo yakho.

Kutheni kulungile kuwe?

Ukuthetha ngokwakho kunokuphucula ukusebenza kwakho kunye nentlalo-ntle ngokubanzi. Umzekelo, uphando lubonisa ukuzithetha kunokunceda iimbaleki ngokusebenza. Inokubanceda ngokunyamezela okanye ngamandla ngokusebenzisa iiseti ezinobunzima.

Ngapha koko, ukuthetha ngokuzithemba kunye nokujonga ngakumbi kunokuba nezinye izibonelelo zempilo, kubandakanya:

• ukwanda komzimba
• ulwaneliseko olukhulu ebomini
• ukuphucula ukusebenza komzimba
• iintlungu ezincitshisiweyo
• impilo engcono yentliziyo
• impilo entle yomzimba
• ukunciphisa umngcipheko wokufa
• uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo

Akucaci ukuba kutheni abantu abanethemba kunye nabantu abanokuzithetha bodwa benamava kwezi zibonelelo. Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abanokuzithetha ngokwabo ngokuqinisekileyo banokuba nezakhono zengqondo ezibavumela ukuba basombulule iingxaki, bacinge ngokwahlukileyo, kwaye babe nokusebenza ngakumbi ekujonganeni nobunzima okanye imiceli mngeni. Oku kunokunciphisa iziphumo eziyingozi zoxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.

Ingaba isebenza kanjani?

Ngaphambi kokuba ufunde ukuziqhelanisa nokuthetha ngakumbi, kuya kufuneka uqale uchonge ukucinga okungalunganga. Olu hlobo lokucinga kunye nokuthetha ngokwakho luwela ngokwamanqanaba amane:

• Ukuzenzela. Uzibek 'ityala ngayo yonke into.
• Ukukhulisa. Ujolise kwimiba emibi yemeko, ukungahoyi naziphi na zonke izinto ezilungileyo.
• Intlekele. Ulindele okona kubi, kwaye kunqabile ukuba uvumele ingcinga okanye isizathu sikucenge ngenye indlela.
• Ukwahlulahlula. Uyalibona ilizwe elimnyama nelomhlophe, okanye lilungile nelingalunganga. Akukho nto iphakathi kwaye akukho mhlaba uphakathi wokulungiswa kunye nokuhlelwa kweziganeko zobomi.

Xa uqala ukuqaphela iintlobo zakho zokucinga okungalunganga, ungasebenzela ukuziguqula zibe kukucinga okuhle. Lo msebenzi ufuna ukuziqhelanisa kunye nexesha kwaye awuphuhlisi ngokukhawuleza. Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba kunokwenziwa. Uphononongo luka-2012 lubonisa nokuba abantwana abancinci banokufunda ukulungisa ukungazithethi.

Yiyiphi eminye imizekelo?

Le mizekelo yimizekelo yexesha kunye nendlela onokuthi uguqule ukuthetha okungathandekiyo kwisithethi esifanelekileyo. Kwakhona, kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa. Ukuqonda ezinye zokuthetha kwakho okungathandekiyo kwezi meko kunokukunceda ukuba uphucule izakhono zokufaka ingcinga xa isenzeka.

Okubi: Ndiya kuphoxeka wonke umntu ukuba nditshintshe ingqondo yam.

Kulungile: Ndinegunya lokutshintsha ingqondo. Abanye baya kuqonda.

Okubi: Ndohlulekile ndaziphoxa.

Kulungile: Ndiyazingca ngokuzama nokuzama. Oko kwakufuna inkalipho.

Okubi: Ndityebile kwaye ndingenasimo. Ndingahle ndingazikhathazi.

Kulungile: Ndiyakwazi kwaye ndinamandla, kwaye ndifuna ukuba sempilweni kum.

Okubi: Ndayeka wonke umntu kwiqela lam xa ndingakhange ndifumane manqaku.

Kulungile: Imidlalo ngumcimbi weqela. Siyaphumelela kwaye siyaphulukana kunye.

Okubi: Andikaze ndiyenze le nto ngaphambili kwaye ndiza kuba mbi kuyo.

Kulungile: Eli lithuba elihle lokuba ndifunde kwabanye kwaye ndikhule.

Okubi: Akukho ndlela nje eya kusebenza ngayo.

Kulungile: Ndiyakwazi kwaye ndiza kunika konke okusemandleni ukuze ndisebenze.

Ndiyisebenzisa njani le mihla le?

Ukuthetha ngokuzithemba kuthatha ukuziqhelanisa ukuba ayingomntu wakho wemvelo. Ukuba uhlala unethemba elingaphezulu, unokufunda ukutshintsha incoko yakho yangaphakathi ukuze ukhuthaze ngakumbi kwaye uphakamise.

Nangona kunjalo, ukwenza umkhwa omtsha kuthatha ixesha kunye nomzamo. Ixesha elingaphezulu, iingcinga zakho zinokutshintsha. Ukuthetha ngokuzithemba kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Ezi ngcebiso zinokunceda:

• Chonga imigibe yokuthetha engalunganga. Iziganeko ezithile zinokunyusa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye zikhokelele ekuthetheni kakubi. Iziganeko zomsebenzi, umzekelo, kunokuba nzima kakhulu. Ukwalatha xa ufumana eyona nto intle yokuthetha kunokukunceda uqikelele kwaye uzilungiselele.
• Jonga ngeemvakalelo zakho. Yima ngexesha leziganeko okanye iintsuku ezimbi kwaye uvavanye intetho yakho. Ngaba iya isiba mbi? Ungayijika njani?
• Khangela uburharha. Ukuhleka kunokunceda ekunciphiseni uxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo. Xa ufuna isincomo sokuthetha ngokwakho, fumana iindlela zokuhleka, ezinje ngokubukela iividiyo zezilwanyana ezihlekisayo okanye umntu ohlekisayo.
• Zijikeleze nabantu abanethemba. Nokuba uyayiqaphela okanye akuyiqapheli, unokuyithathela imbonakalo kunye neemvakalelo zabantu abakungqongileyo. Oku kubandakanya ukungabi nalutho kunye nokuhle, ngoko khetha abantu abanomdla xa unako.
• Zinike isiqinisekiso esihle. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukubona amagama aqinisekileyo okanye imifanekiso ekhuthazayo inokwanela ukuhambisa iingcinga zakho. Thumela izikhumbuzo ezincinci kwiofisi yakho, ekhayeni lakho, kwaye naphi na apho uchitha ixesha elininzi.

Ndingalufumana nini uncedo?

Ukuthetha ngokuzithemba kunokukunceda ukuphucula indlela ojonga ngayo ubomi. Inokuba neenzuzo ezihlala zihleli zezempilo, kubandakanya ukuphucula impilo kunye nomgangatho wobomi obungcono. Nangona kunjalo, ukuthetha ngokwakho ngumkhwa owenziwe ngaphezulu kobomi bonke.

Ukuba uhlala uthethe gwenxa kwaye uphambene kwicala lokungazithembi, unokufunda ukuyitshintsha. Kuthatha ixesha kunye nokuziqhelanisa, kodwa unokukhulisa intetho yakho elungileyo.

Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba awuphumelelanga ngokwakho, thetha nonyango. Iingcali zempilo yengqondo zinokukunceda ukuba uchaze imithombo yezinto ezingathandekiyo zokuthetha kwaye ufunde ukutshintsha iswitshi. Buza umboneleli wakho wezempilo ukuba uthunyelwe kumgqirha, okanye ubuze umhlobo okanye ilungu lentsapho ngesiphakamiso.

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