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Iindaba ezimnandi kuwe kunye nomfazi wephiko lakho: Uya kufumana kuphela isiqingatha sexesha elifanayo lomfo ohendayo. Ngokophando olutsha olupapashwe kwi Ibhayoloji yangoku, into abantu abayifumanayo enomtsalane ayifani kwaphela naloo mntu

Ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni kanye kanye eyenza umntu abe "luhlobo," abaphandi abavela kwiKholeji yaseWellesley babenabathathi-nxaxheba abangama-35,000 abalinganisa ubuso babo ngomtsalane. Nangona kukho uluvo lokuba ubuso obulinganayo obulinganayo (njengoBrad Pitt) bukholisa indawo yonke, abaphandi bafumanise ukuba abantu abohlukeneyo babetsalwa kuphela kubuso obufanayo beepesenti ezingama-50 zexesha. (Kutheni le nto umtsalane unxila kangaka? Kuba ubuso obuhle bufana neHeroin, uSifundo uthi.)

Ekubeni abantu abaninzi bengavumelani ngokuba ngubani oyena ushushu, abaphengululi bazibuza enoba izinto esizikhethayo zinento yokwenza nendalo okanye ukondla. Ekuphela kwendlela yokulawula utyekelo lwemfuza nokusingqongileyo? Ngokufunda abantu abane-genetics efanayo kunye nokuvezwa kwamawele okusingqongileyo. Kodwa nabantu abafana nawe unokufumana kuphela ubuso obufanayo obunomtsalane ngamaxesha angama-50 ekhulwini!

Ke yintoni echaphazela "uhlobo" lwethu? Abaphandi bacinga ukuba konke kusekelwe kumava akho awodwa. Yiyo loo nto ne-BFF yakho *phantse ibe ngumntu ofanayo* njengoko unokungenwa ziseti zeempawu ezahlukeneyo: Akukho bantu babini baneseti efanayo yamava kunye nonxibelelwano.

Abaphandi bacinga ukuba zimbini iintlobo eziphambili zamava anefuthe ekutsaleni kwethu komnye umntu: Ukuziqhelanisa nemibutho elungileyo. Uphando oludlulileyo lubonakalisile ukuba kokukhona unxibelelana nomntu, kokukhona uya kuba nomtsalane ngakumbi. Lo mgaqo mnye uyinyani kubuso obufanayo, yiyo loo nto ngamanye amaxesha umhlobo womhlobo wakho ebukeka eerily ngokufana ne ex yakhe. Ngokumalunga nonxulumano oluqinisekileyo, sihlala sifumana izinto ezinomtsalane ngakumbi xa sizidibanisa nenye into esiyithandayo. Oku kuya kuchaza ukuba kutheni ufumana i-barista ehlala ikunika ifoto eyongezelelweyo ye-espresso kusasa intle kangaka. (Ngaba ungakhetha i-Sparks ngaphezu koBudlelwane obuzinzileyo?)

Sifunda ntoni? Uhlobo lwakho. Umtsalane ngowakho ngokobuqu ke yiya emntwini wena Fumana umtsalane kwaye ulibale malunga nokuba abahlobo bakho bayavumelana na okanye hayi.

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