Inzululwazi emva kwezokwabelana ngesondo

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• Kutheni i-Make-up ngesondo iyamangalisa ngokumangalisayo
• Unokuba njani noMntu oSempilweni xa usenza iSondo
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Heyi, ntombazana, khawucinge ifantasy oyithandayo kaRyan Gosling kuba kuvela eso siganeko simangalisayo sokwenza isondo Incwadi yokubhalela ayisiyiyo imiboniso bhanyabhanya. Uphando lubonisa ngokuthe ngqo ukuba kutheni i-make-up sex-uyazi, isondo emva komlo okanye ukwahlukana-kushushu kakhulu.

Kutheni i-Make-up ngesondo iyamangalisa ngokumangalisayo

Xa izibini ziphikisana-nokuba malunga nokuba yindlalifa esemazantsi ethandana nenkwenkwe ehluphekileyo okanye malunga nokuthanda loo ntombazana ye-Instagram post-nguvu hormone. Oku kukhawuleza kwe-adrenaline, noradrenaline (ihomoni kunye ne-neurotransmitter), kunye ne-testosterone kubangela imeko yokuvuka okukhulu, lutsho uphando olwenziwe kwiYunivesithi yaseValencia eSpain. Kwaye ngelixa, ekuqaleni, ukuvuswa komsindo kunokuziva ngathi kumnandi, sinocingo lwebhayoloji ukuze siphendule kuso nasiphi na isoyikiso kubudlelwane bethu, nokuba senziwe thina, Ubhala ulwalamano lomgqatswa wezengqondo u-Samantha Joel kwiposti yebhlog malunga nesifundo se Psychology Namhlanje. Umbono wesoyikiso odityaniswe nefuthe leencindi zamadlala ebuchotsheni bethu yeyona nto isisusa ekuvutheni ngumsindo ukuya ekuvutheni ngumnqweno.

"Olu luvo lwesoyikiso lusebenzisa inkqubo yokuncamathisela-inkqubo esekwe kwibhayoloji esebenza ukugcina ubudlelwane bakho obubalulekileyo buhleli," ubhale watsho uJoel. "Nanini na xa inkqubo yokuncamathela ivuliwe, iyakukhuthaza ukuba ukhulise ukusondela kunye nokhuseleko nabanye ababalulekileyo, njengeqabane lakho lothando."

UJoweli wongezelela ukuba isondo sinokuba yindlela enhle yokulungisa ubudlelwane bothando emva kokuba besongelwa. "Ngelixa ukuphikisana kunokukwenza uzive ukude neqabane lakho, isini sinokusebenza ukubuyisela iimvakalelo zokusondelelana nokusondelelana," ubhale watsho. (Eyeleleneyo: Lixesha eliLungileyo lokuthetha ngayo yonke into kubudlelwane.)

Unokuba njani noMntu oSempilweni xa usenza iSondo

Kubonakala ngathi kukho indlela elungileyo nengalunganga yokusebenzisa loo nkanuko yasemva komlo. Njengaye nabani na owakha wenza isondo lokwazi uyazi, iyasebenza-ubuncinci bubushushu bomzuzwana. Nangona kunjalo, isiphumo sinamandla kangangokuba umtsalane wesini sokubumba unokuba likhoboka (kwaye ungabinampilo) njengecocaine, ngokukaSeth Meyers, Ph.D., ugqirha wezengqondo, njengoko kuchaziwe Psychology Namhlanje.

"Inyaniso yeyokuba uninzi lwezinto ezenziwayo zokwabelana ngesondo ngenxa yokuziva kwaye babonakalise iimvakalelo ezibi kakhulu ngexesha lengxabano eshushu, ngaphandle kwesisombululo sokwenyani emva koko. Ngenxa yokuba aba bantu begula beziva isiphelo esibi esibi sesiphelo, balambile ukutshintsha iigesi kwaye utsibe isiphelo esisecaleni kwembonakalo-yokuziva uphakamileyo oza nokwenza, "ubhala. (Izinto ezi-8 ozenzayo ezinokonakalisa ubudlelwane bakho.)

UJoel uyavuma ukuba izibini akufuneki zisebenzise isondo emva komlo njengebhanti yokunceda umsindo, kodwa inika enye indlela: "Iziphumo zinamandla-zithetha ukuba abantu baziva bethanda kwaye betsala amaqabane abo-xa impikiswano isonjululwe ngempumelelo,” utshilo. Ke, kuya kufuneka wenze amagama ngaphambi kokuba ubenokwabelana ngesondo. Kwaye, kubudlelwane obusempilweni, izakhono zonxibelelwano ezifunekayo ukusombulula umlo ziyafana nezo unokuzisebenzisa ukuba ubenokwabelana ngesondo kwengqondo. (Funda ezi Ndlela ezili-9 zokwabelana ngesondo ngobudlelwane bakho.)

Asitsho ukuba kufuneka ukhethe umlo ukuze ube neentlobano zesini ezimangalisayo-kodwa akulunganga ukuthatha ithuba lomzuzu ukuba kuyenzeka! Kwaye okoko usasebenza ngayo nayiphi na into eqale umlo, inokwenza ubudlelwane bakho bomelele.

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