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Ngaphandle kokuba ngumama kubantwana ababini abakhulu kunye nomlawuli weziko eliphambili leGreater Good Science kwiYunivesithi yaseCalifornia eBerkeley, ugqirha wezentlalo uChristine Carter, Ph.D., wayehlala egula kwaye enexinzelelo. Ke wazimisela ukufumanisa ukuba unokuba nayo njani yonke into-usapho olonwabileyo, umsebenzi owanelisayo, kunye nempilo entle ukuba uyonwabele. Ngaphambi kwencwadi yakhe entsha, Indawo eSweet, saphuma ngoJanuwari 20, sathetha noGqr. Carter ukufumanisa ukuba ufundeni, kwaye uthini ngengcebiso.

Imilo: Yintoni ephefumlele incwadi yakho?

UGqirha Christine Carter (CC): Ndingumntu othanda izinto ezingaphaya kwamandla am, kwaye ndingumntu ochacha ngokugqibeleleyo. Kwaye emva kweshumi leminyaka ndifunda uphando malunga nolonwabo, iimvakalelo ezintle, kunye nokusebenza kwe-elite [kwiziko le-Greater Good Science le-UC Berkeley], ndafumana umzuzu wempilo owoyikisayo. Ndandinayo yonke into-abantwana abakhulu, ubomi bentsapho obuhle, umsebenzi owanelisayo-kodwa ndandigula ngalo lonke ixesha, kwaye ndandihlala ndisonganyelwe. (Abahlobo abagqibeleleyo, phulaphula: Nazi izizathu ezi-3 zokungafezeki.)

Wonke umntu endithethe naye ngale nto uthe kuzakufuneka ndincame into, andinakho konke. Kodwa ndacinga, Ukuba Mna ayinakuba yimpumelelo, yonwabe, kwaye ibe sempilweni kanye, kwaye bendifunda oku iminyaka elishumi-ke bonke abafazi baphambuka! Ngoko ke ndaqalisa ukuvavanya indlela zonke iindlela zobugcisa endiziqeqesha ngazo abanye kwiZiko ukuze ndibone apho onke amandla am ayeya khona, kwaye incwadi yazalwa ngaloo nto.

Melo: Ufumene ntoni?

CC: Inkcubeko yethu isixelela ukuba ukuxakeka luphawu lokubaluleka. Ukuba awudinwanga, kuya kufuneka ungasebenzi ngokwaneleyo. Kodwa yenye into ukuphumelela, kwaye yenye into ukuba sempilweni ngokwaneleyo okanye ube namandla ngokwaneleyo ukonwabela impumelelo yakho. Ndigqibele ngoku ndiyila ubomi bam bodwa ngesiqhelo. Kwaye ezinye iinguqu zizinto ezilula ezibonakala ngathi yinzululwazi ecacileyo. Kodwa bathwala ukuphindaphinda-kuba bayasebenza ngokwenene!

Ubume: Zeziphi iingcebiso onokumnika zona umntu oziva exinezelekile kwaye esonganyelwe?

CC: Okokuqala, yazi indlela ovakalelwa ngayo. Ukuphendula kwendalo kwabafazi kuxinzelelo kukuluxhathisa okanye ulutyhalele kude. Kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba xa sisenza loo nto, iimpawu zomzimba zoxinzelelo ziba nzima. Ke ngokungachasani, uvumela iimvakalelo ukuba zichithe.

Emva koko, fikelela kwizinto eziphakamisayo-uluhlu lokudlala oluzaliswe ziingoma ezonwabileyo, iifoto ezintle zezilwanyana, umbongo okhuthazayo. Olu luhlobo lokuphumla okungxamisekileyo kwimpendulo yakho yokulwa-okanye-yokubaleka; Baza kujikelezisa uxinzelelo lwakho ngokuzisa iimvakalelo ezintle endaweni yoko. (Olu luhlu lokuDlalwayo lokuzonwabisa-kunye-no-Fit-With-Pharrell lokudlala kufuneka lwenze iqhinga!)

Ke xa uziva ungcono, inyathelo lokugqibela kukuthintela uxinzelelo ekubuyiseleni umva. Ukwenza oko, kuya kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo asebenzayo okwehlisa uxinzelelo lwengqondo, okanye inani lolwazi kunye noxinzelelo oluthathayo. (Ukuxhalaba kwakho kungadala umonakalo omkhulu kunokuba ucinga. Nazi iindlela ezili-10 eziQhelekileyo zoMzimba wakho eziPhatha kuXinzelelo.)

Sihle:Uyenza njani lonto?

CC: Ukunyaniseka, akukho mntu uthanda ukukuva, kodwa eyona ndlela iphambili kukuvala ifowuni yakho. Cinga ngamandla akho njengebhaluni epheleleyo. Ngalo lonke ixesha ujonga i-imeyile, ishedyuli yomsebenzi, okanye ukutya kwe-Twitter kwifowuni yakho, kudala ukuvuza okucothayo kwibhaluni. Ekugqibeleni, uya kutshatyalaliswa ngokupheleleyo. Xa uyicima phantsi ifowuni yakho-kwaye ndiyathetha ukuba kunjalo, kuya kufuneka uyicimile ifowuni yakho-uzinika ithuba lokugcwalisa ibhaluni. (Funda ngakumbi malunga nendlela iSelfowuni Yakho elonakalisa ngayo ixesha lakho lokuphumla, kwaye wenze ntoni ngayo.)

Imilo: Lowo ngumyalelo omde wamanina amaninzi-kubandakanya nam! Ngaba kukho amaxesha athile apho kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhulula?

CC: Ewe! Izandla phantsi, xa ulele ebhedini. Elo lixesha omele ukuba uphumle ngalo, nto leyo ongakwaziyo ukuyenza xa usefowunini. Ndide ndicebise ukuba abasetyhini bathenge iwotshi yokwenyani, yakudala ukuze bangasebenzisi i-alam yefowuni yabo, ebahenda ukuba bajonge i-imeyile yabo kuqala. (Fumanisa ukuba kutheni abantu abazolileyo bengalali ngeSeli-yabo kunye nezinye iimfihlo ezisixhenxe abazaziyo.)

Ubume: Yiyiphi enye indlela onokuwunciphisa ngayo umthwalo wakho wokuqonda?

CC: Enkulu kukwenza into endiyibiza ngokuthi "turning on autopilot." Uphando lubonisa ukuba iipesenti ezingama-95 zomsebenzi wethu wobuchopho awazi nto: Xa uqhuba kwaye ubona umntu ewela indlela ephambi kwakho, ubetha ikhefu ngokuzenzekelayo, umzekelo. Ke cinga ngazo zonke izinto ongafuneki ukuba uzenze ngokuzazi yonke imini, njengesiqhelo sakho sakusasa. Ngaba wenza izinto ezifanayo ngokulandelelana yonke imihla, ikofu, umthambo, ishawa? Okanye uyavuka ucinge, Ngaba kufuneka ndizilolonge ngale ntsasa, okanye kamva? Ngaba kufuneka ndenze ikofu ngoku, okanye emva kokuhlamba kwam?

Ndifundisa abantu ngakumbi malunga nendlela yokwenza oku kwiwebhusayithi yam (ungabhalisa mahala). Yonke imihla, ndithumela i-imeyile echaza inyathelo elincinci onokuthi ulithathe ukuze ulungelelanise iindlela zakho.

Imilo: Leliphi elona nyathelo lincinci umntu anokulithatha eliya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kulonwabo lwabo lwemihla ngemihla kunye namanqanaba oxinzelelo?

CC: Ndingathi ukuseka isicwangciso sokuzilolonga "esingcono kunento" esithatha ngaphantsi kwemizuzu emihlanu ukuyenza, iintsuku apho ungenakukwazi ukuya ejimini. Eyam inama-squats angama-25, i-push-ups engama-20, kunye neplanga yomzuzu omnye; Kundithatha imizuzu emithathu, kodwa kuyasebenza. Ndixelelwe ukuba "ndinengalo zikaMichelle Obama" ngaphambili, kwaye kuphela kokuzilolonga komzimba endikwenzayo! (Funda ukuba kutheni ukuzilolonga isisitshixo sokuSebenza-kwiBhalansi yoBomi apha.) Kwaye kanye ngemini, cinga ngento okanye into onombulelo ngayo. Uphando lubonisa umbulelo sisiseko solonwabo lomntu.

Ukufunda ngakumbi malunga nokubaleka "umgibe wokuxakeka" kwaye ufumane ukonwaba ngakumbi, ophantsi koxinzelelo, thenga ikopi yencwadi entsha kaGqr. Carter Indawo emnandi: Uyifumana njani iGroove yakho ekhaya nasemsebenzini, kwintengiso ngoJanuwari 20.

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