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Ubudenge. Lovey. Ewe. Ithetha. Oko kunokuvakala njengokuphosa okungaqhelekanga kwabafazi abasixhenxe, kodwa eneneni balungile abanye zeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokusela phaya. (Kwaye uninzi lwazo alukho mhle.) Kodwa kutheni abanye abantu bekhula be-goofy kwaye bethanda xa betshatiwe, ngelixa abanye beba krwada?

Zininzi izinto ezidlalwayo, utshilo uJoshua Gowin, Ph.D., weZiko leSizwe lokuSetyenziswa gwenxa koTywala kunye noTywala. Ezinye ziyaqikelelwa-intwana yophando enxibelelanisa iwhisky nokuziphatha okunomsindo (kodwa kuyenzeka ukuba abantu abanomsindo batsalele kwiwhisky, nangasiphi na isizathu, utsho uGowin). Ezinye, ezinje ngezi zintandathu zingezantsi, zinekhonkrithi ngakumbi: izinto ezahlukeneyo ezibonisa isayensi zichonga ubunikazi bakho obunxilisayo.

Inqaku # 1: Ubuntu bakho (obungenangqondo)

“Njengaso nasiphi na isiyobisi, utywala buchaphazela indlela oziphatha ngayo, kodwa abuzisi indlela yokuziphatha engekabikho,” utshilo uGowin. THANDEKA: Ukuba uziphethe kakubi okanye uyathandana xa unxilile, ezo mpendulo zibonisa ukuba uneempawu zakho eziqhelekileyo, utshilo. Kukho uphando lokuba utywala buthintela umsebenzi kwi-cortex yengqondo yakho yangaphambili, enxulunyaniswe nokuzilawula kunye nokubonisa ngokwakho, ucacisa uGowin. Ke okukhona uchitha ixesha elininzi, kokukhona ungxama kwaye ungayazi. Uthelekisa ubuchopho obunxilileyo kunye nemoto eye yahluthwa iziqhoboshi. "Ngokwesiqhelo, ungazicothisa okanye uqonde ukuba izinto ozenzayo okanye iimpendulo azifanelekanga. Kodwa xa unxilile, ayenzeki loo nto."

Inqaku # 2: Indawo esiNgqongileyo

Ukubuyela emotweni ungakhange ufane neziqhoboshi, uGowin uthi indlela osabela ngayo kwizinto zangaphandle ngelixa unxilile ibaxekile kuba ulahlekelwe lukhulu kulawulo lwempembelelo kunye nokwazisa. Ukuba imeko-bume yakho ikwenza uzive usoyika okanye usoyikisiwe (ngokungathi i-ex ivele nje), olo xinzelelo lunokukwenza ukuba ubenoburharha okanye uzikhusele kunokuba ubuqhele ukwenza, utshilo. Abantu onabo banokubangela iimvakalelo ezinamandla, zeziphi iintlawulo ezingaphezulu kotywala. Amagqabantshintshi alumayo okanye ukujonga ecaleni kwendoda okanye umhlobo osenyongweni kunokuthumela umsindo ngophahla, ucacisa uGowin. (Ayiyonto imnandi kakhulu: Malunga nesiqingatha sakho konke ukubulawa kunye nesibini kwisithathu seziganeko zokuxhatshazwa kwasekhaya zibandakanya utywala, utsho.)

Inqaku #3: Imfuza yakho

Ukuba uluhlobo olungakwaziyo ukuyigcina kunye emva kweziselo ezimbalwa, imfuza yakho inetyala, uphando lucebisa. Iimpawu ezinje ngomzimba, ukungahambelani kakuhle, kunye nentetho edibeneyo yonke inxulunyaniswa nokolulwa kwe-DNA yakho, kubonisa isifundo esapapashwa kwi Iinkqubo zeNational Academy of Sciences. Abaphandi base-UK bachonge "imfuza yotywala" eyenza ukuba abanye abantu batyebe ngakumbi kunabanye. Okumangalisayo kukuba, abantu abanolu hlobo lwemfuza banokusela utywala obuninzi ngaphandle kokuziva okanye babonise iziphumo zokunxila, abaphandi bathi.

Inqaku # 4: Amava akho

Ubuncinci inxenye yendlela ophendula ngayo etywaleni iyafundwa. Umzekelo, uphononongo oluninzi lufumanise ukuba abantu bathanda ukwenza into enxilisayo nokuba banikwe ngasese iziselo ezingekho tywala, ngokwengxelo evela kwiYunivesithi yaseRochester. Olunye uphononongo lubonisa ukuba wamkela ukuziphatha okunxilileyo koluntu lwakho kunye neqela lentlalontle. Ke ukuba abasebenzi bakho bayakhwaza kwaye bahleke-y, uya kutsalela kolu hlobo lokuziphatha, uphando lucebisa.

Inqaku #5: Isimo sakho sengqondo

Uxinzelelo oluxubileyo kunye neendawo zobuchopho bakho ezilawula ukwenziwa kwezigqibo kunye neemvakalelo, zibonisa uphando kwiYunivesithi yaseYale. Ngenxa yoko, ukusela ngelixa ucinezelekile ngakumbi torpedos ukukwazi kwakho ukwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kunye nokulawula iimvakalelo zakho, utshilo uGowin. Kuyafana nokudinwa, uyongeza. "Ukungalali luhlobo olufana nokunxila kuba omabini la mazwe achaphazela ezo ndawo zingaphambili zobuchopho zibalulekile ekuzibonakaliseni nasekulawuleni impembelelo." Ngoko cinga ngokusela ngoxa udiniwe njengoko uphinda-phinda. "Ukungalali sele kuphazamise ukugweba kwakho kwaye kuchaphazela imeko yakho, emva koko uyasela, nto leyo iphakamisa yonke into," utshilo uGowin.

Inqaku # 6: Isini sakho

Abasetyhini bavelisa ukuya kuthi ga kwi-10 ye-enzyme yesibindi eyaphula utywala, uphando lufumene. Oko kuthetha ukuba umzimba wowasetyhini uya kudla ngokulungisa utywala ngokukhawuleza kwaye uya kuziva iziphumo zotywala ngokukhawuleza kunomfana, uphando lubonisa.

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