Yiyo le nto ukugula kwam okungabonakaliyo kundenza umhlobo ombi

Umxholo

• Ngamanye amaxesha, andibonakali ngathi ndityala imali kwibali lakho okanye ebomini
• Phantse rhoqo, andizukubuyisa ii-imeyile, izicatshulwa, okanye ii-voicemails
• Rhoqo, andizibonakalisi kwiminyhadala yakho yentlalo
• Ngaba ndingumhlobo ombi ngenene? Andifuni ukuba

Sibandakanya iimveliso esicinga ukuba ziluncedo kubafundi bethu. Ukuba uthenga amakhonkco kweli phepha, sinokufumana ikhomishini encinci. Nantsi inkqubo yethu.

Amava ethu kunye nokuphendula kwam kunokucoca kwiikhilomitha zokudakumba, kodwa ndiyakhathala. Ndisafuna ukuba ngumhlobo. Ndisafuna ukubakhona.

Masithi umntu ophakathi ufumana iimvakalelo kwisikali esi-1 kuye kwi-10. Ngokwesiqhelo iimvakalelo zemihla ngemihla zihlala kuluhlu lwe-3 ukuya ku-4 kuba iimvakalelo zikhona kodwa azinyanzeli… de kwenzeke into engaqhelekanga- uqhawulo-mtshato, a ukufa, ukunyuselwa emsebenzini, okanye omnye umsitho ongaqhelekanga.

Emva koko iimvakalelo zomntu ziya kuphakama kuluhlu lwe-8 ukuya kwi-10 kwaye baya kuthi phithi ngumsitho. Kwaye wonke umntu uyayiqonda loo nto. Iyavakala into yokuba umntu osandula ukuphulukana nomntu amthandayo abe nayo eyona nto iphambili engqondweni amaxesha amaninzi.

Ngaphandle, ngoxinzelelo olukhulu, ndihlala ndihlala kwi-8 ukuya kwi-10. Kwaye oku kunokundenza ndibonakale- enyanisweni, ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo kunokundiguqula ndibe- ngumhlobo “ombi”.

Ngamanye amaxesha, andibonakali ngathi ndityala imali kwibali lakho okanye ebomini

Ndikholelwe xa ndikuxelela, ndibakhathalele abo bandingqongileyo. Ndisafuna ukwazi ngawe, nokuba ndiyalibala ukubuza. Ngamanye amaxesha iintlungu zimbi kakhulu kuphela kwento ephezulu engqondweni yam.

Ukubandezeleka kwam, usizi lwam, ukudinwa kwam, unxunguphalo lwam… zonke iimpembelelo eziza noxinzelelo lwam zigqithile kwaye ke ndimise inkampu apho nokuba kwenzeka ntoni. La ngamava am emihla ngemihla, abantu abangahlali "bewafumana" Akukho siganeko singaqhelekanga sokuchaza ezi mvakalelo zigqithileyo. Ngenxa yokugula kwengqondo, ndikule meko rhoqo.

Ezi mvakalelo ziphezu kwengqondo yam rhoqo, kubonakala ngathi zizinto kuphela endinokucinga ngazo.Ndingadibana nokujonga inkaba, ngokungathi ndifunxwe kwiintlungu zam kwaye ekuphela kwento endinokucinga ngayo ndim.

Kodwa ndisakhathala. Amava ethu kunye nokuphendula kwam kunokucoca kwiikhilomitha zokudakumba, kodwa ndiyakhathala. Ndisafuna ukuba ngumhlobo. Ndisafuna ukubakhona.

Phantse rhoqo, andizukubuyisa ii-imeyile, izicatshulwa, okanye ii-voicemails

Ndiyazi ukuba kubonakala ngathi ngumsebenzi wemizuzwana emihlanu, kodwa kunzima kum ukujonga i-voicemail yam. Ngokwenene. Ndiyifumana ibuhlungu kwaye iyoyikisa.

Andifuni ukwazi ukuba bathini abanye abantu ngam. Ndiyoyika ukuba kuyakubakho into "embi" kwi-imeyile yam, kwiitekisi, okanye kwi-voicemail kwaye ngekhe ndikwazi ukuyiphatha. Kungandithatha iiyure okanye neentsuku ukwenza amandla kunye namandla ukujonga nje ukuba bathini na abantu kum.

Ayikuko ukuba ndicinga ukuba aba bantu abanabubele okanye inkathalo. Kungenxa yokuba ingqondo yam edandathekileyo ikholelwa ukuba kukho into embi eya kwenzeka ukuba ndithatha isigqibo sokuphulaphula.

Kwaye kuthekani ukuba andizokwazi ukuyiphatha?

Ezi nkxalabo ziyinyani kum. Kodwa kuyinyani ukuba ndiyakhathala ngawe kwaye ndifuna ukuphendula. Nceda wazi ukuba unxibelelwano nam lubalulekile nokuba andinakuhlala ndiphindaphinda.

Rhoqo, andizibonakalisi kwiminyhadala yakho yentlalo

Ndiyathanda xa abantu bendibuza kwiminyhadala yoluntu. Ngamanye amaxesha ndikhe ndonwabe ngayo ngeli xesha bacela ngalo - kodwa imeko yam ayinakulindeleka. Oku mhlawumbi kundenza ndibonakale njengomhlobo ombi, umntu ofuna ukuyeka ukubuza kwiminyhadala yoluntu.

Yinto nje yokuba ngelixesha umcimbi uzayo, ndinokuba noxinzelelo olukhulu kakhulu ukuba ndingahamba endlwini. Ndingangathanga ndihlambe iintsuku. Kusenokwenzeka ukuba andizange ndihlambe amazinyo okanye iinwele zam. Ndingaziva ndiyinkomo etyebileyo xa ndizibona ndinxibe into endinokufuna ukuyigqiba. Ndingaqiniseka ukuba ndingumntu ombi kakhulu kwaye "ndimbi" kakhulu ukuba ndiphambi kwabanye. Kwaye konke oko akubandakanyi ixhala lam.

Ndinexhala ekuhlaleni. Ndinexhala lokudibana nabantu abatsha. Ndinexhala lokuba abanye bazakucinga ntoni ngam. Ndinexhala lokuba ndiza kwenza okanye ndithethe into engeyiyo.

Konke oku kunokwakha, kwaye ngexesha lesiganeko esiza, andifane ndibekho. Ayisiyo ukuba andenzi njalo ndifuna ukubakhona. Ndiyavuma. Kungenxa nje yokuba isifo sam sengqondo sithathile kwaye andinakulwa ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndishiye indlu.

Kodwa ndifuna uyazi ukuba ndisafuna ukuba ubuze kwaye ndiyafuna nyani ukubakhona, ukuba kunokwenzeka.

Ngaba ndingumhlobo ombi ngenene? Andifuni ukuba

Andifuni ukuba ngumhlobo ombi. Ndifuna ukuba ngumhlobo olungileyo kuwe njengoko unjalo kum. Ndifuna ukubakhona nawe. Ndifuna ukuva ngobomi bakho. Ndifuna ukuthetha nawe kwaye ndifuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nawe.

Kwenzeka nje ukuba uxinzelelo lwam lubeke umqobo omkhulu phakathi kwam nawe. Ndiyathembisa ndizakusebenzela ukugubungela lo mqobo nanini na ndinako, kodwa andinako ukuthembisa ukuba ndiya kuhlala ndikwazi.

Nceda uqonde: Ngelixa uxinzelelo lwam lunokundenza umhlobo ombi ngamanye amaxesha, uxinzelelo lwam ayindim. Okwenene kum ukukhathalele kwaye ufuna ukukuphatha njengoko kufanelekile ukuba uphathwe.

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