Kutheni uFantasy wakho weSini weGym esiqhelo ngokwesiqhelo (kwaye yintoni onokuyenza ngayo)

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Ukusebenza nzima ngetayitile yokunyathela ngenye imini, uthi krwaqu kwigumbi ukuze ubone umntu oshushu oshushu kumgangatho wobunzima ejonge indlela yakho. Amehlo akho adibana kwaye uva ubushushu bunyuka obungenanto yakwenza nokubila. Ngokukhawuleza, utsiba 'kwilitye lakho kwaye uye ngqo kuye. Awunaso isibindi! Kodwa namhlanje, ngandlela thile, njengokuba iingalo zakhe ezinemisipha zikufikelela kuwe, iintlantsi zibhabha, wena. . . uyakhumbula ukuba usejimini. Indawo yokwenza umthambo emdaka, enukayo, efakwe ulwelo ezaliswe ngabantu ongabaziyo. Kwaye ukuzama kwakho kushushu akunakuze kwenzeke. Ncwina.

Ukuba wakha wanemfesane efana nale ingentla, yazi ukuba ukwinkampani elungileyo njengemibono yesini yokuzivocavoca ngokumangalisayo Okuqhelekileyo, utshilo ingcali yezesondo u-Alyssa Dweck, M.S., MD, ugqirha wezifo zabasetyhini kunye no-profesa kwezonyango kwi-Mount Sinai School of Medicine. (Idibeneyo: Izinto ezi-8 Amadoda Anqwenela Ukwazi Ngezesondo)

Ukuvula kwindawo yokuzivocavoca kunokubonakala kungaqhelekanga ekuqaleni. (Yintoni, ngokuqinisekileyo, i-sexy malunga neqela labantu abangabaziyo abazama ukujongana namehlo ngelixa besenza izinto ezibuhlungu?) Kodwa kukho izizathu ezibambekayo zeengcamango zesondo-kwi-gym zenza ingqiqo epheleleyo.

Inqaku elipheleleyo lokucinga kukubaleka yonke imihla njengoko izinto ezintsha zinyanga isithukuthezi, ngakumbi igumbi lokulala, utshilo uDweck. "Kwaye ukucinga yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphonononga i-taboos-njengokulala ngesondo kwindawo kawonkewonke-ngaphandle kokujongana nemiphumo yokwenza ngokwenene."

Kodwa yintoni malunga nejim, ngokuchanekileyo, eyenza abafazi abaninzi bahambe? Iqala ngokulukuhlwa ngokwasemzimbeni kunye namandla eengcebiso, utshilo uDweck. "Ukuba usejimini, ngokuqinisekileyo sele ukhathalele ukuba wena nabanye nijongeka njani," utshilo. "Ngaphezu koko, ngenxa yesinxibo esiqhelekileyo sokuzilolonga, kulula kwindawo yokuzivocavoca ukucinga abantu abangenazo iimpahla zabo, benza izinto ezithandekayo, kunokuba kunjalo, ebhankini." (Singakhankanyi zonke iintshukumo zomthambo ezilinganisa izikhundla zesini!)

Ngapha koko, uDweck ucacisa ukuba umthambo we-aerobic ukhupha ukungxama okunamandla kwee-endorphins. Ezi khemikhali ziziva zilungile zaziwa ngokunyusa imbaleki ephezulu kodwa zinokukhokelela ekuvuseleleni ngokwesondo. Ungenzi i-cardio? Akukho ngxaki. Ukunyuswa kobunzima kunokukunika amandla amancinci e testosterone nto leyo ephakamisa i-libido yakho. Kwaye, wongeza, yonke imithambo inyusa i-dopamine yakho, i-serotonin kunye namanqanaba e-oxytocin-imichiza yengqondo ebotshelelwe kulonwabo nothando.

Kodwa ndiziva ngathi ndonwabile e umthambo kunye nokukhathala phakathi ijim zizinto ezimbini ezahlukeneyo ngokupheleleyo. Kuvoto olungekho sikweni, safumanisa ukuba ngelixa phantse wonke umntu obhinqileyo esimbuzileyo evuma ukuziva eyangaphambili, asifumananga namnye umntu oza kwamkela le yokugqibela, enokuthi ibe yeyona ilungileyo inikwe indlela yokungacoceki kwezona ndawo zokomelela komzimba. (Nangona ngaphezulu kwabambalwa 'bexakekile ukuba badibane nabaqeqeshi babo ngaphandle kwendawo yokuzivocavoca!)

Loo nto ayithethi ukuba kufuneka uyeke ifantasy elunge ngokugqibeleleyo ichithe! Ungahlala uphupha iphupha lakho ngendlela ekhuselekileyo (kunye necocekileyo) kwindawo yabucala kwigumbi lakho lokulala. Yibize ngokuzilolonga kwesibini esitshatileyo kwaye uthathe laa ndlu inomdla wokudlala ngokudlala uqeqesho lomntu oqeqeshwayo kunye neqabane lakho okanye uthathe ithuba lezixhobo kwindawo yakho yokwenza umthambo engaphantsi. (Ufuna i-inspo? Qalisa ngolu hlobo lokuzilolonga kweqabane lokuzivocavoca.)

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