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Umxholo

• Yithi hayi ngaphandle kwetyala.
• Yitya ngcono.
• Sebenza kancinci.
• Yiba nengqeqesho.
• Ukulibazisa ukulibazisa.
• Uphengululo lwe

Phakamisa isandla sakho ukuba ungumntu othanda ukuzikhathalela.

Naphi na apho ujonga khona, kunika amandla amanqaku axelela abasetyhini ukuba benze i-yoga, bacamngce, bayokufumana loo pedicure, okanye bathathe i-steamy bubble bath ngegama lokunciphisa kunye nokudumisa zonke izinto "ubuqu."

Kule minyaka imbalwa idlulileyo, ndenze umzamo wokubandakanya le mikhwa yokuzikhathalela ebomini bam: ukusilalisa ngamanye amaxesha, ukufumana iinwele zam ~ did ~, ukuzifihla ngencwadi, iyoga, ukucamngca, iglasi (okanye ezintathu ) yewayini. Kwaba ngenye imini, xa ndandimanzi kwibhafu eneqamza neglasi yewayini kunye nemagazini emdaka ndacinga: “Mntundini, ndiyifumene le nto yokuzinyamekela. phantsi! "(Edibeneyo: UJonathan Van Ness Nguye kuphela umntu esiFuna ukuthetha naye malunga nokuzikhathalela kwakhona.)

Kodwa njengoko ndandiqhubeka nosuku lwam, ndaqonda ukuba andinalo ukuziva egxile ngakumbi. Kuthe xa kudlula umsebenzi, yabuyela emsebenzini njengesiqhelo. (Ukulunga, bambalwa kakhulu ngokwenene iinkqubo zokuzinyamekela. Thatha i-bullet journing umzekelo.) Nokuba ayifanelanga ukuba zonke ezi zithethe zincinci zongeze kum?

Inyani yile, into endiyichaze njengokukhathalela isiqhelo yayijolise kumzuzu kuphela. Yayimalunga nomsebenzi kunye nolonwabo ngexesha laloo msebenzi-hayi isiphumo. Ndifuna iimpembelelo zexesha elide ekuzinyamekeleni kwam, hayi ukoneliseka kwexesha elifutshane. Ndandifuna okungakumbi kunokulungisa ngokukhawuleza.

Ndithathe isigqibo sokuya kwimishini yokuchaza igama kwakhona. Ndaqala ukuqonda eyona nto ndandifuna ukuyibona yinkqubela phambili: ukuba nomonde ngakumbi, ukuba nexesha elingakumbi, ukulala ngakumbi, ukuba neentlobano zesini ezishushu. Ukuhlamba (ngelixa uthandeka) ngekhe kufezekise nayiphi na kwezo zinto. Ndiye ndaqonda ukuba, kum, ukuzikhathalela ayisiyonto yokwenza yenza-yindlela yokuphila kunye nokuba.

Ukuguquka ube ngumntu ongcono, kuya kufuneka ukhethe ngcono, akunjalo? Ke, ukuqhubela phambili ukuzikhathalela kwam phambili, ndisebenza ngokubonakalayo ekwenzeni ezi zinto zintlanu. Zizame ngokwakho, kwaye ubone ngaphaya kwehlabathi lokuzinyamekela.

Yithi hayi ngaphandle kwetyala.

Ukuba uyafana nam, ukhawuleza ukuthi ewe. Ewe, ndingaya kwisidlo ngeveki! Ewe ndingayithatha le ntlanganiso yeshishini! Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndinokubamba lo msitho! Kwaye ujonge ikhalenda yakho kwaye uzibuze ukuba uza kuwenza njani umsebenzi wakho, ube ngumzali, ube nexesha leqabane lakho kunye nabahlobo, ulolonge, njl.

Umgaqo omtsha: Cinga ngencopho apho ufuna ukuba khona kumsebenzi/ubomi bakho. Kum, lowo ngumbhali othengisa kakhulu. Ngoko Isigqibo ngasinye Ndenza-ukusuka kumhla wekofu ukuya kwintlanganiso yezoshishino-ndiyazibuza: "Ngaba ndiza kuthi ewe kule nto ukuba ndingumbhali othengisa kakhulu?" Ukuba impendulo nguhayi, andiyenzi. Uninzi lwezibophelelo esizenzayo zisuka kwindawo yoloyiko, uxanduva, okanye iFOMO. Ukuba into oyithethayo ewe ayikuqhubeli phambili ngandlela thile-nokuba yenza unxibelelwano oluhle, uyonwabele, okanye ubenexesha elimnandi-yithi hayi kwaye uyithetha. Sukungxenga. Musa ukuxoka. Musa ukwenza isicwangciso uze usirhoxise. (Thixo, bendikhona amaxesha amaninzi kakhulu.) Iya kutshintsha ubomi bakho. (Ubungqina: Ndaziqhelanisa nokuthi Hayi iveki yonke kwaye yayindonelisa nyani)

Yitya ngcono.

Njani emhlabeni ukutya ukutya okusempilweni ukuzinyamekela? Kwi yonke indlela. Kunyaka ophelileyo, ndathatha "umzimba wam yitempile yam" mantra kwinqanaba elitsha ngokupheleleyo, kwaye yaba: "Ingqondo yam yitempile yam." Kwaye ingqondo yam icinga ukutya ngaphandle, iglasi yewayini, kunye nokutya itshokholethi kuyandonwabisa xa, enyanisweni, oku kuyingozi kwimpilo yam. Ngaba ndiziva ndonwabile emva kokutya i-crap ngobusuku obudlulileyo? Ngaba ndikhonza umzimba wam xa ndigcwalisa ubuso bam nge-pizza? Ezi zinto sizenza kuba ziziyolo ezingeyonyani-kodwa asizicingeli iziqu zethu,ukutshabalalisa.

Ewe, rhoqo emva kwethuba ulifanelwe unyango (kwaye impilo yakho iyakubangcono xa uthelekiswa nokuzibamba). Kodwa ngalo lonke ixesha ufikelela ekutyeni, zibuze, "Ngaba oku kuya kunceda umzimba wam okanye kuwonakalisa?" kwaye ubone ukuba iyitshintsha njani imbono yakho. Kungekudala, usenokubona ukuba kutheni ukutya kakuhle (nokuba kungangcamli njengekholethi) sisona senzo sokuzinyamekela.

Sebenza kancinci.

Ngubani omnye oziva ngathi ungumntu osisigxina? Andingomntu wasemzini ukusebenza iiyure ezili-12, iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngeveki. Yinto ekufuneka uyenzile ukwenza ukuba amaphupha akho azaliseke, akunjalo? Akulunganga. Zange senzelwe ukuba "sixhume ngaphakathi" kwaye sifikeleleke iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. (Enkosi kakhulu, ii-smartphones.)

Kutshanje bendimamele intetho emangalisayo enikezwe ngumongameli wenkampani yokukhaba iesile owaqonda ukuba ukwikhompyuter yakhe nge-9 busuku ngabunye. Ngenye imini, wajonga umfazi wakhe, wavala ikhompyuter, wathi: "Akukho bomi apha." Ndabona ukuba "akukokuzikhathalela" ukuhlala emva kwekhompyuter yam imini yonke ngaphandle kwayo yonke into-kunye nomntu wonke. Okanye usebenza rhoqo ngeempelaveki. Okanye uncanyathiselwe kwifowuni yam, nokuba ndiphumile nabahlobo okanye usapho. Ukusebenza nzima akuthethi ukuzibulala ngenxa yephupha. Kuphela Nye inxalenye yobomi bakho, kwaye kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba kukho ulungelelwaniso apho. Imalunga nemida kunye nokwazi ukuba uza kucima nini.

Yiba nengqeqesho.

Ndingumntu ophumelela uqeqesho. Kodwa xa ndivuka ndidiniwe kwakhona, ndiqonda ukuba ndihlale kude kube sebusuku kakhulu ndibukele iNetflix, okanye ndingaselanga manzi ngokwaneleyo, okanye ndibuhlungu ngenxa yokuba andolulanga, kufuneka ndivume ukuba wam ukhetho kwaye le mikhwa mibi ayiqhubeki nokuba sempilweni kwam nangayiphi na indlela. Ukuba noqeqesho lokusela amanzi, ukolula ubusuku ngabunye, okanye ukucima umabonwakude ndifunde incwadi zonke iindlela endinokuzithatha ukutshintsha indlela yam yesiqhelo, ndizive ngcono, kwaye ndenze okuninzi kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Fumana ingxaki. Bonisa ukuba yintoni into oyikhalazelayo kakhulu, yenza isisombululo sokuyilungisa, kwaye ube noqeqesho lokuhlala ungaguquguquki. (Idibeneyo: Uyigcina njani imikhwa esempilweni ngaphandle kokuncama ubomi bakho beNtlalo)

Ukulibazisa ukulibazisa.

Ndiphulaphule: Ukuba ufuna into, kunokwenzeka, ungayifumana. Ungayithenga loo nto ucinga ukuba uyayifuna. Unokuzenza "uzive" ngcono ngeglasi yewayini okanye iswekile. Ungaswayipha kwaye uskrole kwaye undikhethe xa umntu ethanda iposti yakho yemidiya yoluntu. Sijonge ukwaneliseka kwangoko, ngenxa yokunyusa imo rhoqo evela ekuzonwabiseni kuthi.

Kodwa kwixa elizayo xa unomdla, thatha umzuzwana ukubuza ukuba ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene Ukukunceda ukuba unikezele. Ngaba kukunceda iinjongo zakho zobungcali, iinjongo zakho zempilo, iinjongo zakho zobudlelwane, okanye iinjongo zakho zobuqu? Ngaba ukufikelela kwifowuni yakho rhoqo kwimizuzu emihlanu kwenza ukuba ubomi bakho bube ngcono? Ngaba ukuba neglasi yewayini rhoqo ngobusuku obubodwa kunceda impilo yakho? Ngaba ukuvuma ukutya okukhawulezayo kuya kukwenza uwuthande umzimba wakho ngomso?

Ukuzikhathalela ngu-hayi yonke imihla, iyure okanye nokuba yeyiphi ngomzuzu. Kuyakunyanzela ukuba unake ukuba ungubani, yeyiphi imikhwa oyenzileyo, kunye nento oyifunayo ebomini. Namhlanje, yenza isiko elitsha lokuzinakekela elikukhonza kwinqanaba elinzulu, emva koko uhlale phantsi uvune iziphumo. Kuqinisekisiwe, baya kuhlala ixesha elide kunelo buzz yewayini.

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