Izinto ezi-6 oMawusoloko uzicela kubudlelwane

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Kwi Ngqiyama kwi Ixesha, siye safuna ukwazi kanye ukuba yintoni na ekufuneka siyicele kubaphathi bethu ukuya kwinqanaba elilandelayo kwinqanaba lomsebenzi. Kodwa xa kuziwa ekuxoxeni ngeemfuno zethu nge-SO yethu, kunzima ukuba ngaphambili-nokuba sele kubaluleke kakhulu njengokwoneliseka likhondo kulonwabo lwethu. Kodwa ukucaca kwinto oyifunayo kubudlelwane bakho kuqinisekisa ukuba wena kunye nomfo wakho nikwiphepha elinye-kwaye ukuba ibhondi yakho iya kuba yanelisayo kwaye izalisekise kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Apha, iingcali zabelana ngezinto ekufuneka uzicelile.

Ukunyaniseka

Musa ukuluma ulwimi lwakho ukuba ucinga ngokuhamba unqumle ilizwe ngelixa ungekhe ucinge ukuba uhlala eLos Angeles. U-Ellen Kenner, Ph.D., umbhali-mbhali Indlela yokuzicingela ukuthandana: Ungayithanda njani inkanuko kunye nesizathu. Ethubeni, ukuhlala uzolile ngendlela oziva ngayo kunokukhokelela kwinzondo nakumgama. Ngaba akuyombiwa intshukumo yokuwela ilizwe? Endaweni yokuba ungqubane naye kwangoko, mbuze ukuba ucinga ukuba elixesha liza kutshintsha njani ubomi bakhe. Ngale ndlela, unokwabelana ngokoyika malunga nendlela intshukumo eya kubuchaphazela ngayo ubudlelwane kunye nokwabelana ngeengcinga zakho, ke iba yingxoxo endaweni yengxabano.

Ukwanelisa ngesondo

Mhlawumbi oko kuthetha i-orgasm ngalo lonke ixesha. Mhlawumbi kuthetha ubuninzi be-foreplay, okanye ukubamba phantsi kwezikhuselo emva kokuba wenze isenzo. Nokuba yintoni na, ukukwazi ukuthetha into ekukhuphayo kubalulekile, utshilo uJenni Skyler, Ph.D., isini kunye nobudlelwane kwezonyango kunye nomlawuli kwiZiko lobuTsalane eBoulder, CO. "Kwizibini ezininzi, ukuthetha ngesondo Kunzima kakhulu kunokuba nayo, utshilo uSkyler. Chitha ngokuhlwa ebhedini, nijongane ngemizimba yenu kwaye nixelele omnye nomnye, kwisikali esinye ukuya kwishumi, ukuba uziva eh uyothusa.

Ixesha lokuba ube nguwe

"Ulwalamano oluninzi luyawa phantsi ngenxa yokuba amaqabane asongelwe kubudlelwane kangangokuba aphulukane nomkhondo wento ebenza baphawule njengabantu ngabanye. Ngelixa kulungile ukuzicingela njengabantu ababini, ukuba nemidla eyahlukeneyo kugcina ubuntu kunye nokuma bazobabini bobabini kwasekuqaleni, "ucacisa watsho uKenner. Qiniseka ukuba nobabini nikwenza rhoqo. Ngazo zonke iindlela, mmeme kwiklasi yakho yokubulala ye-Spin kwaye uzame umdlalo wegalufa kunye naye, kodwa ke ulunge ube nezinto ozithandayo kunye nokunxibelelana kwakhona kamva. Ayisiyonto ilungileyo nje ukuba ulwalamano lwakho-unezinto ezintsha oza kuthetha ngazo kwaye ufunde-kodwa kuyaqinisekisa ukuba uhlala unyanisekile nakuwe.

Ukubekwa elubala kwezeMali

Asitsho ukuba kufuneka ukhuphe iziteyitimenti zekhadi lakho letyala ngomhla wokuqala, kodwa xa sele uhlanganisa imali, kubalulekile ukuba akukho namnye kuni ofihla nto-kwaye nobabini nikhwele kwizicwangciso zexesha elizayo, nokuba iyahlawula. ngomtshato wakho okanye ukubeka intlawulo kwindlu. UKenner ulumkisa ngelithi: “Ukunganyaniseki ngokwasezimalini kunokuba yingozi kakhulu kulwalamano kuba kubangela ukunganyaniseki. Ukucwangcisa uhambo kunye kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokuphelisa ukuhambelana kwezemali kunye nokuxoxa ngemiba njengoko ivela kwindawo ephantsi kakhulu. Nje ukuba ufunde ukuthetha ngemali xa usebenza usukelo oluthile-njengolwandle i-vaycay-ithoni isetelwe ukuthetha ngezinto ezinzulu ngakumbi.

Umdibanisi kwiMiba yoSapho engafanelekanga

Inxalenye yokudibanisa ubomi kukudibanisa iintsapho, kwaye kuqhelekile ukungqubana ngamanye amaxesha nosapho lwakho olubalulekileyo. Kodwa iingcali ziyavuma ukuba kufuneka uhlale uziva ngathi mfo wakho unomqolo wakho kuqala, kwaye akayi kuvumela umama okanye utata wakhe ukuba akungcungcuthekise into. “Ukuziva ngathi uyinxalenye yeqela kubalulekile,” ukhumbuza uKenner. Qala ngokumazisa indlela evakalelwa ngayo: Ngenxa yokuba ekuqhele kakhulu ukunxibelelana nabo, usenokungaqondi ukuba amagqabaza omzali wakhe anokutolikwa njengakugxekayo, utsho uKenner. Emva koko, mazise oko kunokukwenza kube bhetele-mhlawumbi nguye okhokelayo ekuxoxeni ngomcimbi ophikisanayo phakathi kwakho nomama wakhe endaweni yokuba ahlale ethule ngelixa usenza.

Yonwaba!

Kwimihla ngemihla, kulula ukuphulukana nothando, ububhanxa, kunye nemincili enitsalele yona nobabini omnye komnye kwasekuqaleni. Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kulungile, kukhumbuza uSkyler. Ukwenza ubusuku obuphambili-umhla, imiyalezo emnandi ebhalwe esipilini, ukuthatha usuku kunye ukuya kulala ebhedini- iqinisekisa ukuba ayizukulahleka kwi-shuffle.

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