Iminyaka yokuhamba komntwana omncinci: Yintoni edlalayo?

Umxholo

• Umdlalo odibeneyo ungena njani kumanqanaba amathandathu okudlala
• Xa abantwana bengena kweli nqanaba
• Imizekelo yokudlala ngokudibeneyo
• Izibonelelo zokudlala ngokudibeneyo
• Ukusombulula ingxaki kunye nokusonjululwa kwengxabano
• Intsebenziswano
• Ukuphuhla kwengqondo
• Ukufunda ukulungela
• Ukunciphisa ukukhuluphala komntwana
• Ukuthatha

Njengoko umntwana wakho ekhula, ukudlala ngapha nangapha kunye nabanye abantwana kuya kuba yinxalenye enkulu yelizwe labo.

Ngelixa kunokuba nzima ukuqonda ukuba awusenguye yonke into yabo - nangona ungakhathazeki, usengumbindi wendalo iphela okwethutyana - eli linqanaba elihle kuphuhliso lomdlalo.

Umntwana wakho uza kudlala nabanye ebaleni lokudlala, kumaqela okudlala, kwiminyhadala yasekuhlaleni, kwisikolo sabantwana abasaqalayo - uyibiza ngegama. Ukuba kukho abanye abantwana abakufutshane, ixesha elifanelekileyo lokudlala linokulandela. Oko kuthetha ukuba ungayeka ukuba ngowona mthombo wolonwabo (okwangoku).

Oku ngamanye amaxesha kubizwa ngokuba ngumdlalo wokudibana ziingcali zokuphuhlisa abantwana. Linqanaba lokuphuhliswa xa abantwana abaneminyaka yobudala ngaphambi kokuba baqale ukudlala okanye ecaleni kwabanye abantwana besenza imisebenzi efanayo. Mna nawe kusenokungafuneki siyibize sidlala nge abanye, kodwa linyathelo elikhulu ngokufanayo.

Ngexesha lokudibanisa, abantwana abancinci baqala ukuthatha umdla kwabanye abantwana nakwinto abayenzayo. Oko akuthethi ukuba bonke bayahlangana ukuze badlale ngokusesikweni kunye nezikhokelo zomsebenzi ekuvunyelwene ngazo okanye kwinjongo enye- kodwa ke, nabantu abadala banokukufumanisa kunzima ukulungelelanisa!

Endaweni yokuba abantwana kweli nqanaba- bahlala beqala kwiminyaka engama-2 ukuya kwengama-4 - bayalandisa ilizwe labo lokudlala ukuze babandakanye nabanye.

Umdlalo odibeneyo ungena njani kumanqanaba amathandathu okudlala

Zininzi iimodeli zophuhliso lwabantwana, ke gcinani engqondweni ukuba le yenye yazo.

Isazi ngezentlalo saseMelika esigama linguMildred Parten Newhall senze amanqanaba amathandathu okudlala. Umdlalo odibeneyo uthathwa njengesihlanu sezigaba ezithandathu.

Nazi ezinye, ukuba ugcina umkhondo:

1. Ukudlala okungasetyenziswanga. Umntwana ubukele nje, akadlali. Baqala ukubhekabheka kwaye baqwalasele ilizwe elibangqongileyo, kodwa hayi abantu abakulo.
2. Ukudlala wedwa. Umntwana udlala yedwa ngaphandle komdla wokunxibelelana nabanye.
3. Ukudlala komntu obukeleyo. Umntwana ujonge abanye kufutshane, kodwa angadlali nabo.
4. Umdlalo ofanayo. Umntwana udlala okanye enze umsebenzi ofanayo nabanye abajikeleze ngaxeshanye, kodwa angangadibani nabo.
5. Umdlalo odibeneyo. Umntwana udlala ecaleni-ecaleni nabanye, ubandakanyeka ngamanye amaxesha kodwa angalungelelanisi iinzame.
6. Umdlalo wokubambisana. Umntwana udlala nabanye ngelixa enxibelelana nabo kwaye unomdla kubo bobabini nakwisenzo.

Umdlalo ofanayo kunye nokudibanisa uyafana kakhulu. Kodwa ngexesha lokudlala ngokufanayo, umntwana wakho udlala ecaleni komnye umntwana, kodwa akathethi nabo okanye uzibandakanya nabo.

Ngexesha lokudibanisa, umntwana uqala ukugxila komnye umntu odlalayo, hayi kumdlalo wabo kuphela. Abantwana ababini kweli nqanaba banokuthetha kwaye baqale ukunxibelelana. Kwaye, intle kakhulu xa oku kusenzeka-izinto zentsholongwane yevidiyo ze-YouTube zenziwe.

Xa abantwana bengena kweli nqanaba

Umntwana wakho angaqala ukudlala ngokudibeneyo xa baneminyaka emi-3 okanye emi-4 ubudala, okanye kwasekuqaleni kwe-2. Eli nqanaba lokudlala lihlala lide babe neminyaka emi-4 okanye emi-5 ubudala, nangona abantwana beya kuqhubeka nokudlala ngale ndlela ngamanye amaxesha emva kokungena kwinqanaba elilandelayo lokudlala.

Kodwa khumbula, wonke umntwana ukhula ngesantya sakhe. Ukudlala wedwa kulungile ngokufanelekileyo kubantwana abasaqala isikolo. Ngapha koko, sisakhono esibalulekileyo!

Kodwa ukuba umntwana wakho udlala yedwa ngalo lonke ixesha, unokufuna ukubakhuthaza ukuba baqale basebenzisane kwaye babelane nabanye- nesakhono esibalulekileyo.

Ungabanceda ngokubakhuthaza ngokuba nguwe oza kudlala nabo kuqala, kodwa ubavumele ukuba baqhube umboniso wexesha lokudlala. Emva koko unokubabonisa ukuba babelane kwaye babonisane ngezakhono ngokwenza ngokwakho!

Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nokukhula komntwana wakho, ncokola nengcali efana nodokotela wabantwana okanye utitshala. Banokuncoma ingcali, ukuba iyafuneka.

Imizekelo yokudlala ngokudibeneyo

Nantsi indlela yokudibanisa enokubonakala ngathi:

• Ngaphandle, abantwana bakhwela iibhayisikile ezinamavili amathathu ecaleni komnye kodwa abanalo icebo elilungelelanisiweyo lokuba bayaphi.
• Kwizikolo zasesikolweni, abantwana bakha inqaba ngaphandle kweebhloko kodwa abanaso isicwangciso esisemthethweni okanye nayiphi na intlangano.
• Ukuphuma kwesikolo, abantwana bapeyinta iseyile kunye besebenzisa izinto ezifanayo kodwa bangathethi ukuze benze umfanekiso omanyeneyo okanye ngokuyimfuneko banike izimvo kwinto abazobayo abanye.
• Umntwana omncinci odlala ngento yokudlala kwaye umntwana wakho uyabajoyina aze azikhuphele izinto abazenzayo. Basenokuxoxa, kodwa abenzi sicwangciso esisemthethweni kunye okanye basete nayiphi na imigaqo.

Izibonelelo zokudlala ngokudibeneyo

Eli linqanaba elihle lezibonelelo ezilandela umntwana wakho omncinci ukuya ebudaleni. Oku kubandakanya:

Ukusombulula ingxaki kunye nokusonjululwa kwengxabano

Njengokuba umntwana wakho eqala ukudlala nokunxibelelana nabanye abantwana ngakumbi, baya kufumana ukusombulula iingxaki kunye nezakhono zokusombulula ungquzulwano, uphando lubonisa.

Umdlalo ongachazwanga uvumela abantwana ukuba:

• funda ukusebenza ngamaqela
• yabelana
• thethana
• ukusombulula iingxaki
• funda ukuzimela

Nangona kufuneka usoloko umjongile umntwana wakho xa edlala esemncinci kangaka, zama ukuphazamisa kuphela xa kufanelekile. (Kunzima, siyazi!) Endaweni yoko, vumela ukuba basebenze ungquzulwano lwabo kangangoko kunokwenzeka njengoko beqala ukudlala nabanye.

Intsebenziswano

Njengokuba umntwana wakho edlala nabanye abantwana, baya kuqala ukwabelana ngeethoyi kunye nezinto zobugcisa. Oku akuyi kuhlala kungabi nantlungu - nabantu abadala abasoloko besabelana kakuhle! -Kodwa baya kudinga ukufunda intsebenziswano njengoko beqonda ukuba ezinye izinto zezabanye.

Ukuphuhla kwengqondo

Ukudlala ngokudibeneyo-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha konke ukudlala ngokubanzi-kubalulekile kwingqondo yomntwana wakho. Ibavumela ukuba basebenzise iingcinga zabo njengoko besenza kwaye behlola ilizwe elibangqongileyo.

ibonisa oku kunceda umntwana wakho omncinci ukuba ahlakulele ukomelela ekumelaneni nayo kwaye oyise imiceli mngeni ezayo. Ewe njengabazali, sifuna ukucima yonke imiqobo kwindlela yomntwana wethu - kodwa loo nto ayinakwenzeka kwaye ayiloncedo kwizinto ezinkulu eziseza.

Ukufunda ukulungela

Ingangabonakali ngathi injalo, kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba ixesha lokudlala linika umntwana wakho ukulungela imeko-yeemvakalelo ekufanele ukuba ayilungiselele imeko yezemfundo. Kungenxa yokuba baphuhlisa izakhono eziyimfuneko esikolweni njengokuqonda, indlela yokuziphatha yokufunda, kunye nokusombulula iingxaki.

Bayadibana nge abanye, kodwa hayi ngeendleko ze abanye, sisakhono esibalulekileyo umntwana wakho aya kusidinga kwisikolo sabasaqalayo kwaye ekugqibeleni, kwisikolo samabanga aphantsi- kwaye kunjalo, ngaphaya koko.

Ukunciphisa ukukhuluphala komntwana

Ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuba asebenze kwaye azibandakanye nabanye kunokunciphisa ukukhuluphala kwabantwana.

Khuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba adlale nabanye kwaye asebenze izihlandlo ezininzi ngeveki endaweni yokuchitha ixesha phambi kwescreen. Oku kunokunceda ukwakha imizimba esempilweni, esebenzayo. (Ukucaca gca, ukufunda kunokwenzeka ngexesha lesikrini, kananjalo-ayisiyiyo le ndlela yokufunda.)

Ukuthatha

Ukwenza ixesha elininzi lokudlala kubalulekile kumntwana wakho. Bafunda izakhono ezibalulekileyo ezinjengokubambisana nokusombulula iingxaki.

Ngelixa kulungile ukuba umntwana wakho ofikisayo ukuba adlale yedwa, ungabakhuthaza ukuba badlale ecaleni kwabanye.

Abanye baya kuthatha ixesha elide kunabanye ukufika apho. Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga nophuhliso lwabo okanye izakhono zentlalo, thetha nogqirha wabantwana babo - iqabane elikhulu elinokuthi likubone konke kwaye linokwenza izindululo ezilungiselelwe wena.