Ukutya kwam okungakhubazekiyo kukhulisa njani amaXhala oMhla wokuQala

Umxholo

• Ukukhetha into oza kuyitya ngomhla wokuqala phantse kubuhlungu njengokuthumela umyalezo wokuqala
• Ukutya ngomhla wokuqala kunokuziva ngathi ukuginya ngokwakho
• Uxinzelelo olungathethiyo lokuba ujongeke ugqibelele, nokuba akucelwanga ukuba ubenjalo

"Andiyazi indlela otya ngayo okwangoku," indoda endiyifumene inomtsalane yathi xa ilahla induli enkulu eyenziwe ngepesto pasta phambi kwam, "kodwa ndiyathemba ukuba oku kwanele."

Iingcinga ezizigidi zavela engqondweni yam njengoko ndibeka ifolokhwe kubunzima bekhalori. Hayi ngoku. Alilixesha. Isosi ebedlakazela ezantsi kwilokhwe yam ibingoyena mntu ubenexhala kum. Endaweni yoko, yayiyingcinga yokuzivumela yitya nyani -Ukuphosa umva kwaye ulambele ulambile lo mqondiso mhle- owawubetha ingqondo yam. Kwakubonakala ngathi akunakulindeleka ukuba kwenzeke njengoko ndimhlebela ezona zimnyama zinzulu nezinzulu zomphefumlo wam.

Kwaye ndiyazi ukuba andindedwa kule nto.

Ukukhetha into oza kuyitya ngomhla wokuqala phantse kubuhlungu njengokuthumela umyalezo wokuqala

Kubafazi, ukuthandana nomntu omtsha kufana nokwenza ubuqhetseba bemilingo obude neenyanga. Ngokuthe ngcembe sivumela abo sinokuba ngamaqabane ngamagqabantshintshi ebomini bethu, sibanika iinkcukacha ezaneleyo ukuba zilingane nabantu esinqwenelekayo.

Kunzima ukwenza ngathi lempikiswano yangaphakathi enxulumene nokutya ayikho kwabafazi abaninzi. Kubonakala ngathi yinto engekhoyo ukugweba umntu ngokusekwe kwinto abayityayo ngomhla wokuqala, kodwa kuyenzeka. Naphambi kokuba atshintshiselane amagama anentsingiselo, into esiyenzayo okanye esingayityiyo ibonisa ukuba singobani.

Ngapha koko, kwisifundo esivela kwiYunivesithi yaseAarhus, babonisa abafundi beekholeji ezingama-80 iifoto zabantu kwaye bacela ukuba bazilinganise ngokusekwe kumtsalane. Kwinxalenye yesibini yovavanyo, emva koko babuzwa ukuba bangakanani imali abakulungeleyo ukuyichitha kwiilekese kunye nokutya okutyiwa kuthelekiswa nokutya okusempilweni.

Xa abafazi babala amadoda afotwe njenganomtsalane, babenethuba lokuchitha imali kukutya okusempilweni. Abasetyhini abangaziva betsala kulo mbandela, kwaye onke amadoda ngokubanzi, ayengathambekele ekwenzeni olo khetho lusempilweni.

Ngelixa kungaziwa ukuba ngaba aba basetyhini banengxaki yokutya, ubudlelwane obuntsonkothileyo bokutya, umfanekiso womzimba, kunye nokuqala kokubonakala kuhlala kuhlala kunxibelelene.

Ihobe lakhupha isifundo esibanzi ngo-2016 ngokuzithemba nokuzithemba, kudliwanondlebe nabasetyhini abangama-10 500 kumazwe ali-13. Bafumanise ukuba iipesenti ezingama-85 zabasetyhini kunye neepesenti ezingama-79 zamantombazana baya kukhetha ukuphuma kwimisebenzi xa bengayithandi indlela abajongeka ngayo. Indlela abazibona ngayo ichaphazele indlela abazithatha ngayo izigqibo.

• Amantombazana ayi-7 kwali-10 anesisidima somzimba axele ukuba akazukuqina kwizigqibo zawo
• I-9 kwabasetyhini be-10 baxela ukuba bayayeka ukutya okanye babeke impilo yabo emngciphekweni

Ukutya ngomhla wokuqala kunokuziva ngathi ukuginya ngokwakho

U-Amelia S., 27, waseWashington D.C., umile kwicala lokuthintela kakhulu ukutya kwakhe, kangangokuba wancipha kwimisipha ukuya kwisakhelo esibhityileyo. Kwiminyaka, isithintelo sikhuphe ishedyuli echanekileyo, enye engavumeli indawo yokuthandana. Ngethuba nje ubunzima buhlala phantsi, wayekhuselekile.

Oko kukuthi, de wadibana noQuentin kwindawo yokutyela katitshala emsebenzini. “Bendifumana isidlo sasemini sabantwana kunye neapile eluhlaza, njengoko bendisenza yonke imihla. Emva kokuthetha nokugigitheka, ndalahla ipleyiti yam emgqomeni ndaza ndagcina iapile yam eluhlaza ukuze ndiyenzele kamva. ” Umgca watsalwa esantini: wayemthanda, wayenokuzibona ekunye naye, kwaye ke ngenxa yoko wayengekabonwa esitya.

Ukuqala kwakhe ukuchitha ubusuku, wafunda ukuba i-ex yakhe ineenkosi ezintathu kunye ne-PhD. Ngokukhawuleza, u-Amelia waziva engaphantsi. Kodwa engqondweni yakhe, wayehlala "ebhetele" kunesidala kwisikhundla esinye: wayemncinci.

Njengokuba ubudlelwane babo bukhula, babenayo "kakhulu musa ukubuza, musa ukuxelela indlela yokutya." Ngokuthe ngcembe, emva kweenyanga zokudibana, ukuthembana, kunye nokuvuleka, imeko ka-Amelia yokhuseleko yakhula. Ukutya okwakungavunyelwe ngaphambili, ukusuka kuMcDonalds ukuya kukuThai, ngokuthe ngcembe kwaba ngumdlalo olungileyo.

Kodwa ayizange ihlale. Ngobusuku obaqhekeza ngabo, wahlamba iibhokisi ezisibhozo ze-ice cream ezantsi edreyini.

"Xa wayekhuthazwa kwaye andizange, uxhalaba lwam lwalubi ngokwaneleyo ukuba andifuni ukutya nantoni na," u-Amelia wabelana. “Ngaphandle kwakhe, ndingenza nantoni na endiyifunayo. Okwangoku, itya ukutya okunesondlo. ”

Kodwa rhoqo, ukukhula, ubudlelwane obuxhasayo kuphuculo lweempawu kunye nokubuyela kwimeko yesiqhelo kukutya. Yiloo nto eyenzekayo noPenny C., 24, waseMichigan.

UPenny C uphuhlise i-bulimia nervosa ngeenyanga zokuqala zobudlelwane bakhe obutsha kunye nendoda endala. "Ukuze andigcine -" intombazana encinci "- ndaziva kufanelekile." Kwaye wayenza, ngokugabha okanye ukuthintela nakuphi na ukutya awayekutya ngaphandle kwakhe.

“Ndime ecaleni kwakhe, ndaziva ndinesiyezi kwaye ndingenangqondo, kodwa ndibhityile ngokwaneleyo ukuba ndingangumlingane wakhe. Ndazivumela ukuba nditye ukutya ebesinako kunye: ipitsa, ipasta, konke ukutya ‘okungavumelekanga’ kubomi bam obuqhelekileyo. Kwakumnandi ukungakhathali ngayo yonke ikhalori enye. Naye, andizange ndizive ndinetyala. Ngokuthe ngcembe, njengoko ubomi bethu babudibana saza sahlala kunye saza saba ngamaqabane, oko kuphelisa kwaphela. ”

Ekugqibeleni, uPenny uxelele iqabane lakhe nge-bulimia yakhe, esusa umda wokugqibela phakathi kwabo. “Ekugqibeleni ndamxelela, bendimvumela ukuba andibone ngokwenyani okokuqala. Ekugqibeleni waba nomfanekiso opheleleyo. Khange andilahle. ”

Uxinzelelo olungathethiyo lokuba ujongeke ugqibelele, nokuba akucelwanga ukuba ubenjalo

UMegan K., 26, wase-Indianapolis, akacingi kakhulu ngokutya ngomhla kwaye akazange abe nengxaki yokutya. "Ndihlala ndicinga ukuba iqabane lam alinakuxabisa ukwehla i-burger enkulu kunye nam, ke kungcono ndizenzele ngokwam," utshilo. "Ngekhe ndi-odole into emoshe kakhulu kwimihla yokuqala, kodwa ngaphandle kwaleyo, akukho ndlela."

KuMegan, umqobo ujikeleze into eyenzekileyo kusapho lwakhe. Xa wayeneminyaka eyi-16, umama wakhe wasweleka ngokuzibulala. "Andimkhulisi umama okanye indlela asweleke ngayo," uyavuma uMegan. “Abo bangazange bafunde khange bakufanele ukufumana. Abasoze bandazi. ”

Ewe kunjalo, yile nto ukutya nomhla omtsha kwehla, akunjalo? Uhlobo lokuncinwa, "ukukhupha." Ukutya kuyinxalenye yencoko, iqhekeza lechess ekumazini umntu. Singazimela ngasemva kokulunywa, ukuginya amagama esifuna ukuwathetha ekugqibeleni-emva kokuba sithathe isigqibo sokuba umntu ohleli ngaphesheya kwethu ukulungele na ukukuva.

Ngaphezulu kokugigitheka kunye nokuhleka, phakathi kokulunywa okuncinci kwepasto ipasta, ndiyilinganisela indawo yam entsha enomtsalane, ndibukele ulwimi lomzimba kunye nebhanti yeempawu zeeflegi ezibomvu, kuyo nayiphi na into engalunganga. Ukujonga, ukulinda, ukuba afumane isizathu sokuba angandithandi kwakhona.

Xa uloyiko lungaguquki lube yinyani, ndithatha enye into yokuluma.

Kwaye emva koko enye.

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Ngaba umntu unokutya ipasto ipasta kwaye ajonge esipilini emva kweeyure ngaphandle kokuzisola? Impendulo mhlawumbi. Sonke sinako ukuzama.

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UAllison Krupp ngumbhali waseMelika, umhleli kunye nombhali wenoveli. Phakathi kwendalo, iindawo ezininzi zelizwekazi, uhlala eBerlin, eJamani. Jonga iwebhusayithi yakhe Apha.