Indlela yokwamkela i-Badass yakho yangaphakathi

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Kule mihla yanamhlanje yedijithali eneziphazamiso ezingenakubalwa, kulula ukuba silibale ngothando lwethu kunye nenjongo yethu. Kwiphulo lokukhuthaza amantombazana nabasetyhini ukuba babe lolona hlobo luhle kakhulu, isithethi sokuxhobisa abantu ababhinqileyo uAlexis Jones ubonakalisa indlela yokuphupha kakhulu kwaye uqale ngokuphila ubomi obufuna ngokwenene-ngoku.

Siye-on-one kunye nomseki wombutho we-I Am That Girl kunye nombhali wencwadi ezayo Ndiyile Ntombazana: Uyithetha njani iNyaniso yakho, Fumanisa injongo yakho, kunye # bethatgirl ukufunda iingcebiso zakhe eziphezulu zokuzikhathalela ngokwakho kunye nendlela onokuthi wamkele ngayo i-badass yakho yangaphakathi.

Ubume: Yintoni i Ndingula Ntombazana konke malunga?

UAlexis Jones (AJ): Esona sisikhumbuzo sokugqibela ngendlela owoyikeka ngayo. Sihlaselwa kakhulu ngemiyalezo ethi asonelanga. Lo ngumzamo wam othobekileyo wokukhumbuza amantombazana ukuba ayingozi. Nantoni na oyifunayo ebomini, inokwenzeka. Kufuneka sibe ngabayethu abakhulu be-cheerleader.

Imilo: Ucinga ukuba kunzima ukuba ngumfazi kuluntu lwanamhlanje?

AJ: Isizukulwana ngasinye sinemiceli mngeni, kodwa sinesiseko esikhethekileyo nesicelomngeni namhlanje ngetekhnoloji kunye nemiyalezo yemidiya. Ngokwe-avareji, sisebenzisa iiyure ezili-10 zemidiya kunye nemifanekiso yebhrendi engama-3,000 ngosuku. Ngonaphakade le miyalezo ithi, "Akonelanga, kodwa ukuba uthenga imveliso yethu, mhlawumbi uza kuba yiyo." Kuyaphambana ukucinga ukuba oku akuyi kusichaphazela, kodwa ukwazi ukuba ngumceli mngeni kuthi kunamandla. Ke ngaphandle kwayo yonke inkqubo, imifanekiso, iFotohop, kunye nentengiso ekholisayo, ndiza kwenza umsebenzi ofunekayo ukuze uzive ulungile ngam. Imalunga nokuzithemba.

Ubume: Abasetyhini bahlala bezigqibela. Singakubeka njani phambili ukuzikhathalela?

AJ: Kufuneka uzinike imvume yokuba uzicingele. Abasetyhini benzelwe ukuba bakhulise, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba sinokujika sibe ngabafeli-nkolo: Singanikela xa kungekho nto sinokunikela ngayo. Kuya kufuneka ungene kumthombo wakho wamandla-nokuba lukholo lwakho, abahlobo bakho, okanye ukuzilolonga kwakho-kwaye uthathe ixesha lokufumana okubalulekileyo kuwe, kungenjalo ulahleka kwimeko engaguquguqukiyo ye-to-dos. Singaba lapho kubahlobo bethu kwaye sibanike iingcebiso, ukanti asinakukwazi ukukuxelela oko kuthi. Musa ukulahla izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe ukuze unakekele izinto ezibalulekileyo komnye umntu.

Imilo: Zithini iingcebiso zakho zokufumanisa ukuba yintoni eyona nto uyithandayo kunye nenjongo ebomini?

AJ: Kuya kufuneka uthule, uthule, kwaye unqamule. Kunzima ngokwenene ukuva ilizwi langaphakathi kwizinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe ngenye indlela. Ugqibele nini ukuthatha ngabom imizuzu emihlanu ukuya kweli-10 yokuthula? Singakhe sikuve njani oko kuseza kwangaphakathi xa siphazamiseke kakhulu kwaye siqhawukile? Into elandelayo ngokwenene iphuma ngaphandle kwendawo yakho yokuthuthuzela. Yenza izinto ezikoyikisayo kunye nezincoko ezinentsingiselo. [Tweet le ngcebiso!]

Ubume: Lithini ingcebiso onayo kubafazi abanobuchule abafuna ukwenza umahluko?

AJ: Qala kancinci. Siphila kwisizukulwana apho sijolise kakhulu kwaye sineenjongo ezinkulu, kodwa siyalibala ifuthe esinalo kwiimeko zethu zemihla ngemihla. Kulula njengokujonga i-cashier xa ufumana igrosari, ubeke umnxeba, kwaye ubabuze ukuba lunjani usuku lwabo. Impendulo oyifumana ebantwini iyothusa! Sicinga ukuba impembelelo kufuneka iqale ngokungenzi nzuzo okanye unikele ngayo yonke le mali, kodwa iqala ngomntu omnye.

Ubume: Ubukulo Umsindisi, olulolona vavanyo lukhulu lokomelela ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasengqondweni, nasemoyeni. Loo mava aziphembelele njani iinkolelo zakho nencwadi yakho?

AJ: Ukuba kumboniso yayingamava aphambeneyo! Ndandisoloko ndingumdlali ogqithisayo wezemidlalo, kodwa ndaphela ukuhamba iintsuku ezili-13 ndingatyi, ndaphula isandla sam ngosuku lokuqala, ndibetha unyawo lwam ngomhla we-19-ndacinga ukuba ndinzima de ndaqhubeka. Kuyinto engenakuchazwa ukukwazi ukufumana ithuba lokubona ukuba senziwe ngantoni. Kuyasithoba kakhulu. Indinike umbono wendlela obuphila ngayo ubomi behlabathi. Indinike umsebenzi wokuziphatha kunye noxabiso olungapheliyo. Ndandingenaso nesipili kangangeentsuku ezingama-30. Zonke izinto ezinje ngokukhangeleka zilungile nokuba nomsebenzi olungileyo azikhathalelanga phaya. Kwakunomdla ukuba nale nkcazo yobuhle ingakholekiyo. Ukuba ungubani umhle kakhulu kunento oyiyo ngaphandle.

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