Ubomi bam butshintshe njani baba bungcono xa ndiyeka ukusela inyanga nenyanga

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• 7 Izinto Ezenzekileyo Xa Ndayeka Ukusela Inyanga
• Ukuzilolonga kwasekuseni akusavakala ngathi #strugglecity.
• Kwakulula ukunamathela kwindlela enditya ngayo.
• Isibindi sam saphinda sandithanda.
• Ubuhlobo bam baziva bomelele ngakumbi.
• Ubuvila bam behlile.
• Ulusu lwam lwalufuna #infilter.
• Ndandinemali eninzi kakhulu kwi-akhawunti yam yokonga.
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Xa uNyaka oMtsha wajikeleza, kanye kwi-cue ndaqala ukuva malunga nazo zonke izicwangciso zokunciphisa ubunzima kunye namaqhinga okutya ukuba wonke umntu wayeza kuzama ukulahla iipounds ezingafunekiyo. Andinasikhalazo sinyani, kodwa ndiqaphele abahlobo abambalwa abethe iifoto zabo ze-Instagram zewayini nge #SoberJanuary, #DryJanuary, kunye #GetMyFixNow. Ndakhe ndeva ngabantu abasika utywala kangangenyanga, kodwa ndingazange ndizame mna-okanye ndaziva ndinomdla wokuzenza, kuba ndandingaqinisekanga ukuba ukwenza njalo okwexeshana elincinci kungazisa izibonelelo zexesha elide. Kulo nyaka bendicula ingoma eyahlukileyo. Emva kwexesha leeholide zokuzonwabisa ezibandakanya isabelo sam esilungileyo se-spiked eggnog kunye newayini ebunjiweyo, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndizame indlela yokungabikho kotywala kwaye ndiyeke ukusela kangangenyanga. Kwaye masithi bendimangalisiwe ziziphumo.

Isiqalo sasingesiso sibi kangako. Wonke umntu wandilumkisa ukuba ukuyeka utywala ngosuku emva kokukhala kuNyaka oMtsha kuya kuziva ngathi isihogo (abayibizi inwele zenja ngento engekho). Kwaye ukuba akunjalo, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiza kulungela iglasi yewayini emva kosuku olude lomsebenzi. Andiyi kuxoka—ngokuqinisekileyo uyenzile Ndifuna ukuzanelisa emva kosuku olunoxinzelelo-kodwa ndandingarhaleli utywala ngokungathi yayingeyonto yomntu. Ngapha koko, ukwenza uDry Januwari kwandinyanzela ukuba ndiyeke kwaye ndigqibe kwelokuba ndifuna isiselo xa ndiqhele ukusibamba ngaphandle kwengcinga yesibini. Ngaba ndandiziva ndicinezelekile? Ngaba ukubaleka kungayisombulula le ngxaki kwangokunjalo? Rhoqo kunokuba kunjalo, ukusika utywala yayingeyonto enkulu. Ndaye ndacudisa kwimithambo eyongezelelekileyo, eyayiyibhonasi emnandi.

Kwakuphele inyanga endilinga. Ungacinga emva kokubethelela into yokungaseli iiveki ezintathu ingayenza le yokugqibela ibe ngumoya. Kodwa ukwazi ukuba ndisondele kakhulu kumgca wokugqibela kwenza ukuba umbono weglasi yechampagne ibe mnandi kakhulu. Ndaqala ukucinga malunga neeyure zolonwabo endinokuthi ndongeze kwikhalenda yam, nokuba ndiza kuba phantsi emva kokusela ezimbini. Ewe, ukuba nabantu abaninzi bandixelele ukuba "ndisondele ngokwaneleyo" xa bebona isigqibo sam sokuncwina akusincedanga. Ndihleli ndomelele, nangona kunjalo, njengoko ndandizibekele injongo kwaye ndifuna ukuyibona kude kube sekupheleni. Ke nantsi into eyenzekileyo ngexesha lam loMqungu kaJanuwari, kubandakanya nezinye izinto ezingaphezulu ebezingalindelekanga. (PS nantsi indlela ukuyeka utywala kunokuyonyusa ngayo impilo yakho.)

7 Izinto Ezenzekileyo Xa Ndayeka Ukusela Inyanga

Ukuzilolonga kwasekuseni akusavakala ngathi #strugglecity.

Iiseshoni zokubila kwangoko azizange zibe lula kum-ndifuna ukuba yonke into ndiyilungiselele kwaye ndiyilungiselele ngobusuku obungaphambili ukuze ndikwazi ukuqengqeleka ebhedini ndingene kwigiya yam ngaphambi kokuba ingqondo yam iqonde ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Kodwa ngokubulela baye bangcungcutheka xa ndiyeka ukusela inyanga. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kunokuba yintsalela yokukhaba kwisigqibo soNyaka oMtsha, kodwa kunokwenzeka ngakumbi kuba ndilele ngcono. Njenge, indlela engcono. Andizange ndizibone sele ndilungele ukulala ngaphambi kwexesha, kodwa andizange ndivuke ezinzulwini zobusuku okanye ndizive ndine-groggy xa i-alarm yam ikhala. Inzululwazi ithi kungenxa yokuba andizange ndonyuse iipateni zealpha kwingqondo yam — into eyenzekayo xa uvukile kodwa uphumle ... okanye usele ngaphambi kokulala. Isizathu sokuba oko kubi: Kukhokelela ebuthongweni obukhaphukhaphu kwaye kungcoliseke kakhulu ngomgangatho weezzz. Nto leyo indenza ndifune ukujula ifowuni yam kwigumbi okwesibini i-alam ikhala (okanye ndibethe i-snooze kakhulu, ukuba ndiziva ndinobundlobongela obunganeno ngaloo ntsasa).

Kwakulula ukunamathela kwindlela enditya ngayo.

Ngelixa ndingakhange ndiphulukane nobunzima (obulungileyo, kuba ayisiyiyo enye yeenjongo zam zomzimba), ndiye ndaphawula emva kweveki okanye ukuze ndingalambi ebusuku. Ndikwazile ukuxela ngokwenyani ukuba ndifuna ukutya ngokwenene, ndifuna amanzi, okanye ndiziva ndidikiwe (into endiyisombululeyo ngaphambili ngokuba neglasi ye-vino ngesandla esinye ISidanga kwelinye). Abaphandi bafumanise ukuba kutheni: Olunye uphononongo lufumanise ukuba abasetyhini badla malunga nama-300 eekhalori ngosuku xa bethatha isigqibo sokufumana isixa "esilinganiselweyo" sotywala, kwaye omnye wafumanisa ukuba xa abasetyhini beneziselo ezilingana nezimbini, batya iipesenti ezingama-30 ukutya okuninzi. Nokuba ukunxila kungephi (ke, ukuziva ubuzz kancinci emva kweglasi yesibini) kwandise ukusebenza kwengqondo kwi-hypothalamus, isenza ukuba abasetyhini babe nolwazelelelo ngakumbi kukunuka kokutya kwaye banamathuba okuba balahle. Ngamanye amagama, ukukhetha ukonwaba kunye nekomityi yeti e-decaf kwakubhetele esinqeni sam, kuba kwakulula ukuthi hayi xa umyeni wam esenza isitya sepopcorn ngokwenene ndifuna. (Idibeneyo: 5 Imikhuba yokutya esempilweni engayi kuyenza imnandi yonke isidlo)

Isibindi sam saphinda sandithanda.

Ndiyazi, ndiyazi, le ibonakala icacile. Kodwa ekubeni umsebenzi wam undenza ndifunde izifundo zamva nje imini nemini, bekunomdla ukufumana ingxelo entsha ebonisa ukuba abo baqhawula utywala, nokuba lixeshana elifutshane, babona izibonelelo zempilo kwangoko. Ngokuqinisekileyo eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba isibindi sakho sibuyisa ngokukhawuleza kangakanani. Abasebenzi kwiphephancwadi laseBritani INzululwazi eNtsha bazenzele iihagu zeginea iiveki ezintlanu, kwaye ingcali yesibindi kwiZiko leSibindi kunye neDigestive Health kwiYunivesithi yaseLondon yafumanisa ukuba amanqatha esibindi, isandulela somonakalo wesibindi kunye nesalathisi esinokubonisa ukutyeba, yehle nge-15 yepesenti (kwaye phantse 20 kwabanye) kwabo bayeka utywala. Amanqanaba eglucose egazini (anokuthi abeke umngcipheko wesifo seswekile) nawo anciphile ngomyinge weepesenti ezili-16. Ke nangona bengakhange bancame iipinki zabo ixesha elide, imizimba yabo ixhamle kakhulu-oko kuthetha ukuba eyam inokwenzeka ukuba nayo yenzekile xa ndiyeka ukusela kangangenyanga.

Ubuhlobo bam baziva bomelele ngakumbi.

Inye into endakhawuleza ndayiqonda: Phantse i-100 ekhulwini lobomi bam babusekelwe kukutya neziselo. Nokuba bekubhiyozelwa inyanga yempumelelo yomsebenzi ngeyure yokonwaba, ukwamkela ukuthululwa okunzima kwiklabhu yencwadi, okanye ukuphumla ngeebhiya ezimbalwa ngelixa ubukele ibhola, bekusoloko kukho into eselwayo. Inyanga yam yobungangamsha yenza izinto zibe nzima ngakumbi kuba ukhetho olungagqibekanga alusekho. Okona kuninzi, nangona kunjalo, abahlobo bam bebepholile ngokuza nezinye izicwangciso, okanye ngokundivumela ndixhonywe ngeglasi yam yamanzi okanye iklabhu yesoda ngaphandle kokundenza ndizive ndingonwabanga. (Ezi mbumbulu ziya kukwenza uzive ngathi uyinxalenye yeqela ngelixa ulungelelene.)

Kwaye ndiyavuma, le yeyona nto yayixhalabisa kakhulu ngaphambi kokuba ndiyeke ukusela inyanga. Ngaba abantu banokuyifumana yonke into iyacaphukisa? Ngaba bangayeka okwethutyana ukumema ukuba sihlale kunye? Ke indincedile ukuba ndibone into enye: Ndiyazithanda izihlobo zam, kwaye khange sibufune utywala njengesixhobo sokuzonwabisa ukuze sonwabe kunye. Kwaye oko kuya kusiba yinto eqhelekileyo: kuvavanyo lwakutsha nje libuze abantu abangama-5 000 abasela phakathi kweminyaka engama-21 nengama-35 malunga nemikhwa yabo kwaye bafumanisa ukuba phantse isiqingatha sabo singaziphepha iintetho ezihlekisayo kwaye bahloniphe ukhetho lomhlobo lokungaseli.

Ubuvila bam behlile.

Ngokusisiseko, i-syndrome ethi "Ndiza kuyenza ngomso" ebendihlala ndiphathwa yiyo yanyamalala. Ngelixa ndandisahleli esofeni xa ingqondo yam yayifuna ikhefu, amaxesha amaninzi ndandizifumana ndikhuthazwa ukuba ndenze umsebenzi. Umyeni wam wade waphawula, njengoko ngobunye ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu ndandinamandla aneleyo okucoca igumbi lethu ndize ndiqhube iimpahla ezininzi endaweni yokuba ndiziwise ebhedini emva komsebenzi. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba besingasileli kwisidlo sangokuhlwa kunye neziselo, saya kumhla wokuzonwabisa esingazange senze xesha lokwenza ngaphambili. (Okulandelayo kuluhlu lwethu lobusuku bobusuku: Le misebenzi yokumpompa intliziyo.)

Ulusu lwam lwalufuna #infilter.

Xa ndayeka ukusela kangangenyanga, esi yayisesona sibonelelo ndandigxininise kuso. Ndihlala ndilwa ne-acne kwaye, nangona ndiye ndakwazi ukuyilawula ngokufanelekileyo kwiminyaka embalwa edlulileyo, ukuvutha kuya kuphinda kuvele ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba ndingathanda (funda: ngekhe-ndingathanda. ukuba zenzeke zange). Kodwa emva kweveki nje kungekho tywala, kwabakho umahluko obonakalayo. Ulusu lwam belugudileyo kwaye lungomi kakhulu, kwaye nethoni yam ibintle ngakumbi ngelixa ngaphambili ibibomvu ngokurhabaxa. UJoshua Zeichner, MD, ugqirha wesikhumba kwisiXeko saseNew York kunye noprofesa oncedisayo wesikhumba kwiNtaba yezoNyango kwiNtaba yeSinayi eManhattan, uthi utywala bunokuwanciphisa amanqanaba e-antioxidant esikhumbeni sakho, yonyuse umngcipheko womonakalo ekukhanyeni kwe-UV, ukudumba, kunye nokuguga ngaphambi kwexesha. Nje ukuba ndiyeke ukusela (kwaye ndaqalisa ukutya ukutya okune-antioxidant, okufana ne-blueberries kunye ne-artichokes), amanqanaba am anokuthi aphinde abuyele. "I-Antioxidants ifana nezitshizi zokucima umlilo ezikhupha ukudumba kolusu," utshilo uZeichner. "Nangona uphando olongezelelweyo lufunekayo ukuze uqiniseke, ithiyori igcina amanqanaba aphezulu e-antioxidant inokunceda ukucinezela ukuvuvukala malunga neefollicles zakho ezikhokelela kwiimpuphu." Ngamanye amazwi, Mholweni ulusu olutsha oluhle. (Kwaye ewe, ii-hangovers zolusu ziyinto.)

Ndandinemali eninzi kakhulu kwi-akhawunti yam yokonga.

Ukusela kuyabiza-kwaye kukuchwechwela. Nokuba ibhiya ebharini okanye ibhotile yewayini oza nayo ekhaya, ayibonakali ngathi ininzi. Kodwa njengoko umvuzo ngamnye wawungena kuloo nyanga, ndaqonda ukuba ndinemali eninzi eseleyo kwiakhawunti yam yokutshekisha kunokuba ndandiqhele ukwenza emva kokuhlawula amatyala. Umyeni wam, ekubeni engumfana oxhasayo, akazange asele rhoqo njengoko eqhele ukwenza, nokuba, kwaye imali yethu yokulondoloza ngokwenene yongezwa. Kuthe xa kuphela inyanga, besele sakhe indlwane yeqanda elikhulu ngokwaneleyo ukuba singaphuncuka xa sibaleka ngempelaveki.

Ngoku sele ndikwazile ukuyeka ukusela kangangenyanga, ndiziva njani? Kulungile. Kuhle nyhani. Inyanga ngaphandle kotywala yandinceda ndibethe iqhosha lokuseta kwakhona ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwengqondo nangokwasentlalweni. Ngelixa ndingazukuqhubela phambili ukuya kuFebruwari opholileyo, ndiceba ukuthatha ezinye zezifundo kunye nam, njengokungena ngaphambi kokuba ndithathe isigqibo sokuba ndiyasifuna na isiselo kunye nokucwangcisa uhambo olumnandi olungajikiyo malunga notywala.

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