Bumba Ubomi Bakho

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Nokuba kukuphila kwethu ngokomzimba, ubudlelwane bethu, impilo yethu yeemvakalelo okanye imisebenzi yethu, kulula ukubanjwa mihla le, ifuna iinkcukacha zobomi bethu, ngaphandle kokuma sicinge ukuba yintoni na esisebenzayo. ngase. Sonke sifuna okungakumbi kuthi, kwaye iinjongo zethu zihlala zikhona: Sijoyina indawo yokuzivocavoca, sifunga ukufumana ixesha elithe kratya lethu okanye leentsapho zethu, sigcine inoveli ngomqolo ongafakwanga kwitafile yethu esecaleni kwebhedi, sicwangcise kwaye sicwangcise ukuhlaziya uthuli lwethu iqala kwakhona -- kodwa kaninzi kunokuba kunjalo, ubomi bethu obuxineneyo buyasiphazamisa. Sifuna ukuba sempilweni, ukonwaba ngakumbi kwaye silawule ngakumbi, kodwa sonke sitshintshana ngokungalunganga ngokuzama ukuya apho.

Kodwa inyathelo elinye ngexesha, sinokufumana ukulinganisela okungcono kwiindawo ezininzi zobomi bethu obupheleleyo. Ngapha koko, ukomelela komzimba ayisiyokuzilolonga kwakho kuphela. Amaxesha anamhlanje afuna inkcazo ehlaziyiweyo yokomelela komzimba. Ukuqina kubumba ubomi bakho, hayi umzimba wakho kuphela, kuba uphando lubonisa okungaphezulu kunokuba ukuzilolonga kwakho kuchaphazela impilo yakho nokuba sempilweni. Impilo yobudlelwane bakho, ulwaneliseko lomsebenzi, ulawulo loxinzelelo, nokuba ufumana iimvavanyo zovavanyo lwezempilo eziyimfuneko-- zonke zichaphazela impilo yakho. Injongo yale kholamu iya kuba kukujongana nazo zonke ezi zinto zichaphazela ukomelela kwakho - ngokwenkcazo yale mihla. Nyanga nganye, Ubume iya kujolisa kukusondeza kancinane kuloo bhalansi, nokuba kukufumana indlela yokutya okunempilo kunye nokutya okunesondlo; ukufumana ulwaneliseko ngakumbi kubudlelwane; ukubuyisa iqondo lobushushu lomsebenzi wakho; okanye ukwenza ixesha lakho elibalulekileyo lokuzilolonga lisebenze ngcono kuwe. Isihloko sethu senyanga yokuqala: ukuchonga iinjongo zakho zempilo, kunye nokufunda indlela engcono yokusebenzela kuzo.

Iinjongo zakho zokuzilolonga, zichaziwe

Xa ubuza abafazi abaninzi iinjongo zabo zokuqina, kwenzeka into ehlekisayo. Kwimizuzwana embalwa, bayakhubeka. "Iinjongo zam zokuzilolonga?" bathi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uninzi lwethu lunokuphawula into esingathanda ukuyilahla: ubunzima, izikhwama zesali, ibrey bulge, i-cellulite (sithandazela unyango de bayifumane). Kodwa buza abafazi ukuba yintoni abangathanda ukuyizuza, kwaye bangaphi abanokukuxelela ngokuqinisekileyo?

Yityhole kwinkcubeko yethu. Phantse ukusuka kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo (kwaye ngokudabukisayo, rhoqo nangaphambili), ukukhalazela iziphene zomzimba wethu esizibonayo kuyinkqubo yokuqalisa ebufazini, kwaye isiko uninzi lwethu ngelishwa luyaqhubeka ubomi. Sijingisa ingalo yethu phambi kwabahlobo njengobungqina bokufumana ubunzima besilwanyana; amathanga ethu siwancwina ngasese kwiimpawu zeselulite entsha; sibamba izisu zethu zokubonisa abanye inyaniso: Asilungelanga, imizimba yethu ayikhuli. "Ukuba ubunokuya nakweyiphi na ikona yesitrato nakwesiphi na isixeko kwilizwe ubuze abafazi abali-100, 'Uziva njani ngomzimba wakho?' bangaphi abantu basetyhini abanokuthi 'ndiyayithanda? lonto. "

Xa sizibekela izinto ezimbi ngolo hlobo, asikwazi ukucinga kakuhle. Sijonga izipili zethu ezinde size sibone indlela inyama yethu emele ibonakale ngayo kwabanye, kunokuba sicinge ngoko imizimba yethu inokusenzela yona. Sifumana iziphene apho endaweni yoko sinokubona okunokwenzeka. Apho sasikhe saneemodeli ezingacacanga ezinesakhelo sokufikisa esithe saa kuyo yonke indawo, ngoku sikwanabantu abadumileyo abanamabali amnandi malunga nendlela ababeqhele ukuba ziiponti ezingama-20 "ukutyeba" - njengawe nam! -de bade babethe isinqe, ngokutya kunye nokuzimisela, kubungakanani-2 ijini. Ukuba banako ukuyenza, nathi siya kuyicinga, siyacinga.

Idabi lokoyiswa

Kwabaninzi abafazi, injongo ephambili iyafana: ukunciphisa umzimba.Kwiinzame zokufumana abafundi beekholeji ezityebileyo kwizifundo zakhe zokulawula ubunzima, uCarol Kennedy, M.S., ngoku umlawuli weprogram yokufaneleka / ukuhlala kakuhle kwiYunivesithi yase-Indiana e-Bloomington, unikeze uvavanyo lwepesenti yamafutha omzimba simahla kubafundi njengenkuthazo. Kodwa oko wakufumanayo kwamothusa. "Amashumi asixhenxe ekhulwini kwabasetyhini abafikayo babekwinqanaba eliqhelekileyo (i-20-30 ekhulwini lamanqatha omzimba) kodwa i-56 ekhulwini yazibona inzima kakhulu," kusho uKennedy. Ngapha koko, uKennedy kunye noogxa bakhe bongeze umzimba-iklasi nje kwaba bafazi.

Mhlawumbi akumangalisi ukuba, ngabasetyhini abancinci abanomdla wokufuna ukubhitya. UKennedy, opapashe uphando ngalo mbandela, uthi abasetyhini abangaphantsi kweminyaka engama-30 bachaphazeleka kakhulu ngumbono womzimba; abafazi 30-50 ngandlel 'ithile kunokwenzeka ngakumbi ukwenza impilo isizathu engundoqo umthambo. (Okwenza umdla kukuba, abafazi baphinde bacinge ngokubonakala kwabo emva kweminyaka engama-50, xa utshintsho olubonakalayo emzimbeni luqala ukwenzeka, uKennedy uthi.)

Ukuba ngabafundi abalungileyo benkcubeko yethu, esona sizathu siphambili kukuba sibonakale silungile, endaweni yokujonga kwiimvakalelo ezilungileyo kwaye siphila ngakumbi emizimbeni yethu. Rhoqo sinyanzela ulindelo olungenakufikeleleka kuthi: ukujongeka njengenkwenkwezi ethile kumabonwakude, cofa kwisikolo esiphakamileyo, okanye ufumane iipakethi ezintandathu. "Abasetyhini abaninzi banokuzibamba bafikelele kwiminqweno ekucingelwa ukuba i-genetics yabo ayinakuyamkela, kwaye bazibekele ukusilela," utshilo uJames Loehr, u-Ed.D, umongameli we-LGE Performance Systems e-Orlando, Fla. , siyazibandeza uyolo lokuxabisa imizimba yethu esakhulayo.

Owona mqondiso wokugqibela wokuba iinjongo zethu azikho mpilweni kuxa siyeke ukonwabela ubomi ukuze sizifezekise. "Ukuba uhamba ngokutya owaziyo ukuba awukwazi ukugcina ixesha elide okanye inkqubo yokuzilolonga ongayithandiyo, ekugqibeleni, oko kuya kukuphula," kusho uLoehr. "Uhambo oluya kwinjongo lubaluleke njengayo nantoni na." Kodwa sitshintsha njani?

Indlela eya empumelelweni

Kulilize ukuxelela umfazi ofuna ukuphalaza iiponti ukuba alibale malunga nokwehla kobunzima njongo. Kodwa okumangalisayo kukuba, kusenokuba koko kanye akufunayo ukuze aphumelele. "Iimbaleki zobungcali zisondela kwiinjongo zivela kwinqanaba lokusebenza, zigxile kwinto ekufuneka ziyenzile," utshilo uLoehr. Abayigwebi impumelelo ngokuma phambi kwesipili. "Babeka iinjongo zexesha elide, kodwa babeka iinjongo eziphakathi: into abaza kuyenza ekupheleni kwenyanga, kule veki okanye namhlanje," uyongezelela. Xa ugxininise kwimpumelelo, kwaye ulinganise kwaye uhlangabezane neenjongo ezisekelwe ekusebenzeni ngokunyuka (njengokuhamba isiqingatha-mile esongezelelweyo, okanye ukwandisa ubunzima kwi-lat pull-downs yakho), ukulahleka kwesisindo kuya kuzinyamekela.

Njengoko useta iinjongo ezithile zekhonkrithi onokuzilinganisela (mhlawumbi ekugqibeleni ungathanda ukuqhuba i-10k, kodwa namhlanje kufuneka ufezekise imayile, umzekelo) ufunda nokunika umzimba wakho oko ufuna ukukufikelela. Xa usakha umzimba oya ukhawuleza ngakumbi, womelele kwaye ulunge ngakumbi, uziva ulungile. Iyakhulula. Kwaye ngalo lonke uqeqesho, isaladi eluhlaza eneskim esilungele isidlo sangokuhlwa ayinakuyenza. "Impilo kunye nesondlo zihambelana kakhulu nokusebenza," utshilo uLoehr. "Ukuba wenza nantoni na ebeka impilo yakho esichengeni, yonke loo nto iza ngaphandle."

Ke njengoko usebenzisa eli candelo ukuchaza umthambo wobuqu kunye neenjongo zokomelela, gcina izifundo ozifundileyo apha engqondweni: ukufezekisa into oyifunayo ngomzimba wakho kuqala ngesenzo sokuqala esilula sokuwuhlonipha. Yiphathe kakuhle, ngokwengqondo nangokwasemzimbeni, kwaye iya kukuvuza kwangoko.

Impumelelo yomzimba ngokujonga nje

Iingcebiso ezikhawulezayo zokugcina umkhondo kwiinjongo zakho zempilo:

* Cinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo: Musa ukuzibona njengomntu ohleliyo, zibone njengomntu oshukumayo.

* Cwangcisa iinjongo zentsebenzo encinci onokuzilinganisela, njengokunyusa umgama xa usondela kumanqaku amakhulu, anzima, njengokugqiba ugqatso lokuqala.

Chaza impumelelo ngokwento oyifezayo yonke imihla. Ngaba kulula nokunyuka ngezinyuko?

* Gwema isikali, ngakumbi ukuba sele uqalile ukuzilolonga. Isenokuxoka ngempumelelo yakho.

Musa ukulinganisa impumelelo ngokujonga esipilini. (Ngaba unokucinga ukuba uMia Hamm wenza loo nto?)

Zivumele ushiyeke. Azinakuphepheka. Khumbula: Uya kuhlala ixesha elide.

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