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Uyazi ukuba inja yakho iyakukhumbula xa ungekho, iyakuthanda ngaphezu kwayo nantoni na (yiloo nto zonke ezo zinto ziphathwayo ezisele ebhedini yakho zithetha, akunjalo?), Kwaye ufuna ukukukhusela kwingozi. Kodwa ithuku lakhe lokuzikhusela lihamba ngaphaya kweengcungcu zedastard kunye ne-UPS guy-yonke indlela eya kwabo bakufutshane kuwe, kubandakanya nezinye zakho ezibalulekileyo. Umntwana wakho ujonge indlela esithandwa sakho esikuphethe ngayo. Kwaye xa ebona umntu omthandayo engalunganga kuwe, akoyiki ukubonisa ukungoneliseki kwakhe ngokuphepha ijezi, ngokutsho kwento entsha I-Neuroscience kunye noPhononongo lweNdalo funda. (Idibeneyo: Iindlela ezili-15 zeeNjana zokuPhucula iMpilo yakho)

Abaphandi eJapan, ikhaya lelinye lawona mabali athandwayo amnandi kunye nentliziyo ebabayo-abanini bathanda amabali kwimbali, baseta uthotho lokuzama ukuvavanya ukuba zingakanani izinja kunye neenkawu eziqwalasele indlela yokuziphatha komntu wesithathu kwimeko nokuba benza izigwebo zokuziphatha malunga noko kwenzekayo. Abaphandi banika umnini wenja kunye nomnye umntu iibhola ezintathu umntu ngamnye kwaye bacela ukuba babelane ngeebhola omnye komnye. Emva koko, umnini-ndawo wayeyalelwe ukuba acele iibhola zabo zibuyele "kumhlobo" owayedla ngokubabuyisela ngamanye amaxesha enqabe, bebonisa ukuzingca okanye ukungalungi. Emva koko, bobabini abantu banikezela ukuphatha inja. Kwaye njengokuba umntu ebeya kwenza, inja ikhetha ukuphathwa ngumntu oye waba nobubele kwizinto zokudlala kwaye yamphepha umntu owenze ngokungekho sikweni. Iziphumo zabonisa ukuba izinja ziyazi kakuhle indlela abanye ababaphatha ngayo abaninizo.

Izinja kunqabile ukuba zisondele okanye zamkele ukutya okunikwa ngumntu osandula ukwala ukusebenzisana nomnini wenja, ucacisa uJames R. Anderson, Ph.D., umphandi ophambili kunye nonjingalwazi kwiYunivesithi yaseKyoto. "Xa unikwe ukhetho phakathi 'ongeyena umncedi' kunye nomntu ongathathi hlangothi, izinja zivame ukuphepha umntu ongeyena umncedi kwaye zisondele kumntu ongathathi hlangothi endaweni yoko."

Ke sukuyilahla iminqweno yesilwanyana sasekhaya malunga nabantu abasondele kuwe, kubandakanya neqabane lakho, njengoko benokunika uluvo olunyanisekileyo ngesimilo somntu, beqaphela izinto onokungazenzi, utshilo uAnderson. Inja yakho inokukwazi ukubona indlela yokuziphatha malunga nendlela umntu akujonga ngayo, uyongeza.

Olu phononongo lujonge ngokukodwa indlela izilwanyana ezilubona ngayo uphawu "loncedo" kwaye mhlawumbi "nokulingana," kodwa uAnderson wongeza ukuba unomdla wokujonga indlela izinja ezikubona ngayo ukuthembeka, ukuthembeka, inkohliso kunye nezinye iimpawu zabantu. Qhubekeka uqokelele ukutya. UFido kufanelekile.

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