Indlela enditshise ngayo ukuze ndiyeke ukujonga ngaphezulu kweenwele zam zomzimba

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• Ndiqhubekile ndacheba yonke imihla, ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke imihla - ndade andakwazi
• Ndiyazi ukuba akukho mntu ukhathalayo ukuba andenzi okanye andichebi kodwa, ixesha elide, ndiziva ngaphezulu kwezinto kwaye ndizilungiselele ubomi ngemilenze yam echetyiwe

Impilo kunye nokuphila kakuhle kuchaphazela ngamnye wethu ngokwahlukileyo. Eli libali lomntu omnye.

Ndiwukhumbula ngokucacileyo umhla endaphawula ngawo inwele zam zomlenze okokuqala. Ndiphakathi kwinqanaba le-7th kwaye ndaphuma ngaphandle kweshawari xa, phantsi kwesibane sokuhlambela esinzima, ndazibona - iinwele ezininzi ezingacacanga ezimdaka zemilenze yam.

Ndakhwaza umama okwelinye igumbi, "Ndifuna ukucheba!" Waphuma waya kuthenga enye yezo zithambiso zokususa iinwele ukuba ndizisebenzise, ​​ecinga ukuba kungalula kunokuzama incakuba. I-khrimu yandinika ukuvutha, indinyanzela ukuba ndiyeke ngokukhawuleza. Ndididekile ndajonga phantsi iinwele eziseleyo, ndiziva ndingcolile.

Ukusukela ngoko, umbono wokuba ndifuna ukususa naziphi na iinwele zomzimba zahlala zihleli ebomini bam. Ukucheba ngokugqibeleleyo yinto endinokuyilawula xa izinto ezininzi zihlala zivakala emoyeni. Ukuba ndiqaphele iinwele ezinde ezishiyekileyo edolweni okanye emaqatheni, ibizokundiphazamisa ngaphezu kokuba ndinomdla wokuvuma. Ndiza kuhamba ngaphaya kwelo candelo ngokucokisekileyo xa ndicheba-ngamanye amaxesha ngemini enye.

Ndiqhubekile ndacheba yonke imihla, ukuba ayisiyiyo yonke imihla - ndade andakwazi

Xa ndandineminyaka eyi-19, ndachitha unyaka wam omncinci kwikholeji phesheya eFlorence, e-Itali. Ngobunye ubusuku bangoLwesihlanu, ndandikhubazekile, ndingxamele ukugqiba isabelo sam.

Andikhumbuli ukuba kwakutheni, kodwa ngelaxesha ndandibilisa amanzi epasta embizeni kunye nokufudumeza isosi kwenye ipani, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba nditshintshe izitovu zabo… ngaxeshanye. Ekubalekeni kwam ngokuhlakazayo kunye nokubamba, andizange ndiyeke ukuqaphela ukuba imbiza yepasta yayenzelwe ukubanjwa kumacala omabini kwaye kwangoko yaqala ukuntywila.

Amanzi ashushu abilayo atshize yonke imlenze yam yasekunene, enditshisa kanobom. Bendingenamandla okuyimisa njengoko ukugxila kwam bekukwathintela enye ipan ukuba ingachitheki nakum. Emva kokothuka, ndazikhulula iithayithi zam, ndihleli phantsi ndinentlungu engathethekiyo.

Ayizothusa mntu ukuba ngosuku olulandelayo, ndahamba ngenqwelomoya ngenqwelomoya yasekuseni eya e-Barcelona. Ndafunda phesheya eYurophu emva kwayo yonke loo nto.

Ndathenga amayeza eentlungu kunye neebhandeji kwikhemesti yalapha, kuthintelwe ukubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu emlenzeni wam, kwaye ndichithe impelaveki apho. Ndindwendwele iPark Güell, ndahamba ngaselwandle ndaza ndasela isangria.

Ekuqaleni, kwabonakala kuyinto encinci, ukutshiswa akuzange kube buhlungu rhoqo, kodwa emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa zokuhamba, iintlungu zaphakama. Andikwazanga ukubeka uxinzelelo emlenzeni. Andizange ndichebe ngezo ntsuku zintathu kwaye ndinxibe ibhlukhwe xa ndinako.

Ngexesha lokubuya kwam eFlorence ngobusuku bangoMvulo, umlenze wam wawuzele ngamabala amnyama kwaye ndanyusa izilonda kunye nonkwekwe. Kwakungalunganga.

Ke, ndiyenzile into enoxanduva ndaya kwagqirha. Undinike iyeza kunye nebhandeji enkulu ukuba ndiwele lonke icala elisezantsi lomlenze wam wasekunene. Andikwazanga ukufumana umlenze umanzi kwaye andinakukwazi ukunxiba ibhlukhwe ngaphezulu kwawo. (Yonke le nto yenzeke ekupheleni kukaJanuwari ngelixa bendigodola kwaye ngelixa uFlorence ebaleka eshushu ebusika, bekungekho lonto kushushu.)

Ngelixa ukubanda kumunca kwaye kuhlamba ibingumyalezo wokucofa iingxowa zeplastiki emlenzeni wam, zonke ezo zinto bezipakishwa xa kuthelekiswa nokubukela ukubuya kweenwele zomlenze wam.

Ndiyazi ukuba bekufanele ukuba ndijolise ngakumbi kukhwekhwe olumnyama olukhulu emlenzeni wam olukhokelele abantu ukuba bandibuze ukuba "ndidutyulwe" na. (Ewe, le yinto yokwenene abantu abandibuze yona.) Kodwa ukubona iinwele ezicothayo nezikhula kancinci kwandenza ndaziva ndingacocekanga kwaye ndonakele njengokuba ndandinalo ngala mhla ndandiwuqala ukuqaphela.

Kwiveki yokuqala, ndacheba umlenze wam wasekhohlo kodwa kungekudala ndaziva ndingenangqondo ngokucheba nje omnye. Kutheni uzikhathaza xa omnye eziva ngathi ulihlathi?

Njengokuba kusenzeka ngesiqhelo, kokukhona bendingayenzi, kokukhona bendiqala ukuza kumgaqo wokungachebi. Kude kwaba lelo xesha de ndaya eBudapest ngo-Matshi (iinqwelomoya zinamaxabiso aphantsi eYurophu!) Ndindwendwela neebhafu zaseTurkey. Eluntwini, kwisuti yokuhlamba, ndandingonwabanga.

Ukanti, ndaziva ndikhululekile kwimigangatho ebendibambe ngayo emzimbeni wam. Bendingazukuphoswa kukufumana iibhafu ngenxa yokuba benditshisiwe kwaye ndinemilenze enoboya. Ndanyanzelwa ukuba ndiyeke isidingo sokulawula iinwele zomzimba wam, ngakumbi kwisuti yokuhlamba. Kwakoyikisa, kodwa ndandingazukuyiyeka loo nto indiyeke.

Mandicace, uninzi lweetshomi zam ziya kuhamba iiveki, ukuba azikho ngaphezulu, ngaphandle kokucheba imilenze. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokuvumela iinwele zomzimba wakho ukuba zikhule ukuba yile nto ufuna ukuyenza. Ngokuka-Vox, ukucheba akuzange kube yinto eqhelekileyo kubafazi de kwaba li-1950 xa iintengiso zaqala ukunyanzela abasetyhini ukuba benze njalo.

Ndiyazi ukuba akukho mntu ukhathalayo ukuba andenzi okanye andichebi kodwa, ixesha elide, ndiziva ngaphezulu kwezinto kwaye ndizilungiselele ubomi ngemilenze yam echetyiwe

Ngokwengqondo, kuye kwandenza ndaziva ngathi ndinazo izinto kunye. Ndandiqhula ebantwini ukuba ndingazihlalela ndedwa kwisiqithi esasiyintlango kwaye ndisayicheba imilenze yam.

Yaphela iinyanga ezine kwade kwafika ixesha lokuba ndigoduke ndiye eNew York. Ngokunyaniseka ngelo xesha, ndingathanda ukulibala malunga neenwele ezikhulayo. Ndiyaqikelela xa ubona into eyoneleyo amaxesha uyeka ukuba wothuke yiyo. Njengoko imozulu yayifudumala kwaye ndaya ndiqhele ngakumbi ukubona iinwele zam, ngombulelo ndikhanyiselwe lilanga, ndayeka ukucinga ngokucinga ngako.

Ukubuyela kwam ekhaya ndaza ndaya kuvavanywa ngugqirha emlenzeni wam, wagqiba kwelokuba nditshiswe mpela. Ndisafuna ukunqanda ukucheba indawo echaphazeleke ngokuthe ngqo, njengoko imithambo-luvo yayikufutshane nomphezulu wolusu, kodwa ndandinokuyicheba macala onke.

Ngoku ndisachetya ubuncinci amatyeli ambalwa ngeveki kwaye ndinokukhanya okulula kokutsha. Umahluko kukuba ngoku andiphazamisi ngalo lonke ixesha ndifumana iinwele ezilibalekileyo okanye ndiphoswe ziintsuku ezimbalwa. Ukusebenza ukulawula uxinzelelo lwam nako kunokuba luncedo kuloo nto.

Ngaba ndonwabile ngotshintshiselwano lokutshiswa ngokungakhathali ngaphezulu kweenwele zam zomlenze? Hayi, yayinjalo ngokwenene Kubuhlungu. Kodwa, ukuba bekufanele ukuba yenzekile, ndiyavuya ukuba ndikwazile ukufunda okuthile kumava ndayeka ezinye zezidingo zam zokucheba.

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